Using CF as a way to get what you want

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entropy

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Yeah, queen. I did that a bit too much in high school, <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

I guess I sometimes use CF as an excuse for laziness... but then again, if I didn't have CF I wouldn't feel so fatigued and short of breath so often, so wonder if I didn't have CF would I be so lazy?
 
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entropy

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Yeah, queen. I did that a bit too much in high school, <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">

I guess I sometimes use CF as an excuse for laziness... but then again, if I didn't have CF I wouldn't feel so fatigued and short of breath so often, so wonder if I didn't have CF would I be so lazy?
 
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entropy

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Yeah, queen. I did that a bit too much in high school, <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
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<br />I guess I sometimes use CF as an excuse for laziness... but then again, if I didn't have CF I wouldn't feel so fatigued and short of breath so often, so wonder if I didn't have CF would I be so lazy?
 
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entropy

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@Pat

I think this quote is pretty fitting here...

"All are lunatics, but he who can analyze his delusion is called a philosopher."
- Ambrose Bierce
 
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entropy

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@Pat

I think this quote is pretty fitting here...

"All are lunatics, but he who can analyze his delusion is called a philosopher."
- Ambrose Bierce
 
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entropy

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@Pat
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<br />I think this quote is pretty fitting here...
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<br />"All are lunatics, but he who can analyze his delusion is called a philosopher."
<br />- Ambrose Bierce
 
I go out of my way to appear as though I'm "like the rest," so no, this is not something I would do.

I do not care for others to pity me.
 
I go out of my way to appear as though I'm "like the rest," so no, this is not something I would do.

I do not care for others to pity me.
 
I go out of my way to appear as though I'm "like the rest," so no, this is not something I would do.
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<br />I do not care for others to pity me.
 

chrissyd

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I think I have inadvertantly used it...but that stems from telling people I'm sick. I find that many family and a few friends treat me like a porcelain doll.

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

chrissyd

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I think I have inadvertantly used it...but that stems from telling people I'm sick. I find that many family and a few friends treat me like a porcelain doll.

<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

chrissyd

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I think I have inadvertantly used it...but that stems from telling people I'm sick. I find that many family and a few friends treat me like a porcelain doll.
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<br /><img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

CFkitty

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Ugh, I cannot imagine "using" my CF to manipulate people. What do you do, and what are you manipulating them into doing?

Asking, "can you help me carry push the grocery cart because it's heavy and I am short of breath due to pneumonia and lowered Oxygen levels" manipulation? No, that's asking for legitemate help.

I actually have a hard time not only asking for assistance, but accepting it when offered. I am accepting that my disease has progressed and that I have limited strength and energy to do things, and am trying to come to terms with this new stage. Losing my independence has been crushing to my heart.

Anyway, can you explain what you do to manipulate people, and what you try to "get out of them"? Because I haven't felt the desire to do so, I'm interested in hearing about your experiences.
 

CFkitty

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Ugh, I cannot imagine "using" my CF to manipulate people. What do you do, and what are you manipulating them into doing?

Asking, "can you help me carry push the grocery cart because it's heavy and I am short of breath due to pneumonia and lowered Oxygen levels" manipulation? No, that's asking for legitemate help.

I actually have a hard time not only asking for assistance, but accepting it when offered. I am accepting that my disease has progressed and that I have limited strength and energy to do things, and am trying to come to terms with this new stage. Losing my independence has been crushing to my heart.

Anyway, can you explain what you do to manipulate people, and what you try to "get out of them"? Because I haven't felt the desire to do so, I'm interested in hearing about your experiences.
 

CFkitty

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Ugh, I cannot imagine "using" my CF to manipulate people. What do you do, and what are you manipulating them into doing?
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<br />Asking, "can you help me carry push the grocery cart because it's heavy and I am short of breath due to pneumonia and lowered Oxygen levels" manipulation? No, that's asking for legitemate help.
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<br />I actually have a hard time not only asking for assistance, but accepting it when offered. I am accepting that my disease has progressed and that I have limited strength and energy to do things, and am trying to come to terms with this new stage. Losing my independence has been crushing to my heart.
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<br />Anyway, can you explain what you do to manipulate people, and what you try to "get out of them"? Because I haven't felt the desire to do so, I'm interested in hearing about your experiences.
 
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entropy

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Upon reflection, I have come to the realization that when I do use CF as a way to get what I want it's almost exclusively situations that would require me to do some kind of physical labor. Whether I'm actually able to do whatever activity I'm being implored to do is what would be the determining factor in whether or not it could be said that I use my CF as a way to "get what I want" in this situation. Usually, I CAN do the physical activity but simply don't WANT to, so I'll say "I'm really not feeling very good..." or something like this.

But another aspect of this is that in serious arguments with my parents I have been kicked out, but always allowed to come back because I have CF. They tell me "if you didn't have CF, you'd be on the street!" So, knowing this, I do sometimes act brashly (not taking into consideration the opinions of my house mates) in the confidence that I won't actually reap any kind of serious punishment.

I feel kind of stupid for making this topic now, because I've probably made myself look like a manipulative idiot. It could be said that I DO use CF as a "way to get what I want", but it's on such a small scale and for things that are directly attributable to CF, i.e. physical activity and my unwillingness to do it, that makes me wonder "Is this really even using CF to get what I want? Am I really being manipulative here? Couldn't it be said that this is a legitimate complaint?" ETC...

Like I said, I've been reflecting on this matter for a few days and these are the conclusions I've come by so far.
 
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entropy

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Upon reflection, I have come to the realization that when I do use CF as a way to get what I want it's almost exclusively situations that would require me to do some kind of physical labor. Whether I'm actually able to do whatever activity I'm being implored to do is what would be the determining factor in whether or not it could be said that I use my CF as a way to "get what I want" in this situation. Usually, I CAN do the physical activity but simply don't WANT to, so I'll say "I'm really not feeling very good..." or something like this.

But another aspect of this is that in serious arguments with my parents I have been kicked out, but always allowed to come back because I have CF. They tell me "if you didn't have CF, you'd be on the street!" So, knowing this, I do sometimes act brashly (not taking into consideration the opinions of my house mates) in the confidence that I won't actually reap any kind of serious punishment.

I feel kind of stupid for making this topic now, because I've probably made myself look like a manipulative idiot. It could be said that I DO use CF as a "way to get what I want", but it's on such a small scale and for things that are directly attributable to CF, i.e. physical activity and my unwillingness to do it, that makes me wonder "Is this really even using CF to get what I want? Am I really being manipulative here? Couldn't it be said that this is a legitimate complaint?" ETC...

Like I said, I've been reflecting on this matter for a few days and these are the conclusions I've come by so far.
 
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entropy

Guest
Upon reflection, I have come to the realization that when I do use CF as a way to get what I want it's almost exclusively situations that would require me to do some kind of physical labor. Whether I'm actually able to do whatever activity I'm being implored to do is what would be the determining factor in whether or not it could be said that I use my CF as a way to "get what I want" in this situation. Usually, I CAN do the physical activity but simply don't WANT to, so I'll say "I'm really not feeling very good..." or something like this.
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<br />But another aspect of this is that in serious arguments with my parents I have been kicked out, but always allowed to come back because I have CF. They tell me "if you didn't have CF, you'd be on the street!" So, knowing this, I do sometimes act brashly (not taking into consideration the opinions of my house mates) in the confidence that I won't actually reap any kind of serious punishment.
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<br />I feel kind of stupid for making this topic now, because I've probably made myself look like a manipulative idiot. It could be said that I DO use CF as a "way to get what I want", but it's on such a small scale and for things that are directly attributable to CF, i.e. physical activity and my unwillingness to do it, that makes me wonder "Is this really even using CF to get what I want? Am I really being manipulative here? Couldn't it be said that this is a legitimate complaint?" ETC...
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<br />Like I said, I've been reflecting on this matter for a few days and these are the conclusions I've come by so far.
 

Proxy

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maybe its bit manipulative if you know you can do the activity but say that you cant or not feeling up to it, or maybe thats just lying idk.
And acting brashly as you say because you know you wont get a serious punishment from your parents is maybe taking advantage of them a bit?
As for your questions, you dont seem to be rly getting anything more like getting away with things like being lazy and acting brashly,if you didnt have CF i doubt youd get away with it?And idk if a complaint is legit if its a lie, if you really cant do it then ofc its legit but if your just using CF as an excuse to get out of something you can do then no, I would say thats not legit.
Im not judging,im just telling you how I see things.
Take Care
 
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