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CaliSally

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Personally, I never regreted retiring.
It was time to let go of the stress of trying to do it all. Sure, money is tight now and we'd have more financial freedom if I worked, but I know my health would suffer.
I hope you can get to a place in your mind where you understand and can accept the trade. (proactive health care verses more liberal spending.) You can't buy health, it's always more important.

I hope your adjustments goes smoothly. Don't forget to talk to your social worker at your care center about your changes, they are there to help and offer support, and even tell you how and were to get financial aid if needed.
 
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CaliSally

New member
Personally, I never regreted retiring.
It was time to let go of the stress of trying to do it all. Sure, money is tight now and we'd have more financial freedom if I worked, but I know my health would suffer.
I hope you can get to a place in your mind where you understand and can accept the trade. (proactive health care verses more liberal spending.) You can't buy health, it's always more important.

I hope your adjustments goes smoothly. Don't forget to talk to your social worker at your care center about your changes, they are there to help and offer support, and even tell you how and were to get financial aid if needed.
 
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CaliSally

New member
Personally, I never regreted retiring.
It was time to let go of the stress of trying to do it all. Sure, money is tight now and we'd have more financial freedom if I worked, but I know my health would suffer.
I hope you can get to a place in your mind where you understand and can accept the trade. (proactive health care verses more liberal spending.) You can't buy health, it's always more important.

I hope your adjustments goes smoothly. Don't forget to talk to your social worker at your care center about your changes, they are there to help and offer support, and even tell you how and were to get financial aid if needed.
 
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CaliSally

New member
Personally, I never regreted retiring.
It was time to let go of the stress of trying to do it all. Sure, money is tight now and we'd have more financial freedom if I worked, but I know my health would suffer.
I hope you can get to a place in your mind where you understand and can accept the trade. (proactive health care verses more liberal spending.) You can't buy health, it's always more important.

I hope your adjustments goes smoothly. Don't forget to talk to your social worker at your care center about your changes, they are there to help and offer support, and even tell you how and were to get financial aid if needed.
 
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CaliSally

New member
Personally, I never regreted retiring.
<br />It was time to let go of the stress of trying to do it all. Sure, money is tight now and we'd have more financial freedom if I worked, but I know my health would suffer.
<br />I hope you can get to a place in your mind where you understand and can accept the trade. (proactive health care verses more liberal spending.) You can't buy health, it's always more important.
<br />
<br />I hope your adjustments goes smoothly. Don't forget to talk to your social worker at your care center about your changes, they are there to help and offer support, and even tell you how and were to get financial aid if needed.
 
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AnD

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I've stayed home practically the whole 16 years we've been married (12 before the kiddo- I had a couple of part time jobs the first year we were married, but quit to stay healthier- my first job was working at a daycare summers and holidays for 4 years, and I finally couldn't do it anymore and stay well), and there are lots of ways to "contribute" to the family income with out having an "outside" job. Mom2lillian is blogging about working towards staying home, and has a bunch of good blogs about it- you might want to read it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> . It's a challenge, but rewarding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> !

I have used my time at home to clip coupons, look through the sale ads, sew simple things like curtains, or hem/adjust/repair clothes instead of sending them out, organize my shopping trips (less gas burned that way), plan meals, and shop at the thrift and consignment stores and seasonal consignment sales to save money.
Getting a daily subscription to your local newspaper is a great place to start- coupons, sales ads, advertisments for things like free or half price "zoo days" or half movies (our library has "family movie night" complete with fresh popped popcorn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) , and free or low cost things like the Lowe's workshop for kids are usually in the paper too.

Another thing is that I don't burn gas going back and forth to work, and I don't put as many miles on my car, so that's a <i>little</i> extra right there. Oh, not to mention the copays for the doctors and meds are lessened a bit when you aren't "fighting something" every other week <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

But the best thing is, if you are at the point where both you and your husband agree it's time, you probably will be a healthier and happier mom (Personally, I'm a bit of a grump when I am sick, lol) , with more time and energy to spend with your family and doing a few things (like a long, hot bath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) just for yourself, that you <i>would like</i> to do <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> .

Of course, this is all IMHO and experience, but it has been worth it to me. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
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AnD

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I've stayed home practically the whole 16 years we've been married (12 before the kiddo- I had a couple of part time jobs the first year we were married, but quit to stay healthier- my first job was working at a daycare summers and holidays for 4 years, and I finally couldn't do it anymore and stay well), and there are lots of ways to "contribute" to the family income with out having an "outside" job. Mom2lillian is blogging about working towards staying home, and has a bunch of good blogs about it- you might want to read it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> . It's a challenge, but rewarding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> !

I have used my time at home to clip coupons, look through the sale ads, sew simple things like curtains, or hem/adjust/repair clothes instead of sending them out, organize my shopping trips (less gas burned that way), plan meals, and shop at the thrift and consignment stores and seasonal consignment sales to save money.
Getting a daily subscription to your local newspaper is a great place to start- coupons, sales ads, advertisments for things like free or half price "zoo days" or half movies (our library has "family movie night" complete with fresh popped popcorn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) , and free or low cost things like the Lowe's workshop for kids are usually in the paper too.

Another thing is that I don't burn gas going back and forth to work, and I don't put as many miles on my car, so that's a <i>little</i> extra right there. Oh, not to mention the copays for the doctors and meds are lessened a bit when you aren't "fighting something" every other week <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

But the best thing is, if you are at the point where both you and your husband agree it's time, you probably will be a healthier and happier mom (Personally, I'm a bit of a grump when I am sick, lol) , with more time and energy to spend with your family and doing a few things (like a long, hot bath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) just for yourself, that you <i>would like</i> to do <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> .

Of course, this is all IMHO and experience, but it has been worth it to me. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
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AnD

New member
I've stayed home practically the whole 16 years we've been married (12 before the kiddo- I had a couple of part time jobs the first year we were married, but quit to stay healthier- my first job was working at a daycare summers and holidays for 4 years, and I finally couldn't do it anymore and stay well), and there are lots of ways to "contribute" to the family income with out having an "outside" job. Mom2lillian is blogging about working towards staying home, and has a bunch of good blogs about it- you might want to read it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> . It's a challenge, but rewarding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> !

I have used my time at home to clip coupons, look through the sale ads, sew simple things like curtains, or hem/adjust/repair clothes instead of sending them out, organize my shopping trips (less gas burned that way), plan meals, and shop at the thrift and consignment stores and seasonal consignment sales to save money.
Getting a daily subscription to your local newspaper is a great place to start- coupons, sales ads, advertisments for things like free or half price "zoo days" or half movies (our library has "family movie night" complete with fresh popped popcorn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) , and free or low cost things like the Lowe's workshop for kids are usually in the paper too.

Another thing is that I don't burn gas going back and forth to work, and I don't put as many miles on my car, so that's a <i>little</i> extra right there. Oh, not to mention the copays for the doctors and meds are lessened a bit when you aren't "fighting something" every other week <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

But the best thing is, if you are at the point where both you and your husband agree it's time, you probably will be a healthier and happier mom (Personally, I'm a bit of a grump when I am sick, lol) , with more time and energy to spend with your family and doing a few things (like a long, hot bath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) just for yourself, that you <i>would like</i> to do <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> .

Of course, this is all IMHO and experience, but it has been worth it to me. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
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AnD

New member
I've stayed home practically the whole 16 years we've been married (12 before the kiddo- I had a couple of part time jobs the first year we were married, but quit to stay healthier- my first job was working at a daycare summers and holidays for 4 years, and I finally couldn't do it anymore and stay well), and there are lots of ways to "contribute" to the family income with out having an "outside" job. Mom2lillian is blogging about working towards staying home, and has a bunch of good blogs about it- you might want to read it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> . It's a challenge, but rewarding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> !

I have used my time at home to clip coupons, look through the sale ads, sew simple things like curtains, or hem/adjust/repair clothes instead of sending them out, organize my shopping trips (less gas burned that way), plan meals, and shop at the thrift and consignment stores and seasonal consignment sales to save money.
Getting a daily subscription to your local newspaper is a great place to start- coupons, sales ads, advertisments for things like free or half price "zoo days" or half movies (our library has "family movie night" complete with fresh popped popcorn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) , and free or low cost things like the Lowe's workshop for kids are usually in the paper too.

Another thing is that I don't burn gas going back and forth to work, and I don't put as many miles on my car, so that's a <i>little</i> extra right there. Oh, not to mention the copays for the doctors and meds are lessened a bit when you aren't "fighting something" every other week <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

But the best thing is, if you are at the point where both you and your husband agree it's time, you probably will be a healthier and happier mom (Personally, I'm a bit of a grump when I am sick, lol) , with more time and energy to spend with your family and doing a few things (like a long, hot bath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) just for yourself, that you <i>would like</i> to do <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> .

Of course, this is all IMHO and experience, but it has been worth it to me. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
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AnD

New member
I've stayed home practically the whole 16 years we've been married (12 before the kiddo- I had a couple of part time jobs the first year we were married, but quit to stay healthier- my first job was working at a daycare summers and holidays for 4 years, and I finally couldn't do it anymore and stay well), and there are lots of ways to "contribute" to the family income with out having an "outside" job. Mom2lillian is blogging about working towards staying home, and has a bunch of good blogs about it- you might want to read it <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> . It's a challenge, but rewarding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> !
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<br />I have used my time at home to clip coupons, look through the sale ads, sew simple things like curtains, or hem/adjust/repair clothes instead of sending them out, organize my shopping trips (less gas burned that way), plan meals, and shop at the thrift and consignment stores and seasonal consignment sales to save money.
<br />Getting a daily subscription to your local newspaper is a great place to start- coupons, sales ads, advertisments for things like free or half price "zoo days" or half movies (our library has "family movie night" complete with fresh popped popcorn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) , and free or low cost things like the Lowe's workshop for kids are usually in the paper too.
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<br /> Another thing is that I don't burn gas going back and forth to work, and I don't put as many miles on my car, so that's a <i>little</i> extra right there. Oh, not to mention the copays for the doctors and meds are lessened a bit when you aren't "fighting something" every other week <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
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<br />But the best thing is, if you are at the point where both you and your husband agree it's time, you probably will be a healthier and happier mom (Personally, I'm a bit of a grump when I am sick, lol) , with more time and energy to spend with your family and doing a few things (like a long, hot bath <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ) just for yourself, that you <i>would like</i> to do <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> .
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<br />Of course, this is all IMHO and experience, but it has been worth it to me. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
 
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Skye

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I think the question you should be asking is "will I regret it if I don't quit" and I think your answer in a few years will be yes. I am not sure of that, I can only speak from experience. A younger healthier CFer does not tend to see the potential danger in getting repeated lung infections from those little ones. Over time, those flare-ups become more difficult to get rid of and they take a toll on your lungs. A lot of us, including myself, make the mistake of thinking that won't happen to me. It is just not worth the risk! I have found an alternate to my former days with the 0-5 population and I am quite happy. I am happy for you for making a smart and healthy choice. Your kids will thank you for it when they get older<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
I think the question you should be asking is "will I regret it if I don't quit" and I think your answer in a few years will be yes. I am not sure of that, I can only speak from experience. A younger healthier CFer does not tend to see the potential danger in getting repeated lung infections from those little ones. Over time, those flare-ups become more difficult to get rid of and they take a toll on your lungs. A lot of us, including myself, make the mistake of thinking that won't happen to me. It is just not worth the risk! I have found an alternate to my former days with the 0-5 population and I am quite happy. I am happy for you for making a smart and healthy choice. Your kids will thank you for it when they get older<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
I think the question you should be asking is "will I regret it if I don't quit" and I think your answer in a few years will be yes. I am not sure of that, I can only speak from experience. A younger healthier CFer does not tend to see the potential danger in getting repeated lung infections from those little ones. Over time, those flare-ups become more difficult to get rid of and they take a toll on your lungs. A lot of us, including myself, make the mistake of thinking that won't happen to me. It is just not worth the risk! I have found an alternate to my former days with the 0-5 population and I am quite happy. I am happy for you for making a smart and healthy choice. Your kids will thank you for it when they get older<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
I think the question you should be asking is "will I regret it if I don't quit" and I think your answer in a few years will be yes. I am not sure of that, I can only speak from experience. A younger healthier CFer does not tend to see the potential danger in getting repeated lung infections from those little ones. Over time, those flare-ups become more difficult to get rid of and they take a toll on your lungs. A lot of us, including myself, make the mistake of thinking that won't happen to me. It is just not worth the risk! I have found an alternate to my former days with the 0-5 population and I am quite happy. I am happy for you for making a smart and healthy choice. Your kids will thank you for it when they get older<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
I think the question you should be asking is "will I regret it if I don't quit" and I think your answer in a few years will be yes. I am not sure of that, I can only speak from experience. A younger healthier CFer does not tend to see the potential danger in getting repeated lung infections from those little ones. Over time, those flare-ups become more difficult to get rid of and they take a toll on your lungs. A lot of us, including myself, make the mistake of thinking that won't happen to me. It is just not worth the risk! I have found an alternate to my former days with the 0-5 population and I am quite happy. I am happy for you for making a smart and healthy choice. Your kids will thank you for it when they get older<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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<br />Karen
 
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