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Well, it started out on an exciting note. I called my realtor (who is a personal friend) and asked her if I could look at a house for sale nearby since my hubby and I need to close on our house the end of August. She was able to take me to the house, which was vacant, and one other one that she thought was a "good deal".
As I stepped into her car to go to the houses, she informed me that she was worried about our closing. She was given a verbal mortgage commitment on Saturday by the other realtor and was supposed to have the final written one on Monday. Well, it's Tuesday. Plus, two other homes (one is 3 houses down, the other is 8 houses down) have also been listed. (Yes, my street is getting bad.) My realtor, Sophia, is afraid the girl is going to bail out on the deal. So me house may not be closing the end of August; however, she still wanted me to see the two houses today.
So I went to see the first one, her pick. It's alright. It is a single home; however, you still share backyards with neighbors, on-street parking, in a small town, and further for Jake to commute to work. The inside was absolutely beautiful. Everything was brand new to the ceramic tile flooring, to the windows, to everthing. So we'll see...
The second home (my pick) turned out to be a mess. It was an investors property and let's just say that they did the "cheapest fix jobs". Also, there was evidence of water and electrical problems. Sophia said, "There is no way in hell you are buying this property." It looked great from the outside. Even the inside didn't look too bad. The investors did great coverups.
Anyway, to the pregnancy stuff. Well, Sophia and I then decided to get a bite to eat. We went to this little pizzera and sat in the far back corner. We were talking about the houses that we saw and our house. Eventually, a group of women sit right across from us. The one woman had a 3-month-old baby with her...
At first everything was cool. Then, the baby started crying. Of course that got my attention. I mentioned to Sophia that I was excited about "getting some possible answers tomorrow" since my tube test is tomorrow, Wednesday. She said, "Yeah, I know. Jake told me about it. He also told me that you got your Day 3 bloodwork back too...it came back good, normal." I said, "Yes, but I'm more interested in the test tomorrow."
Well, this is when it started to get bad. She said, "You know, Jake was glad your blood test came back normal, but I can tell that he is doubting himself. That maybe he is part of the problem." I said, "Maybe he is, but I just want answers."
This went back and forth for awhile. I could feel the tears starting to fill my eyes. The chicken parm I ordered seemed like the "meal of death". I wanted to just throw up.
Next, she said about adoption. Sophia said, "You know, maybe adoption wouldn't be such a bad idea. You know you have CF...maybe it's just not in the cards." I said, "I have many CF friends, Sophia, that "just got pregnant". Some weren't even trying to conceive. I'm sure my problem isn't CF-related."
Then I heard more about adoption. At this point, I could no longer contain my tears. I was in the pizzera with the women across from us wiping my tears away with a napkin. I tried so hard to stop but couldn't. Eating was impossible.
I endured all of this for another 10 minutes. At that time, the group of women left. The next thing I know a 7-8 month pregnant woman and her Mom sit in the same seat as the women that just left. Mother Nature wanted to really wanted to punish me - like I wasn't dealing with enough at that moment.
Again, Sophia was going on about adoption. I said, "Sophia, I looked into it, and almost everything discouraged me. It's not the kids, it's the system. I even went to the orientations of a few. Private adoption is better but costs $20,000 +. I have the health so why shouldn't I carry?"
Again more adoption vs. pregnancy stuff. Finally, we left.
I have been home now for 4 hours, and I still can't get over this. I want to cry and throw up so badly. My mood is terrible. I managed to wash a load of dishes and throw my bedsheets in the washer. That's about it. My mind is completely upset...I'm so disgusted. I'm going for the tests tomorrow and Thursday. After that, I don't know. I can't take anymore. I can't. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">
As I stepped into her car to go to the houses, she informed me that she was worried about our closing. She was given a verbal mortgage commitment on Saturday by the other realtor and was supposed to have the final written one on Monday. Well, it's Tuesday. Plus, two other homes (one is 3 houses down, the other is 8 houses down) have also been listed. (Yes, my street is getting bad.) My realtor, Sophia, is afraid the girl is going to bail out on the deal. So me house may not be closing the end of August; however, she still wanted me to see the two houses today.
So I went to see the first one, her pick. It's alright. It is a single home; however, you still share backyards with neighbors, on-street parking, in a small town, and further for Jake to commute to work. The inside was absolutely beautiful. Everything was brand new to the ceramic tile flooring, to the windows, to everthing. So we'll see...
The second home (my pick) turned out to be a mess. It was an investors property and let's just say that they did the "cheapest fix jobs". Also, there was evidence of water and electrical problems. Sophia said, "There is no way in hell you are buying this property." It looked great from the outside. Even the inside didn't look too bad. The investors did great coverups.
Anyway, to the pregnancy stuff. Well, Sophia and I then decided to get a bite to eat. We went to this little pizzera and sat in the far back corner. We were talking about the houses that we saw and our house. Eventually, a group of women sit right across from us. The one woman had a 3-month-old baby with her...
At first everything was cool. Then, the baby started crying. Of course that got my attention. I mentioned to Sophia that I was excited about "getting some possible answers tomorrow" since my tube test is tomorrow, Wednesday. She said, "Yeah, I know. Jake told me about it. He also told me that you got your Day 3 bloodwork back too...it came back good, normal." I said, "Yes, but I'm more interested in the test tomorrow."
Well, this is when it started to get bad. She said, "You know, Jake was glad your blood test came back normal, but I can tell that he is doubting himself. That maybe he is part of the problem." I said, "Maybe he is, but I just want answers."
This went back and forth for awhile. I could feel the tears starting to fill my eyes. The chicken parm I ordered seemed like the "meal of death". I wanted to just throw up.
Next, she said about adoption. Sophia said, "You know, maybe adoption wouldn't be such a bad idea. You know you have CF...maybe it's just not in the cards." I said, "I have many CF friends, Sophia, that "just got pregnant". Some weren't even trying to conceive. I'm sure my problem isn't CF-related."
Then I heard more about adoption. At this point, I could no longer contain my tears. I was in the pizzera with the women across from us wiping my tears away with a napkin. I tried so hard to stop but couldn't. Eating was impossible.
I endured all of this for another 10 minutes. At that time, the group of women left. The next thing I know a 7-8 month pregnant woman and her Mom sit in the same seat as the women that just left. Mother Nature wanted to really wanted to punish me - like I wasn't dealing with enough at that moment.
Again, Sophia was going on about adoption. I said, "Sophia, I looked into it, and almost everything discouraged me. It's not the kids, it's the system. I even went to the orientations of a few. Private adoption is better but costs $20,000 +. I have the health so why shouldn't I carry?"
Again more adoption vs. pregnancy stuff. Finally, we left.
I have been home now for 4 hours, and I still can't get over this. I want to cry and throw up so badly. My mood is terrible. I managed to wash a load of dishes and throw my bedsheets in the washer. That's about it. My mind is completely upset...I'm so disgusted. I'm going for the tests tomorrow and Thursday. After that, I don't know. I can't take anymore. I can't. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">