What do I do?

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jdprecious

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This has been happening for over a year. I have asked Jeff and asked Jeff over and over to have a conversation with his exw about our daughter Alyssa. She constantly is coughing and has a snotty nose. The exw could care less to take her to the doctor or give her any meds while at her house. Weeeelll, i quietly *$itched* about it to Jeff over the past year. Now, with Jaelyn just having her first tune up and me worrying about every germ and cough she comes in contact with, guess what... Kim sends Alyssa over from summer break to our house coughing, sneezing, and runny nose... our son Jordan is fine and is never sick at all, Alyssa on the other hand is always coughing and has a runny nose. I don't want to be a bitty about it but I cannot figure out how to get thru to the exw that she cannot send Alyssa over time and time again with these symptoms. I can no longer continue to put all 3 kids in the same bed or room due to the risk of her getting sick. I don't know what to do, it is causing a riff between Jeff and I. Although, he does understand I have been talking about this for over a year, it still puts us in a tough situation.

I dont know what to do?? Any advice?
 
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jdprecious

New member
This has been happening for over a year. I have asked Jeff and asked Jeff over and over to have a conversation with his exw about our daughter Alyssa. She constantly is coughing and has a snotty nose. The exw could care less to take her to the doctor or give her any meds while at her house. Weeeelll, i quietly *$itched* about it to Jeff over the past year. Now, with Jaelyn just having her first tune up and me worrying about every germ and cough she comes in contact with, guess what... Kim sends Alyssa over from summer break to our house coughing, sneezing, and runny nose... our son Jordan is fine and is never sick at all, Alyssa on the other hand is always coughing and has a runny nose. I don't want to be a bitty about it but I cannot figure out how to get thru to the exw that she cannot send Alyssa over time and time again with these symptoms. I can no longer continue to put all 3 kids in the same bed or room due to the risk of her getting sick. I don't know what to do, it is causing a riff between Jeff and I. Although, he does understand I have been talking about this for over a year, it still puts us in a tough situation.

I dont know what to do?? Any advice?
 
J

jdprecious

New member
This has been happening for over a year. I have asked Jeff and asked Jeff over and over to have a conversation with his exw about our daughter Alyssa. She constantly is coughing and has a snotty nose. The exw could care less to take her to the doctor or give her any meds while at her house. Weeeelll, i quietly *$itched* about it to Jeff over the past year. Now, with Jaelyn just having her first tune up and me worrying about every germ and cough she comes in contact with, guess what... Kim sends Alyssa over from summer break to our house coughing, sneezing, and runny nose... our son Jordan is fine and is never sick at all, Alyssa on the other hand is always coughing and has a runny nose. I don't want to be a bitty about it but I cannot figure out how to get thru to the exw that she cannot send Alyssa over time and time again with these symptoms. I can no longer continue to put all 3 kids in the same bed or room due to the risk of her getting sick. I don't know what to do, it is causing a riff between Jeff and I. Although, he does understand I have been talking about this for over a year, it still puts us in a tough situation.

I dont know what to do?? Any advice?
 
J

jdprecious

New member
This has been happening for over a year. I have asked Jeff and asked Jeff over and over to have a conversation with his exw about our daughter Alyssa. She constantly is coughing and has a snotty nose. The exw could care less to take her to the doctor or give her any meds while at her house. Weeeelll, i quietly *$itched* about it to Jeff over the past year. Now, with Jaelyn just having her first tune up and me worrying about every germ and cough she comes in contact with, guess what... Kim sends Alyssa over from summer break to our house coughing, sneezing, and runny nose... our son Jordan is fine and is never sick at all, Alyssa on the other hand is always coughing and has a runny nose. I don't want to be a bitty about it but I cannot figure out how to get thru to the exw that she cannot send Alyssa over time and time again with these symptoms. I can no longer continue to put all 3 kids in the same bed or room due to the risk of her getting sick. I don't know what to do, it is causing a riff between Jeff and I. Although, he does understand I have been talking about this for over a year, it still puts us in a tough situation.

I dont know what to do?? Any advice?
 
J

jdprecious

New member
This has been happening for over a year. I have asked Jeff and asked Jeff over and over to have a conversation with his exw about our daughter Alyssa. She constantly is coughing and has a snotty nose. The exw could care less to take her to the doctor or give her any meds while at her house. Weeeelll, i quietly *$itched* about it to Jeff over the past year. Now, with Jaelyn just having her first tune up and me worrying about every germ and cough she comes in contact with, guess what... Kim sends Alyssa over from summer break to our house coughing, sneezing, and runny nose... our son Jordan is fine and is never sick at all, Alyssa on the other hand is always coughing and has a runny nose. I don't want to be a bitty about it but I cannot figure out how to get thru to the exw that she cannot send Alyssa over time and time again with these symptoms. I can no longer continue to put all 3 kids in the same bed or room due to the risk of her getting sick. I don't know what to do, it is causing a riff between Jeff and I. Although, he does understand I have been talking about this for over a year, it still puts us in a tough situation.

I dont know what to do?? Any advice?
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Wow, Jessica
That's a touch one. Do you and Kim get along otherwise? Maybe literature would help her understand the importance of keeping Jaelyn healthy. The last thing you want to do is have her keep Alyssa from your house, or to ask the girls to wear masks when she is sick is probably going to make Alyssa feel bad. Has anyone asked why she is sick so often?

Also, how old is Alyssa? Is she old enough that you can explain to her the importance of keeping everyone in the house healthy? Also, perhaps you could talk about this with your social worker at Jaelyn's next appt. Maybe hearing this from the SW mouth will have more of an impact on your husband.

I wish you luck! I know what it's like when someone walks in the door and all you see is a runny green nose. Yuck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Wow, Jessica
That's a touch one. Do you and Kim get along otherwise? Maybe literature would help her understand the importance of keeping Jaelyn healthy. The last thing you want to do is have her keep Alyssa from your house, or to ask the girls to wear masks when she is sick is probably going to make Alyssa feel bad. Has anyone asked why she is sick so often?

Also, how old is Alyssa? Is she old enough that you can explain to her the importance of keeping everyone in the house healthy? Also, perhaps you could talk about this with your social worker at Jaelyn's next appt. Maybe hearing this from the SW mouth will have more of an impact on your husband.

I wish you luck! I know what it's like when someone walks in the door and all you see is a runny green nose. Yuck!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
Wow, Jessica
That's a touch one. Do you and Kim get along otherwise? Maybe literature would help her understand the importance of keeping Jaelyn healthy. The last thing you want to do is have her keep Alyssa from your house, or to ask the girls to wear masks when she is sick is probably going to make Alyssa feel bad. Has anyone asked why she is sick so often?

Also, how old is Alyssa? Is she old enough that you can explain to her the importance of keeping everyone in the house healthy? Also, perhaps you could talk about this with your social worker at Jaelyn's next appt. Maybe hearing this from the SW mouth will have more of an impact on your husband.

I wish you luck! I know what it's like when someone walks in the door and all you see is a runny green nose. Yuck!
 
T

TonyaH

Guest
Wow, Jessica
That's a touch one. Do you and Kim get along otherwise? Maybe literature would help her understand the importance of keeping Jaelyn healthy. The last thing you want to do is have her keep Alyssa from your house, or to ask the girls to wear masks when she is sick is probably going to make Alyssa feel bad. Has anyone asked why she is sick so often?

Also, how old is Alyssa? Is she old enough that you can explain to her the importance of keeping everyone in the house healthy? Also, perhaps you could talk about this with your social worker at Jaelyn's next appt. Maybe hearing this from the SW mouth will have more of an impact on your husband.

I wish you luck! I know what it's like when someone walks in the door and all you see is a runny green nose. Yuck!
 
T

TonyaH

Guest
Wow, Jessica
That's a touch one. Do you and Kim get along otherwise? Maybe literature would help her understand the importance of keeping Jaelyn healthy. The last thing you want to do is have her keep Alyssa from your house, or to ask the girls to wear masks when she is sick is probably going to make Alyssa feel bad. Has anyone asked why she is sick so often?

Also, how old is Alyssa? Is she old enough that you can explain to her the importance of keeping everyone in the house healthy? Also, perhaps you could talk about this with your social worker at Jaelyn's next appt. Maybe hearing this from the SW mouth will have more of an impact on your husband.

I wish you luck! I know what it's like when someone walks in the door and all you see is a runny green nose. Yuck!
 
J

jdprecious

New member
Kim and I get along for the most part but we are not bff's, ya know. She has known since day one about Jae having CF and I would think after finding out about her spending 2 weeks in the hospital she would be sensitive to her health issues. But it still continues to happen. I don't want to alienate Alyssa in anyway because her mom doesn't think her symptoms are bad. I just want the child to be healthy. Alyssa has had a nasal surgery in the past year but still she is coughing tons and has a snotty nose. She coughs so much in her sleep that she vomits occasionally. That to me means "something is wrong". I let the conversation happen between Jeff and Kim, it is not my place to tell her what to do with her children. But I am the agressive type and Jeff is very laid back and wont assert himself in certain situations. So, I think he doesn't stress the importance of Jaelyn's health to Kim. Jordan is 7, Alyssa and Jaelyn are both 5. We do speak to them about washing their hands and covering their coughs but that can only do so much when you are sharing a room together every weekend. It would be no big deal if it was just a cold every now and again, but over the last year Alyssa has been constantly coughing and snot nose. I am so upset about it. I love my children to death and wish my brain could come up with a simple solution to it all. I am at my wits end on talking to Jeff about it. I don't want to come off ugly to Kim either but I know I probably will. So, I have kept my mouth shut. Last night was pretty much the boiling point between he and I, and we NEVER argue, never.
 
J

jdprecious

New member
Kim and I get along for the most part but we are not bff's, ya know. She has known since day one about Jae having CF and I would think after finding out about her spending 2 weeks in the hospital she would be sensitive to her health issues. But it still continues to happen. I don't want to alienate Alyssa in anyway because her mom doesn't think her symptoms are bad. I just want the child to be healthy. Alyssa has had a nasal surgery in the past year but still she is coughing tons and has a snotty nose. She coughs so much in her sleep that she vomits occasionally. That to me means "something is wrong". I let the conversation happen between Jeff and Kim, it is not my place to tell her what to do with her children. But I am the agressive type and Jeff is very laid back and wont assert himself in certain situations. So, I think he doesn't stress the importance of Jaelyn's health to Kim. Jordan is 7, Alyssa and Jaelyn are both 5. We do speak to them about washing their hands and covering their coughs but that can only do so much when you are sharing a room together every weekend. It would be no big deal if it was just a cold every now and again, but over the last year Alyssa has been constantly coughing and snot nose. I am so upset about it. I love my children to death and wish my brain could come up with a simple solution to it all. I am at my wits end on talking to Jeff about it. I don't want to come off ugly to Kim either but I know I probably will. So, I have kept my mouth shut. Last night was pretty much the boiling point between he and I, and we NEVER argue, never.
 
J

jdprecious

New member
Kim and I get along for the most part but we are not bff's, ya know. She has known since day one about Jae having CF and I would think after finding out about her spending 2 weeks in the hospital she would be sensitive to her health issues. But it still continues to happen. I don't want to alienate Alyssa in anyway because her mom doesn't think her symptoms are bad. I just want the child to be healthy. Alyssa has had a nasal surgery in the past year but still she is coughing tons and has a snotty nose. She coughs so much in her sleep that she vomits occasionally. That to me means "something is wrong". I let the conversation happen between Jeff and Kim, it is not my place to tell her what to do with her children. But I am the agressive type and Jeff is very laid back and wont assert himself in certain situations. So, I think he doesn't stress the importance of Jaelyn's health to Kim. Jordan is 7, Alyssa and Jaelyn are both 5. We do speak to them about washing their hands and covering their coughs but that can only do so much when you are sharing a room together every weekend. It would be no big deal if it was just a cold every now and again, but over the last year Alyssa has been constantly coughing and snot nose. I am so upset about it. I love my children to death and wish my brain could come up with a simple solution to it all. I am at my wits end on talking to Jeff about it. I don't want to come off ugly to Kim either but I know I probably will. So, I have kept my mouth shut. Last night was pretty much the boiling point between he and I, and we NEVER argue, never.
 
J

jdprecious

New member
Kim and I get along for the most part but we are not bff's, ya know. She has known since day one about Jae having CF and I would think after finding out about her spending 2 weeks in the hospital she would be sensitive to her health issues. But it still continues to happen. I don't want to alienate Alyssa in anyway because her mom doesn't think her symptoms are bad. I just want the child to be healthy. Alyssa has had a nasal surgery in the past year but still she is coughing tons and has a snotty nose. She coughs so much in her sleep that she vomits occasionally. That to me means "something is wrong". I let the conversation happen between Jeff and Kim, it is not my place to tell her what to do with her children. But I am the agressive type and Jeff is very laid back and wont assert himself in certain situations. So, I think he doesn't stress the importance of Jaelyn's health to Kim. Jordan is 7, Alyssa and Jaelyn are both 5. We do speak to them about washing their hands and covering their coughs but that can only do so much when you are sharing a room together every weekend. It would be no big deal if it was just a cold every now and again, but over the last year Alyssa has been constantly coughing and snot nose. I am so upset about it. I love my children to death and wish my brain could come up with a simple solution to it all. I am at my wits end on talking to Jeff about it. I don't want to come off ugly to Kim either but I know I probably will. So, I have kept my mouth shut. Last night was pretty much the boiling point between he and I, and we NEVER argue, never.
 
J

jdprecious

New member
Kim and I get along for the most part but we are not bff's, ya know. She has known since day one about Jae having CF and I would think after finding out about her spending 2 weeks in the hospital she would be sensitive to her health issues. But it still continues to happen. I don't want to alienate Alyssa in anyway because her mom doesn't think her symptoms are bad. I just want the child to be healthy. Alyssa has had a nasal surgery in the past year but still she is coughing tons and has a snotty nose. She coughs so much in her sleep that she vomits occasionally. That to me means "something is wrong". I let the conversation happen between Jeff and Kim, it is not my place to tell her what to do with her children. But I am the agressive type and Jeff is very laid back and wont assert himself in certain situations. So, I think he doesn't stress the importance of Jaelyn's health to Kim. Jordan is 7, Alyssa and Jaelyn are both 5. We do speak to them about washing their hands and covering their coughs but that can only do so much when you are sharing a room together every weekend. It would be no big deal if it was just a cold every now and again, but over the last year Alyssa has been constantly coughing and snot nose. I am so upset about it. I love my children to death and wish my brain could come up with a simple solution to it all. I am at my wits end on talking to Jeff about it. I don't want to come off ugly to Kim either but I know I probably will. So, I have kept my mouth shut. Last night was pretty much the boiling point between he and I, and we NEVER argue, never.
 
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TonyaH

Guest
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You know what I do when my husband and I are just not seeing eye to eye on things? I write him a letter. I know it sounds kind of goofy, but when I take the time to put my concerns on paper, he knows how important the matter is and it usually opens the lines of communication again.

Regardless, I think you are right to be concerned about the constant exposure Jaelyn has to Alyssa's health problems. I mean, who knows what she is growing in her sinuses?!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You know what I do when my husband and I are just not seeing eye to eye on things? I write him a letter. I know it sounds kind of goofy, but when I take the time to put my concerns on paper, he knows how important the matter is and it usually opens the lines of communication again.

Regardless, I think you are right to be concerned about the constant exposure Jaelyn has to Alyssa's health problems. I mean, who knows what she is growing in her sinuses?!
 
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TonyaH

Guest
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You know what I do when my husband and I are just not seeing eye to eye on things? I write him a letter. I know it sounds kind of goofy, but when I take the time to put my concerns on paper, he knows how important the matter is and it usually opens the lines of communication again.

Regardless, I think you are right to be concerned about the constant exposure Jaelyn has to Alyssa's health problems. I mean, who knows what she is growing in her sinuses?!
 
T

TonyaH

Guest
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You know what I do when my husband and I are just not seeing eye to eye on things? I write him a letter. I know it sounds kind of goofy, but when I take the time to put my concerns on paper, he knows how important the matter is and it usually opens the lines of communication again.

Regardless, I think you are right to be concerned about the constant exposure Jaelyn has to Alyssa's health problems. I mean, who knows what she is growing in her sinuses?!
 
T

TonyaH

Guest
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You know what I do when my husband and I are just not seeing eye to eye on things? I write him a letter. I know it sounds kind of goofy, but when I take the time to put my concerns on paper, he knows how important the matter is and it usually opens the lines of communication again.

Regardless, I think you are right to be concerned about the constant exposure Jaelyn has to Alyssa's health problems. I mean, who knows what she is growing in her sinuses?!
 
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