This is a response for Kasey

[anonymous]

Kasey-
I don't have an answer for you. I don't know how God works. And I would like to apologize to you and anyone else that I offended. I don't think I worded my post correctly or in an effective manner. I do not deserve to live more than anyone else on this site nor do I think that I deserve that. But the fact is that transplant works out for some and not for others...we all know that. Its a huge risk to take. I think that I was just irked by Win ace's comment and replied without thinking of others' feelings or experiences. I too have lost friends to transplant. One who was waiting for a transplant and one who died during the surgery. I also have a friend who is only 2 years out of transplant and is in chronic rejection. Believe me it does make me question God and ask him why this happened to them. But I don't think blaming God for our problems in life gets us anywhere. We need to take our problems in life and try to make the best out of them and get the best out of life. In my case I was so sick that I needed to put my life in God's hands. And I did. I was just one of those lucky ones that it worked out for. Again I apologize if i offended anyone. That is not what I intened to do
A very aplogetic Margaret
Double lung 11-11-04

 

[anonymous]

Hi Margaret,

Thanks for replying. I can't say I was offended by your response, I really am interested how people think. I think b/c of my situation I am very interested in people's faith and I am trying to make since out of my sisters death. When I hear people say 'my prays were answered, or God saved me' I can't help but think why didn't he help us. I certainly don't believe she deserved a transplant over anyone, I have the upmost respect for all pts. with CF. I think having a strong faith is admirable (my sister did, I can't say my faith is strong). Many times I have wished I had faith to make situations easeir.

Congrats on your double transplant, it must have been an extremely difficult time. It sounds like you are a positive person and you make the best out of all your days !
Take care,

Kasey

 

[lovingBenandCambree]

Since you are interested in peoples beliefs, then I would like to share with you just a few of mine. Through my life I have never questioned why? I know that I will never get an answer for that, but what I do is I question what can I learn from this? It has helped me sort through so many different things. This past year I have had amazing experiences that have brought me so close to my Heavenly Father. I have been sicker than I have ever been in my life and at one point I guess I did sort of ask why, but rather why am I able to live when so many people die. I believe that we all have a purpose on this earth. I don't know why people die when they do or don't die when they are expected to, but I do know that I have a Heavenly Father that will help me through every step of the way if I turn to him. I am so thankful for the beautiful daughter that I have and for the amazing husband to support us. Idon't know how much time I have on earth but I know that I can be with my family again and I need to enjoy everyday that I have and make the most of it because you never know when there isn't going to be anymore tomorrows. Sometimes I think I am very blessed because I know that I have an illness that could take my life so I don't take advantage of each day but try to live it to the fullest where as someone could be hit by a bus tomorrow and not have experienced those joys because they were too worried about other things. We never know when a life is going to fall short. We just know that at some point everyone is going to die. I hope that came across as I would like. Good luck with everything and I hope you know that your sister is not suffering anymore and that that brings you some peace

Emilee with 2 E's

 

[anonymous]

Hi Emilee,

Thanks for your input. I hope I am not coming across as bitter. Having had CF in my family (and still do, my brother has it), I have learned from them the gift every day is and what is and isn't important. I think b/c I am in the grief stage, when I do hear someone say God save them or answered their prayers, I can't help but say...What about us. I don't believe any of us will ever know' God's way' or even if 'He" had anything to do with it. So I guess that is why I am so intrigued with people who firmly believe God saved their life.

I am very grateful for the time I had with my sister, and find some relief that her suffering has ended, however it doesn't take away the pain of not having her.

Take Care,
Kasey

 

[lovingBenandCambree]

Kasey,
I completely understand the pain that comes when someone dies. I can promise you that if you put faith in God He can help you to overcome your sorrow and to see a brighter day. I Firmly believe that God knows each one of us and He knows what we are going through. I know that there is pain so that we can fully understand pleasure. I hope that it helps you in some way. If you ever want to email me or anything please feel free.

Emilee with 2 E's

 

[anonymous]

Emilee-
I totally agree with what you said in your post. Living positively and never asking why. We have lost 7 immediate family members in my short lifetime (one being my cousin who was only 19) and I have gone through at least two young deaths of friends in high school. I know what its like to lose someone and the pain and grief that you go through too Kasey. And I know how easy it was to say why us and why weren't you there for us. We just have to all be appreciative about the time we have on this earth. I knew a four year old child with cf who died because he got hit by a car. So we just never know...God works in mysterious ways.
Margaret
Double lung 11-11-04

 

[anonymous]

why can people say god helped us but can't wonder or say god didnt help us. And this person should not be critized for grief, or questioning a loved one's death. Some people can't just shrug their shoulders and say ok, I should be happy so i will move on now. - i am sure not all of you are sally sunshines all the time.

 

[lovingBenandCambree]

Actually I don't think that anyone was being criticized for grief. As for the fact that you think we are sally sunshines all of the time. Come on. Of course we have our bad days. I was just relaying some of my beliefs because Kasey had said that it was interesting to get other peoples perspectives. I don't know why so many people on here are looking for an argument.