Sex Drive for Women

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JazzysMom

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Sez Drive for Women

OK....this is a frank question so those who are "prudish" should read no further!!!! My sex drive stinks. I realize that being a Mom has much to do with it & this year my health has been awful, but still... I did not feel sexy while having my PICC line in, but it didnt help when it came out. My first night home from the hospital the 2nd time this year was the best sex this year because I was, well, lets just say in the mood. I got my fill & have been fine since. In my head I remember what it use to be like, but when it comes time....the sensation literally is not there. I have addressed this in the past & found I wasnt alone, but its getting worse. I was wondering if the yeast infections from the antibiotics are literally making me numb so I cant get the sensation I need to enjoy sex. I tried speaking to my GYN about this & I didnt get much help except they reminded me that most women dont reach an orgasm by direct penetration. I can understand that, but I just have such limited if any feeling. Am I the only one?! Help.....P.S. Guys if you have any input, I'd like to hear it to. I just directed towards the women since I am one!
 
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anonymous

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Melissa,
You are SO NOT ALONE! I'm 24 and I have months where I just don't want it. I'm sick, stressed, on antibiotics whatever. I find that I have to get a little more creative from time to time. YOu and your hubby should let the imaginations go wild! Seriously, read up on karma sutra, erotic massage, soak in the bubble bath, role play (!). I also reccomend purchasing a vibratior to use while you're having sex, sometimes it takes a little extra stimulation. Hang in there. Also, up your exercise a little to increase your testosterone level.
I also like upping the excitement by going somewhere we might get caught!
Debbie
24 w/ CF
 
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JazzysMom

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My husband always liked the fact that I was "adventurous" & would be daring. Now we dont even seem to get to that point. However; on a happy note<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I have to say last night was nice<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">. I wont go into why, but lets hope it sticks around awhile. Thanks for the input!
 
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meister

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No, you are not alone. I have trouble in this area as well. I'm not in the mood, tired, just don't have the drive. Once and a great while. I get so frustrated as well. I did find a web site that for once I found addressed womens issues with CF at: http://www.cystic-l.org/handbook/html/womens_problems.htm.
I dont' know if it addresses your problem specifically, but thought would like to check it out.
 
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thefrogprincess

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Are you on hormonal birth control? I was on depo-pervera for 3 years and the longer I was on it the worse my sex drive got. When it got to the point where we were only having sex once a month if that, I said enough. The depo was very convenient since you only get the shot every 3 months and I didn't get my period, but I felt so unsexy all the time. I switched to the patch 4 months ago and things are so much better. I'm not back to my pre-depo self but I actually want to have sex about once a week now.
 
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JazzysMom

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No actually I use an IUD. I was thinking of using birth control pills. Not so much for protection, but maybe my problem is hormonal. Then I would still have to have another source of protection because I wouldnt feel safe using it with the antibiotics etc that I have been told can interact making them less effective.
 
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WinAce

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Don't you know women aren't supposed to enjoy sex, and it's meant exclusively for popping out kids?

Just kidding!

Find some really hot fantasies or erotic literature and leave it around for hubby to find. Read it with him, making sure to nod sexily whenever you go past a particularly tantalizing part. Have him take the initiative in acting out the cheapest, dirtiest, most arousing stuff you want to try. Use your imagination, massage oils and things, and/or some sex toys. Oh, and assuming that gynecologist had no more useful advice than "women often can't orgasm from that alone," dump him and get a new one.

Disclaimer: I'm a guy, so for all you know, I might be an idiot with the above.
 
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2sickkids

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The IUD is a differnt sourse of hormones so it reacts differntly the the oral birth control. I use the IUD and the ring. Antibiotics do interfer with the pill so anytime you are on antibiotics you would need to find a back up source of protection. Is some cases for up to a week after you are done with the antibiotics. Also some types of medication mess with your sexual urges. I go thru times that I will not feel like it for months and other times when all I want to do is be in bed. Sometimes it helps if your in the mood to not do it and kind of play around. I have a problem with wanting to but knowing that I will feel worse after. It helps to take things real slow and flirt a lot. I am kind of shocked at what you gyn said. I spoke with mine and she suggested different positions said that most of the time the actual act of penitration does not last long enough for women. As it takes women at least twice as long as men to reach orgasm and that being even a little bit too dry can also cause problems. She also said the it takes about 10 to 15 minutes for womens bodys to be ready for sex. I could write a novel no the things I know about hormonal problems and sex. Well hope some of this helps.
 
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JazzysMom

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Wow I got lots of feedback today. The GYN that told me most women dont reach orgasm by penetration was a woman doctor. Maybe she just cant?!<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
 
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WinAce

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The IUD is a source of hormones? Forgive my ignorance, I was under the impression that it's a copper or other inert device whose exact mechanism of preventing pregnancy is still largely a mystery to scientists.
 
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thefrogprincess

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There is a copper IUD but they don't use them much anymore because long term copper exposer can make some people sick. Find out what kind you have. If it is hormonal than it is probably progestin only (the pill, patch, and ring are estrogen and progestin). A constant dose of one kind of hormone can really mess with your sex drive. The pill, patch and ring give you more natural highs and lows in your cycle. Also, progestin only causes 3% bone loss per year.
 
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anonymous

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I was on the Depo- provera and I had lowered sex drive as well, but I liked the convienance of it. I switched to the Neuva-ring a few months ago and BAM! Back to my old self, and my boobs have grown a cup size! It's a hormonal method. It's a small plastic ring about the size of a hair tie that you insert in the vagina. It stays in for 3 weeks (stays in place and all) and you remove it for a week for your period. Simple, simple, simple.
Debbie
24 w/ CF
 
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anonymous

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try this position

You are laying on your back with your ankles over his head. He is either standing or on his knees. This allows for deep penetration and is wonderful. Try and try to you succeed.

Also I did not have a major O until i turned 36. Try doing your therapy first to help allow you to breathe better. Breathing deeply will help you to reach your desired O.
There is the G spot inside. IT is a ridgid spot and that is all you need for him to touch. Have him curl his fingers and insert and rub this spot. You will be in heaven as all women have this spot. IT is hard for the penis to reach this but when you are on your back and your legs in the air it might happen.

Too shy to leave my name
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anonymous

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try this position

You are laying on your back with your ankles over his head. He is either standing or on his knees. This allows for deep penetration and is wonderful. Try and try to you succeed.

Also I did not have a major O until i turned 36. Try doing your therapy first to help allow you to breathe better. Breathing deeply will help you to reach your desired O.
There is the G spot inside. IT is a ridgid spot and that is all you need for him to touch. Have him curl his fingers and insert and rub this spot. You will be in heaven as all women have this spot. IT is hard for the penis to reach this but when you are on your back and your legs in the air it might happen.

Too shy to leave my name
Sally for furture sex topics
 
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Jane

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WOW ladies this is more information than I thought I'd see this morning! Good stuff. I do know that this is NOT only a CF issue. My doctor told me it was pre-menopausal (hormone imbalance). My problem is also lack of interest, when it happens its great. Of course my doctor, being a man, didn't give me any advice about what to do.

I think we have too much stress- ditching the kids for a weekend would help.

jane
 
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Jane

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WOW ladies this is more information than I thought I'd see this morning! Good stuff. I do know that this is NOT only a CF issue. My doctor told me it was pre-menopausal (hormone imbalance). My problem is also lack of interest, when it happens its great. Of course my doctor, being a man, didn't give me any advice about what to do.

I think we have too much stress- ditching the kids for a weekend would help.

jane
 
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anonymous

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Here is a great helper. feels wonderful

sally here again
 
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skh

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I have to agree with Jane on all counts. Stress plays a big part in this. Remember when....life wasn't so stressful!

Sally, I will have to check out that website!

Sue
 
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