Relationship question

[Faust]

If you are a great catch, and they are too, noone settles.


Settling depends mostly on age. I think it should be a law that people can't get married untill they are atleast 30. People change as they age and progress in a relationship, but I didn't settle. It just got way old for me to keep living the lifestyle that I was living. I wanted a good, non American chick, and I was lucky to find one.

 

[Pete]

Emily, Littlemiss and Ender

Thanks...my mum thinks so <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

LB..nah unfortunately everyone I know is taken...sorry hun <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0">

it's kinda funny when I think about me and my partner though, I'm a townie from the bottom of New Zealand and my angel is a country girl from rural Australia...we are from completely different worlds, ya would think that we wouldn't have much in common except for the fact that we do...opposites attract I guess...

Allie..there's nothing more honest and true than saying "I do"....from what you've shared about Ry and from what I've been fortunate to read, it seems your love for him is complete...I wouldn't doubt for a nano-second his was and is any different....

Pete

 

[Robin]

Thank you SOOO much for writing this. I have a man like you described. Sometimes I feel guilty keeping him.

 

[Scarlett81]

no. That's pretty much all I have to say.

My spouse was unlucky to get me in some ways, but very lucky in others. Just as I was with him. No one's perfect. There's always some personality trait that you aren't going to love in your mate, boyfriend whatever. So you do have to say to a degree-well I love these 50 things about that person. Then there's those 3 things I can't stand. But I can stand living with them b/c those other things are awesome about this person.
One of my annoying things happens to be my CF. But i guess my hubby thought it was worth it.

Maybe he had to settle more than I did!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">But I definately didn't.

 

[65rosessamurai]

This may skew from the discussion a little, but all I can say about this, is that my jaw nearly hit the ground when I decided to flip through these old files I wrote during my previous marriage life.

Everytime after a heated argument, I used my computer as a diary and wrote all of what I was thinking of, so I could get some sleep that night, instead of all that anger churning in my head.

Of the many passages I wrote, one major one I forgot and just discovered was an argument in which the ex said many hurtful things in regards to how my health had burdened her. In fact the passage I found was the night I started with Aikido. The wife was against it because she thought it would "weaken" my health, not strengthen it, as I believed.

I even mentioned the word, 'divorce' in the passage, and I'm sure everyone here would agree I should have at that point.

But, it's an example of what kind of, could I say, "monster" I was married to.