Saying good bye to a loved one.

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snowcone200

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I need help. a very close person to me still wants to keep contact with me. I told them that I thought it was best we stop talking and I told her my goodbye that I loved her. I also told her that I was sick again but this time things aren't going to be getting better. But she don't want it to end at that. She still want to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should. I want to just say goodbye to her already but she still wants to be around. I know it will hurt her either way for me to ignore her and to let her be around watching me as I whither away. I don't know which I should do, she is very close to me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what I should do.
 
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snowcone200

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I need help. a very close person to me still wants to keep contact with me. I told them that I thought it was best we stop talking and I told her my goodbye that I loved her. I also told her that I was sick again but this time things aren't going to be getting better. But she don't want it to end at that. She still want to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should. I want to just say goodbye to her already but she still wants to be around. I know it will hurt her either way for me to ignore her and to let her be around watching me as I whither away. I don't know which I should do, she is very close to me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what I should do.
 
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snowcone200

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I need help. a very close person to me still wants to keep contact with me. I told them that I thought it was best we stop talking and I told her my goodbye that I loved her. I also told her that I was sick again but this time things aren't going to be getting better. But she don't want it to end at that. She still want to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should. I want to just say goodbye to her already but she still wants to be around. I know it will hurt her either way for me to ignore her and to let her be around watching me as I whither away. I don't know which I should do, she is very close to me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what I should do.
 
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snowcone200

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I need help. a very close person to me still wants to keep contact with me. I told them that I thought it was best we stop talking and I told her my goodbye that I loved her. I also told her that I was sick again but this time things aren't going to be getting better. But she don't want it to end at that. She still want to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should. I want to just say goodbye to her already but she still wants to be around. I know it will hurt her either way for me to ignore her and to let her be around watching me as I whither away. I don't know which I should do, she is very close to me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what I should do.
 
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snowcone200

New member
I need help. a very close person to me still wants to keep contact with me. I told them that I thought it was best we stop talking and I told her my goodbye that I loved her. I also told her that I was sick again but this time things aren't going to be getting better. But she don't want it to end at that. She still want to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should. I want to just say goodbye to her already but she still wants to be around. I know it will hurt her either way for me to ignore her and to let her be around watching me as I whither away. I don't know which I should do, she is very close to me. I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what I should do.
 
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Alyssa

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So just to clarify here... are you saying you have CF and you feel you will by passing away soon, and someone who you have been very close to wants to be at your side from now until the end and you don't want that person around anymore?

Is the only reason you don't want them around you is because you feel you are protecting them from something? Or is it because you don't want them around because it not something you want anyone witnessing?

Without knowing anything more about what you are going through I'd have to say my first thoughts would be to allow those people who love you to be with you as much as possible...it is their choice. But if you are making the decision because you don't want other around then it's your call - do as you please.
 
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Alyssa

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So just to clarify here... are you saying you have CF and you feel you will by passing away soon, and someone who you have been very close to wants to be at your side from now until the end and you don't want that person around anymore?

Is the only reason you don't want them around you is because you feel you are protecting them from something? Or is it because you don't want them around because it not something you want anyone witnessing?

Without knowing anything more about what you are going through I'd have to say my first thoughts would be to allow those people who love you to be with you as much as possible...it is their choice. But if you are making the decision because you don't want other around then it's your call - do as you please.
 
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Alyssa

New member
So just to clarify here... are you saying you have CF and you feel you will by passing away soon, and someone who you have been very close to wants to be at your side from now until the end and you don't want that person around anymore?

Is the only reason you don't want them around you is because you feel you are protecting them from something? Or is it because you don't want them around because it not something you want anyone witnessing?

Without knowing anything more about what you are going through I'd have to say my first thoughts would be to allow those people who love you to be with you as much as possible...it is their choice. But if you are making the decision because you don't want other around then it's your call - do as you please.
 
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Alyssa

New member
So just to clarify here... are you saying you have CF and you feel you will by passing away soon, and someone who you have been very close to wants to be at your side from now until the end and you don't want that person around anymore?

Is the only reason you don't want them around you is because you feel you are protecting them from something? Or is it because you don't want them around because it not something you want anyone witnessing?

Without knowing anything more about what you are going through I'd have to say my first thoughts would be to allow those people who love you to be with you as much as possible...it is their choice. But if you are making the decision because you don't want other around then it's your call - do as you please.
 
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Alyssa

New member
So just to clarify here... are you saying you have CF and you feel you will by passing away soon, and someone who you have been very close to wants to be at your side from now until the end and you don't want that person around anymore?
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<br />Is the only reason you don't want them around you is because you feel you are protecting them from something? Or is it because you don't want them around because it not something you want anyone witnessing?
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<br />Without knowing anything more about what you are going through I'd have to say my first thoughts would be to allow those people who love you to be with you as much as possible...it is their choice. But if you are making the decision because you don't want other around then it's your call - do as you please.
 
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snowcone200

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Well it's just I don't know if I want to allow her to be around till the end. She hurt me bad a few times before which to led me to go into depression which is still here today. But she sorry about it all and I still love her. But I don't know if I should keep in contact with her or not.
 
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snowcone200

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Well it's just I don't know if I want to allow her to be around till the end. She hurt me bad a few times before which to led me to go into depression which is still here today. But she sorry about it all and I still love her. But I don't know if I should keep in contact with her or not.
 
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snowcone200

New member
Well it's just I don't know if I want to allow her to be around till the end. She hurt me bad a few times before which to led me to go into depression which is still here today. But she sorry about it all and I still love her. But I don't know if I should keep in contact with her or not.
 
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snowcone200

New member
Well it's just I don't know if I want to allow her to be around till the end. She hurt me bad a few times before which to led me to go into depression which is still here today. But she sorry about it all and I still love her. But I don't know if I should keep in contact with her or not.
 
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snowcone200

New member
Well it's just I don't know if I want to allow her to be around till the end. She hurt me bad a few times before which to led me to go into depression which is still here today. But she sorry about it all and I still love her. But I don't know if I should keep in contact with her or not.
 
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Alyssa

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Oh! So this really isn't about end-stage CF or having loved ones around in your final days/weeks/months then... this is just plain ol relationship stuff :) Ok, here's my advice... you get to choose, you are in control here ! If the relationship is over and you feel it is better for your well being that you not be around this person anymore than that is what you have to do. You have to let her know that the relationship is over and for your own sake you have decided it is best if you sever all ties. If on the other hand you want a relationship of some sort (perhaps more of a superficial one )with her then you need to define what that relationship is and establish the boundaries. Maybe you only want a phone call now and then, or emails only or personal contact only in a group setting... you decide how much or if you ever want to see her again.
 
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Alyssa

New member
Oh! So this really isn't about end-stage CF or having loved ones around in your final days/weeks/months then... this is just plain ol relationship stuff :) Ok, here's my advice... you get to choose, you are in control here ! If the relationship is over and you feel it is better for your well being that you not be around this person anymore than that is what you have to do. You have to let her know that the relationship is over and for your own sake you have decided it is best if you sever all ties. If on the other hand you want a relationship of some sort (perhaps more of a superficial one )with her then you need to define what that relationship is and establish the boundaries. Maybe you only want a phone call now and then, or emails only or personal contact only in a group setting... you decide how much or if you ever want to see her again.
 
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Alyssa

New member
Oh! So this really isn't about end-stage CF or having loved ones around in your final days/weeks/months then... this is just plain ol relationship stuff :) Ok, here's my advice... you get to choose, you are in control here ! If the relationship is over and you feel it is better for your well being that you not be around this person anymore than that is what you have to do. You have to let her know that the relationship is over and for your own sake you have decided it is best if you sever all ties. If on the other hand you want a relationship of some sort (perhaps more of a superficial one )with her then you need to define what that relationship is and establish the boundaries. Maybe you only want a phone call now and then, or emails only or personal contact only in a group setting... you decide how much or if you ever want to see her again.
 
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Alyssa

New member
Oh! So this really isn't about end-stage CF or having loved ones around in your final days/weeks/months then... this is just plain ol relationship stuff :) Ok, here's my advice... you get to choose, you are in control here ! If the relationship is over and you feel it is better for your well being that you not be around this person anymore than that is what you have to do. You have to let her know that the relationship is over and for your own sake you have decided it is best if you sever all ties. If on the other hand you want a relationship of some sort (perhaps more of a superficial one )with her then you need to define what that relationship is and establish the boundaries. Maybe you only want a phone call now and then, or emails only or personal contact only in a group setting... you decide how much or if you ever want to see her again.
 
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Alyssa

New member
Oh! So this really isn't about end-stage CF or having loved ones around in your final days/weeks/months then... this is just plain ol relationship stuff :) Ok, here's my advice... you get to choose, you are in control here ! If the relationship is over and you feel it is better for your well being that you not be around this person anymore than that is what you have to do. You have to let her know that the relationship is over and for your own sake you have decided it is best if you sever all ties. If on the other hand you want a relationship of some sort (perhaps more of a superficial one )with her then you need to define what that relationship is and establish the boundaries. Maybe you only want a phone call now and then, or emails only or personal contact only in a group setting... you decide how much or if you ever want to see her again.
 
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