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LisaV

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Oh Lisa,
Of course we're here for you - always available to listen.

In my limited experience, the relief you are experiencing is very common for people who have cared for a loved one over such a long time of painful decline. You might find reading the following artcles helpful in the sense that you'll identify to some of the extent with the feelings and issues they talk about: "Depression, PTSD Common Among Lung Transplant Patient Caregivers" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/healthday/2008/05/18/depression-ptsd-common-among-lung-transplant.html">http://health.usnews.com/artic...g-lung-transplant.html</a> which discusses the effects on caregivers even after a "successful" transplant and "Member Perspective: Transitioning from Well Spouse to Former Well Spouse" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.wellspouse.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=186&Itemid=36">http://www.wellspouse.org/inde...=view&id=186&Itemid=36</a> which is an artcle I wrote from spousal perspective.

Everone's journey thru grief is unique. I do not suggest that you'll feel just like anyone described. Just know that whatever you are feeling is OK. And that we are here for you always.

Keeping you and all of Kari's loved ones in my heart...
LisaV
 
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LisaV

New member
Oh Lisa,
Of course we're here for you - always available to listen.

In my limited experience, the relief you are experiencing is very common for people who have cared for a loved one over such a long time of painful decline. You might find reading the following artcles helpful in the sense that you'll identify to some of the extent with the feelings and issues they talk about: "Depression, PTSD Common Among Lung Transplant Patient Caregivers" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/healthday/2008/05/18/depression-ptsd-common-among-lung-transplant.html">http://health.usnews.com/artic...g-lung-transplant.html</a> which discusses the effects on caregivers even after a "successful" transplant and "Member Perspective: Transitioning from Well Spouse to Former Well Spouse" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.wellspouse.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=186&Itemid=36">http://www.wellspouse.org/inde...=view&id=186&Itemid=36</a> which is an artcle I wrote from spousal perspective.

Everone's journey thru grief is unique. I do not suggest that you'll feel just like anyone described. Just know that whatever you are feeling is OK. And that we are here for you always.

Keeping you and all of Kari's loved ones in my heart...
LisaV
 
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LisaV

New member
Oh Lisa,
Of course we're here for you - always available to listen.

In my limited experience, the relief you are experiencing is very common for people who have cared for a loved one over such a long time of painful decline. You might find reading the following artcles helpful in the sense that you'll identify to some of the extent with the feelings and issues they talk about: "Depression, PTSD Common Among Lung Transplant Patient Caregivers" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/healthday/2008/05/18/depression-ptsd-common-among-lung-transplant.html">http://health.usnews.com/artic...g-lung-transplant.html</a> which discusses the effects on caregivers even after a "successful" transplant and "Member Perspective: Transitioning from Well Spouse to Former Well Spouse" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.wellspouse.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=186&Itemid=36">http://www.wellspouse.org/inde...=view&id=186&Itemid=36</a> which is an artcle I wrote from spousal perspective.

Everone's journey thru grief is unique. I do not suggest that you'll feel just like anyone described. Just know that whatever you are feeling is OK. And that we are here for you always.

Keeping you and all of Kari's loved ones in my heart...
LisaV
 
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LisaV

New member
Oh Lisa,
Of course we're here for you - always available to listen.

In my limited experience, the relief you are experiencing is very common for people who have cared for a loved one over such a long time of painful decline. You might find reading the following artcles helpful in the sense that you'll identify to some of the extent with the feelings and issues they talk about: "Depression, PTSD Common Among Lung Transplant Patient Caregivers" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/healthday/2008/05/18/depression-ptsd-common-among-lung-transplant.html">http://health.usnews.com/artic...g-lung-transplant.html</a> which discusses the effects on caregivers even after a "successful" transplant and "Member Perspective: Transitioning from Well Spouse to Former Well Spouse" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.wellspouse.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=186&Itemid=36">http://www.wellspouse.org/inde...=view&id=186&Itemid=36</a> which is an artcle I wrote from spousal perspective.

Everone's journey thru grief is unique. I do not suggest that you'll feel just like anyone described. Just know that whatever you are feeling is OK. And that we are here for you always.

Keeping you and all of Kari's loved ones in my heart...
LisaV
 
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LisaV

New member
Oh Lisa,
<br />Of course we're here for you - always available to listen.
<br />
<br />In my limited experience, the relief you are experiencing is very common for people who have cared for a loved one over such a long time of painful decline. You might find reading the following artcles helpful in the sense that you'll identify to some of the extent with the feelings and issues they talk about: "Depression, PTSD Common Among Lung Transplant Patient Caregivers" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/healthday/2008/05/18/depression-ptsd-common-among-lung-transplant.html">http://health.usnews.com/artic...g-lung-transplant.html</a> which discusses the effects on caregivers even after a "successful" transplant and "Member Perspective: Transitioning from Well Spouse to Former Well Spouse" at <a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.wellspouse.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=186&Itemid=36">http://www.wellspouse.org/inde...=view&id=186&Itemid=36</a> which is an artcle I wrote from spousal perspective.
<br />
<br />Everone's journey thru grief is unique. I do not suggest that you'll feel just like anyone described. Just know that whatever you are feeling is OK. And that we are here for you always.
<br />
<br />Keeping you and all of Kari's loved ones in my heart...
<br />LisaV
 
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Landy

New member
Lisa,
I can very much relate. My sister, who's name just happens to be Lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0"> passed from CF back in 1986. I remember Dad calling & waking me up & telling me that she had passed. I had recently started a new job and didn't want to already be calling in, so I got ready for work, went in & told them I would most likely be gone for a bit the next few days because my sister died. My boss later called me into her office & said "Lynda, you must be in shock, you go home & be with your family".
I know she was baffled as to why I wasn't crying & blubbering around since my sister had passed just hours before. But, as you can relate, I was actually happy that Lisa was not suffering any longer & most importantly, this particular hospital visit, she said she was ready to go & quite frankly, would have been disappointed had she been dismissed to go home yet one more time.
I actually would have felt selfish had I wished her back to endure more--I hope that makes sense.

Also, on a side note, I don't think my mom shed many tears either, we were just all glad that she was finally healed and free from fighting.

So, in short (well, long), you are not alone in how you're dealing with a CF death and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As Lisa V said, we all deal with death/grief in our own way and I think the method of death also dictates how we deal with grief as well.

My prayers continue to go out to your family.<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

New member
Lisa,
I can very much relate. My sister, who's name just happens to be Lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0"> passed from CF back in 1986. I remember Dad calling & waking me up & telling me that she had passed. I had recently started a new job and didn't want to already be calling in, so I got ready for work, went in & told them I would most likely be gone for a bit the next few days because my sister died. My boss later called me into her office & said "Lynda, you must be in shock, you go home & be with your family".
I know she was baffled as to why I wasn't crying & blubbering around since my sister had passed just hours before. But, as you can relate, I was actually happy that Lisa was not suffering any longer & most importantly, this particular hospital visit, she said she was ready to go & quite frankly, would have been disappointed had she been dismissed to go home yet one more time.
I actually would have felt selfish had I wished her back to endure more--I hope that makes sense.

Also, on a side note, I don't think my mom shed many tears either, we were just all glad that she was finally healed and free from fighting.

So, in short (well, long), you are not alone in how you're dealing with a CF death and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As Lisa V said, we all deal with death/grief in our own way and I think the method of death also dictates how we deal with grief as well.

My prayers continue to go out to your family.<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

New member
Lisa,
I can very much relate. My sister, who's name just happens to be Lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0"> passed from CF back in 1986. I remember Dad calling & waking me up & telling me that she had passed. I had recently started a new job and didn't want to already be calling in, so I got ready for work, went in & told them I would most likely be gone for a bit the next few days because my sister died. My boss later called me into her office & said "Lynda, you must be in shock, you go home & be with your family".
I know she was baffled as to why I wasn't crying & blubbering around since my sister had passed just hours before. But, as you can relate, I was actually happy that Lisa was not suffering any longer & most importantly, this particular hospital visit, she said she was ready to go & quite frankly, would have been disappointed had she been dismissed to go home yet one more time.
I actually would have felt selfish had I wished her back to endure more--I hope that makes sense.

Also, on a side note, I don't think my mom shed many tears either, we were just all glad that she was finally healed and free from fighting.

So, in short (well, long), you are not alone in how you're dealing with a CF death and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As Lisa V said, we all deal with death/grief in our own way and I think the method of death also dictates how we deal with grief as well.

My prayers continue to go out to your family.<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

New member
Lisa,
I can very much relate. My sister, who's name just happens to be Lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0"> passed from CF back in 1986. I remember Dad calling & waking me up & telling me that she had passed. I had recently started a new job and didn't want to already be calling in, so I got ready for work, went in & told them I would most likely be gone for a bit the next few days because my sister died. My boss later called me into her office & said "Lynda, you must be in shock, you go home & be with your family".
I know she was baffled as to why I wasn't crying & blubbering around since my sister had passed just hours before. But, as you can relate, I was actually happy that Lisa was not suffering any longer & most importantly, this particular hospital visit, she said she was ready to go & quite frankly, would have been disappointed had she been dismissed to go home yet one more time.
I actually would have felt selfish had I wished her back to endure more--I hope that makes sense.

Also, on a side note, I don't think my mom shed many tears either, we were just all glad that she was finally healed and free from fighting.

So, in short (well, long), you are not alone in how you're dealing with a CF death and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As Lisa V said, we all deal with death/grief in our own way and I think the method of death also dictates how we deal with grief as well.

My prayers continue to go out to your family.<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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Landy

New member
Lisa,
<br />I can very much relate. My sister, who's name just happens to be Lisa<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0"> passed from CF back in 1986. I remember Dad calling & waking me up & telling me that she had passed. I had recently started a new job and didn't want to already be calling in, so I got ready for work, went in & told them I would most likely be gone for a bit the next few days because my sister died. My boss later called me into her office & said "Lynda, you must be in shock, you go home & be with your family".
<br />I know she was baffled as to why I wasn't crying & blubbering around since my sister had passed just hours before. But, as you can relate, I was actually happy that Lisa was not suffering any longer & most importantly, this particular hospital visit, she said she was ready to go & quite frankly, would have been disappointed had she been dismissed to go home yet one more time.
<br />I actually would have felt selfish had I wished her back to endure more--I hope that makes sense.
<br />
<br />Also, on a side note, I don't think my mom shed many tears either, we were just all glad that she was finally healed and free from fighting.
<br />
<br />So, in short (well, long), you are not alone in how you're dealing with a CF death and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As Lisa V said, we all deal with death/grief in our own way and I think the method of death also dictates how we deal with grief as well.
<br />
<br />My prayers continue to go out to your family.<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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bittyhorse23

New member
Relief is not a bad thing. When my grandparents died we were relieved. Not for our sake but for theirs. They were suffering and in so much pain it was a relief that they were finally free of that pain. I miss them alot but I am so happy that they can finally "live" without the hinderance of pain.

We are always here for ya!!!

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bittyhorse23

New member
Relief is not a bad thing. When my grandparents died we were relieved. Not for our sake but for theirs. They were suffering and in so much pain it was a relief that they were finally free of that pain. I miss them alot but I am so happy that they can finally "live" without the hinderance of pain.

We are always here for ya!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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bittyhorse23

New member
Relief is not a bad thing. When my grandparents died we were relieved. Not for our sake but for theirs. They were suffering and in so much pain it was a relief that they were finally free of that pain. I miss them alot but I am so happy that they can finally "live" without the hinderance of pain.

We are always here for ya!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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bittyhorse23

New member
Relief is not a bad thing. When my grandparents died we were relieved. Not for our sake but for theirs. They were suffering and in so much pain it was a relief that they were finally free of that pain. I miss them alot but I am so happy that they can finally "live" without the hinderance of pain.

We are always here for ya!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 
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bittyhorse23

New member
Relief is not a bad thing. When my grandparents died we were relieved. Not for our sake but for theirs. They were suffering and in so much pain it was a relief that they were finally free of that pain. I miss them alot but I am so happy that they can finally "live" without the hinderance of pain.
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<br />We are always here for ya!!!
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Hugs to you and your family.

I know that when I lost both of my grandparents (most recent one in March) I, too, felt relief for them. My grandma had suffered for so many years with emphysema (sp?) and on oxygen for about 10 years. I loved that woman so much and watching her die was very painful. She didn't go peacefully and I had a tough time with it all. BUT, I was happy that she was no longer in pain..although I still miss her so much, and it's been four years...(I grew up next door to her and was very close). Although I am sure that losing your child is much more difficult than losing someone who has lived a good 75 years.

Will continue to keep you close to my heart.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Hugs to you and your family.

I know that when I lost both of my grandparents (most recent one in March) I, too, felt relief for them. My grandma had suffered for so many years with emphysema (sp?) and on oxygen for about 10 years. I loved that woman so much and watching her die was very painful. She didn't go peacefully and I had a tough time with it all. BUT, I was happy that she was no longer in pain..although I still miss her so much, and it's been four years...(I grew up next door to her and was very close). Although I am sure that losing your child is much more difficult than losing someone who has lived a good 75 years.

Will continue to keep you close to my heart.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Hugs to you and your family.

I know that when I lost both of my grandparents (most recent one in March) I, too, felt relief for them. My grandma had suffered for so many years with emphysema (sp?) and on oxygen for about 10 years. I loved that woman so much and watching her die was very painful. She didn't go peacefully and I had a tough time with it all. BUT, I was happy that she was no longer in pain..although I still miss her so much, and it's been four years...(I grew up next door to her and was very close). Although I am sure that losing your child is much more difficult than losing someone who has lived a good 75 years.

Will continue to keep you close to my heart.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Hugs to you and your family.

I know that when I lost both of my grandparents (most recent one in March) I, too, felt relief for them. My grandma had suffered for so many years with emphysema (sp?) and on oxygen for about 10 years. I loved that woman so much and watching her die was very painful. She didn't go peacefully and I had a tough time with it all. BUT, I was happy that she was no longer in pain..although I still miss her so much, and it's been four years...(I grew up next door to her and was very close). Although I am sure that losing your child is much more difficult than losing someone who has lived a good 75 years.

Will continue to keep you close to my heart.
 
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tammykrumrey

Guest
Hugs to you and your family.
<br />
<br />I know that when I lost both of my grandparents (most recent one in March) I, too, felt relief for them. My grandma had suffered for so many years with emphysema (sp?) and on oxygen for about 10 years. I loved that woman so much and watching her die was very painful. She didn't go peacefully and I had a tough time with it all. BUT, I was happy that she was no longer in pain..although I still miss her so much, and it's been four years...(I grew up next door to her and was very close). Although I am sure that losing your child is much more difficult than losing someone who has lived a good 75 years.
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<br />Will continue to keep you close to my heart.
 
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