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A CF comment towards me....
- Thread starter Kelli
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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kybert</b></i>
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kybert</b></i>
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kybert</b></i>
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
being 8 isnt an excuse. i dont know any 8 year olds who would say something like that. she knows exactly what she is doing!</end quote></div>
My daughter is 8 and if she was to say something like that she would know damn well what she was saying. BUT I have raised her to treat people with actions & words like she wishes to be treated. Especially when dealing with someone that has a disability. I am not saying that this child doesnt need help in handling whatever makes her feel she has the right to say things, but ultimately she is old enough to know its hurtful.
littledebbie
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I haven't read ALL the posts so I apologize if I'm repeating. _what a little snot rag!_ I do not give a fig she's 8. And I hold her Mom just as responsible...how can she NOT deal with her on the spot when she hears her say stuff like that!?! It's crap no matter who shes talking to and no matter what her deep screwed up feelings are about death. And you are a person with feelings too. I think the next time she said that to me I'd ask her Mom if she was going to deal with this or am I? Because it needs to be dealt with! And I am an aunt too and yes, I would come down like the preverbial rain on a parade if my neice or one of my nephews said that to me.
littledebbie
New member
I haven't read ALL the posts so I apologize if I'm repeating. _what a little snot rag!_ I do not give a fig she's 8. And I hold her Mom just as responsible...how can she NOT deal with her on the spot when she hears her say stuff like that!?! It's crap no matter who shes talking to and no matter what her deep screwed up feelings are about death. And you are a person with feelings too. I think the next time she said that to me I'd ask her Mom if she was going to deal with this or am I? Because it needs to be dealt with! And I am an aunt too and yes, I would come down like the preverbial rain on a parade if my neice or one of my nephews said that to me.
littledebbie
New member
I haven't read ALL the posts so I apologize if I'm repeating. _what a little snot rag!_ I do not give a fig she's 8. And I hold her Mom just as responsible...how can she NOT deal with her on the spot when she hears her say stuff like that!?! It's crap no matter who shes talking to and no matter what her deep screwed up feelings are about death. And you are a person with feelings too. I think the next time she said that to me I'd ask her Mom if she was going to deal with this or am I? Because it needs to be dealt with! And I am an aunt too and yes, I would come down like the preverbial rain on a parade if my neice or one of my nephews said that to me.
Sounds like something my 3-year-old would say when he's crabby and out of sorts. Hurtful comments like that are addressed immediately. She's purposely being hurtful. In my head I'd be thinking some snotty comeback and be tempted give her a taste of her own medicine. See how SHE'D like to hear something like that, but then I guess I'd have to remind myself "whose the adult here".
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
Sounds like something my 3-year-old would say when he's crabby and out of sorts. Hurtful comments like that are addressed immediately. She's purposely being hurtful. In my head I'd be thinking some snotty comeback and be tempted give her a taste of her own medicine. See how SHE'D like to hear something like that, but then I guess I'd have to remind myself "whose the adult here".
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
Sounds like something my 3-year-old would say when he's crabby and out of sorts. Hurtful comments like that are addressed immediately. She's purposely being hurtful. In my head I'd be thinking some snotty comeback and be tempted give her a taste of her own medicine. See how SHE'D like to hear something like that, but then I guess I'd have to remind myself "whose the adult here".
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
IMO, I'd mention it to your sister, if she's not already aware of it. Was she around when your niece said it? Otherwise, next time it happens, I'd address it asap. Tell her that her comment was very hurtful and until she can be nice, indicate you won't take her places, etc.
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65rosessamurai
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I logged on just to add my two yen to this...
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
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65rosessamurai
Guest
I logged on just to add my two yen to this...
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
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65rosessamurai
Guest
I logged on just to add my two yen to this...
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
As a person who has experienced hearing such things from an adult, I had to learn to express my feelings to the person who would say such a thing.
An eight year old is no exception, they usually know what they are saying is hurtful, but some don't seem aware of the effect to their words. I would first ask her why she says such a terrible thing, adding the fact that it hurts you to hear it.
If she thinks that CF has a certain lifespan, which she calculates that you are near the age she thinks is "the end", then correcting her in the theory that as long as you take care of yourself, your life is indefinite. Though talking with her mom, to express that you will not accept such behavior (if saying that same phrase to the eight year old doesn't work), and would like to see her mother correct it, seems like another suggestion for it to stop.
I guess having a "come to Jesus talk" with an eight year old would be hard for her to comprehend? (My sister often used that phrase when we had to have a serious discussion with my parents, so I thought it was cute to throw in there.)
I live with my MIL, and she says some pretty nasty stuff, but I can't have any "come to Jesus" type talks, cause she'll just forget it ever happened after an hour or less! (Even if it was a "Come to Buddha" talk, she'd still forget!)
Hope you find a method to handle the situation, nobody likes to hear such crude things, especially from a child who knows better!
Sounds to me like this kid needs a good ol' fashioned hide-tanning. Repeatedly. She's 8, not 2. She knows exactly what she's saying, and if it were me, I'd wash her mouth out with a bar of Dial and see how she feels after that. That is totally inexcusable, and Kelli, you should not have to deal with it. Someone needs to straighten her out real fast before she grows up with that foul mouth.
Sounds to me like this kid needs a good ol' fashioned hide-tanning. Repeatedly. She's 8, not 2. She knows exactly what she's saying, and if it were me, I'd wash her mouth out with a bar of Dial and see how she feels after that. That is totally inexcusable, and Kelli, you should not have to deal with it. Someone needs to straighten her out real fast before she grows up with that foul mouth.