What do you say?

littlemisskris16 · Oct 17, 2008

Hi Everyone,

I hope everyone is well.

I am curious to find out how other CF mommy's or before you were a mommy, handle situations pertaining to other peoples opinions.

I have shared that some members of our family disagree with us having a baby. That being said, a family member said asked me today " How are you going to have a baby when you bacically quarintine yourself off from anyone who is sick? How will you manage your baby if they get the flu?I mean, you cant do that when you have a kid, have you even thought of that??"

I simply replied, "Well how does ((a specific family member)) do it when she is sick, and has to take care of her 4 children? You just do, you take as many pre-cautions as you can" They did not like that answer, and rolled thier eyes... and said "I think you're being silly, this whole kid thing". ( I have been staying away from my nieces and nephews recently bc no one is honest with me, when they are sick. Oh it is allergies, it is asthma... so to make sure I dont catch anything Bc it is usally something, I keep my space and use my discretion).

So I ask all of you, how do you handle peoples opinions? I try VERY hard not to let it bother me, sometimes the opinions come harder at me than other times.

Am I living in a bubble thinking I will be find when I have a baby and they are sick with cold?

Thanks in Advance

Kris
31 NY'er with CF/rD..

littlemisskris16 · Oct 17, 2008

Hi Everyone,

I hope everyone is well.

I am curious to find out how other CF mommy's or before you were a mommy, handle situations pertaining to other peoples opinions.

I have shared that some members of our family disagree with us having a baby. That being said, a family member said asked me today " How are you going to have a baby when you bacically quarintine yourself off from anyone who is sick? How will you manage your baby if they get the flu?I mean, you cant do that when you have a kid, have you even thought of that??"

I simply replied, "Well how does ((a specific family member)) do it when she is sick, and has to take care of her 4 children? You just do, you take as many pre-cautions as you can" They did not like that answer, and rolled thier eyes... and said "I think you're being silly, this whole kid thing". ( I have been staying away from my nieces and nephews recently bc no one is honest with me, when they are sick. Oh it is allergies, it is asthma... so to make sure I dont catch anything Bc it is usally something, I keep my space and use my discretion).

So I ask all of you, how do you handle peoples opinions? I try VERY hard not to let it bother me, sometimes the opinions come harder at me than other times.

Am I living in a bubble thinking I will be find when I have a baby and they are sick with cold?

Thanks in Advance

Kris
31 NY'er with CF/rD..

littlemisskris16 · Oct 17, 2008

Hi Everyone,

I hope everyone is well.

I am curious to find out how other CF mommy's or before you were a mommy, handle situations pertaining to other peoples opinions.

I have shared that some members of our family disagree with us having a baby. That being said, a family member said asked me today " How are you going to have a baby when you bacically quarintine yourself off from anyone who is sick? How will you manage your baby if they get the flu?I mean, you cant do that when you have a kid, have you even thought of that??"

I simply replied, "Well how does ((a specific family member)) do it when she is sick, and has to take care of her 4 children? You just do, you take as many pre-cautions as you can" They did not like that answer, and rolled thier eyes... and said "I think you're being silly, this whole kid thing". ( I have been staying away from my nieces and nephews recently bc no one is honest with me, when they are sick. Oh it is allergies, it is asthma... so to make sure I dont catch anything Bc it is usally something, I keep my space and use my discretion).

So I ask all of you, how do you handle peoples opinions? I try VERY hard not to let it bother me, sometimes the opinions come harder at me than other times.

Am I living in a bubble thinking I will be find when I have a baby and they are sick with cold?

Thanks in Advance

Kris
31 NY'er with CF/rD..

littlemisskris16 · Oct 17, 2008

Hi Everyone,

I hope everyone is well.

I am curious to find out how other CF mommy's or before you were a mommy, handle situations pertaining to other peoples opinions.

I have shared that some members of our family disagree with us having a baby. That being said, a family member said asked me today " How are you going to have a baby when you bacically quarintine yourself off from anyone who is sick? How will you manage your baby if they get the flu?I mean, you cant do that when you have a kid, have you even thought of that??"

I simply replied, "Well how does ((a specific family member)) do it when she is sick, and has to take care of her 4 children? You just do, you take as many pre-cautions as you can" They did not like that answer, and rolled thier eyes... and said "I think you're being silly, this whole kid thing". ( I have been staying away from my nieces and nephews recently bc no one is honest with me, when they are sick. Oh it is allergies, it is asthma... so to make sure I dont catch anything Bc it is usally something, I keep my space and use my discretion).

So I ask all of you, how do you handle peoples opinions? I try VERY hard not to let it bother me, sometimes the opinions come harder at me than other times.

Am I living in a bubble thinking I will be find when I have a baby and they are sick with cold?

Thanks in Advance

Kris
31 NY'er with CF/rD..

littlemisskris16 · Oct 17, 2008

Hi Everyone,
 
 I hope everyone is well.
 
 I am curious to find out how other CF mommy's or before you were a mommy, handle situations pertaining to other peoples opinions.
 
 I have shared that some members of our family disagree with us having a baby. That being said, a family member said asked me today " How are you going to have a baby when you bacically quarintine yourself off from anyone who is sick? How will you manage your baby if they get the flu?I mean, you cant do that when you have a kid, have you even thought of that??"
 
 I simply replied, "Well how does ((a specific family member)) do it when she is sick, and has to take care of her 4 children? You just do, you take as many pre-cautions as you can" They did not like that answer, and rolled thier eyes... and said "I think you're being silly, this whole kid thing". ( I have been staying away from my nieces and nephews recently bc no one is honest with me, when they are sick. Oh it is allergies, it is asthma... so to make sure I dont catch anything Bc it is usally something, I keep my space and use my discretion).
 
 So I ask all of you, how do you handle peoples opinions? I try VERY hard not to let it bother me, sometimes the opinions come harder at me than other times.
 
 Am I living in a bubble thinking I will be find when I have a baby and they are sick with cold?
 
 Thanks in Advance
 
 Kris
 31 NY'er with CF/rD..

MamatoAlexa · Oct 18, 2008

Oh Kris! (((HUGS)))
I do not think anyone ever said anything to my face but I know they thought it and said it to other people. Yuck!

As far as having kids and not getting sick when they are sick. Alexa started preschool in Sept. and has had 2 or three colds since starting. I have to care for her, there is no way around that. I have not caught any of her colds but I have felt the added strain on my body as it fights off getting the cold all the while dealing with the CF stuff. It is really hard for me to admit that. I often wonder if I had more help/ a little less stuff to do/stress, if my body could have kept up better but I am just not sure. WIth all of that said - It took awhile after having ALexa for me to return to baseline but I did return and in fact my PFT's went even higher right around her 2nd bday. All of this getting run down stuff has been since having Hannah. It is true, having a second is much more because there is so much less time for Mommy.

So I feel I need to end this on a good note! Not getting sick and taking care of a baby is totally possible. In the 3 years I have been a Mommy I have had maybe 5 colds and 1 stomach virus. You are right, you just do whatever you have to do to keep yourself well.

(((HUGS)))

MamatoAlexa · Oct 18, 2008

Oh Kris! (((HUGS)))
I do not think anyone ever said anything to my face but I know they thought it and said it to other people. Yuck!

As far as having kids and not getting sick when they are sick. Alexa started preschool in Sept. and has had 2 or three colds since starting. I have to care for her, there is no way around that. I have not caught any of her colds but I have felt the added strain on my body as it fights off getting the cold all the while dealing with the CF stuff. It is really hard for me to admit that. I often wonder if I had more help/ a little less stuff to do/stress, if my body could have kept up better but I am just not sure. WIth all of that said - It took awhile after having ALexa for me to return to baseline but I did return and in fact my PFT's went even higher right around her 2nd bday. All of this getting run down stuff has been since having Hannah. It is true, having a second is much more because there is so much less time for Mommy.

So I feel I need to end this on a good note! Not getting sick and taking care of a baby is totally possible. In the 3 years I have been a Mommy I have had maybe 5 colds and 1 stomach virus. You are right, you just do whatever you have to do to keep yourself well.

(((HUGS)))

MamatoAlexa · Oct 18, 2008

Oh Kris! (((HUGS)))
I do not think anyone ever said anything to my face but I know they thought it and said it to other people. Yuck!

As far as having kids and not getting sick when they are sick. Alexa started preschool in Sept. and has had 2 or three colds since starting. I have to care for her, there is no way around that. I have not caught any of her colds but I have felt the added strain on my body as it fights off getting the cold all the while dealing with the CF stuff. It is really hard for me to admit that. I often wonder if I had more help/ a little less stuff to do/stress, if my body could have kept up better but I am just not sure. WIth all of that said - It took awhile after having ALexa for me to return to baseline but I did return and in fact my PFT's went even higher right around her 2nd bday. All of this getting run down stuff has been since having Hannah. It is true, having a second is much more because there is so much less time for Mommy.

So I feel I need to end this on a good note! Not getting sick and taking care of a baby is totally possible. In the 3 years I have been a Mommy I have had maybe 5 colds and 1 stomach virus. You are right, you just do whatever you have to do to keep yourself well.

(((HUGS)))

MamatoAlexa · Oct 18, 2008

Oh Kris! (((HUGS)))
I do not think anyone ever said anything to my face but I know they thought it and said it to other people. Yuck!

As far as having kids and not getting sick when they are sick. Alexa started preschool in Sept. and has had 2 or three colds since starting. I have to care for her, there is no way around that. I have not caught any of her colds but I have felt the added strain on my body as it fights off getting the cold all the while dealing with the CF stuff. It is really hard for me to admit that. I often wonder if I had more help/ a little less stuff to do/stress, if my body could have kept up better but I am just not sure. WIth all of that said - It took awhile after having ALexa for me to return to baseline but I did return and in fact my PFT's went even higher right around her 2nd bday. All of this getting run down stuff has been since having Hannah. It is true, having a second is much more because there is so much less time for Mommy.

So I feel I need to end this on a good note! Not getting sick and taking care of a baby is totally possible. In the 3 years I have been a Mommy I have had maybe 5 colds and 1 stomach virus. You are right, you just do whatever you have to do to keep yourself well.

(((HUGS)))

MamatoAlexa · Oct 18, 2008

Oh Kris! (((HUGS)))
 I do not think anyone ever said anything to my face but I know they thought it and said it to other people. Yuck!
 
 As far as having kids and not getting sick when they are sick. Alexa started preschool in Sept. and has had 2 or three colds since starting. I have to care for her, there is no way around that. I have not caught any of her colds but I have felt the added strain on my body as it fights off getting the cold all the while dealing with the CF stuff. It is really hard for me to admit that. I often wonder if I had more help/ a little less stuff to do/stress, if my body could have kept up better but I am just not sure. WIth all of that said - It took awhile after having ALexa for me to return to baseline but I did return and in fact my PFT's went even higher right around her 2nd bday. All of this getting run down stuff has been since having Hannah. It is true, having a second is much more because there is so much less time for Mommy.
 
 So I feel I need to end this on a good note! Not getting sick and taking care of a baby is totally possible. In the 3 years I have been a Mommy I have had maybe 5 colds and 1 stomach virus. You are right, you just do whatever you have to do to keep yourself well.
 
 (((HUGS)))

JazzysMom · Oct 18, 2008

Boy can I relate!

My Mom & I were at odds during most of my pregnancy over this. We didnt speak for most of the time & my daugher was 1 month old before my Mom saw her. She wouldnt speak to the doctors (CF, GYN or otherwise) because in her head it was a stupid idea. She had me dead, buried & her having to raise my baby. Now granted my Mom is a bit emotional at times so her feelings might have been over the top compared to others....

Everyone else? All my bros/sisters/friends all asked what the doctors say. Once I told them they were thrilled for me. One of my sisters went to EVERY GYN & CF appointment with me during my pregnancy so she knew first hand if/when to worry.

My Mom did admit after my daughter was born when she, my husband & I sat down to work through this issue that in her mind each & every time I would have problems......she would blame the pregnancy. I told her that was not fair since CF is progressive & it probably would happen anyway, but that is how her mind works. I have a fabulous pregnancy. Felt & looked the best in years. I worked full time during it all & only had problems with hemotysis (not unusual for me) at the end.

I thank god for my siblings & my husband. It was very upsetting not having my Mom by my side while I was enjoying all the aspect of motherhood etc.

I will also say that my Mom came around & although we had our differences I am so glad she is a part of my life with my hubby & daughter. I am fortunate to have a good family because when I am sick or having real problems I need their help. My husband is terrific, but he is one man who I dont want to have to handle it all.

Maybe this got off topic slightly, but there is one more thing I want to mention. I didnt think of this at the time. When we found out I was pregnant my main concern was if my hubby could handle being a single parent should the time come. It NEVER dawned on me the toll that it might take on our child watching me get sicker & sicker, go in & out of the hospital and for her to always worry.

Now granted every child is different, but for us this is one aspect of parenthood & CF that is emotional torture & we kind of fumble our way through.

So even tho the ultimate decision is between your & your husband....at some point you will need the extra support so to say it doesnt affect everyone else is not really true!

Sorry for such a long response. It just brought back a lot of memories!

HUGS

EDITED TO ADD:

When our daughtet was about 2 my CF doctor asked if we thought we would have anymore. I was shocked & said no way. We are fortunate to have a healthy daughter blah blah blah. THen she said well usually Moms start getting the urge for another around this time so if you want another lets not wait until your health goes down hill. After that I tortured myself wondering if we should....

THEN my daughter got sick. I had already been sick enough to quit work so I wasnt up to par when trying to care for her. That is when I realized I couldnt handle another baby. WHen my daughter was a baby & had bronchitis it was rough, but we made it through it.

I no longer had that ability & recognized one night laying with her as we both felt like crap......

Sometimes its black & white. I still have the "urge" to have another, but I wouldnt unless my CF disappeared LOL!

JazzysMom · Oct 18, 2008

Boy can I relate!

My Mom & I were at odds during most of my pregnancy over this. We didnt speak for most of the time & my daugher was 1 month old before my Mom saw her. She wouldnt speak to the doctors (CF, GYN or otherwise) because in her head it was a stupid idea. She had me dead, buried & her having to raise my baby. Now granted my Mom is a bit emotional at times so her feelings might have been over the top compared to others....

Everyone else? All my bros/sisters/friends all asked what the doctors say. Once I told them they were thrilled for me. One of my sisters went to EVERY GYN & CF appointment with me during my pregnancy so she knew first hand if/when to worry.

My Mom did admit after my daughter was born when she, my husband & I sat down to work through this issue that in her mind each & every time I would have problems......she would blame the pregnancy. I told her that was not fair since CF is progressive & it probably would happen anyway, but that is how her mind works. I have a fabulous pregnancy. Felt & looked the best in years. I worked full time during it all & only had problems with hemotysis (not unusual for me) at the end.

I thank god for my siblings & my husband. It was very upsetting not having my Mom by my side while I was enjoying all the aspect of motherhood etc.

I will also say that my Mom came around & although we had our differences I am so glad she is a part of my life with my hubby & daughter. I am fortunate to have a good family because when I am sick or having real problems I need their help. My husband is terrific, but he is one man who I dont want to have to handle it all.

Maybe this got off topic slightly, but there is one more thing I want to mention. I didnt think of this at the time. When we found out I was pregnant my main concern was if my hubby could handle being a single parent should the time come. It NEVER dawned on me the toll that it might take on our child watching me get sicker & sicker, go in & out of the hospital and for her to always worry.

Now granted every child is different, but for us this is one aspect of parenthood & CF that is emotional torture & we kind of fumble our way through.

So even tho the ultimate decision is between your & your husband....at some point you will need the extra support so to say it doesnt affect everyone else is not really true!

Sorry for such a long response. It just brought back a lot of memories!

HUGS

EDITED TO ADD:

When our daughtet was about 2 my CF doctor asked if we thought we would have anymore. I was shocked & said no way. We are fortunate to have a healthy daughter blah blah blah. THen she said well usually Moms start getting the urge for another around this time so if you want another lets not wait until your health goes down hill. After that I tortured myself wondering if we should....

THEN my daughter got sick. I had already been sick enough to quit work so I wasnt up to par when trying to care for her. That is when I realized I couldnt handle another baby. WHen my daughter was a baby & had bronchitis it was rough, but we made it through it.

I no longer had that ability & recognized one night laying with her as we both felt like crap......

Sometimes its black & white. I still have the "urge" to have another, but I wouldnt unless my CF disappeared LOL!

JazzysMom · Oct 18, 2008

Boy can I relate!

My Mom & I were at odds during most of my pregnancy over this. We didnt speak for most of the time & my daugher was 1 month old before my Mom saw her. She wouldnt speak to the doctors (CF, GYN or otherwise) because in her head it was a stupid idea. She had me dead, buried & her having to raise my baby. Now granted my Mom is a bit emotional at times so her feelings might have been over the top compared to others....

Everyone else? All my bros/sisters/friends all asked what the doctors say. Once I told them they were thrilled for me. One of my sisters went to EVERY GYN & CF appointment with me during my pregnancy so she knew first hand if/when to worry.

My Mom did admit after my daughter was born when she, my husband & I sat down to work through this issue that in her mind each & every time I would have problems......she would blame the pregnancy. I told her that was not fair since CF is progressive & it probably would happen anyway, but that is how her mind works. I have a fabulous pregnancy. Felt & looked the best in years. I worked full time during it all & only had problems with hemotysis (not unusual for me) at the end.

I thank god for my siblings & my husband. It was very upsetting not having my Mom by my side while I was enjoying all the aspect of motherhood etc.

I will also say that my Mom came around & although we had our differences I am so glad she is a part of my life with my hubby & daughter. I am fortunate to have a good family because when I am sick or having real problems I need their help. My husband is terrific, but he is one man who I dont want to have to handle it all.

Maybe this got off topic slightly, but there is one more thing I want to mention. I didnt think of this at the time. When we found out I was pregnant my main concern was if my hubby could handle being a single parent should the time come. It NEVER dawned on me the toll that it might take on our child watching me get sicker & sicker, go in & out of the hospital and for her to always worry.

Now granted every child is different, but for us this is one aspect of parenthood & CF that is emotional torture & we kind of fumble our way through.

So even tho the ultimate decision is between your & your husband....at some point you will need the extra support so to say it doesnt affect everyone else is not really true!

Sorry for such a long response. It just brought back a lot of memories!

HUGS

EDITED TO ADD:

When our daughtet was about 2 my CF doctor asked if we thought we would have anymore. I was shocked & said no way. We are fortunate to have a healthy daughter blah blah blah. THen she said well usually Moms start getting the urge for another around this time so if you want another lets not wait until your health goes down hill. After that I tortured myself wondering if we should....

THEN my daughter got sick. I had already been sick enough to quit work so I wasnt up to par when trying to care for her. That is when I realized I couldnt handle another baby. WHen my daughter was a baby & had bronchitis it was rough, but we made it through it.

I no longer had that ability & recognized one night laying with her as we both felt like crap......

Sometimes its black & white. I still have the "urge" to have another, but I wouldnt unless my CF disappeared LOL!

JazzysMom · Oct 18, 2008

Boy can I relate!

My Mom & I were at odds during most of my pregnancy over this. We didnt speak for most of the time & my daugher was 1 month old before my Mom saw her. She wouldnt speak to the doctors (CF, GYN or otherwise) because in her head it was a stupid idea. She had me dead, buried & her having to raise my baby. Now granted my Mom is a bit emotional at times so her feelings might have been over the top compared to others....

Everyone else? All my bros/sisters/friends all asked what the doctors say. Once I told them they were thrilled for me. One of my sisters went to EVERY GYN & CF appointment with me during my pregnancy so she knew first hand if/when to worry.

My Mom did admit after my daughter was born when she, my husband & I sat down to work through this issue that in her mind each & every time I would have problems......she would blame the pregnancy. I told her that was not fair since CF is progressive & it probably would happen anyway, but that is how her mind works. I have a fabulous pregnancy. Felt & looked the best in years. I worked full time during it all & only had problems with hemotysis (not unusual for me) at the end.

I thank god for my siblings & my husband. It was very upsetting not having my Mom by my side while I was enjoying all the aspect of motherhood etc.

I will also say that my Mom came around & although we had our differences I am so glad she is a part of my life with my hubby & daughter. I am fortunate to have a good family because when I am sick or having real problems I need their help. My husband is terrific, but he is one man who I dont want to have to handle it all.

Maybe this got off topic slightly, but there is one more thing I want to mention. I didnt think of this at the time. When we found out I was pregnant my main concern was if my hubby could handle being a single parent should the time come. It NEVER dawned on me the toll that it might take on our child watching me get sicker & sicker, go in & out of the hospital and for her to always worry.

Now granted every child is different, but for us this is one aspect of parenthood & CF that is emotional torture & we kind of fumble our way through.

So even tho the ultimate decision is between your & your husband....at some point you will need the extra support so to say it doesnt affect everyone else is not really true!

Sorry for such a long response. It just brought back a lot of memories!

HUGS

EDITED TO ADD:

When our daughtet was about 2 my CF doctor asked if we thought we would have anymore. I was shocked & said no way. We are fortunate to have a healthy daughter blah blah blah. THen she said well usually Moms start getting the urge for another around this time so if you want another lets not wait until your health goes down hill. After that I tortured myself wondering if we should....

THEN my daughter got sick. I had already been sick enough to quit work so I wasnt up to par when trying to care for her. That is when I realized I couldnt handle another baby. WHen my daughter was a baby & had bronchitis it was rough, but we made it through it.

I no longer had that ability & recognized one night laying with her as we both felt like crap......

Sometimes its black & white. I still have the "urge" to have another, but I wouldnt unless my CF disappeared LOL!

JazzysMom · Oct 18, 2008

Boy can I relate!
 
 My Mom & I were at odds during most of my pregnancy over this. We didnt speak for most of the time & my daugher was 1 month old before my Mom saw her. She wouldnt speak to the doctors (CF, GYN or otherwise) because in her head it was a stupid idea. She had me dead, buried & her having to raise my baby. Now granted my Mom is a bit emotional at times so her feelings might have been over the top compared to others....
 
 Everyone else? All my bros/sisters/friends all asked what the doctors say. Once I told them they were thrilled for me. One of my sisters went to EVERY GYN & CF appointment with me during my pregnancy so she knew first hand if/when to worry.
 
 My Mom did admit after my daughter was born when she, my husband & I sat down to work through this issue that in her mind each & every time I would have problems......she would blame the pregnancy. I told her that was not fair since CF is progressive & it probably would happen anyway, but that is how her mind works. I have a fabulous pregnancy. Felt & looked the best in years. I worked full time during it all & only had problems with hemotysis (not unusual for me) at the end.
 
 I thank god for my siblings & my husband. It was very upsetting not having my Mom by my side while I was enjoying all the aspect of motherhood etc.
 
 I will also say that my Mom came around & although we had our differences I am so glad she is a part of my life with my hubby & daughter. I am fortunate to have a good family because when I am sick or having real problems I need their help. My husband is terrific, but he is one man who I dont want to have to handle it all.
 
 Maybe this got off topic slightly, but there is one more thing I want to mention. I didnt think of this at the time. When we found out I was pregnant my main concern was if my hubby could handle being a single parent should the time come. It NEVER dawned on me the toll that it might take on our child watching me get sicker & sicker, go in & out of the hospital and for her to always worry.
 
 Now granted every child is different, but for us this is one aspect of parenthood & CF that is emotional torture & we kind of fumble our way through.
 
 So even tho the ultimate decision is between your & your husband....at some point you will need the extra support so to say it doesnt affect everyone else is not really true!
 
 Sorry for such a long response. It just brought back a lot of memories!
 
 HUGS
 
 EDITED TO ADD:
 
 When our daughtet was about 2 my CF doctor asked if we thought we would have anymore. I was shocked & said no way. We are fortunate to have a healthy daughter blah blah blah. THen she said well usually Moms start getting the urge for another around this time so if you want another lets not wait until your health goes down hill. After that I tortured myself wondering if we should....
 
 THEN my daughter got sick. I had already been sick enough to quit work so I wasnt up to par when trying to care for her. That is when I realized I couldnt handle another baby. WHen my daughter was a baby & had bronchitis it was rough, but we made it through it.
 
 I no longer had that ability & recognized one night laying with her as we both felt like crap......
 
 Sometimes its black & white. I still have the "urge" to have another, but I wouldnt unless my CF disappeared LOL!

littlemisskris16 · Oct 18, 2008

Thank You Anne and Melissa for sharing that with me.

I know some family members think what I mentioned, others say it behind our backs, and than those who have no problem blurting it out. ( or what will you do if you need antibotics, you cant even take an advil, Meanwhile they smoked during thier pregnancy).

I have told our parents ( not so much my mom, she is a nurse and has been to my appts with me, asking about babies)they can come with us to appts, they can look it up online, something to ease the concern. They all like to think it is out of the question, selfish and silly. I guess it just hurts my feelings. My husband thinks more along the lines of, it is OUR life, OUR child, we do what we can do.

I should have known, planning our wedding was opinion central. Babies.. forget it! lol!

Kris
31NYer with CF/rD

littlemisskris16 · Oct 18, 2008

Thank You Anne and Melissa for sharing that with me.

I know some family members think what I mentioned, others say it behind our backs, and than those who have no problem blurting it out. ( or what will you do if you need antibotics, you cant even take an advil, Meanwhile they smoked during thier pregnancy).

I have told our parents ( not so much my mom, she is a nurse and has been to my appts with me, asking about babies)they can come with us to appts, they can look it up online, something to ease the concern. They all like to think it is out of the question, selfish and silly. I guess it just hurts my feelings. My husband thinks more along the lines of, it is OUR life, OUR child, we do what we can do.

I should have known, planning our wedding was opinion central. Babies.. forget it! lol!

Kris
31NYer with CF/rD

littlemisskris16 · Oct 18, 2008

Thank You Anne and Melissa for sharing that with me.

I know some family members think what I mentioned, others say it behind our backs, and than those who have no problem blurting it out. ( or what will you do if you need antibotics, you cant even take an advil, Meanwhile they smoked during thier pregnancy).

I have told our parents ( not so much my mom, she is a nurse and has been to my appts with me, asking about babies)they can come with us to appts, they can look it up online, something to ease the concern. They all like to think it is out of the question, selfish and silly. I guess it just hurts my feelings. My husband thinks more along the lines of, it is OUR life, OUR child, we do what we can do.

I should have known, planning our wedding was opinion central. Babies.. forget it! lol!

Kris
31NYer with CF/rD

littlemisskris16 · Oct 18, 2008

Thank You Anne and Melissa for sharing that with me.

I know some family members think what I mentioned, others say it behind our backs, and than those who have no problem blurting it out. ( or what will you do if you need antibotics, you cant even take an advil, Meanwhile they smoked during thier pregnancy).

I have told our parents ( not so much my mom, she is a nurse and has been to my appts with me, asking about babies)they can come with us to appts, they can look it up online, something to ease the concern. They all like to think it is out of the question, selfish and silly. I guess it just hurts my feelings. My husband thinks more along the lines of, it is OUR life, OUR child, we do what we can do.

I should have known, planning our wedding was opinion central. Babies.. forget it! lol!

Kris
31NYer with CF/rD

littlemisskris16 · Oct 18, 2008

Thank You Anne and Melissa for sharing that with me.
 
 I know some family members think what I mentioned, others say it behind our backs, and than those who have no problem blurting it out. ( or what will you do if you need antibotics, you cant even take an advil, Meanwhile they smoked during thier pregnancy).
 
 I have told our parents ( not so much my mom, she is a nurse and has been to my appts with me, asking about babies)they can come with us to appts, they can look it up online, something to ease the concern. They all like to think it is out of the question, selfish and silly. I guess it just hurts my feelings. My husband thinks more along the lines of, it is OUR life, OUR child, we do what we can do.
 
 I should have known, planning our wedding was opinion central. Babies.. forget it! lol!
 
 Kris
 31NYer with CF/rD

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