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Melissa75

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I think that a newborn *can* be easier than a six month old, particularly a six-month old who wants to get into everything the sibling does.

There are pros for having the baby in the fall/winter: you hibernate, nurse 24/7, have preschool for kid #1, and get more husband help a little later--when the kid is dangerous--crawling around, jamming marbles in his/her mouth. Oh and have a hip-baby by the summer who can sit up and enjoy outdoor stuff more.

There are pros for the summer newborn with your husband around too: less claustrophobia from being inside with baby/small kid all day. With help you will feel like you can go places and do things, and REST.

(I had a my second in the spring and although I liked going on walks with them all spring and summer, I spent a lot of time with a sweaty baby who had little head control strapped to my sweaty chest or in her carseat, covered in age-inappropriate sunscreen, traipsing after my first-born who was always trying to fall off a slide or jump in the deep-end of the town pool. A hip baby or a Dad would have been nice.)

Sleep deprivation is ugly and awful, but that lasted almost a year for each of my kids--so really no scheduling it in my case. BUT the nervous-freaky feeling you get with a newborn that makes having the dad around so nice is less intense with baby number two.

Sorry, the first post was incoherent so I had to edit it :)
 
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Melissa75

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I think that a newborn *can* be easier than a six month old, particularly a six-month old who wants to get into everything the sibling does.

There are pros for having the baby in the fall/winter: you hibernate, nurse 24/7, have preschool for kid #1, and get more husband help a little later--when the kid is dangerous--crawling around, jamming marbles in his/her mouth. Oh and have a hip-baby by the summer who can sit up and enjoy outdoor stuff more.

There are pros for the summer newborn with your husband around too: less claustrophobia from being inside with baby/small kid all day. With help you will feel like you can go places and do things, and REST.

(I had a my second in the spring and although I liked going on walks with them all spring and summer, I spent a lot of time with a sweaty baby who had little head control strapped to my sweaty chest or in her carseat, covered in age-inappropriate sunscreen, traipsing after my first-born who was always trying to fall off a slide or jump in the deep-end of the town pool. A hip baby or a Dad would have been nice.)

Sleep deprivation is ugly and awful, but that lasted almost a year for each of my kids--so really no scheduling it in my case. BUT the nervous-freaky feeling you get with a newborn that makes having the dad around so nice is less intense with baby number two.

Sorry, the first post was incoherent so I had to edit it :)
 
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Melissa75

Administrator
I think that a newborn *can* be easier than a six month old, particularly a six-month old who wants to get into everything the sibling does.

There are pros for having the baby in the fall/winter: you hibernate, nurse 24/7, have preschool for kid #1, and get more husband help a little later--when the kid is dangerous--crawling around, jamming marbles in his/her mouth. Oh and have a hip-baby by the summer who can sit up and enjoy outdoor stuff more.

There are pros for the summer newborn with your husband around too: less claustrophobia from being inside with baby/small kid all day. With help you will feel like you can go places and do things, and REST.

(I had a my second in the spring and although I liked going on walks with them all spring and summer, I spent a lot of time with a sweaty baby who had little head control strapped to my sweaty chest or in her carseat, covered in age-inappropriate sunscreen, traipsing after my first-born who was always trying to fall off a slide or jump in the deep-end of the town pool. A hip baby or a Dad would have been nice.)

Sleep deprivation is ugly and awful, but that lasted almost a year for each of my kids--so really no scheduling it in my case. BUT the nervous-freaky feeling you get with a newborn that makes having the dad around so nice is less intense with baby number two.

Sorry, the first post was incoherent so I had to edit it :)
 
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Melissa75

Administrator
I think that a newborn *can* be easier than a six month old, particularly a six-month old who wants to get into everything the sibling does.

There are pros for having the baby in the fall/winter: you hibernate, nurse 24/7, have preschool for kid #1, and get more husband help a little later--when the kid is dangerous--crawling around, jamming marbles in his/her mouth. Oh and have a hip-baby by the summer who can sit up and enjoy outdoor stuff more.

There are pros for the summer newborn with your husband around too: less claustrophobia from being inside with baby/small kid all day. With help you will feel like you can go places and do things, and REST.

(I had a my second in the spring and although I liked going on walks with them all spring and summer, I spent a lot of time with a sweaty baby who had little head control strapped to my sweaty chest or in her carseat, covered in age-inappropriate sunscreen, traipsing after my first-born who was always trying to fall off a slide or jump in the deep-end of the town pool. A hip baby or a Dad would have been nice.)

Sleep deprivation is ugly and awful, but that lasted almost a year for each of my kids--so really no scheduling it in my case. BUT the nervous-freaky feeling you get with a newborn that makes having the dad around so nice is less intense with baby number two.

Sorry, the first post was incoherent so I had to edit it :)
 
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Melissa75

Administrator
I think that a newborn *can* be easier than a six month old, particularly a six-month old who wants to get into everything the sibling does.
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<br />There are pros for having the baby in the fall/winter: you hibernate, nurse 24/7, have preschool for kid #1, and get more husband help a little later--when the kid is dangerous--crawling around, jamming marbles in his/her mouth. Oh and have a hip-baby by the summer who can sit up and enjoy outdoor stuff more.
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<br />There are pros for the summer newborn with your husband around too: less claustrophobia from being inside with baby/small kid all day. With help you will feel like you can go places and do things, and REST.
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<br />(I had a my second in the spring and although I liked going on walks with them all spring and summer, I spent a lot of time with a sweaty baby who had little head control strapped to my sweaty chest or in her carseat, covered in age-inappropriate sunscreen, traipsing after my first-born who was always trying to fall off a slide or jump in the deep-end of the town pool. A hip baby or a Dad would have been nice.)
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<br />Sleep deprivation is ugly and awful, but that lasted almost a year for each of my kids--so really no scheduling it in my case. BUT the nervous-freaky feeling you get with a newborn that makes having the dad around so nice is less intense with baby number two.
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<br />Sorry, the first post was incoherent so I had to edit it :)
 
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mamaScarlett

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Our first lo was born in june. It was awesome to have a newborn then-to be outside, to have my husband who pretty much was home all the time. Of course-we had to only focus on her for the summer. Now my eyes would be on the new one plus a 3 yr old-like you said melissa-running after her too.
My hubby said last night that though it would be nice to have a summer baby, it would also be nice to have a summer 6 month old to really play with.
As far as winter goes-whether i have a newborn or am just preg-I'll be sequestered inside anyway.

As far as pt goes-it doesn't affect whether Dad is around or not. I do my pt when he's already left for work, and not home from work yet in the pm. When my lo was a baby I put her in a seat next to me and did my pt. As she got older she was in the swing with a video and i used the monitor. I never missed my pt.

I'd do the same thing again, but have to keep my older one in another room with tv (while little baby stays with me) which is what we do now. We gate off the living room and thats her special tv time.

I have tons of family suport which is a plus. I know my inlaws next door would help with my older one. Not on a 'daily schedule' type thing-but whenever i need it. if i need to nap-they'd take one or both babies for me, no problem.

I guess there's pros and cons to both scenarios. The only thing that is pulling me away from a winter baby is that we're talking best case scenario here-What if I have a problem or get sick...I know hubby will be there but he can't just quit his job.

We talked last night and he's thinking why not delay ttc but only for a few months. So if we do have a winter baby, it will be towards the end of winter. That way there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if we delivered say feb or march, plus cold flu season is ending-not beginning.

Thanks for all your continued thoughts...I really need opinions from all sides.
 
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mamaScarlett

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Our first lo was born in june. It was awesome to have a newborn then-to be outside, to have my husband who pretty much was home all the time. Of course-we had to only focus on her for the summer. Now my eyes would be on the new one plus a 3 yr old-like you said melissa-running after her too.
My hubby said last night that though it would be nice to have a summer baby, it would also be nice to have a summer 6 month old to really play with.
As far as winter goes-whether i have a newborn or am just preg-I'll be sequestered inside anyway.

As far as pt goes-it doesn't affect whether Dad is around or not. I do my pt when he's already left for work, and not home from work yet in the pm. When my lo was a baby I put her in a seat next to me and did my pt. As she got older she was in the swing with a video and i used the monitor. I never missed my pt.

I'd do the same thing again, but have to keep my older one in another room with tv (while little baby stays with me) which is what we do now. We gate off the living room and thats her special tv time.

I have tons of family suport which is a plus. I know my inlaws next door would help with my older one. Not on a 'daily schedule' type thing-but whenever i need it. if i need to nap-they'd take one or both babies for me, no problem.

I guess there's pros and cons to both scenarios. The only thing that is pulling me away from a winter baby is that we're talking best case scenario here-What if I have a problem or get sick...I know hubby will be there but he can't just quit his job.

We talked last night and he's thinking why not delay ttc but only for a few months. So if we do have a winter baby, it will be towards the end of winter. That way there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if we delivered say feb or march, plus cold flu season is ending-not beginning.

Thanks for all your continued thoughts...I really need opinions from all sides.
 
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mamaScarlett

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Our first lo was born in june. It was awesome to have a newborn then-to be outside, to have my husband who pretty much was home all the time. Of course-we had to only focus on her for the summer. Now my eyes would be on the new one plus a 3 yr old-like you said melissa-running after her too.
My hubby said last night that though it would be nice to have a summer baby, it would also be nice to have a summer 6 month old to really play with.
As far as winter goes-whether i have a newborn or am just preg-I'll be sequestered inside anyway.

As far as pt goes-it doesn't affect whether Dad is around or not. I do my pt when he's already left for work, and not home from work yet in the pm. When my lo was a baby I put her in a seat next to me and did my pt. As she got older she was in the swing with a video and i used the monitor. I never missed my pt.

I'd do the same thing again, but have to keep my older one in another room with tv (while little baby stays with me) which is what we do now. We gate off the living room and thats her special tv time.

I have tons of family suport which is a plus. I know my inlaws next door would help with my older one. Not on a 'daily schedule' type thing-but whenever i need it. if i need to nap-they'd take one or both babies for me, no problem.

I guess there's pros and cons to both scenarios. The only thing that is pulling me away from a winter baby is that we're talking best case scenario here-What if I have a problem or get sick...I know hubby will be there but he can't just quit his job.

We talked last night and he's thinking why not delay ttc but only for a few months. So if we do have a winter baby, it will be towards the end of winter. That way there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if we delivered say feb or march, plus cold flu season is ending-not beginning.

Thanks for all your continued thoughts...I really need opinions from all sides.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Our first lo was born in june. It was awesome to have a newborn then-to be outside, to have my husband who pretty much was home all the time. Of course-we had to only focus on her for the summer. Now my eyes would be on the new one plus a 3 yr old-like you said melissa-running after her too.
My hubby said last night that though it would be nice to have a summer baby, it would also be nice to have a summer 6 month old to really play with.
As far as winter goes-whether i have a newborn or am just preg-I'll be sequestered inside anyway.

As far as pt goes-it doesn't affect whether Dad is around or not. I do my pt when he's already left for work, and not home from work yet in the pm. When my lo was a baby I put her in a seat next to me and did my pt. As she got older she was in the swing with a video and i used the monitor. I never missed my pt.

I'd do the same thing again, but have to keep my older one in another room with tv (while little baby stays with me) which is what we do now. We gate off the living room and thats her special tv time.

I have tons of family suport which is a plus. I know my inlaws next door would help with my older one. Not on a 'daily schedule' type thing-but whenever i need it. if i need to nap-they'd take one or both babies for me, no problem.

I guess there's pros and cons to both scenarios. The only thing that is pulling me away from a winter baby is that we're talking best case scenario here-What if I have a problem or get sick...I know hubby will be there but he can't just quit his job.

We talked last night and he's thinking why not delay ttc but only for a few months. So if we do have a winter baby, it will be towards the end of winter. That way there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if we delivered say feb or march, plus cold flu season is ending-not beginning.

Thanks for all your continued thoughts...I really need opinions from all sides.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
Our first lo was born in june. It was awesome to have a newborn then-to be outside, to have my husband who pretty much was home all the time. Of course-we had to only focus on her for the summer. Now my eyes would be on the new one plus a 3 yr old-like you said melissa-running after her too.
<br />My hubby said last night that though it would be nice to have a summer baby, it would also be nice to have a summer 6 month old to really play with.
<br />As far as winter goes-whether i have a newborn or am just preg-I'll be sequestered inside anyway.
<br />
<br />As far as pt goes-it doesn't affect whether Dad is around or not. I do my pt when he's already left for work, and not home from work yet in the pm. When my lo was a baby I put her in a seat next to me and did my pt. As she got older she was in the swing with a video and i used the monitor. I never missed my pt.
<br />
<br />I'd do the same thing again, but have to keep my older one in another room with tv (while little baby stays with me) which is what we do now. We gate off the living room and thats her special tv time.
<br />
<br />I have tons of family suport which is a plus. I know my inlaws next door would help with my older one. Not on a 'daily schedule' type thing-but whenever i need it. if i need to nap-they'd take one or both babies for me, no problem.
<br />
<br />I guess there's pros and cons to both scenarios. The only thing that is pulling me away from a winter baby is that we're talking best case scenario here-What if I have a problem or get sick...I know hubby will be there but he can't just quit his job.
<br />
<br />We talked last night and he's thinking why not delay ttc but only for a few months. So if we do have a winter baby, it will be towards the end of winter. That way there's a light at the end of the tunnel, if we delivered say feb or march, plus cold flu season is ending-not beginning.
<br />
<br />Thanks for all your continued thoughts...I really need opinions from all sides.
 
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mom2lillian

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We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!

Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.
 
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mom2lillian

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We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!

Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.
 
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mom2lillian

New member
We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!

Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.
 
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mom2lillian

New member
We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!

Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.
 
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mom2lillian

New member
We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!
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<br />Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.
 
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mamaScarlett

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>

We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!



Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.</end quote></div>

wow-so you really know where i'm coming from. i'm sorry you've had a tough run.
we have started to use birth control again-i didn't think it would be this hard emotionally. i'm trying to reason with myself and say-its just for a few months, ect. but in the back of my mind its saying-what if there is a problem with me and i am not aware of it yet...what if it doesn't happen...
its hard.
like you said, the benefits of pausing ttc outweigh the risks though. there is no 'perfect' time to have a baby and the saying...you make plans and god laughs, or something like that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> but everything went so well with my first preg and birth-i want to do everything i can to have that experience again-safely and happily.

wish you the best nicole.
 
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mamaScarlett

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>

We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!



Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.</end quote></div>

wow-so you really know where i'm coming from. i'm sorry you've had a tough run.
we have started to use birth control again-i didn't think it would be this hard emotionally. i'm trying to reason with myself and say-its just for a few months, ect. but in the back of my mind its saying-what if there is a problem with me and i am not aware of it yet...what if it doesn't happen...
its hard.
like you said, the benefits of pausing ttc outweigh the risks though. there is no 'perfect' time to have a baby and the saying...you make plans and god laughs, or something like that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> but everything went so well with my first preg and birth-i want to do everything i can to have that experience again-safely and happily.

wish you the best nicole.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>

We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!



Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.</end quote></div>

wow-so you really know where i'm coming from. i'm sorry you've had a tough run.
we have started to use birth control again-i didn't think it would be this hard emotionally. i'm trying to reason with myself and say-its just for a few months, ect. but in the back of my mind its saying-what if there is a problem with me and i am not aware of it yet...what if it doesn't happen...
its hard.
like you said, the benefits of pausing ttc outweigh the risks though. there is no 'perfect' time to have a baby and the saying...you make plans and god laughs, or something like that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> but everything went so well with my first preg and birth-i want to do everything i can to have that experience again-safely and happily.

wish you the best nicole.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>

We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!



Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.</end quote>

wow-so you really know where i'm coming from. i'm sorry you've had a tough run.
we have started to use birth control again-i didn't think it would be this hard emotionally. i'm trying to reason with myself and say-its just for a few months, ect. but in the back of my mind its saying-what if there is a problem with me and i am not aware of it yet...what if it doesn't happen...
its hard.
like you said, the benefits of pausing ttc outweigh the risks though. there is no 'perfect' time to have a baby and the saying...you make plans and god laughs, or something like that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> but everything went so well with my first preg and birth-i want to do everything i can to have that experience again-safely and happily.

wish you the best nicole.
 
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mamaScarlett

Active member
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
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<br />We hold off on TTC from Oct-Feb/Mar because of my health. It is worst in Feb/Mar and I want to be far enough into a pregnancy or avoid the season all together incase trouble hits. I can tell you it can be frustrating and prolong things. Last year come March I just wasnt ready, waited and then ttc-failed, ttc-failed, ttc-miscarried, now still again waiting out the bad season and waiting to ttc again! Meanwhile Lillian is 3 and we never wanted them that far apart!
<br />
<br />
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<br />Overall benefits outweigh the risks of stopping a few months IMO.</end quote>
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<br />wow-so you really know where i'm coming from. i'm sorry you've had a tough run.
<br />we have started to use birth control again-i didn't think it would be this hard emotionally. i'm trying to reason with myself and say-its just for a few months, ect. but in the back of my mind its saying-what if there is a problem with me and i am not aware of it yet...what if it doesn't happen...
<br />its hard.
<br />like you said, the benefits of pausing ttc outweigh the risks though. there is no 'perfect' time to have a baby and the saying...you make plans and god laughs, or something like that. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> but everything went so well with my first preg and birth-i want to do everything i can to have that experience again-safely and happily.
<br />
<br />wish you the best nicole.
 
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