OK so you all know ive been gone for a long time right. well alots happened since then. my lil boy just turned one and me and my husband is divorcing for good this time. ive moved out and everything. Im not even tore up about it, im actually pretty happy. Well i have a major problem. At the beginning of my divorce i started talking to a old long distance bf. A super sweet all around nice guy which i know is hard to find. He lives in arkansas and im in ohio. we lost touch when we was talking years ago. He sings to me and writes poems. Well turns out he still has feelings for me and has always thought of me. Even through my marrage i still often thought about him and what he may have been up too. We started talking and he is writng me poems and songs again and i get a HUGE smile on my face everytime i hear from him. we talk on the phone and everything. i realized i think i might be falling for him, lord knows i wasnt in love with my husband i just married him bc i got pregnant by him, i honestly thought it was the right thing to do and now i regret that decision. Only time i am happy amongst all of the drama is when im speaking to him. Advice is greatly appreciated. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> am i doing the right thing or moving on to fast? i havnt been this happy in years (cept with my lil boy but thats a diffrent happy lol) LUCAS GIVES KISSES TO EVERYONE HERE
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OK so you all know ive been gone for a long time right. well alots happened since then. my lil boy just turned one and me and my husband is divorcing for good this time. ive moved out and everything. Im not even tore up about it, im actually pretty happy. Well i have a major problem. At the beginning of my divorce i started talking to a old long distance bf. A super sweet all around nice guy which i know is hard to find. He lives in arkansas and im in ohio. we lost touch when we was talking years ago. He sings to me and writes poems. Well turns out he still has feelings for me and has always thought of me. Even through my marrage i still often thought about him and what he may have been up too. We started talking and he is writng me poems and songs again and i get a HUGE smile on my face everytime i hear from him. we talk on the phone and everything. i realized i think i might be falling for him, lord knows i wasnt in love with my husband i just married him bc i got pregnant by him, i honestly thought it was the right thing to do and now i regret that decision. Only time i am happy amongst all of the drama is when im speaking to him. Advice is greatly appreciated. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> am i doing the right thing or moving on to fast? i havnt been this happy in years (cept with my lil boy but thats a diffrent happy lol) LUCAS GIVES KISSES TO EVERYONE HERE
OK so you all know ive been gone for a long time right. well alots happened since then. my lil boy just turned one and me and my husband is divorcing for good this time. ive moved out and everything. Im not even tore up about it, im actually pretty happy. Well i have a major problem. At the beginning of my divorce i started talking to a old long distance bf. A super sweet all around nice guy which i know is hard to find. He lives in arkansas and im in ohio. we lost touch when we was talking years ago. He sings to me and writes poems. Well turns out he still has feelings for me and has always thought of me. Even through my marrage i still often thought about him and what he may have been up too. We started talking and he is writng me poems and songs again and i get a HUGE smile on my face everytime i hear from him. we talk on the phone and everything. i realized i think i might be falling for him, lord knows i wasnt in love with my husband i just married him bc i got pregnant by him, i honestly thought it was the right thing to do and now i regret that decision. Only time i am happy amongst all of the drama is when im speaking to him. Advice is greatly appreciated. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> am i doing the right thing or moving on to fast? i havnt been this happy in years (cept with my lil boy but thats a diffrent happy lol) LUCAS GIVES KISSES TO EVERYONE HERE
OK so you all know ive been gone for a long time right. well alots happened since then. my lil boy just turned one and me and my husband is divorcing for good this time. ive moved out and everything. Im not even tore up about it, im actually pretty happy. Well i have a major problem. At the beginning of my divorce i started talking to a old long distance bf. A super sweet all around nice guy which i know is hard to find. He lives in arkansas and im in ohio. we lost touch when we was talking years ago. He sings to me and writes poems. Well turns out he still has feelings for me and has always thought of me. Even through my marrage i still often thought about him and what he may have been up too. We started talking and he is writng me poems and songs again and i get a HUGE smile on my face everytime i hear from him. we talk on the phone and everything. i realized i think i might be falling for him, lord knows i wasnt in love with my husband i just married him bc i got pregnant by him, i honestly thought it was the right thing to do and now i regret that decision. Only time i am happy amongst all of the drama is when im speaking to him. Advice is greatly appreciated. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> am i doing the right thing or moving on to fast? i havnt been this happy in years (cept with my lil boy but thats a diffrent happy lol) LUCAS GIVES KISSES TO EVERYONE HERE
OK so you all know ive been gone for a long time right. well alots happened since then. my lil boy just turned one and me and my husband is divorcing for good this time. ive moved out and everything. Im not even tore up about it, im actually pretty happy. Well i have a major problem. At the beginning of my divorce i started talking to a old long distance bf. A super sweet all around nice guy which i know is hard to find. He lives in arkansas and im in ohio. we lost touch when we was talking years ago. He sings to me and writes poems. Well turns out he still has feelings for me and has always thought of me. Even through my marrage i still often thought about him and what he may have been up too. We started talking and he is writng me poems and songs again and i get a HUGE smile on my face everytime i hear from him. we talk on the phone and everything. i realized i think i might be falling for him, lord knows i wasnt in love with my husband i just married him bc i got pregnant by him, i honestly thought it was the right thing to do and now i regret that decision. Only time i am happy amongst all of the drama is when im speaking to him. Advice is greatly appreciated. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> am i doing the right thing or moving on to fast? i havnt been this happy in years (cept with my lil boy but thats a diffrent happy lol) LUCAS GIVES KISSES TO EVERYONE HERE
I just searched my name on here and found out some people wrote some blogs on wondering how my son and i were. We still dont know about my bones, we know they are messed up but we dont know if its cancer, getting these drs down ehre in my town to do anything is like trying to move a hippo manually. Lol. that was funny. My pfts are climbing back up though i have been diagnosed with Bi polar, depression, ocd, anxiety disorders and crap. I have a very messed up life right now. I am separated from my husband and living with my mother, my step dad my grandmother and two brothers and one sister, my bi polar is going crazy right now. I have anxiety attacks everyday. I almost got a place to live but just resently found out that SSI shut off my checks. I have papers stating that mentally i am not capable livin on my own. I have trouble paying bills and crap bc with my bi polar i have excessive spending. Mostly on lucas lol. So we are fighting it. Just basically says that and i have trouble doing complex tasks. GOOD NEWS i got my ged in november o7!! But im gettin meds for that now. Im slowly putting the peices of my life back together. And the super sweet guy i said above makes me smile in the darkest of times and keeps me going. So over all...GED, Car, License (got them all) place go live and ssi (going for it) So lifes ok right now. i can honestly say its .....ok.
I just searched my name on here and found out some people wrote some blogs on wondering how my son and i were. We still dont know about my bones, we know they are messed up but we dont know if its cancer, getting these drs down ehre in my town to do anything is like trying to move a hippo manually. Lol. that was funny. My pfts are climbing back up though i have been diagnosed with Bi polar, depression, ocd, anxiety disorders and crap. I have a very messed up life right now. I am separated from my husband and living with my mother, my step dad my grandmother and two brothers and one sister, my bi polar is going crazy right now. I have anxiety attacks everyday. I almost got a place to live but just resently found out that SSI shut off my checks. I have papers stating that mentally i am not capable livin on my own. I have trouble paying bills and crap bc with my bi polar i have excessive spending. Mostly on lucas lol. So we are fighting it. Just basically says that and i have trouble doing complex tasks. GOOD NEWS i got my ged in november o7!! But im gettin meds for that now. Im slowly putting the peices of my life back together. And the super sweet guy i said above makes me smile in the darkest of times and keeps me going. So over all...GED, Car, License (got them all) place go live and ssi (going for it) So lifes ok right now. i can honestly say its .....ok.
I just searched my name on here and found out some people wrote some blogs on wondering how my son and i were. We still dont know about my bones, we know they are messed up but we dont know if its cancer, getting these drs down ehre in my town to do anything is like trying to move a hippo manually. Lol. that was funny. My pfts are climbing back up though i have been diagnosed with Bi polar, depression, ocd, anxiety disorders and crap. I have a very messed up life right now. I am separated from my husband and living with my mother, my step dad my grandmother and two brothers and one sister, my bi polar is going crazy right now. I have anxiety attacks everyday. I almost got a place to live but just resently found out that SSI shut off my checks. I have papers stating that mentally i am not capable livin on my own. I have trouble paying bills and crap bc with my bi polar i have excessive spending. Mostly on lucas lol. So we are fighting it. Just basically says that and i have trouble doing complex tasks. GOOD NEWS i got my ged in november o7!! But im gettin meds for that now. Im slowly putting the peices of my life back together. And the super sweet guy i said above makes me smile in the darkest of times and keeps me going. So over all...GED, Car, License (got them all) place go live and ssi (going for it) So lifes ok right now. i can honestly say its .....ok.
I just searched my name on here and found out some people wrote some blogs on wondering how my son and i were. We still dont know about my bones, we know they are messed up but we dont know if its cancer, getting these drs down ehre in my town to do anything is like trying to move a hippo manually. Lol. that was funny. My pfts are climbing back up though i have been diagnosed with Bi polar, depression, ocd, anxiety disorders and crap. I have a very messed up life right now. I am separated from my husband and living with my mother, my step dad my grandmother and two brothers and one sister, my bi polar is going crazy right now. I have anxiety attacks everyday. I almost got a place to live but just resently found out that SSI shut off my checks. I have papers stating that mentally i am not capable livin on my own. I have trouble paying bills and crap bc with my bi polar i have excessive spending. Mostly on lucas lol. So we are fighting it. Just basically says that and i have trouble doing complex tasks. GOOD NEWS i got my ged in november o7!! But im gettin meds for that now. Im slowly putting the peices of my life back together. And the super sweet guy i said above makes me smile in the darkest of times and keeps me going. So over all...GED, Car, License (got them all) place go live and ssi (going for it) So lifes ok right now. i can honestly say its .....ok.
I just searched my name on here and found out some people wrote some blogs on wondering how my son and i were. We still dont know about my bones, we know they are messed up but we dont know if its cancer, getting these drs down ehre in my town to do anything is like trying to move a hippo manually. Lol. that was funny. My pfts are climbing back up though i have been diagnosed with Bi polar, depression, ocd, anxiety disorders and crap. I have a very messed up life right now. I am separated from my husband and living with my mother, my step dad my grandmother and two brothers and one sister, my bi polar is going crazy right now. I have anxiety attacks everyday. I almost got a place to live but just resently found out that SSI shut off my checks. I have papers stating that mentally i am not capable livin on my own. I have trouble paying bills and crap bc with my bi polar i have excessive spending. Mostly on lucas lol. So we are fighting it. Just basically says that and i have trouble doing complex tasks. GOOD NEWS i got my ged in november o7!! But im gettin meds for that now. Im slowly putting the peices of my life back together. And the super sweet guy i said above makes me smile in the darkest of times and keeps me going. So over all...GED, Car, License (got them all) place go live and ssi (going for it) So lifes ok right now. i can honestly say its .....ok.
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I am not talking down to you, I say this in kindness. Get your life together, take care of you, take care of your son, get HEALTHY (mentally, spiritually, financially) THEN and only then think about a relationship and for goodness sake take yourself out of these decision makign roles (have someone else counselig you, overseing your finances etc) until you get your head on straight. If you enter into another relationship before you do these things it will be another curse instead of a blessing, just like your marriage. The man may be different but if you are the same there will be problems and your son cant' afford the addiitonal instability. You may thing the guy is different, and he may be but if he is a good guy he will wait, if he is a good guy then he deserves for you to be healthy before entering relationship--otherwise its not fair to him, would you want a relationship with someone in the state you mentioned you are?
take care of yourself and best of luck
take care of yourself and best of luck
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I am not talking down to you, I say this in kindness. Get your life together, take care of you, take care of your son, get HEALTHY (mentally, spiritually, financially) THEN and only then think about a relationship and for goodness sake take yourself out of these decision makign roles (have someone else counselig you, overseing your finances etc) until you get your head on straight. If you enter into another relationship before you do these things it will be another curse instead of a blessing, just like your marriage. The man may be different but if you are the same there will be problems and your son cant' afford the addiitonal instability. You may thing the guy is different, and he may be but if he is a good guy he will wait, if he is a good guy then he deserves for you to be healthy before entering relationship--otherwise its not fair to him, would you want a relationship with someone in the state you mentioned you are?
take care of yourself and best of luck
take care of yourself and best of luck
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I am not talking down to you, I say this in kindness. Get your life together, take care of you, take care of your son, get HEALTHY (mentally, spiritually, financially) THEN and only then think about a relationship and for goodness sake take yourself out of these decision makign roles (have someone else counselig you, overseing your finances etc) until you get your head on straight. If you enter into another relationship before you do these things it will be another curse instead of a blessing, just like your marriage. The man may be different but if you are the same there will be problems and your son cant' afford the addiitonal instability. You may thing the guy is different, and he may be but if he is a good guy he will wait, if he is a good guy then he deserves for you to be healthy before entering relationship--otherwise its not fair to him, would you want a relationship with someone in the state you mentioned you are?
take care of yourself and best of luck
take care of yourself and best of luck
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I am not talking down to you, I say this in kindness. Get your life together, take care of you, take care of your son, get HEALTHY (mentally, spiritually, financially) THEN and only then think about a relationship and for goodness sake take yourself out of these decision makign roles (have someone else counselig you, overseing your finances etc) until you get your head on straight. If you enter into another relationship before you do these things it will be another curse instead of a blessing, just like your marriage. The man may be different but if you are the same there will be problems and your son cant' afford the addiitonal instability. You may thing the guy is different, and he may be but if he is a good guy he will wait, if he is a good guy then he deserves for you to be healthy before entering relationship--otherwise its not fair to him, would you want a relationship with someone in the state you mentioned you are?
take care of yourself and best of luck
take care of yourself and best of luck
mom2lillian
New member
Vampy-I am not talking down to you, I say this in kindness. Get your life together, take care of you, take care of your son, get HEALTHY (mentally, spiritually, financially) THEN and only then think about a relationship and for goodness sake take yourself out of these decision makign roles (have someone else counselig you, overseing your finances etc) until you get your head on straight. If you enter into another relationship before you do these things it will be another curse instead of a blessing, just like your marriage. The man may be different but if you are the same there will be problems and your son cant' afford the addiitonal instability. You may thing the guy is different, and he may be but if he is a good guy he will wait, if he is a good guy then he deserves for you to be healthy before entering relationship--otherwise its not fair to him, would you want a relationship with someone in the state you mentioned you are?
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<br />take care of yourself and best of luck
<br />
<br />take care of yourself and best of luck
Scarlett81
New member
hi sweetie-
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
Scarlett81
New member
hi sweetie-
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
Scarlett81
New member
hi sweetie-
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
Scarlett81
New member
hi sweetie-
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
Scarlett81
New member
hi sweetie-
<br />i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
<br />
<br />since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
<br />
<br />take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
<br />
<br />with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
<br />
<br />i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
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<br />maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
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<br />get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
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<br />again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.
<br />i'm so glad your baby boy is here and you are all doing well. its so funny to remember the first time i heard of your situation and your worries and now to see his cute picture-wonderful!
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<br />since you asked for advice, i have to say i agree completely with nicole. (and thats before i read her post even!)
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<br />take time for yourself. and more importantly, for your little boy. as you said, you only married your husband bc you were pregnant and in that siutation not bc you loved him. at the time maybe you weren't thinking the right things, but trying to do what felt right at the time.
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<br />with all this going on-how can u be sure this is the right one this time? how are u sure you are thinking clearly this time and not caught up this time?
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<br />i know how it must feel to now be a mother, and to want a man in your life to lean on and to help make you feel needed and loved. you deserve that, of course. but give it time.
<br />
<br />maybe this man is the one-i don't know that. but if he is-then time will never hurt the situation. if he's the right one, if you say to him-look, i just went through a divorce and became a mom in one year...i need 6 months or a year to get my life settled and my priorities straight, then we can pursue a relationship. if he's the one, he'll do that and you can resume exactly where u are then.
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<br />get to know yourself as a woman, and as a mother, and put all your energy into your child...he will only be 1 yr old for such a short time! give him the time he deserves and then pursue your relationship.
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<br />again-i do think you deserve this. just give it a little more time.