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mom2lilg

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My step daughter will be coming this weekend to visit. she has been very sick and has missed this week of school. I talked to her on the phone and her cough sounds awful. Her mom took her to the er and they tested for pertussis and did a xray. They put her on zithromax and sent her home. This is where everyone butts heads. Her moms says shes better and still wants her to come. Im scared to have her come and then grayson ends up sick. Grayson was in the hospital couple weeks ago with intestinal flu, adenovirus, double ear infection, and strep throat. So when she gets sick, she really gets sick! I told my dh he could go spend the day with her just to have time with his daughter. What is your opinion? should i let her come?
 
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mom2lilg

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My step daughter will be coming this weekend to visit. she has been very sick and has missed this week of school. I talked to her on the phone and her cough sounds awful. Her mom took her to the er and they tested for pertussis and did a xray. They put her on zithromax and sent her home. This is where everyone butts heads. Her moms says shes better and still wants her to come. Im scared to have her come and then grayson ends up sick. Grayson was in the hospital couple weeks ago with intestinal flu, adenovirus, double ear infection, and strep throat. So when she gets sick, she really gets sick! I told my dh he could go spend the day with her just to have time with his daughter. What is your opinion? should i let her come?
 
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mom2lilg

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My step daughter will be coming this weekend to visit. she has been very sick and has missed this week of school. I talked to her on the phone and her cough sounds awful. Her mom took her to the er and they tested for pertussis and did a xray. They put her on zithromax and sent her home. This is where everyone butts heads. Her moms says shes better and still wants her to come. Im scared to have her come and then grayson ends up sick. Grayson was in the hospital couple weeks ago with intestinal flu, adenovirus, double ear infection, and strep throat. So when she gets sick, she really gets sick! I told my dh he could go spend the day with her just to have time with his daughter. What is your opinion? should i let her come?
 
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Rebjane

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I dont' have step children, however pertussis would be very dangerous for a child with CF. They used to call pertussis the 100 day cough. Was your daughter not vaccinated? I know that in certain areas, there have been a few cases of pertussis outbreaks because of delayed vaccination and or people who do not vaccinate.

If it was just a cold it would be one thing; but pertussis is something I would not mess around with. Sorry you have to worry about this.
 
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Rebjane

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I dont' have step children, however pertussis would be very dangerous for a child with CF. They used to call pertussis the 100 day cough. Was your daughter not vaccinated? I know that in certain areas, there have been a few cases of pertussis outbreaks because of delayed vaccination and or people who do not vaccinate.

If it was just a cold it would be one thing; but pertussis is something I would not mess around with. Sorry you have to worry about this.
 
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Rebjane

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I dont' have step children, however pertussis would be very dangerous for a child with CF. They used to call pertussis the 100 day cough. Was your daughter not vaccinated? I know that in certain areas, there have been a few cases of pertussis outbreaks because of delayed vaccination and or people who do not vaccinate.
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<br />If it was just a cold it would be one thing; but pertussis is something I would not mess around with. Sorry you have to worry about this.
 
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mom2lilg

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update: my step daughters mom called and said its bronchitis. we have let her come even with getting over the flu and many many colds which we also got. i have other children that are school aged and they bring home many "bugs". but my thought is that if we are finally all healthy (its been a rough winter), why bring another "bug" into our house. Grayson has been in the hospital close to 1 yr and she is 34 months old. At birth the first time was admitted for 7 months and couple weeks here and there and this past summer for 2 more months. so when i say she gets really sick it normally means she gets admitted.
 
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mom2lilg

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update: my step daughters mom called and said its bronchitis. we have let her come even with getting over the flu and many many colds which we also got. i have other children that are school aged and they bring home many "bugs". but my thought is that if we are finally all healthy (its been a rough winter), why bring another "bug" into our house. Grayson has been in the hospital close to 1 yr and she is 34 months old. At birth the first time was admitted for 7 months and couple weeks here and there and this past summer for 2 more months. so when i say she gets really sick it normally means she gets admitted.
 
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mom2lilg

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update: my step daughters mom called and said its bronchitis. we have let her come even with getting over the flu and many many colds which we also got. i have other children that are school aged and they bring home many "bugs". but my thought is that if we are finally all healthy (its been a rough winter), why bring another "bug" into our house. Grayson has been in the hospital close to 1 yr and she is 34 months old. At birth the first time was admitted for 7 months and couple weeks here and there and this past summer for 2 more months. so when i say she gets really sick it normally means she gets admitted.
 
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MaryamsMommy

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I would assume that its past the contagious stage at this point. I know that your very concerned about it spreding to your Cfer. My daughter does not go over to her fathers house if she or any of the kids over there are sick. But coughs can be tricky. I dont have CF but when I get sick my cough can linger forever. What did your husband think about spending the day with his daughter alone? Just be very careful in how you handle this. Would you send any of your children away to stay with aunts,uncles or grandparents when sick to avoid exposure to your CF child?I know you want to protect your Cfer we all do. Does your step child have a fever. If she has been sick all week that contagious period is most likely gone. And why does the mother feel after keeping her home all week its so necessary for her to make it this weekend. What does your Hubby think of all this? Step children are just as much a part of the family as your own. Unless she is really sick with fever and an infectious cough where the doctor is the one saying she is contagious keep her home from school thats another story.In the end its a decission you and your hubby will have to make. By the way if it were whooping cough. Both myself and my daughter with CF had it the end of last year. The cough can linger for weeks even months. But after 3 days on Zithromax you are no longer contagious.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Good luck in your decission.

Karen Mommy to Maryam 10 With CF...
 
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MaryamsMommy

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I would assume that its past the contagious stage at this point. I know that your very concerned about it spreding to your Cfer. My daughter does not go over to her fathers house if she or any of the kids over there are sick. But coughs can be tricky. I dont have CF but when I get sick my cough can linger forever. What did your husband think about spending the day with his daughter alone? Just be very careful in how you handle this. Would you send any of your children away to stay with aunts,uncles or grandparents when sick to avoid exposure to your CF child?I know you want to protect your Cfer we all do. Does your step child have a fever. If she has been sick all week that contagious period is most likely gone. And why does the mother feel after keeping her home all week its so necessary for her to make it this weekend. What does your Hubby think of all this? Step children are just as much a part of the family as your own. Unless she is really sick with fever and an infectious cough where the doctor is the one saying she is contagious keep her home from school thats another story.In the end its a decission you and your hubby will have to make. By the way if it were whooping cough. Both myself and my daughter with CF had it the end of last year. The cough can linger for weeks even months. But after 3 days on Zithromax you are no longer contagious.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Good luck in your decission.

Karen Mommy to Maryam 10 With CF...
 
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MaryamsMommy

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I would assume that its past the contagious stage at this point. I know that your very concerned about it spreding to your Cfer. My daughter does not go over to her fathers house if she or any of the kids over there are sick. But coughs can be tricky. I dont have CF but when I get sick my cough can linger forever. What did your husband think about spending the day with his daughter alone? Just be very careful in how you handle this. Would you send any of your children away to stay with aunts,uncles or grandparents when sick to avoid exposure to your CF child?I know you want to protect your Cfer we all do. Does your step child have a fever. If she has been sick all week that contagious period is most likely gone. And why does the mother feel after keeping her home all week its so necessary for her to make it this weekend. What does your Hubby think of all this? Step children are just as much a part of the family as your own. Unless she is really sick with fever and an infectious cough where the doctor is the one saying she is contagious keep her home from school thats another story.In the end its a decission you and your hubby will have to make. By the way if it were whooping cough. Both myself and my daughter with CF had it the end of last year. The cough can linger for weeks even months. But after 3 days on Zithromax you are no longer contagious.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Good luck in your decission.
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<br />Karen Mommy to Maryam 10 With CF...
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PatrickM

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This is a very tricky situation and one you will likely have to deal with more than once. How good is your relationship with your step daughters mom? If at all possible I would call her directly, some might say let your husband do it but I would talk mom to mom. I would tell her how worried you are for Grayson, how she catches everything and how dangerous bronchitis would be for her. Educate her over and over about CF and try to make a decision together. If you can involve the mom in your decision making it might help her to feel her daughter is not being slighted by her father . Not that she necessarily feels that way but you never know.

How old is your step daughter? Is she old enough to understand CF and staying away from Grayson, frequent hand washing etc? How hurt would she feel if she were not to go to your house? Karen brings up an excellent point about how if it were one of your own children living with you how would you separate that child from Grayson? There is certainly not an easy answer here because your step daughter is family, she is a sibling, not a cousin coming for a visit. Can your husband just plan to take his daughter and your other kids out for the day, do activities away from Grayson?

I totally understand your desire to protect Grayson especially after all she has been through with hospitalizations. I really think you, your husband and your step daughters mom are going to need to put a lot of thought in to this. As a team you need to do what is best for all of the children in this tough situation. I wish you guys the best.

Tara
 
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PatrickM

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This is a very tricky situation and one you will likely have to deal with more than once. How good is your relationship with your step daughters mom? If at all possible I would call her directly, some might say let your husband do it but I would talk mom to mom. I would tell her how worried you are for Grayson, how she catches everything and how dangerous bronchitis would be for her. Educate her over and over about CF and try to make a decision together. If you can involve the mom in your decision making it might help her to feel her daughter is not being slighted by her father . Not that she necessarily feels that way but you never know.

How old is your step daughter? Is she old enough to understand CF and staying away from Grayson, frequent hand washing etc? How hurt would she feel if she were not to go to your house? Karen brings up an excellent point about how if it were one of your own children living with you how would you separate that child from Grayson? There is certainly not an easy answer here because your step daughter is family, she is a sibling, not a cousin coming for a visit. Can your husband just plan to take his daughter and your other kids out for the day, do activities away from Grayson?

I totally understand your desire to protect Grayson especially after all she has been through with hospitalizations. I really think you, your husband and your step daughters mom are going to need to put a lot of thought in to this. As a team you need to do what is best for all of the children in this tough situation. I wish you guys the best.

Tara
 
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PatrickM

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This is a very tricky situation and one you will likely have to deal with more than once. How good is your relationship with your step daughters mom? If at all possible I would call her directly, some might say let your husband do it but I would talk mom to mom. I would tell her how worried you are for Grayson, how she catches everything and how dangerous bronchitis would be for her. Educate her over and over about CF and try to make a decision together. If you can involve the mom in your decision making it might help her to feel her daughter is not being slighted by her father . Not that she necessarily feels that way but you never know.
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<br /> How old is your step daughter? Is she old enough to understand CF and staying away from Grayson, frequent hand washing etc? How hurt would she feel if she were not to go to your house? Karen brings up an excellent point about how if it were one of your own children living with you how would you separate that child from Grayson? There is certainly not an easy answer here because your step daughter is family, she is a sibling, not a cousin coming for a visit. Can your husband just plan to take his daughter and your other kids out for the day, do activities away from Grayson?
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<br /> I totally understand your desire to protect Grayson especially after all she has been through with hospitalizations. I really think you, your husband and your step daughters mom are going to need to put a lot of thought in to this. As a team you need to do what is best for all of the children in this tough situation. I wish you guys the best.
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<br />Tara
 
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mom2lilg

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My step daughter is 7 and we have talked to her often about cf. Im not sure if she understands as much as my twins (7yr) do about cf. one of my twins is very protective of grayson b/c she does understand maybe too much. When grayson is in the hospital my twins normally live with my mom and dad just to keep it as "normal" for them (their dad works 3rd and they rather be with their nana and pappy). In the past its been a huge battle of name calling and "you don't love your daughter" to my husband from his ex wife. She has also sent her even knowing she was sick and didn't say anything. I have educated her and sent her tons of info on cf. one day she's very supportive and the next its just the opposite. It really depends on the day if she will be open minded about it. My step daughter is a huge part in our family. All family outings are scheduled when she is with us, holidays, school breaks, and we get her for the summer. She has been in my life for a little over 4 yrs now. And love her very much and thats why its such a hard decision. Also, as for my twins. Here is an example; Grayson was born May 08. My twins bday is just 2 weeks later. Grayson had many health issues and surgeries (7 month stay). We had to celebrate their bday in the hospital. In 2010, once again, grayson admitted just a week after her 2nd bday. So once again my twins had to celebrate their bday in the hospital. So now they said they cant plan a party since Grayson might get sick. I don't know if i can risk my cf childs health this time. I made a promise to my twins that their sister will be at their party and it won't be at the hospital.
 
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mom2lilg

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My step daughter is 7 and we have talked to her often about cf. Im not sure if she understands as much as my twins (7yr) do about cf. one of my twins is very protective of grayson b/c she does understand maybe too much. When grayson is in the hospital my twins normally live with my mom and dad just to keep it as "normal" for them (their dad works 3rd and they rather be with their nana and pappy). In the past its been a huge battle of name calling and "you don't love your daughter" to my husband from his ex wife. She has also sent her even knowing she was sick and didn't say anything. I have educated her and sent her tons of info on cf. one day she's very supportive and the next its just the opposite. It really depends on the day if she will be open minded about it. My step daughter is a huge part in our family. All family outings are scheduled when she is with us, holidays, school breaks, and we get her for the summer. She has been in my life for a little over 4 yrs now. And love her very much and thats why its such a hard decision. Also, as for my twins. Here is an example; Grayson was born May 08. My twins bday is just 2 weeks later. Grayson had many health issues and surgeries (7 month stay). We had to celebrate their bday in the hospital. In 2010, once again, grayson admitted just a week after her 2nd bday. So once again my twins had to celebrate their bday in the hospital. So now they said they cant plan a party since Grayson might get sick. I don't know if i can risk my cf childs health this time. I made a promise to my twins that their sister will be at their party and it won't be at the hospital.
 
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