Single Parents of CF'ers???

[Cherylwithone]

I am a single parent. No dad in the picture, no financially support as in child support nothing zip zero. I raised both kids by myself and the youngest has CF. To be honest I never gave it a second thought. THey are my kids and they come first. There are days that are sooo hard but I count my blessings. I have a roof over my head, food on the table. You can PM if you want.
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<br />Cheryl

 

[CFmami]

I second mariahsmommy

I can't even imagine doing this by myself. You are exceptional people with exceptional strength and I really respect you.

 

[CFmami]

I second mariahsmommy

I can't even imagine doing this by myself. You are exceptional people with exceptional strength and I really respect you.

 

[CFmami]

I second mariahsmommy
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<br />I can't even imagine doing this by myself. You are exceptional people with exceptional strength and I really respect you.

 

[crickit715]

thanks you guys for all of your responces!! i have been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately and will be sure to PM some of the other mom who are in my shoes!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> thanks again!

 

[crickit715]

thanks you guys for all of your responces!! i have been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately and will be sure to PM some of the other mom who are in my shoes!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> thanks again!

 

[crickit715]

thanks you guys for all of your responces!! i have been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately and will be sure to PM some of the other mom who are in my shoes!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> thanks again!

 

[crickit715]

thanks erin!!! that made me feel good reading what you had to say about your feelings toward your mom, i hope my little one loves me as much as i can see you love your mom!! <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>ej0820</b></i>

I know you asked for support from a single parent of a CFer, which I am not. I am, however, a CFer of a single parent. My birth father may as well have never existed, I actually only met him once when I was in high school. Meeting him changed nothing for me. I know my father as well as I know your next door neighbor. He never once supported my mother and wanted no part of me, CF or not. My mother saw no financial support or anything from him.



I guess I'm just writing to tell you that your daughter will one day see everything you do/have done for her and be so grateful. My mom and I lived with her parents while she got herself through nursing school. She was able to afford a house and insurance for me through her work. My mom jumped through A LOT of hoops for me as I grew up. I know it wasn't easy for her, but it was doable. I hope you get other responses from single parents but I wanted to give you something from a different perspective. Your daughter will one day look at you and see you as the strongest person in her life, and that is THE BEST thing you can give her.



Having my father around, whether simply for child support or for a whole, complete family would have made things SO MUCH easier for us both, but I wouldn't change it for anything. Know that through all the trials and tribulations of having a CF child by yourself, your daughter will see a magnificent woman and has one of the strongest people in the world to look up to in you.



My prayers are with you and I do hope you find the support you're looking for.</end quote></div>

 

[crickit715]

thanks erin!!! that made me feel good reading what you had to say about your feelings toward your mom, i hope my little one loves me as much as i can see you love your mom!! <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>ej0820</b></i>

I know you asked for support from a single parent of a CFer, which I am not. I am, however, a CFer of a single parent. My birth father may as well have never existed, I actually only met him once when I was in high school. Meeting him changed nothing for me. I know my father as well as I know your next door neighbor. He never once supported my mother and wanted no part of me, CF or not. My mother saw no financial support or anything from him.



I guess I'm just writing to tell you that your daughter will one day see everything you do/have done for her and be so grateful. My mom and I lived with her parents while she got herself through nursing school. She was able to afford a house and insurance for me through her work. My mom jumped through A LOT of hoops for me as I grew up. I know it wasn't easy for her, but it was doable. I hope you get other responses from single parents but I wanted to give you something from a different perspective. Your daughter will one day look at you and see you as the strongest person in her life, and that is THE BEST thing you can give her.



Having my father around, whether simply for child support or for a whole, complete family would have made things SO MUCH easier for us both, but I wouldn't change it for anything. Know that through all the trials and tribulations of having a CF child by yourself, your daughter will see a magnificent woman and has one of the strongest people in the world to look up to in you.



My prayers are with you and I do hope you find the support you're looking for.</end quote>

 

[crickit715]

thanks erin!!! that made me feel good reading what you had to say about your feelings toward your mom, i hope my little one loves me as much as i can see you love your mom!! <div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>ej0820</b></i>
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<br />I know you asked for support from a single parent of a CFer, which I am not. I am, however, a CFer of a single parent. My birth father may as well have never existed, I actually only met him once when I was in high school. Meeting him changed nothing for me. I know my father as well as I know your next door neighbor. He never once supported my mother and wanted no part of me, CF or not. My mother saw no financial support or anything from him.
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<br />I guess I'm just writing to tell you that your daughter will one day see everything you do/have done for her and be so grateful. My mom and I lived with her parents while she got herself through nursing school. She was able to afford a house and insurance for me through her work. My mom jumped through A LOT of hoops for me as I grew up. I know it wasn't easy for her, but it was doable. I hope you get other responses from single parents but I wanted to give you something from a different perspective. Your daughter will one day look at you and see you as the strongest person in her life, and that is THE BEST thing you can give her.
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<br />Having my father around, whether simply for child support or for a whole, complete family would have made things SO MUCH easier for us both, but I wouldn't change it for anything. Know that through all the trials and tribulations of having a CF child by yourself, your daughter will see a magnificent woman and has one of the strongest people in the world to look up to in you.
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<br />My prayers are with you and I do hope you find the support you're looking for.</end quote>
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[JustDucky]

I too am a single parent but I am the one with CF, my kids are relatively healthy. I also don't get any help from their father, he does not contact them or speak to them and it just kills me that he isn't even remotely interested in their lives. They are teens now, my daughter is on her own and my son will be graduating next year from HS, he is just missing out on so many amazing milestones. My kids say that they don't care, but I know it bothers them.
My mom was also a single mom, of all 5 of us and didn't get much help either from my dad at the time. She worked 3 jobs to put food into our bellies and a roof over our heads. I know how hard she worked and of all of the sacrifices she made for us. Luckily, I wasn't a really sickly child, I wasn't even diagnosed with CF until my 30's which was fortunate as she didn't have any insurance on any of us until we were in our teens. They didn't have programs like they do now for low income families for insurance back then, she actually made too much by 100 bucks to qualify for medicaid. I also know that she would have done anything for us, even die for us, that's what momma's do.
Raising children is probably one of the hardest jobs out there, yet it is also one of the most rewarding, fulfilling and amazing journeys that any parent can embark on. There are times when I am just overwhelmed, when finances seem to get the better of me on my fixed income or when I am sick and need to go into the hospital for weeks at a time, away from the ones I love most. It is really stressful on all of us, but somehow, we just make do. Do you have good family/friend support? I can't tell you how many times they have stepped in to help me or my kids. They also make great shoulders to cry on when it feels like it is too much. I know all of my efforts are worth it when out of the blue, my kids wrap their arms around me and say "Love you mom". Despite all of the hardships they have been through, they are growing up to be amazing, sensitive, intelligent young adults.
Hang in there, I won't say that it gets easier because life is just so dynamic, always changing. There will be good with the bad, hopefully more good moments than bad for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Hugs, Jenn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[JustDucky]

I too am a single parent but I am the one with CF, my kids are relatively healthy. I also don't get any help from their father, he does not contact them or speak to them and it just kills me that he isn't even remotely interested in their lives. They are teens now, my daughter is on her own and my son will be graduating next year from HS, he is just missing out on so many amazing milestones. My kids say that they don't care, but I know it bothers them.
My mom was also a single mom, of all 5 of us and didn't get much help either from my dad at the time. She worked 3 jobs to put food into our bellies and a roof over our heads. I know how hard she worked and of all of the sacrifices she made for us. Luckily, I wasn't a really sickly child, I wasn't even diagnosed with CF until my 30's which was fortunate as she didn't have any insurance on any of us until we were in our teens. They didn't have programs like they do now for low income families for insurance back then, she actually made too much by 100 bucks to qualify for medicaid. I also know that she would have done anything for us, even die for us, that's what momma's do.
Raising children is probably one of the hardest jobs out there, yet it is also one of the most rewarding, fulfilling and amazing journeys that any parent can embark on. There are times when I am just overwhelmed, when finances seem to get the better of me on my fixed income or when I am sick and need to go into the hospital for weeks at a time, away from the ones I love most. It is really stressful on all of us, but somehow, we just make do. Do you have good family/friend support? I can't tell you how many times they have stepped in to help me or my kids. They also make great shoulders to cry on when it feels like it is too much. I know all of my efforts are worth it when out of the blue, my kids wrap their arms around me and say "Love you mom". Despite all of the hardships they have been through, they are growing up to be amazing, sensitive, intelligent young adults.
Hang in there, I won't say that it gets easier because life is just so dynamic, always changing. There will be good with the bad, hopefully more good moments than bad for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
Hugs, Jenn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[JustDucky]

I too am a single parent but I am the one with CF, my kids are relatively healthy. I also don't get any help from their father, he does not contact them or speak to them and it just kills me that he isn't even remotely interested in their lives. They are teens now, my daughter is on her own and my son will be graduating next year from HS, he is just missing out on so many amazing milestones. My kids say that they don't care, but I know it bothers them.
<br />My mom was also a single mom, of all 5 of us and didn't get much help either from my dad at the time. She worked 3 jobs to put food into our bellies and a roof over our heads. I know how hard she worked and of all of the sacrifices she made for us. Luckily, I wasn't a really sickly child, I wasn't even diagnosed with CF until my 30's which was fortunate as she didn't have any insurance on any of us until we were in our teens. They didn't have programs like they do now for low income families for insurance back then, she actually made too much by 100 bucks to qualify for medicaid. I also know that she would have done anything for us, even die for us, that's what momma's do.
<br />Raising children is probably one of the hardest jobs out there, yet it is also one of the most rewarding, fulfilling and amazing journeys that any parent can embark on. There are times when I am just overwhelmed, when finances seem to get the better of me on my fixed income or when I am sick and need to go into the hospital for weeks at a time, away from the ones I love most. It is really stressful on all of us, but somehow, we just make do. Do you have good family/friend support? I can't tell you how many times they have stepped in to help me or my kids. They also make great shoulders to cry on when it feels like it is too much. I know all of my efforts are worth it when out of the blue, my kids wrap their arms around me and say "Love you mom". Despite all of the hardships they have been through, they are growing up to be amazing, sensitive, intelligent young adults.
<br />Hang in there, I won't say that it gets easier because life is just so dynamic, always changing. There will be good with the bad, hopefully more good moments than bad for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />Hugs, Jenn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[beansmom]

Ricki

Maybe it is just the season, but I have been feeling completely overwhelmed lately too!! It is not about anything and it is about everything at the same time.

 

[beansmom]

Ricki

Maybe it is just the season, but I have been feeling completely overwhelmed lately too!! It is not about anything and it is about everything at the same time.

 

[beansmom]

Ricki
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<br />Maybe it is just the season, but I have been feeling completely overwhelmed lately too!! It is not about anything and it is about everything at the same time.

 

[enaj]

Hi, I'm solo parenting too. I adopted my son and he was already diagnosed with cf due to a family history. Right now, we are doing alright but I remember in March I was finding it all very overwhelming. My son had been sick with a sinus infection and then refused to eat for a couple of weeks. It is hard parenting on my own, but there are advantages too.

I'd be happy to write more, so pm - I'd send you a message but I'm not sure how <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[enaj]

Hi, I'm solo parenting too. I adopted my son and he was already diagnosed with cf due to a family history. Right now, we are doing alright but I remember in March I was finding it all very overwhelming. My son had been sick with a sinus infection and then refused to eat for a couple of weeks. It is hard parenting on my own, but there are advantages too.

I'd be happy to write more, so pm - I'd send you a message but I'm not sure how <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[enaj]

Hi, I'm solo parenting too. I adopted my son and he was already diagnosed with cf due to a family history. Right now, we are doing alright but I remember in March I was finding it all very overwhelming. My son had been sick with a sinus infection and then refused to eat for a couple of weeks. It is hard parenting on my own, but there are advantages too.
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<br />I'd be happy to write more, so pm - I'd send you a message but I'm not sure how <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">