I tell anyone. I have become much more open about it since I've gotten older. For some it may be a turnoff, but for others, I've shared something confidential about myself and they feel it's easier to share stuff about them. I'm actually finding that sharing that kind of stuff is forging friendships. Weird, huh? Suddenly, they are sharing their health issues or background or whatever. I'm guessing it's much easier for us older people to share, than younger. Teaching middle school, for example, some of them can be so judgemental with their peers.