Am I the only one?

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jeepgirl

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Being very new to all of this, please dont start throwing tomatoes at me, just yet!

From what I've seen and experienced, no matter what the disease.... people at some stage will blame someone. It is a part of the healing process.
As to the choice of life, well in MY opinion, I believe strongly it comes down to that individual and only they know their exact circumstances. If that is what they wish and many people may not agree, it is still their decision.

I dont wish to walk in anyone's shoes then my own.....I've accepted myself (finally) after many years battling with the likes of wanting to be on the 'other side of the fence', because we always see it as greener.
I think you are all remarkable and fill some very big shoes!
 
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CollinsMom

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My son is 3 years old w/CF We go to church every Sunday. He loves church. We never blamed God b/c God has a reason for everything good and bad that he allows in your life. God will protect and provide for his believers and followers. I have stuggled with depression and someone told me that depression is a selfish thing b/c you are feeling sorry for your self. With the Lords help I brought myself out.
I also will not allow Collin to let his illness stop him from doing what he needs to do. He goes to church when he can and when he is sick he stays home. I hope this helps. Collins Mom
 
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anonymous

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To the last poster, I too am a Christian and I know my religion has helped me deal with my son's diagnosis. However, I am apalled at your attitude towards depression. It can be selfish, to a certain extent, to feel sorry for yourself, but it completly normal and every one does it-even the most devout Christian. To make a blanket assumption of depression is ignorant. Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, trauma, severe stress, diseases, etc... The "blues" can often be dealt with through counseling, spirituality, and so on. But serious depression needs much more than that and it is definitly not selfish. I went to church, support groups, counseling and more, it helped a little but it wasn't until I started taking antidepressants that I began to feel normal again. Getting treatment was one of the most unselfish things I ever did. I am now a much better mother and have more to offer to my son.
 
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Emily65Roses

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I have pretty much the same response as the last anonymous poster. I'm not religious at all, but like you said, the only thing that offended me about that post was the attitude towards depression. Yes, feeling sorry for yourself can be selfish, but <i>everyone</i> does it sometimes. And depression is (when it's truly clinical depression) caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Last time I checked, having the wrong chemicals wasn't a choice, and wasn't selfish. In my opinion, I'm a far less selfish person for sucking it up and taking my anti-depressants. Because if I don't I turn into a real witch and a crying goopy mess that drives both family and friends (and Mike) nuts. So instead of fighting the selfish depression, I accept it, take my meds, and I'm a better person for it.
 
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anonymous

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I have to chip in here. I used to go to a church that stated that if you were depressed it was because of your spiritual life not being right, which is SO NOT TRUE. Like others have recently posted, sometimes you can get a chemical imbalance & in my opinion no amt of spirituality is going to get that back into balance. It takes some time and most often some meds to get things back into line & there is no shame in being/admitting that you are depressed.
 
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anonymous

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I blamed God until I became an atheist and decided there was no God to blame. This seems very negative and nihlistic in terms of the role CF plays in this conclusion, but I feel that I've researched things enough to feel confident about my position. I won't waste the board space with "negativity" because I am happy that it is such a positive place for CFers to come to. If you want to know more about my religious views and how they relate to CF, you can e-mail me at cooney4@tcnj.edu
 
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Emily65Roses

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Athiesm, no matter what people think, does not automatically mean negativity. It doesn't for me either. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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Mockingbird

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It was a joke... You know, blame the French, 'cause no one likes them anyway. =-) I'm not sure who originally started that, though.
 
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anonymous

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From the anonymous atheist:

Thanks, Emily. It's great o know that there are people, who, while they don't agree with atheism, can respect that it isn't what stereotypes suggest. On a side note...I absolutely love the name Emily.
 
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Emily65Roses

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Well I myself am an athiest as well (or maybe agnostic... but I'm certainly not religious). But thanks. Emily's too common for me, haha. But I like it fine. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 
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