When to tell someone you have CF especially when you are DATING them

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Iamqueenofeverything

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I always have a problem of telling important friends of mine when I have CF. i know if i tell them upfront then it is a test to see if they accept me upfront or push me away.

My main problem is telling someone who i am dating about my health issues. if i tell them upfront then some guys back off. i am also afraid that if i am not upfront too quickly then the guy would be upset and say to me that i should have told him upfront?

I need some ideals on when to tell someone because i am starting to date him

Also, how much do you tell someone about CF?
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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I always have a problem of telling important friends of mine when I have CF. i know if i tell them upfront then it is a test to see if they accept me upfront or push me away.

My main problem is telling someone who i am dating about my health issues. if i tell them upfront then some guys back off. i am also afraid that if i am not upfront too quickly then the guy would be upset and say to me that i should have told him upfront?

I need some ideals on when to tell someone because i am starting to date him

Also, how much do you tell someone about CF?
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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I always have a problem of telling important friends of mine when I have CF. i know if i tell them upfront then it is a test to see if they accept me upfront or push me away.
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<br />My main problem is telling someone who i am dating about my health issues. if i tell them upfront then some guys back off. i am also afraid that if i am not upfront too quickly then the guy would be upset and say to me that i should have told him upfront?
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<br />I need some ideals on when to tell someone because i am starting to date him
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<br />Also, how much do you tell someone about CF?
 
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Proxy

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I think this is different for everyone to when they feel like they want to share that information, but i think ont he 2nd or 3rd date would be appropriate, if he makes a big deal and backs off hes not the kind of guy youd want around I dont think.
For myself I have a distinct cough and if anyone asks me about it I just tell them I have CF, this goes the same for men I date, if they inquire then I share.
And as for how much to tell about C.F I think if your friend or potential boyfriend really cares for you he will ask questions and want to become informed about it, even do his own research.
I wish you luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Proxy

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I think this is different for everyone to when they feel like they want to share that information, but i think ont he 2nd or 3rd date would be appropriate, if he makes a big deal and backs off hes not the kind of guy youd want around I dont think.
For myself I have a distinct cough and if anyone asks me about it I just tell them I have CF, this goes the same for men I date, if they inquire then I share.
And as for how much to tell about C.F I think if your friend or potential boyfriend really cares for you he will ask questions and want to become informed about it, even do his own research.
I wish you luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Proxy

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I think this is different for everyone to when they feel like they want to share that information, but i think ont he 2nd or 3rd date would be appropriate, if he makes a big deal and backs off hes not the kind of guy youd want around I dont think.
<br />For myself I have a distinct cough and if anyone asks me about it I just tell them I have CF, this goes the same for men I date, if they inquire then I share.
<br />And as for how much to tell about C.F I think if your friend or potential boyfriend really cares for you he will ask questions and want to become informed about it, even do his own research.
<br />I wish you luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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shortie30

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I am not a cf patient but married one. Bj my husband told me the second date after I asked why he was coughing so much. I am glad that he told me that early so that I was able to start doing research so that i was not scared.
 
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shortie30

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I am not a cf patient but married one. Bj my husband told me the second date after I asked why he was coughing so much. I am glad that he told me that early so that I was able to start doing research so that i was not scared.
 
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shortie30

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I am not a cf patient but married one. Bj my husband told me the second date after I asked why he was coughing so much. I am glad that he told me that early so that I was able to start doing research so that i was not scared.
 
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BethanyAnne

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My boyfriend actually found out the first day I met him from a friend of mine who told him behind my back...ya, were not friends anymore (not because of that but for other reasons, but that was pretty weird that she did that i think) HOWEVER, it turned out that he wanted to know more about it right away...he didn't care that i had a disease and it was something he wanted to take on with me. i think you'll get a feel for someone right away (CF or not) and you'll be able to tell if they genuinely want to stick around for the long hall or if they just can't. honestly, it's okay if they can't handle CF because i think it takes a special person to do so...if he can't handle it, then let him go and i'm sure you will find someone who will - or they may find you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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BethanyAnne

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My boyfriend actually found out the first day I met him from a friend of mine who told him behind my back...ya, were not friends anymore (not because of that but for other reasons, but that was pretty weird that she did that i think) HOWEVER, it turned out that he wanted to know more about it right away...he didn't care that i had a disease and it was something he wanted to take on with me. i think you'll get a feel for someone right away (CF or not) and you'll be able to tell if they genuinely want to stick around for the long hall or if they just can't. honestly, it's okay if they can't handle CF because i think it takes a special person to do so...if he can't handle it, then let him go and i'm sure you will find someone who will - or they may find you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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BethanyAnne

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My boyfriend actually found out the first day I met him from a friend of mine who told him behind my back...ya, were not friends anymore (not because of that but for other reasons, but that was pretty weird that she did that i think) HOWEVER, it turned out that he wanted to know more about it right away...he didn't care that i had a disease and it was something he wanted to take on with me. i think you'll get a feel for someone right away (CF or not) and you'll be able to tell if they genuinely want to stick around for the long hall or if they just can't. honestly, it's okay if they can't handle CF because i think it takes a special person to do so...if he can't handle it, then let him go and i'm sure you will find someone who will - or they may find you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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Thanks for sharing! I always get nervous sharing about CF bc of the fear of rejection and not being accepted.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
I did tell this guy last night about my CF. He seemed to be very accepting of CF. We had our 3rd date last night. I told him within the first hour of the date. We ended up going to the Main Event after dinner and spent 2 or 3 hours there. this made me happy bc he seemed at ease with my disease and he spent time with me after i told him. if he was uneasy with it then he could have not spent so much time with me after <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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Thanks for sharing! I always get nervous sharing about CF bc of the fear of rejection and not being accepted.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
I did tell this guy last night about my CF. He seemed to be very accepting of CF. We had our 3rd date last night. I told him within the first hour of the date. We ended up going to the Main Event after dinner and spent 2 or 3 hours there. this made me happy bc he seemed at ease with my disease and he spent time with me after i told him. if he was uneasy with it then he could have not spent so much time with me after <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Iamqueenofeverything

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Thanks for sharing! I always get nervous sharing about CF bc of the fear of rejection and not being accepted.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
<br />I did tell this guy last night about my CF. He seemed to be very accepting of CF. We had our 3rd date last night. I told him within the first hour of the date. We ended up going to the Main Event after dinner and spent 2 or 3 hours there. this made me happy bc he seemed at ease with my disease and he spent time with me after i told him. if he was uneasy with it then he could have not spent so much time with me after <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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MikeInMT

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I have tried both ways, telling upfront, or waiting till I have to go in for a tune-up.. The later is the hardest on the person I dating. Its hard to get them to understand its normal for me to go in for a tune-up. My most recent ex I told up front. Her mom it turned out is a EMT, and did lots of research for her and my ex. She knew what she was getting into, and it did not stop her. but for differences in lifestyles we decided it be best to not be dating. We were together 6 wonderful months, and remain close friends. But I guess what I am getting at is you gotta decide for yourself if you want to tell up front or hide it for awhile. The problem with hiding is, is you could become attached to the person you dating, and you tell him down the road, and it scares him and he breaks it off. This will be a huge heart break on your part. I have had a few of these happen to myself. I wish you the best!
Michael
 
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MikeInMT

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I have tried both ways, telling upfront, or waiting till I have to go in for a tune-up.. The later is the hardest on the person I dating. Its hard to get them to understand its normal for me to go in for a tune-up. My most recent ex I told up front. Her mom it turned out is a EMT, and did lots of research for her and my ex. She knew what she was getting into, and it did not stop her. but for differences in lifestyles we decided it be best to not be dating. We were together 6 wonderful months, and remain close friends. But I guess what I am getting at is you gotta decide for yourself if you want to tell up front or hide it for awhile. The problem with hiding is, is you could become attached to the person you dating, and you tell him down the road, and it scares him and he breaks it off. This will be a huge heart break on your part. I have had a few of these happen to myself. I wish you the best!
Michael
 
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