vasectomy for hubby

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maryann

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Hi all.
I just want some advice, opinions, stories, whatever. I just found out this week that I'm a carrier. My sister had cf, so I knew I probably was. My husband's also a carrier. We found out about him while we were pregant with our daughter, now 2 and healthy. We decided that we didn't want to chance it and have decided he should get a vasectomy. I know in my head this is what we should do, but it just breaks my heart. I don't want to risk having a child with cf or make my daughter have to go through what I went through watching my sister suffer, but it is so hard just to make a decision like that. Ant thoughts?
 
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maryann

New member
Hi all.
I just want some advice, opinions, stories, whatever. I just found out this week that I'm a carrier. My sister had cf, so I knew I probably was. My husband's also a carrier. We found out about him while we were pregant with our daughter, now 2 and healthy. We decided that we didn't want to chance it and have decided he should get a vasectomy. I know in my head this is what we should do, but it just breaks my heart. I don't want to risk having a child with cf or make my daughter have to go through what I went through watching my sister suffer, but it is so hard just to make a decision like that. Ant thoughts?
 
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maryann

New member
Hi all.
I just want some advice, opinions, stories, whatever. I just found out this week that I'm a carrier. My sister had cf, so I knew I probably was. My husband's also a carrier. We found out about him while we were pregant with our daughter, now 2 and healthy. We decided that we didn't want to chance it and have decided he should get a vasectomy. I know in my head this is what we should do, but it just breaks my heart. I don't want to risk having a child with cf or make my daughter have to go through what I went through watching my sister suffer, but it is so hard just to make a decision like that. Ant thoughts?
 
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maryann

New member
Hi all.
I just want some advice, opinions, stories, whatever. I just found out this week that I'm a carrier. My sister had cf, so I knew I probably was. My husband's also a carrier. We found out about him while we were pregant with our daughter, now 2 and healthy. We decided that we didn't want to chance it and have decided he should get a vasectomy. I know in my head this is what we should do, but it just breaks my heart. I don't want to risk having a child with cf or make my daughter have to go through what I went through watching my sister suffer, but it is so hard just to make a decision like that. Ant thoughts?
 
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maryann

New member
Hi all.
I just want some advice, opinions, stories, whatever. I just found out this week that I'm a carrier. My sister had cf, so I knew I probably was. My husband's also a carrier. We found out about him while we were pregant with our daughter, now 2 and healthy. We decided that we didn't want to chance it and have decided he should get a vasectomy. I know in my head this is what we should do, but it just breaks my heart. I don't want to risk having a child with cf or make my daughter have to go through what I went through watching my sister suffer, but it is so hard just to make a decision like that. Ant thoughts?
 
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dyza

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Hi, I fit into the model of what you are after. Wife carrier and I am also a carrier, we have a daughter ( carrier) she is 14, we also have a 2 year old boy, he has CF.
I had a vasectomy last year, besides us being 40 and 39, we would not risk having another child with CF. For me, I think you have both made the right decision, it took us over the year to finnally decide for good. It is a tough decision to make, there is no doubt in that, take your time with this decision. Dont make a knee jerk reaction to this, you will probably still come to the same decision.
Had we known that we were both carriers before we got pregnant for the second time what would we have done then, that is such a hard thing to ask and decide after the fact as our son is now here and we love him so much, it would be hard to imagine life without him.

Check out my blog, there are some topics in there about my vasectomy and our feelings on the matter. At least I think there is, if you have any questions PM me and I will speak to you.

Craig
 
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dyza

New member
Hi, I fit into the model of what you are after. Wife carrier and I am also a carrier, we have a daughter ( carrier) she is 14, we also have a 2 year old boy, he has CF.
I had a vasectomy last year, besides us being 40 and 39, we would not risk having another child with CF. For me, I think you have both made the right decision, it took us over the year to finnally decide for good. It is a tough decision to make, there is no doubt in that, take your time with this decision. Dont make a knee jerk reaction to this, you will probably still come to the same decision.
Had we known that we were both carriers before we got pregnant for the second time what would we have done then, that is such a hard thing to ask and decide after the fact as our son is now here and we love him so much, it would be hard to imagine life without him.

Check out my blog, there are some topics in there about my vasectomy and our feelings on the matter. At least I think there is, if you have any questions PM me and I will speak to you.

Craig
 
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dyza

New member
Hi, I fit into the model of what you are after. Wife carrier and I am also a carrier, we have a daughter ( carrier) she is 14, we also have a 2 year old boy, he has CF.
I had a vasectomy last year, besides us being 40 and 39, we would not risk having another child with CF. For me, I think you have both made the right decision, it took us over the year to finnally decide for good. It is a tough decision to make, there is no doubt in that, take your time with this decision. Dont make a knee jerk reaction to this, you will probably still come to the same decision.
Had we known that we were both carriers before we got pregnant for the second time what would we have done then, that is such a hard thing to ask and decide after the fact as our son is now here and we love him so much, it would be hard to imagine life without him.

Check out my blog, there are some topics in there about my vasectomy and our feelings on the matter. At least I think there is, if you have any questions PM me and I will speak to you.

Craig
 
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dyza

New member
Hi, I fit into the model of what you are after. Wife carrier and I am also a carrier, we have a daughter ( carrier) she is 14, we also have a 2 year old boy, he has CF.
I had a vasectomy last year, besides us being 40 and 39, we would not risk having another child with CF. For me, I think you have both made the right decision, it took us over the year to finnally decide for good. It is a tough decision to make, there is no doubt in that, take your time with this decision. Dont make a knee jerk reaction to this, you will probably still come to the same decision.
Had we known that we were both carriers before we got pregnant for the second time what would we have done then, that is such a hard thing to ask and decide after the fact as our son is now here and we love him so much, it would be hard to imagine life without him.

Check out my blog, there are some topics in there about my vasectomy and our feelings on the matter. At least I think there is, if you have any questions PM me and I will speak to you.

Craig
 
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dyza

New member
Hi, I fit into the model of what you are after. Wife carrier and I am also a carrier, we have a daughter ( carrier) she is 14, we also have a 2 year old boy, he has CF.
I had a vasectomy last year, besides us being 40 and 39, we would not risk having another child with CF. For me, I think you have both made the right decision, it took us over the year to finnally decide for good. It is a tough decision to make, there is no doubt in that, take your time with this decision. Dont make a knee jerk reaction to this, you will probably still come to the same decision.
Had we known that we were both carriers before we got pregnant for the second time what would we have done then, that is such a hard thing to ask and decide after the fact as our son is now here and we love him so much, it would be hard to imagine life without him.

Check out my blog, there are some topics in there about my vasectomy and our feelings on the matter. At least I think there is, if you have any questions PM me and I will speak to you.

Craig
 
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Liza

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Yes, this is a most difficult decision. One of course only you can make. We too made that same decision. Anna was diagnosed just one week before Rachel was born. CF was new to our family and to be hit twice just one week apart was difficult. Although I was pretty sure that 2 kids was going to be it, heck after Anna was born I thought she may be an only child (who says you forget the pain after you see your baby?, they're crazy or I have an amazing memory LOL, and I had wanted a few kids, what was I thinking, LOL). Anyway, we too decided that Rachel would be our last, all we really knew at the time was the avg. CF child only lived to about 18 or so yrs. How could we take the chance again? Our belief was that GOD did not let us find out about CF until it was time for us to know and that Rachel was meant to be here. We could not even begin to imagine life without her. Thank heaven for HIS plan. My husband got his vasectomy as soon as he got back from Desert Shield/Desert Storm. (he was deployed when Rachel was 6 wks old)

That's our story. Good luck in your decison.
 
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Liza

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Yes, this is a most difficult decision. One of course only you can make. We too made that same decision. Anna was diagnosed just one week before Rachel was born. CF was new to our family and to be hit twice just one week apart was difficult. Although I was pretty sure that 2 kids was going to be it, heck after Anna was born I thought she may be an only child (who says you forget the pain after you see your baby?, they're crazy or I have an amazing memory LOL, and I had wanted a few kids, what was I thinking, LOL). Anyway, we too decided that Rachel would be our last, all we really knew at the time was the avg. CF child only lived to about 18 or so yrs. How could we take the chance again? Our belief was that GOD did not let us find out about CF until it was time for us to know and that Rachel was meant to be here. We could not even begin to imagine life without her. Thank heaven for HIS plan. My husband got his vasectomy as soon as he got back from Desert Shield/Desert Storm. (he was deployed when Rachel was 6 wks old)

That's our story. Good luck in your decison.
 
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Liza

New member
Yes, this is a most difficult decision. One of course only you can make. We too made that same decision. Anna was diagnosed just one week before Rachel was born. CF was new to our family and to be hit twice just one week apart was difficult. Although I was pretty sure that 2 kids was going to be it, heck after Anna was born I thought she may be an only child (who says you forget the pain after you see your baby?, they're crazy or I have an amazing memory LOL, and I had wanted a few kids, what was I thinking, LOL). Anyway, we too decided that Rachel would be our last, all we really knew at the time was the avg. CF child only lived to about 18 or so yrs. How could we take the chance again? Our belief was that GOD did not let us find out about CF until it was time for us to know and that Rachel was meant to be here. We could not even begin to imagine life without her. Thank heaven for HIS plan. My husband got his vasectomy as soon as he got back from Desert Shield/Desert Storm. (he was deployed when Rachel was 6 wks old)

That's our story. Good luck in your decison.
 
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Liza

New member
Yes, this is a most difficult decision. One of course only you can make. We too made that same decision. Anna was diagnosed just one week before Rachel was born. CF was new to our family and to be hit twice just one week apart was difficult. Although I was pretty sure that 2 kids was going to be it, heck after Anna was born I thought she may be an only child (who says you forget the pain after you see your baby?, they're crazy or I have an amazing memory LOL, and I had wanted a few kids, what was I thinking, LOL). Anyway, we too decided that Rachel would be our last, all we really knew at the time was the avg. CF child only lived to about 18 or so yrs. How could we take the chance again? Our belief was that GOD did not let us find out about CF until it was time for us to know and that Rachel was meant to be here. We could not even begin to imagine life without her. Thank heaven for HIS plan. My husband got his vasectomy as soon as he got back from Desert Shield/Desert Storm. (he was deployed when Rachel was 6 wks old)

That's our story. Good luck in your decison.
 
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Liza

New member
Yes, this is a most difficult decision. One of course only you can make. We too made that same decision. Anna was diagnosed just one week before Rachel was born. CF was new to our family and to be hit twice just one week apart was difficult. Although I was pretty sure that 2 kids was going to be it, heck after Anna was born I thought she may be an only child (who says you forget the pain after you see your baby?, they're crazy or I have an amazing memory LOL, and I had wanted a few kids, what was I thinking, LOL). Anyway, we too decided that Rachel would be our last, all we really knew at the time was the avg. CF child only lived to about 18 or so yrs. How could we take the chance again? Our belief was that GOD did not let us find out about CF until it was time for us to know and that Rachel was meant to be here. We could not even begin to imagine life without her. Thank heaven for HIS plan. My husband got his vasectomy as soon as he got back from Desert Shield/Desert Storm. (he was deployed when Rachel was 6 wks old)

That's our story. Good luck in your decison.
 
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hikingmomde

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We were trying to conceive when my daughter was dx about a year ago. When we found out about her dx, we thought long and hard about our options. As we were thinking, I tried birth control which really screwed me up (hormonally) so we knew that wouldn't be a long term option. As we made the tough decision to not have another child (I think harder for me than my husband), we considered many things--the probability of having another child with CF and all that that might entail, global warming, the global population explosion--and unwaveringly decided as a couple that we had to make the responsible choice and my husband scheduled his vasectomy.
While I never imagined raising an only child, I now can't imagine NOT raising an only child. I remember feeling an amazing sense of peace when we made our decision. I have NO regrets. Sure, when 3 out of the 5 moms in my playgroup all announced their pregancies at the same time at a xmas party last year and when they all gave birth within a week of eachother this Aug, I was hit with the reality that I would not have that experience again. But as I said, once I felt that peace, I never looked back. We're moving on, day by day, and enjoying every minute of it!
 
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hikingmomde

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We were trying to conceive when my daughter was dx about a year ago. When we found out about her dx, we thought long and hard about our options. As we were thinking, I tried birth control which really screwed me up (hormonally) so we knew that wouldn't be a long term option. As we made the tough decision to not have another child (I think harder for me than my husband), we considered many things--the probability of having another child with CF and all that that might entail, global warming, the global population explosion--and unwaveringly decided as a couple that we had to make the responsible choice and my husband scheduled his vasectomy.
While I never imagined raising an only child, I now can't imagine NOT raising an only child. I remember feeling an amazing sense of peace when we made our decision. I have NO regrets. Sure, when 3 out of the 5 moms in my playgroup all announced their pregancies at the same time at a xmas party last year and when they all gave birth within a week of eachother this Aug, I was hit with the reality that I would not have that experience again. But as I said, once I felt that peace, I never looked back. We're moving on, day by day, and enjoying every minute of it!
 
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hikingmomde

New member
We were trying to conceive when my daughter was dx about a year ago. When we found out about her dx, we thought long and hard about our options. As we were thinking, I tried birth control which really screwed me up (hormonally) so we knew that wouldn't be a long term option. As we made the tough decision to not have another child (I think harder for me than my husband), we considered many things--the probability of having another child with CF and all that that might entail, global warming, the global population explosion--and unwaveringly decided as a couple that we had to make the responsible choice and my husband scheduled his vasectomy.
While I never imagined raising an only child, I now can't imagine NOT raising an only child. I remember feeling an amazing sense of peace when we made our decision. I have NO regrets. Sure, when 3 out of the 5 moms in my playgroup all announced their pregancies at the same time at a xmas party last year and when they all gave birth within a week of eachother this Aug, I was hit with the reality that I would not have that experience again. But as I said, once I felt that peace, I never looked back. We're moving on, day by day, and enjoying every minute of it!
 
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hikingmomde

New member
We were trying to conceive when my daughter was dx about a year ago. When we found out about her dx, we thought long and hard about our options. As we were thinking, I tried birth control which really screwed me up (hormonally) so we knew that wouldn't be a long term option. As we made the tough decision to not have another child (I think harder for me than my husband), we considered many things--the probability of having another child with CF and all that that might entail, global warming, the global population explosion--and unwaveringly decided as a couple that we had to make the responsible choice and my husband scheduled his vasectomy.
While I never imagined raising an only child, I now can't imagine NOT raising an only child. I remember feeling an amazing sense of peace when we made our decision. I have NO regrets. Sure, when 3 out of the 5 moms in my playgroup all announced their pregancies at the same time at a xmas party last year and when they all gave birth within a week of eachother this Aug, I was hit with the reality that I would not have that experience again. But as I said, once I felt that peace, I never looked back. We're moving on, day by day, and enjoying every minute of it!
 
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hikingmomde

New member
We were trying to conceive when my daughter was dx about a year ago. When we found out about her dx, we thought long and hard about our options. As we were thinking, I tried birth control which really screwed me up (hormonally) so we knew that wouldn't be a long term option. As we made the tough decision to not have another child (I think harder for me than my husband), we considered many things--the probability of having another child with CF and all that that might entail, global warming, the global population explosion--and unwaveringly decided as a couple that we had to make the responsible choice and my husband scheduled his vasectomy.
While I never imagined raising an only child, I now can't imagine NOT raising an only child. I remember feeling an amazing sense of peace when we made our decision. I have NO regrets. Sure, when 3 out of the 5 moms in my playgroup all announced their pregancies at the same time at a xmas party last year and when they all gave birth within a week of eachother this Aug, I was hit with the reality that I would not have that experience again. But as I said, once I felt that peace, I never looked back. We're moving on, day by day, and enjoying every minute of it!
 
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