Stressed out Mom needs advice. : (

[Nightwriter]

Boy, your story is chock full of all kinds of things. And yet you have managed somehow to maintain a sense of humor. You've got CF, a miscarriage, drug abuse, a restraining order against a bad boyfriend, drug overdose, stealing from Grandpa, financial debt, and non-compliance for a serious illness. All in the first post. Wow.

If your daughter has gone through 100 Oxycontin in 2 weeks, that's where I would start. That stuff is so addicting, you can get hooked immediately. And the effect wears off so fast, that's why they start gulping them down to reach the same feeling.

Sending someone for therapy who finds it useless is a waste. That's why I suggested family therapy, someone who can work with the whole family. But now I also think your daughter belongs in a drug program too because she keeps trying to medicate herself.

There is so much going on including control issues. Bad boyfriend is only one of the problems. You say she is spoiled. I'm not so sure that's the problem.

You had control pre-boyfriend as you said, "something I perfected for years." So it's no big surprise when she said she had something to prove by trying to stand on her own two feet, but the best she could do is move to your father's house. Then came the boyfriend -- so she really isn't independent at all.

She knows how to push your buttons. One of the things I do know about teenagers, is that they do pull away from the family in order to grow up. She is trying to do this, but like you said she is like a 14 year old. Complicated by a serious illness. Instead of rebelling when she was 14, she is doing it now with disastrous consequences.

I think you are a very loving mother and are trying to help her. But I really think you need professional help, because there is no time to waste.

 

[Nightwriter]

Boy, your story is chock full of all kinds of things. And yet you have managed somehow to maintain a sense of humor. You've got CF, a miscarriage, drug abuse, a restraining order against a bad boyfriend, drug overdose, stealing from Grandpa, financial debt, and non-compliance for a serious illness. All in the first post. Wow.

If your daughter has gone through 100 Oxycontin in 2 weeks, that's where I would start. That stuff is so addicting, you can get hooked immediately. And the effect wears off so fast, that's why they start gulping them down to reach the same feeling.

Sending someone for therapy who finds it useless is a waste. That's why I suggested family therapy, someone who can work with the whole family. But now I also think your daughter belongs in a drug program too because she keeps trying to medicate herself.

There is so much going on including control issues. Bad boyfriend is only one of the problems. You say she is spoiled. I'm not so sure that's the problem.

You had control pre-boyfriend as you said, "something I perfected for years." So it's no big surprise when she said she had something to prove by trying to stand on her own two feet, but the best she could do is move to your father's house. Then came the boyfriend -- so she really isn't independent at all.

She knows how to push your buttons. One of the things I do know about teenagers, is that they do pull away from the family in order to grow up. She is trying to do this, but like you said she is like a 14 year old. Complicated by a serious illness. Instead of rebelling when she was 14, she is doing it now with disastrous consequences.

I think you are a very loving mother and are trying to help her. But I really think you need professional help, because there is no time to waste.

 

[Nightwriter]

Boy, your story is chock full of all kinds of things. And yet you have managed somehow to maintain a sense of humor. You've got CF, a miscarriage, drug abuse, a restraining order against a bad boyfriend, drug overdose, stealing from Grandpa, financial debt, and non-compliance for a serious illness. All in the first post. Wow.

If your daughter has gone through 100 Oxycontin in 2 weeks, that's where I would start. That stuff is so addicting, you can get hooked immediately. And the effect wears off so fast, that's why they start gulping them down to reach the same feeling.

Sending someone for therapy who finds it useless is a waste. That's why I suggested family therapy, someone who can work with the whole family. But now I also think your daughter belongs in a drug program too because she keeps trying to medicate herself.

There is so much going on including control issues. Bad boyfriend is only one of the problems. You say she is spoiled. I'm not so sure that's the problem.

You had control pre-boyfriend as you said, "something I perfected for years." So it's no big surprise when she said she had something to prove by trying to stand on her own two feet, but the best she could do is move to your father's house. Then came the boyfriend -- so she really isn't independent at all.

She knows how to push your buttons. One of the things I do know about teenagers, is that they do pull away from the family in order to grow up. She is trying to do this, but like you said she is like a 14 year old. Complicated by a serious illness. Instead of rebelling when she was 14, she is doing it now with disastrous consequences.

I think you are a very loving mother and are trying to help her. But I really think you need professional help, because there is no time to waste.

 

[Nightwriter]

Boy, your story is chock full of all kinds of things. And yet you have managed somehow to maintain a sense of humor. You've got CF, a miscarriage, drug abuse, a restraining order against a bad boyfriend, drug overdose, stealing from Grandpa, financial debt, and non-compliance for a serious illness. All in the first post. Wow.

If your daughter has gone through 100 Oxycontin in 2 weeks, that's where I would start. That stuff is so addicting, you can get hooked immediately. And the effect wears off so fast, that's why they start gulping them down to reach the same feeling.

Sending someone for therapy who finds it useless is a waste. That's why I suggested family therapy, someone who can work with the whole family. But now I also think your daughter belongs in a drug program too because she keeps trying to medicate herself.

There is so much going on including control issues. Bad boyfriend is only one of the problems. You say she is spoiled. I'm not so sure that's the problem.

You had control pre-boyfriend as you said, "something I perfected for years." So it's no big surprise when she said she had something to prove by trying to stand on her own two feet, but the best she could do is move to your father's house. Then came the boyfriend -- so she really isn't independent at all.

She knows how to push your buttons. One of the things I do know about teenagers, is that they do pull away from the family in order to grow up. She is trying to do this, but like you said she is like a 14 year old. Complicated by a serious illness. Instead of rebelling when she was 14, she is doing it now with disastrous consequences.

I think you are a very loving mother and are trying to help her. But I really think you need professional help, because there is no time to waste.

 

[Nightwriter]

Boy, your story is chock full of all kinds of things. And yet you have managed somehow to maintain a sense of humor. You've got CF, a miscarriage, drug abuse, a restraining order against a bad boyfriend, drug overdose, stealing from Grandpa, financial debt, and non-compliance for a serious illness. All in the first post. Wow.
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<br />If your daughter has gone through 100 Oxycontin in 2 weeks, that's where I would start. That stuff is so addicting, you can get hooked immediately. And the effect wears off so fast, that's why they start gulping them down to reach the same feeling.
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<br />Sending someone for therapy who finds it useless is a waste. That's why I suggested family therapy, someone who can work with the whole family. But now I also think your daughter belongs in a drug program too because she keeps trying to medicate herself.
<br />
<br />There is so much going on including control issues. Bad boyfriend is only one of the problems. You say she is spoiled. I'm not so sure that's the problem.
<br />
<br />You had control pre-boyfriend as you said, "something I perfected for years." So it's no big surprise when she said she had something to prove by trying to stand on her own two feet, but the best she could do is move to your father's house. Then came the boyfriend -- so she really isn't independent at all.
<br />
<br />She knows how to push your buttons. One of the things I do know about teenagers, is that they do pull away from the family in order to grow up. She is trying to do this, but like you said she is like a 14 year old. Complicated by a serious illness. Instead of rebelling when she was 14, she is doing it now with disastrous consequences.
<br />
<br />I think you are a very loving mother and are trying to help her. But I really think you need professional help, because there is no time to waste.

 

[SnickerJunky]

The last time she took anything narcotic was about 2.5 months ago. On the advice of her nurse manager, I called 911 to have her Baker Acted, because that was right on the heels of the whole Oxycontin,codeine thing. The cops came and wouldn't do anything because she told them she only took one pill and wasn't trying to kill herself. That was a total waste and not only that,the dumb cops came in and started talking to my husband about something totally unrelated and I went thru the roof. I do think that was an eye-opener for her, tho. She did stop the narcotics and hasn't touched them or put herself in situations to be around people who have them since.

We've allllways butted heads, because we're so much alike, lol. The therapies have always been something i have to ride her about, but before, it was never anything like walking into a bullet for her when she skipped them here and there. By "perfecting it" I mean that she lived at home, and I knew what to do to make her be responsible with them. She was healthy. Once she pulled that "I'm 18" card, I hoped that she would really try to prove to herself and everyone else that she could take care of herself. She didn't have anyone riding her about it, so she didn't. Then along came the smoking, drugging, drinking boyfriend, and it all went downhill from there.

Since she's been rid of him, she's started dating again and has been having a BLAST with her life. This is where the irresponsibility comes in again, because she's too busy lately to care if she stops and takes her treatments. She took off for 2 days this week when she was mad at me, and left all her meds here. I knew where she was, it wasn't like she ran away or anything, it's just her stubbornness that she would rather rule with than her head. I dunno. I think family therapy would be great, but I couldn't even get her into a rehab when I tried to Baker Act her because either they didn't accept her insurance (medicaid)or they didn't have what she needed in their facility here. That's not an issue anymore, but we don't have insurance, because my insurance company dropped me for stupid reasons. (something to do with my blood sugar being high once when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and the size of a polycystic ovary recorded as being measured in weeks instead of cm or inches--stupid!!)So we really don't have the finances for that now. That's why I was hoping just to find someone here who might be able to relate and just have some ideas for me. I'm trying to get her to enroll in some college courses and get a job, but that's like pulling teeth too, lol. It would help if we lived in a bigger town, I know, but we don't. I'll never give up tho. I just need backup! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SnickerJunky]

The last time she took anything narcotic was about 2.5 months ago. On the advice of her nurse manager, I called 911 to have her Baker Acted, because that was right on the heels of the whole Oxycontin,codeine thing. The cops came and wouldn't do anything because she told them she only took one pill and wasn't trying to kill herself. That was a total waste and not only that,the dumb cops came in and started talking to my husband about something totally unrelated and I went thru the roof. I do think that was an eye-opener for her, tho. She did stop the narcotics and hasn't touched them or put herself in situations to be around people who have them since.

We've allllways butted heads, because we're so much alike, lol. The therapies have always been something i have to ride her about, but before, it was never anything like walking into a bullet for her when she skipped them here and there. By "perfecting it" I mean that she lived at home, and I knew what to do to make her be responsible with them. She was healthy. Once she pulled that "I'm 18" card, I hoped that she would really try to prove to herself and everyone else that she could take care of herself. She didn't have anyone riding her about it, so she didn't. Then along came the smoking, drugging, drinking boyfriend, and it all went downhill from there.

Since she's been rid of him, she's started dating again and has been having a BLAST with her life. This is where the irresponsibility comes in again, because she's too busy lately to care if she stops and takes her treatments. She took off for 2 days this week when she was mad at me, and left all her meds here. I knew where she was, it wasn't like she ran away or anything, it's just her stubbornness that she would rather rule with than her head. I dunno. I think family therapy would be great, but I couldn't even get her into a rehab when I tried to Baker Act her because either they didn't accept her insurance (medicaid)or they didn't have what she needed in their facility here. That's not an issue anymore, but we don't have insurance, because my insurance company dropped me for stupid reasons. (something to do with my blood sugar being high once when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and the size of a polycystic ovary recorded as being measured in weeks instead of cm or inches--stupid!!)So we really don't have the finances for that now. That's why I was hoping just to find someone here who might be able to relate and just have some ideas for me. I'm trying to get her to enroll in some college courses and get a job, but that's like pulling teeth too, lol. It would help if we lived in a bigger town, I know, but we don't. I'll never give up tho. I just need backup! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SnickerJunky]

The last time she took anything narcotic was about 2.5 months ago. On the advice of her nurse manager, I called 911 to have her Baker Acted, because that was right on the heels of the whole Oxycontin,codeine thing. The cops came and wouldn't do anything because she told them she only took one pill and wasn't trying to kill herself. That was a total waste and not only that,the dumb cops came in and started talking to my husband about something totally unrelated and I went thru the roof. I do think that was an eye-opener for her, tho. She did stop the narcotics and hasn't touched them or put herself in situations to be around people who have them since.

We've allllways butted heads, because we're so much alike, lol. The therapies have always been something i have to ride her about, but before, it was never anything like walking into a bullet for her when she skipped them here and there. By "perfecting it" I mean that she lived at home, and I knew what to do to make her be responsible with them. She was healthy. Once she pulled that "I'm 18" card, I hoped that she would really try to prove to herself and everyone else that she could take care of herself. She didn't have anyone riding her about it, so she didn't. Then along came the smoking, drugging, drinking boyfriend, and it all went downhill from there.

Since she's been rid of him, she's started dating again and has been having a BLAST with her life. This is where the irresponsibility comes in again, because she's too busy lately to care if she stops and takes her treatments. She took off for 2 days this week when she was mad at me, and left all her meds here. I knew where she was, it wasn't like she ran away or anything, it's just her stubbornness that she would rather rule with than her head. I dunno. I think family therapy would be great, but I couldn't even get her into a rehab when I tried to Baker Act her because either they didn't accept her insurance (medicaid)or they didn't have what she needed in their facility here. That's not an issue anymore, but we don't have insurance, because my insurance company dropped me for stupid reasons. (something to do with my blood sugar being high once when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and the size of a polycystic ovary recorded as being measured in weeks instead of cm or inches--stupid!!)So we really don't have the finances for that now. That's why I was hoping just to find someone here who might be able to relate and just have some ideas for me. I'm trying to get her to enroll in some college courses and get a job, but that's like pulling teeth too, lol. It would help if we lived in a bigger town, I know, but we don't. I'll never give up tho. I just need backup! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SnickerJunky]

The last time she took anything narcotic was about 2.5 months ago. On the advice of her nurse manager, I called 911 to have her Baker Acted, because that was right on the heels of the whole Oxycontin,codeine thing. The cops came and wouldn't do anything because she told them she only took one pill and wasn't trying to kill herself. That was a total waste and not only that,the dumb cops came in and started talking to my husband about something totally unrelated and I went thru the roof. I do think that was an eye-opener for her, tho. She did stop the narcotics and hasn't touched them or put herself in situations to be around people who have them since.

We've allllways butted heads, because we're so much alike, lol. The therapies have always been something i have to ride her about, but before, it was never anything like walking into a bullet for her when she skipped them here and there. By "perfecting it" I mean that she lived at home, and I knew what to do to make her be responsible with them. She was healthy. Once she pulled that "I'm 18" card, I hoped that she would really try to prove to herself and everyone else that she could take care of herself. She didn't have anyone riding her about it, so she didn't. Then along came the smoking, drugging, drinking boyfriend, and it all went downhill from there.

Since she's been rid of him, she's started dating again and has been having a BLAST with her life. This is where the irresponsibility comes in again, because she's too busy lately to care if she stops and takes her treatments. She took off for 2 days this week when she was mad at me, and left all her meds here. I knew where she was, it wasn't like she ran away or anything, it's just her stubbornness that she would rather rule with than her head. I dunno. I think family therapy would be great, but I couldn't even get her into a rehab when I tried to Baker Act her because either they didn't accept her insurance (medicaid)or they didn't have what she needed in their facility here. That's not an issue anymore, but we don't have insurance, because my insurance company dropped me for stupid reasons. (something to do with my blood sugar being high once when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and the size of a polycystic ovary recorded as being measured in weeks instead of cm or inches--stupid!!)So we really don't have the finances for that now. That's why I was hoping just to find someone here who might be able to relate and just have some ideas for me. I'm trying to get her to enroll in some college courses and get a job, but that's like pulling teeth too, lol. It would help if we lived in a bigger town, I know, but we don't. I'll never give up tho. I just need backup! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[SnickerJunky]

The last time she took anything narcotic was about 2.5 months ago. On the advice of her nurse manager, I called 911 to have her Baker Acted, because that was right on the heels of the whole Oxycontin,codeine thing. The cops came and wouldn't do anything because she told them she only took one pill and wasn't trying to kill herself. That was a total waste and not only that,the dumb cops came in and started talking to my husband about something totally unrelated and I went thru the roof. I do think that was an eye-opener for her, tho. She did stop the narcotics and hasn't touched them or put herself in situations to be around people who have them since.
<br />
<br />We've allllways butted heads, because we're so much alike, lol. The therapies have always been something i have to ride her about, but before, it was never anything like walking into a bullet for her when she skipped them here and there. By "perfecting it" I mean that she lived at home, and I knew what to do to make her be responsible with them. She was healthy. Once she pulled that "I'm 18" card, I hoped that she would really try to prove to herself and everyone else that she could take care of herself. She didn't have anyone riding her about it, so she didn't. Then along came the smoking, drugging, drinking boyfriend, and it all went downhill from there.
<br />
<br />Since she's been rid of him, she's started dating again and has been having a BLAST with her life. This is where the irresponsibility comes in again, because she's too busy lately to care if she stops and takes her treatments. She took off for 2 days this week when she was mad at me, and left all her meds here. I knew where she was, it wasn't like she ran away or anything, it's just her stubbornness that she would rather rule with than her head. I dunno. I think family therapy would be great, but I couldn't even get her into a rehab when I tried to Baker Act her because either they didn't accept her insurance (medicaid)or they didn't have what she needed in their facility here. That's not an issue anymore, but we don't have insurance, because my insurance company dropped me for stupid reasons. (something to do with my blood sugar being high once when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and the size of a polycystic ovary recorded as being measured in weeks instead of cm or inches--stupid!!)So we really don't have the finances for that now. That's why I was hoping just to find someone here who might be able to relate and just have some ideas for me. I'm trying to get her to enroll in some college courses and get a job, but that's like pulling teeth too, lol. It would help if we lived in a bigger town, I know, but we don't. I'll never give up tho. I just need backup! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Nightwriter]

In the old days, when kids were out of control, they'd sign them up for the military. And they'd let them straighten them out. LOL.

I'm not sure I have much to add to what I've already said, just letting you know I hear ya.

 

[Nightwriter]

In the old days, when kids were out of control, they'd sign them up for the military. And they'd let them straighten them out. LOL.

I'm not sure I have much to add to what I've already said, just letting you know I hear ya.

 

[Nightwriter]

In the old days, when kids were out of control, they'd sign them up for the military. And they'd let them straighten them out. LOL.

I'm not sure I have much to add to what I've already said, just letting you know I hear ya.

 

[Nightwriter]

In the old days, when kids were out of control, they'd sign them up for the military. And they'd let them straighten them out. LOL.

I'm not sure I have much to add to what I've already said, just letting you know I hear ya.

 

[Nightwriter]

In the old days, when kids were out of control, they'd sign them up for the military. And they'd let them straighten them out. LOL.
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<br />I'm not sure I have much to add to what I've already said, just letting you know I hear ya.

 

[SnickerJunky]

LOL those were the days, huh?

Thanks, everyone. I don't know why it's taken me so long to join a cf message board. I think I spent most of her life in denial that anything bad would or could happen. And I honestly feel like it's only been a few missteps that have taken us down this path, otherwise things would still be good for her. Live an learn, I guess. It's really true, though...that which does not kill me, makes me stronger!

 

[SnickerJunky]

LOL those were the days, huh?

Thanks, everyone. I don't know why it's taken me so long to join a cf message board. I think I spent most of her life in denial that anything bad would or could happen. And I honestly feel like it's only been a few missteps that have taken us down this path, otherwise things would still be good for her. Live an learn, I guess. It's really true, though...that which does not kill me, makes me stronger!

 

[SnickerJunky]

LOL those were the days, huh?

Thanks, everyone. I don't know why it's taken me so long to join a cf message board. I think I spent most of her life in denial that anything bad would or could happen. And I honestly feel like it's only been a few missteps that have taken us down this path, otherwise things would still be good for her. Live an learn, I guess. It's really true, though...that which does not kill me, makes me stronger!

 

[SnickerJunky]

LOL those were the days, huh?

Thanks, everyone. I don't know why it's taken me so long to join a cf message board. I think I spent most of her life in denial that anything bad would or could happen. And I honestly feel like it's only been a few missteps that have taken us down this path, otherwise things would still be good for her. Live an learn, I guess. It's really true, though...that which does not kill me, makes me stronger!

 

[SnickerJunky]

LOL those were the days, huh?
<br />
<br />Thanks, everyone. I don't know why it's taken me so long to join a cf message board. I think I spent most of her life in denial that anything bad would or could happen. And I honestly feel like it's only been a few missteps that have taken us down this path, otherwise things would still be good for her. Live an learn, I guess. It's really true, though...that which does not kill me, makes me stronger!