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Like a few other moms I will be done soon due to age. My CF is "atypical" but since I am symptomatic and getting older my husband and I decided that forty years old is the limit for us to try to conceive.
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When to say "I am done"
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Like a few other moms I will be done soon due to age. My CF is "atypical" but since I am symptomatic and getting older my husband and I decided that forty years old is the limit for us to try to conceive.
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hopesiris
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Like a few other moms I will be done soon due to age. My CF is "atypical" but since I am symptomatic and getting older my husband and I decided that forty years old is the limit for us to try to conceive.
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hopesiris
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Like a few other moms I will be done soon due to age. My CF is "atypical" but since I am symptomatic and getting older my husband and I decided that forty years old is the limit for us to try to conceive.
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hopesiris
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Like a few other moms I will be done soon due to age. My CF is "atypical" but since I am symptomatic and getting older my husband and I decided that forty years old is the limit for us to try to conceive.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote></div>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote>
This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>mom2lillian</b></i>
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<br />Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote>
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<br />This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
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<br /> I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
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<br />Yes, I do struggle with this. I have decided that since my husband will be bearing the burden financially when I am unable to work and in the event of my death caring for our child(ren) I should defer to his judgement.</end quote>
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<br />This is what ultimately made me concentrate on being happy about being blessed with our "one". We did go through a time of being sad about our decision, but we were also in agreement, so we grieved together and came through it just fine.
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<br /> I do feel bad sometimes that she doesn't have a sibling, but I also think that she would like to have her mom around as long as possible too, and the first 6 months of sleepless nights were very rough on me healthwise. Also, it is pretty much a moot point now, since I will be 39 next month <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
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I always ever wanted 3-4 kids. My husband was happy with 2. I really really wanted at least one more-- and to try for a girl. We got her-- 4 months in NICU with MI, 4 surgeries, the diagnosis of CF, and then, the diagnosis that our son had it too. Had we known-- we would have stopped at 2. No doubt. You may think more is better, but you may not know what you missed. It's too soon to know if my determination to have 3 and not stop at 2 was a good decision. For now, it has been a disaster. It's a bad thing when you look at your baby and all you can think is "disaster." We have been through so much pain, worry and heartbreak in the last 6 months, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Maybe, maybe, maybe, in the end, it was for the best and she will be the light of our lives and be such an amazing person and so happy to be alive, not cursing us for having CF. Maybe. For now, I wish I had stopped at 2. Stopping but still wanting more is sometimes the best thing. You may not know what you are missing.
I always ever wanted 3-4 kids. My husband was happy with 2. I really really wanted at least one more-- and to try for a girl. We got her-- 4 months in NICU with MI, 4 surgeries, the diagnosis of CF, and then, the diagnosis that our son had it too. Had we known-- we would have stopped at 2. No doubt. You may think more is better, but you may not know what you missed. It's too soon to know if my determination to have 3 and not stop at 2 was a good decision. For now, it has been a disaster. It's a bad thing when you look at your baby and all you can think is "disaster." We have been through so much pain, worry and heartbreak in the last 6 months, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Maybe, maybe, maybe, in the end, it was for the best and she will be the light of our lives and be such an amazing person and so happy to be alive, not cursing us for having CF. Maybe. For now, I wish I had stopped at 2. Stopping but still wanting more is sometimes the best thing. You may not know what you are missing.
I always ever wanted 3-4 kids. My husband was happy with 2. I really really wanted at least one more-- and to try for a girl. We got her-- 4 months in NICU with MI, 4 surgeries, the diagnosis of CF, and then, the diagnosis that our son had it too. Had we known-- we would have stopped at 2. No doubt. You may think more is better, but you may not know what you missed. It's too soon to know if my determination to have 3 and not stop at 2 was a good decision. For now, it has been a disaster. It's a bad thing when you look at your baby and all you can think is "disaster." We have been through so much pain, worry and heartbreak in the last 6 months, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Maybe, maybe, maybe, in the end, it was for the best and she will be the light of our lives and be such an amazing person and so happy to be alive, not cursing us for having CF. Maybe. For now, I wish I had stopped at 2. Stopping but still wanting more is sometimes the best thing. You may not know what you are missing.
I always ever wanted 3-4 kids. My husband was happy with 2. I really really wanted at least one more-- and to try for a girl. We got her-- 4 months in NICU with MI, 4 surgeries, the diagnosis of CF, and then, the diagnosis that our son had it too. Had we known-- we would have stopped at 2. No doubt. You may think more is better, but you may not know what you missed. It's too soon to know if my determination to have 3 and not stop at 2 was a good decision. For now, it has been a disaster. It's a bad thing when you look at your baby and all you can think is "disaster." We have been through so much pain, worry and heartbreak in the last 6 months, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Maybe, maybe, maybe, in the end, it was for the best and she will be the light of our lives and be such an amazing person and so happy to be alive, not cursing us for having CF. Maybe. For now, I wish I had stopped at 2. Stopping but still wanting more is sometimes the best thing. You may not know what you are missing.
I always ever wanted 3-4 kids. My husband was happy with 2. I really really wanted at least one more-- and to try for a girl. We got her-- 4 months in NICU with MI, 4 surgeries, the diagnosis of CF, and then, the diagnosis that our son had it too. Had we known-- we would have stopped at 2. No doubt. You may think more is better, but you may not know what you missed. It's too soon to know if my determination to have 3 and not stop at 2 was a good decision. For now, it has been a disaster. It's a bad thing when you look at your baby and all you can think is "disaster." We have been through so much pain, worry and heartbreak in the last 6 months, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Maybe, maybe, maybe, in the end, it was for the best and she will be the light of our lives and be such an amazing person and so happy to be alive, not cursing us for having CF. Maybe. For now, I wish I had stopped at 2. Stopping but still wanting more is sometimes the best thing. You may not know what you are missing.