Trouble keeping/making friends

[jamoncita]

hi there. i'm sorry to hear you are lonely. i know how it can be, though i'm experiencing that loneliness now at 23 rather than at your age. i was dx'd just before my senior year of high school, and i didn't discuss it with many folks (denial!). i was sick and all, but didn't miss much school, with the exception of a month during senior year. the point is, i had friends from before my diagnosis, and i kept them through my last year of high school. from that point things got a lot harder for me, and i haven't had a lot of understanding. i can sympathize that "friends" say they'll visit but never do, or only talk about themselves instead of listening to you for a while.
all i can say is, please contact me! i am very eager to make cf friends; not to mention i'm doing a great job of losing my non-cf friends as it is, currently. you can email me at d.peckenham@yahoo.com or find me on facebook - search "deirdre Peckenham", or pm me. i am more than happy to chat <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i look forward to hearing from you!

 

[jamoncita]

hi there. i'm sorry to hear you are lonely. i know how it can be, though i'm experiencing that loneliness now at 23 rather than at your age. i was dx'd just before my senior year of high school, and i didn't discuss it with many folks (denial!). i was sick and all, but didn't miss much school, with the exception of a month during senior year. the point is, i had friends from before my diagnosis, and i kept them through my last year of high school. from that point things got a lot harder for me, and i haven't had a lot of understanding. i can sympathize that "friends" say they'll visit but never do, or only talk about themselves instead of listening to you for a while.
all i can say is, please contact me! i am very eager to make cf friends; not to mention i'm doing a great job of losing my non-cf friends as it is, currently. you can email me at d.peckenham@yahoo.com or find me on facebook - search "deirdre Peckenham", or pm me. i am more than happy to chat <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> i look forward to hearing from you!

 

[bananagirl]

Hey,
I just wanted to let you know that I totally get what you mean. I am 20 and also have no friends. I had some people I hung out with in high school but they were really bad friends and even the new people I met in college though a church program turned out to be bad friends too. I really don't get it. In high school there was a time when this one girl in my class got pneumonia and was in the hospital for a couple of days. When she got back everyone talked to her and asked her how she was and was so sorry she had to be in the hospital yet I had been missing school for years to be in the hospital and on one had ever asked me about it. My "friends" did the same thing to me as yours. They always told me they would come and visit when I was in the hospital but rarely if ever did. At first I figured it was because their parents didn't have time to drive them all the way to the hospital but the last time I was in they did the same thing and they all can drive and most of them have their own cars. The people I met in college turned out to be just as bad. I went to their group for a whole semester then when I was in the hospital barely anyone talked to me even thought I let them know I was their and only two people came to visit yet they were only stopping by because their younger brother happened to have a doc appt at the same hospital. I was ok with it them but a few months later some one in the group got hurt and had to go to the ER and four of the girls went with her and hung out with her the whole time she was their. Then another girl got her appendices out and she got all kinds of get better messages and people went to visit her too. I think people are kind of freaked out by CF since it is life threatening and all, I'm not really sure if that is it but it sounds better than thinking they just don't care or are too busy to make time for us. The one thing I do have to say is even if you don't make new better friends, which I have yet to do, things do get better if you work on just accepting the fact that you don't have friends and learning to be ok with it. I find it helps me to have other things that I like to do that I can do alone. I have gotten really into making crafts and I also enjoy reading. Another thing that helps me is to spend time with my family. They are the closest thing I have to friends. I do all kinds of things with them, the bonus for me is also that If I do stuff with my parents they will pay for it, like my movie ticket, but with friends I would have to use my own money. If you want to talk more feel free to e-mail me my e-mail is annabananaarb@yahoo.com I would love to talk with you!

 

[bananagirl]

Hey,
I just wanted to let you know that I totally get what you mean. I am 20 and also have no friends. I had some people I hung out with in high school but they were really bad friends and even the new people I met in college though a church program turned out to be bad friends too. I really don't get it. In high school there was a time when this one girl in my class got pneumonia and was in the hospital for a couple of days. When she got back everyone talked to her and asked her how she was and was so sorry she had to be in the hospital yet I had been missing school for years to be in the hospital and on one had ever asked me about it. My "friends" did the same thing to me as yours. They always told me they would come and visit when I was in the hospital but rarely if ever did. At first I figured it was because their parents didn't have time to drive them all the way to the hospital but the last time I was in they did the same thing and they all can drive and most of them have their own cars. The people I met in college turned out to be just as bad. I went to their group for a whole semester then when I was in the hospital barely anyone talked to me even thought I let them know I was their and only two people came to visit yet they were only stopping by because their younger brother happened to have a doc appt at the same hospital. I was ok with it them but a few months later some one in the group got hurt and had to go to the ER and four of the girls went with her and hung out with her the whole time she was their. Then another girl got her appendices out and she got all kinds of get better messages and people went to visit her too. I think people are kind of freaked out by CF since it is life threatening and all, I'm not really sure if that is it but it sounds better than thinking they just don't care or are too busy to make time for us. The one thing I do have to say is even if you don't make new better friends, which I have yet to do, things do get better if you work on just accepting the fact that you don't have friends and learning to be ok with it. I find it helps me to have other things that I like to do that I can do alone. I have gotten really into making crafts and I also enjoy reading. Another thing that helps me is to spend time with my family. They are the closest thing I have to friends. I do all kinds of things with them, the bonus for me is also that If I do stuff with my parents they will pay for it, like my movie ticket, but with friends I would have to use my own money. If you want to talk more feel free to e-mail me my e-mail is annabananaarb@yahoo.com I would love to talk with you!