Very discouraged ( update )

LouLou

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Very discouraged

I suggest charting for 6 months before purchasing a single OPK. A negative test - no matter what the "test" is is negative on the mind. I believe conception needs little stress in the mother's system and negative thinking is stressful. Think of it as a 6 month training session... eat well, exercise, and watch your cycle. Cleanse your mind too. Don't allow yourself to obsess. Also keep reading about pregnancy and children and surround yourself with pregnant people and children if you can.
 

LouLou

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Very discouraged

I suggest charting for 6 months before purchasing a single OPK. A negative test - no matter what the "test" is is negative on the mind. I believe conception needs little stress in the mother's system and negative thinking is stressful. Think of it as a 6 month training session... eat well, exercise, and watch your cycle. Cleanse your mind too. Don't allow yourself to obsess. Also keep reading about pregnancy and children and surround yourself with pregnant people and children if you can.
 

LouLou

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Very discouraged

I suggest charting for 6 months before purchasing a single OPK. A negative test - no matter what the "test" is is negative on the mind. I believe conception needs little stress in the mother's system and negative thinking is stressful. Think of it as a 6 month training session... eat well, exercise, and watch your cycle. Cleanse your mind too. Don't allow yourself to obsess. Also keep reading about pregnancy and children and surround yourself with pregnant people and children if you can.
 

LouLou

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Very discouraged

I suggest charting for 6 months before purchasing a single OPK. A negative test - no matter what the "test" is is negative on the mind. I believe conception needs little stress in the mother's system and negative thinking is stressful. Think of it as a 6 month training session... eat well, exercise, and watch your cycle. Cleanse your mind too. Don't allow yourself to obsess. Also keep reading about pregnancy and children and surround yourself with pregnant people and children if you can.
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

MamatoAlexa

New member
Very discouraged

(((HUGS)))
I would give your body a bit longer to get back on track from the birth control.
I know it seems like forever but I would probably chart another 4 months just to see what is going on.
It is easy to feel discouraged but try to look on the bright side, by charting and using OPK you are already ahead of things. Most OB/GYN would ask you to TTC for a full year and then recommended that you chart and/or use OPK for a few months before they would start exploring other options. You are doing eveything right, you just need to let you body get used to what it needs to do.
I remember TTC Alexa and it was an obsessive and emotional journey. I would have gone to the ends of the earth and back to get pregnant. This time around I know stress will not help me get pregnant so I do my best to avoid stress and obsessing.
Take care and STAY STRONG!!!
~*~BABY DUST~*~
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

mom2lillian

New member
Very discouraged

I agree with the others, especially after going of bc you neeed to give yourself at least 3 months to get back to 'normal' or longer if it was something other than regular pills. Then you will need to chart for a good 6 months to see what your 'pattern' is. As soemone mentioned they want you to have ttc for 12-18 months before they will consider something else.

If you are not ovulating and do not want to use fertility treatments -- I mean who Wants to use them right LOL. Anyway then some docs will give you one month of clomid which will be a bit like 'jumpstarting' your cycle (they might do this a bit earlier than 12-18mo if you were adamant or not ovulating at all). then from there on out you can monitor and see if it worked.

It is just my opinion but I woudl never blindly try to conceive using clomid or the like ebcause you never know some people really react well to it and will make 5 or more eggs and you just never know if they all end up taking....well you get my drift. When I was using clomid we would go in an do an ultrasound the day before and if I had more than 2-3 eggs we woudl abstain.

Try not to obsess over it as it can be torture, speaking from experience here and I know easier said than done. Of course relaxing is best but if you cant dont beat yourself up over it in the end it wont stop you from getting pregannt.

Best of luck
 

my65roses4me

New member
Very discouraged

Thanks to you all for your insight. I am trying not to obsess but its hard as you all know!
Since I got all of your replies I have been trying to take it easy and just chart and not think about it.
Well today I had a temperature shift. So I am hoping that I have ovulated!

My hubby has an appt with a genetic counselor to get the panel done to see if he is a carrier. So at least that part will be out of the way!!! So its looking up for now. But I am taking to heart what you all said about not letting this get to me too much! I am trying to relax and just chart!

Thank you very much for your advice it helps a lot!!!
 

my65roses4me

New member
Very discouraged

Thanks to you all for your insight. I am trying not to obsess but its hard as you all know!
Since I got all of your replies I have been trying to take it easy and just chart and not think about it.
Well today I had a temperature shift. So I am hoping that I have ovulated!

My hubby has an appt with a genetic counselor to get the panel done to see if he is a carrier. So at least that part will be out of the way!!! So its looking up for now. But I am taking to heart what you all said about not letting this get to me too much! I am trying to relax and just chart!

Thank you very much for your advice it helps a lot!!!
 

my65roses4me

New member
Very discouraged

Thanks to you all for your insight. I am trying not to obsess but its hard as you all know!
Since I got all of your replies I have been trying to take it easy and just chart and not think about it.
Well today I had a temperature shift. So I am hoping that I have ovulated!

My hubby has an appt with a genetic counselor to get the panel done to see if he is a carrier. So at least that part will be out of the way!!! So its looking up for now. But I am taking to heart what you all said about not letting this get to me too much! I am trying to relax and just chart!

Thank you very much for your advice it helps a lot!!!
 

my65roses4me

New member
Very discouraged

Thanks to you all for your insight. I am trying not to obsess but its hard as you all know!
Since I got all of your replies I have been trying to take it easy and just chart and not think about it.
Well today I had a temperature shift. So I am hoping that I have ovulated!

My hubby has an appt with a genetic counselor to get the panel done to see if he is a carrier. So at least that part will be out of the way!!! So its looking up for now. But I am taking to heart what you all said about not letting this get to me too much! I am trying to relax and just chart!

Thank you very much for your advice it helps a lot!!!
 
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