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NancyLKF

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I think I'm doing the right thing. actually I'm pretty positive I am.
My 18 month old niece has croup. Thanksgiving will be day 6 and she will hopefully be better. But my sister and her family (husband and four kids) are still driving the 4 hours to my parents' house for Thankgiving. I live about 5 minutes from my parents. So I'm playing it by ear... waiting to see if she is symptom free by Thursday. If she is we will go to Thanksgiving. If not, we will stay home. Right? or should we just stay home even if she is symptom free? Should I worry about the other kids getting sick? Sigh.
I'm just feeling sorry for myself and Maggie I guess. I want to go so badly, but Maggie's health comes first.
 
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NancyLKF

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I think I'm doing the right thing. actually I'm pretty positive I am.
My 18 month old niece has croup. Thanksgiving will be day 6 and she will hopefully be better. But my sister and her family (husband and four kids) are still driving the 4 hours to my parents' house for Thankgiving. I live about 5 minutes from my parents. So I'm playing it by ear... waiting to see if she is symptom free by Thursday. If she is we will go to Thanksgiving. If not, we will stay home. Right? or should we just stay home even if she is symptom free? Should I worry about the other kids getting sick? Sigh.
I'm just feeling sorry for myself and Maggie I guess. I want to go so badly, but Maggie's health comes first.
 
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NancyLKF

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I think I'm doing the right thing. actually I'm pretty positive I am.
<br />My 18 month old niece has croup. Thanksgiving will be day 6 and she will hopefully be better. But my sister and her family (husband and four kids) are still driving the 4 hours to my parents' house for Thankgiving. I live about 5 minutes from my parents. So I'm playing it by ear... waiting to see if she is symptom free by Thursday. If she is we will go to Thanksgiving. If not, we will stay home. Right? or should we just stay home even if she is symptom free? Should I worry about the other kids getting sick? Sigh.
<br />I'm just feeling sorry for myself and Maggie I guess. I want to go so badly, but Maggie's health comes first.
 
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Ratatosk

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Many times we've had to play things by ear. I hate showing up to events and finding out either during or afterwards that someone was sick. Half the time I'm having DH interogate his mother to make sure that nobody is sick, especially after reading on FB that someone was up all night vomiting or coughing or feverish.

At least you're close enough to check things out beforehand.
 
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Ratatosk

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Many times we've had to play things by ear. I hate showing up to events and finding out either during or afterwards that someone was sick. Half the time I'm having DH interogate his mother to make sure that nobody is sick, especially after reading on FB that someone was up all night vomiting or coughing or feverish.

At least you're close enough to check things out beforehand.
 
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Ratatosk

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Many times we've had to play things by ear. I hate showing up to events and finding out either during or afterwards that someone was sick. Half the time I'm having DH interogate his mother to make sure that nobody is sick, especially after reading on FB that someone was up all night vomiting or coughing or feverish.
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<br />At least you're close enough to check things out beforehand.
 
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meteoras69

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You are absolutely doing the right thing. I know it's frustrating and difficult! Good luck and whatever happens, I hope you have a good Thanksgiving holiday.....
 
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meteoras69

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You are absolutely doing the right thing. I know it's frustrating and difficult! Good luck and whatever happens, I hope you have a good Thanksgiving holiday.....
 
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meteoras69

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You are absolutely doing the right thing. I know it's frustrating and difficult! Good luck and whatever happens, I hope you have a good Thanksgiving holiday.....
 
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hmw

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Emily has been sick with parainfluenza (the virus that causes the vast majority of viral croup) and it was one of the very worst illnesses she has *ever* had. Your niece will be shedding virus for a while- granted, not to the extent she was right before getting sick and while at her most symptomatic, but I'd be hesitant about exposing her.

I know it's also probably difficult to think about your sister making the choice to go despite knowing your dd shouldn't be exposed to illness, but considering they live 4hrs away and your niece probably sees her grandma far less than your daughter does... I think you are doing the right thing by bowing out this year, as frustrating and difficult as it is. I hate these situations... we've missed a lot of social and family functions the last few years due to CF and it's hard! (esp when they seem to get sick anyway at other times.) <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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hmw

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Emily has been sick with parainfluenza (the virus that causes the vast majority of viral croup) and it was one of the very worst illnesses she has *ever* had. Your niece will be shedding virus for a while- granted, not to the extent she was right before getting sick and while at her most symptomatic, but I'd be hesitant about exposing her.

I know it's also probably difficult to think about your sister making the choice to go despite knowing your dd shouldn't be exposed to illness, but considering they live 4hrs away and your niece probably sees her grandma far less than your daughter does... I think you are doing the right thing by bowing out this year, as frustrating and difficult as it is. I hate these situations... we've missed a lot of social and family functions the last few years due to CF and it's hard! (esp when they seem to get sick anyway at other times.) <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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hmw

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Emily has been sick with parainfluenza (the virus that causes the vast majority of viral croup) and it was one of the very worst illnesses she has *ever* had. Your niece will be shedding virus for a while- granted, not to the extent she was right before getting sick and while at her most symptomatic, but I'd be hesitant about exposing her.
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<br />I know it's also probably difficult to think about your sister making the choice to go despite knowing your dd shouldn't be exposed to illness, but considering they live 4hrs away and your niece probably sees her grandma far less than your daughter does... I think you are doing the right thing by bowing out this year, as frustrating and difficult as it is. I hate these situations... we've missed a lot of social and family functions the last few years due to CF and it's hard! (esp when they seem to get sick anyway at other times.) <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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crickit715

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you are definatley doing the right thing...just as emily (above) my little sophie had croup 2 months ago and it was the scariest thing i have ever watched her go thru!!! she was gasping and wheezing and i dont think i slept for 2 nights with her propped up in bed beside me! dont take the chance, its a nasty bug (parainfluenza) doesnt go away quickly and tends to come back. maybe you can have a small family thanksgiving next weekend. i know how hard it is to not participate, but its definatley best for your little one! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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crickit715

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you are definatley doing the right thing...just as emily (above) my little sophie had croup 2 months ago and it was the scariest thing i have ever watched her go thru!!! she was gasping and wheezing and i dont think i slept for 2 nights with her propped up in bed beside me! dont take the chance, its a nasty bug (parainfluenza) doesnt go away quickly and tends to come back. maybe you can have a small family thanksgiving next weekend. i know how hard it is to not participate, but its definatley best for your little one! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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crickit715

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you are definatley doing the right thing...just as emily (above) my little sophie had croup 2 months ago and it was the scariest thing i have ever watched her go thru!!! she was gasping and wheezing and i dont think i slept for 2 nights with her propped up in bed beside me! dont take the chance, its a nasty bug (parainfluenza) doesnt go away quickly and tends to come back. maybe you can have a small family thanksgiving next weekend. i know how hard it is to not participate, but its definatley best for your little one! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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MaeFlower

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Be confident in knowing you are doing the right thing. Although it is difficult and treacherous to have to skip social functions because there is the possibility she will get sick, her health comes first.

We too are having a difficult time this holiday season. My husbands family is Italian and VERY large. They have social gatherings to celebrate any and everything. My husbands grandparents are still living (which is such a blessing), however, they are not in very good health, so we made the difficult decision of going to Thanksgiving, only because we felt as if they may be here next Thanksgiving (not trying to pessimistic). But I play with the guilt of that decision everyday. Do we or don't we? It is never easy, we have two other seemingly healthy children who love the functions and would miss out on their lives if they didn't attend. But I know I am just going to have to stand my ground and tell people they can't hold her. They can be mad and pout all they want, but they don't have to pay the hospital bills and sit up with her at night while she can't breathe or is coughing so bad she can't catch her breath.

You are doing the right thing. I hope you all enjoy this holiday season with peace of mind.
 
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MaeFlower

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Be confident in knowing you are doing the right thing. Although it is difficult and treacherous to have to skip social functions because there is the possibility she will get sick, her health comes first.

We too are having a difficult time this holiday season. My husbands family is Italian and VERY large. They have social gatherings to celebrate any and everything. My husbands grandparents are still living (which is such a blessing), however, they are not in very good health, so we made the difficult decision of going to Thanksgiving, only because we felt as if they may be here next Thanksgiving (not trying to pessimistic). But I play with the guilt of that decision everyday. Do we or don't we? It is never easy, we have two other seemingly healthy children who love the functions and would miss out on their lives if they didn't attend. But I know I am just going to have to stand my ground and tell people they can't hold her. They can be mad and pout all they want, but they don't have to pay the hospital bills and sit up with her at night while she can't breathe or is coughing so bad she can't catch her breath.

You are doing the right thing. I hope you all enjoy this holiday season with peace of mind.
 
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MaeFlower

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Be confident in knowing you are doing the right thing. Although it is difficult and treacherous to have to skip social functions because there is the possibility she will get sick, her health comes first.
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<br />We too are having a difficult time this holiday season. My husbands family is Italian and VERY large. They have social gatherings to celebrate any and everything. My husbands grandparents are still living (which is such a blessing), however, they are not in very good health, so we made the difficult decision of going to Thanksgiving, only because we felt as if they may be here next Thanksgiving (not trying to pessimistic). But I play with the guilt of that decision everyday. Do we or don't we? It is never easy, we have two other seemingly healthy children who love the functions and would miss out on their lives if they didn't attend. But I know I am just going to have to stand my ground and tell people they can't hold her. They can be mad and pout all they want, but they don't have to pay the hospital bills and sit up with her at night while she can't breathe or is coughing so bad she can't catch her breath.
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<br />You are doing the right thing. I hope you all enjoy this holiday season with peace of mind.
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NancyLKF

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Thanks everyone. I definitely don't want to expose Maggie to parainfluenza. Her cousin currently has a dry cough about once or twice an hour and a couple of snotty sneezes an hour. So... I'm assuming she is still contagious. Her dr. put her on an antibiotic on Monday, but that doesn't matter with a virus. Plus she has older siblings that might have it but not be presenting symptoms yet. I might go to my parents in the morning and check it out. But I don't think we'll be taking Maggie there. My husband is totally against it, but he doesn't really like holidays and family celebrations anyway. I however, live for them, and have been looking forward to Thanksgiving for weeks. Oh well. Hopefully no one is sick for Christmas.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL OF YOU!
 
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NancyLKF

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Thanks everyone. I definitely don't want to expose Maggie to parainfluenza. Her cousin currently has a dry cough about once or twice an hour and a couple of snotty sneezes an hour. So... I'm assuming she is still contagious. Her dr. put her on an antibiotic on Monday, but that doesn't matter with a virus. Plus she has older siblings that might have it but not be presenting symptoms yet. I might go to my parents in the morning and check it out. But I don't think we'll be taking Maggie there. My husband is totally against it, but he doesn't really like holidays and family celebrations anyway. I however, live for them, and have been looking forward to Thanksgiving for weeks. Oh well. Hopefully no one is sick for Christmas.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL OF YOU!
 
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