attending a CFers

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Skye

New member
I don't know how to do this. I know it sounds odd; but, I don't know if I can go. This was a young woman in the community who my husband and I had worked with on some fundraising events. I know we need to go...my husband needs to go. I just really don't know how to emotionally. I've never been to a fellow CFers funeral. Never. Are there precautions that need to be considered? There may be other CFers there....I don't have a clue. If we sit in the back of the church is that OK should other CFers attend? It will probably be a mid-size Catholic Church. How do you get through it emotionally and should we donate to the CFF in her name?

Thank you for any help.
 
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Skye

New member
I don't know how to do this. I know it sounds odd; but, I don't know if I can go. This was a young woman in the community who my husband and I had worked with on some fundraising events. I know we need to go...my husband needs to go. I just really don't know how to emotionally. I've never been to a fellow CFers funeral. Never. Are there precautions that need to be considered? There may be other CFers there....I don't have a clue. If we sit in the back of the church is that OK should other CFers attend? It will probably be a mid-size Catholic Church. How do you get through it emotionally and should we donate to the CFF in her name?

Thank you for any help.
 
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Skye

New member
I don't know how to do this. I know it sounds odd; but, I don't know if I can go. This was a young woman in the community who my husband and I had worked with on some fundraising events. I know we need to go...my husband needs to go. I just really don't know how to emotionally. I've never been to a fellow CFers funeral. Never. Are there precautions that need to be considered? There may be other CFers there....I don't have a clue. If we sit in the back of the church is that OK should other CFers attend? It will probably be a mid-size Catholic Church. How do you get through it emotionally and should we donate to the CFF in her name?

Thank you for any help.
 
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Skye

New member
I don't know how to do this. I know it sounds odd; but, I don't know if I can go. This was a young woman in the community who my husband and I had worked with on some fundraising events. I know we need to go...my husband needs to go. I just really don't know how to emotionally. I've never been to a fellow CFers funeral. Never. Are there precautions that need to be considered? There may be other CFers there....I don't have a clue. If we sit in the back of the church is that OK should other CFers attend? It will probably be a mid-size Catholic Church. How do you get through it emotionally and should we donate to the CFF in her name?

Thank you for any help.
 
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Skye

New member
I don't know how to do this. I know it sounds odd; but, I don't know if I can go. This was a young woman in the community who my husband and I had worked with on some fundraising events. I know we need to go...my husband needs to go. I just really don't know how to emotionally. I've never been to a fellow CFers funeral. Never. Are there precautions that need to be considered? There may be other CFers there....I don't have a clue. If we sit in the back of the church is that OK should other CFers attend? It will probably be a mid-size Catholic Church. How do you get through it emotionally and should we donate to the CFF in her name?
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<br />Thank you for any help.
 
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MCGrad2006

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I know how hard this decision can be. I have been to two CFer's funerals and it/they were the hardest things I have almost ever had to do. The first one was for a long time family friend named Mary Kate. She passed away about 5 years ago and had grown up with my dad, (my Nana and Mary Kate's mom were close friends). There was pretty much no question whether I would go to that one...I had to go, emotionally and for the sake of our other close CF friends that were there. I did not take any precautions at all, probably because I was a lot more ignorant of the risks. I went out to eat and sat at a table with a fellow CFer...thats how ignorant (or just rebellious out of grief) I was.

The second funeral I went to was for Kay, three years ago. I had a hard time deciding whether to go or not. I knew the risks and my parents were NOT supportive of my decision to go...but again I HAD to go emotionally, I needed to say good-bye. I decided to go because Kay was the same age as me and we were very close (over the internet of course). I think there was less chance of other CFer's being at her funeral, simply based on what I knew of her. Again, I didnt take any precautions.

These two funerals were so difficult for me emotionally, but I am glad that I had the chance to say goodbye. If I could go back, I would still go to them. I don't know, I guess its hard to explain, you have all these emotions balled up inside and you want to let them out. I think that the funerals were a way for me to heal as well as show my support.
 
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MCGrad2006

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I know how hard this decision can be. I have been to two CFer's funerals and it/they were the hardest things I have almost ever had to do. The first one was for a long time family friend named Mary Kate. She passed away about 5 years ago and had grown up with my dad, (my Nana and Mary Kate's mom were close friends). There was pretty much no question whether I would go to that one...I had to go, emotionally and for the sake of our other close CF friends that were there. I did not take any precautions at all, probably because I was a lot more ignorant of the risks. I went out to eat and sat at a table with a fellow CFer...thats how ignorant (or just rebellious out of grief) I was.

The second funeral I went to was for Kay, three years ago. I had a hard time deciding whether to go or not. I knew the risks and my parents were NOT supportive of my decision to go...but again I HAD to go emotionally, I needed to say good-bye. I decided to go because Kay was the same age as me and we were very close (over the internet of course). I think there was less chance of other CFer's being at her funeral, simply based on what I knew of her. Again, I didnt take any precautions.

These two funerals were so difficult for me emotionally, but I am glad that I had the chance to say goodbye. If I could go back, I would still go to them. I don't know, I guess its hard to explain, you have all these emotions balled up inside and you want to let them out. I think that the funerals were a way for me to heal as well as show my support.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

I know how hard this decision can be. I have been to two CFer's funerals and it/they were the hardest things I have almost ever had to do. The first one was for a long time family friend named Mary Kate. She passed away about 5 years ago and had grown up with my dad, (my Nana and Mary Kate's mom were close friends). There was pretty much no question whether I would go to that one...I had to go, emotionally and for the sake of our other close CF friends that were there. I did not take any precautions at all, probably because I was a lot more ignorant of the risks. I went out to eat and sat at a table with a fellow CFer...thats how ignorant (or just rebellious out of grief) I was.

The second funeral I went to was for Kay, three years ago. I had a hard time deciding whether to go or not. I knew the risks and my parents were NOT supportive of my decision to go...but again I HAD to go emotionally, I needed to say good-bye. I decided to go because Kay was the same age as me and we were very close (over the internet of course). I think there was less chance of other CFer's being at her funeral, simply based on what I knew of her. Again, I didnt take any precautions.

These two funerals were so difficult for me emotionally, but I am glad that I had the chance to say goodbye. If I could go back, I would still go to them. I don't know, I guess its hard to explain, you have all these emotions balled up inside and you want to let them out. I think that the funerals were a way for me to heal as well as show my support.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

I know how hard this decision can be. I have been to two CFer's funerals and it/they were the hardest things I have almost ever had to do. The first one was for a long time family friend named Mary Kate. She passed away about 5 years ago and had grown up with my dad, (my Nana and Mary Kate's mom were close friends). There was pretty much no question whether I would go to that one...I had to go, emotionally and for the sake of our other close CF friends that were there. I did not take any precautions at all, probably because I was a lot more ignorant of the risks. I went out to eat and sat at a table with a fellow CFer...thats how ignorant (or just rebellious out of grief) I was.

The second funeral I went to was for Kay, three years ago. I had a hard time deciding whether to go or not. I knew the risks and my parents were NOT supportive of my decision to go...but again I HAD to go emotionally, I needed to say good-bye. I decided to go because Kay was the same age as me and we were very close (over the internet of course). I think there was less chance of other CFer's being at her funeral, simply based on what I knew of her. Again, I didnt take any precautions.

These two funerals were so difficult for me emotionally, but I am glad that I had the chance to say goodbye. If I could go back, I would still go to them. I don't know, I guess its hard to explain, you have all these emotions balled up inside and you want to let them out. I think that the funerals were a way for me to heal as well as show my support.
 
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MCGrad2006

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<br />I know how hard this decision can be. I have been to two CFer's funerals and it/they were the hardest things I have almost ever had to do. The first one was for a long time family friend named Mary Kate. She passed away about 5 years ago and had grown up with my dad, (my Nana and Mary Kate's mom were close friends). There was pretty much no question whether I would go to that one...I had to go, emotionally and for the sake of our other close CF friends that were there. I did not take any precautions at all, probably because I was a lot more ignorant of the risks. I went out to eat and sat at a table with a fellow CFer...thats how ignorant (or just rebellious out of grief) I was.
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<br />The second funeral I went to was for Kay, three years ago. I had a hard time deciding whether to go or not. I knew the risks and my parents were NOT supportive of my decision to go...but again I HAD to go emotionally, I needed to say good-bye. I decided to go because Kay was the same age as me and we were very close (over the internet of course). I think there was less chance of other CFer's being at her funeral, simply based on what I knew of her. Again, I didnt take any precautions.
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<br />These two funerals were so difficult for me emotionally, but I am glad that I had the chance to say goodbye. If I could go back, I would still go to them. I don't know, I guess its hard to explain, you have all these emotions balled up inside and you want to let them out. I think that the funerals were a way for me to heal as well as show my support.
 
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Jeana

New member
Wouldn't it be neat if there was some kind of pin that we could wear that let other CFers know that we had CF when we went to a funeral, but that nonCFers would just think was a pin in support of that CFers life.

I've never been to a CFers funeral, but I feel that sometimes we need closure and a funeral helps with that. I wish you peace.
 
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Jeana

New member
Wouldn't it be neat if there was some kind of pin that we could wear that let other CFers know that we had CF when we went to a funeral, but that nonCFers would just think was a pin in support of that CFers life.

I've never been to a CFers funeral, but I feel that sometimes we need closure and a funeral helps with that. I wish you peace.
 
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Jeana

New member
Wouldn't it be neat if there was some kind of pin that we could wear that let other CFers know that we had CF when we went to a funeral, but that nonCFers would just think was a pin in support of that CFers life.

I've never been to a CFers funeral, but I feel that sometimes we need closure and a funeral helps with that. I wish you peace.
 
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Jeana

New member
Wouldn't it be neat if there was some kind of pin that we could wear that let other CFers know that we had CF when we went to a funeral, but that nonCFers would just think was a pin in support of that CFers life.

I've never been to a CFers funeral, but I feel that sometimes we need closure and a funeral helps with that. I wish you peace.
 
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Jeana

New member
Wouldn't it be neat if there was some kind of pin that we could wear that let other CFers know that we had CF when we went to a funeral, but that nonCFers would just think was a pin in support of that CFers life.
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<br />I've never been to a CFers funeral, but I feel that sometimes we need closure and a funeral helps with that. I wish you peace.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
I also think it really helped the deceased's families to see me there. After the mass I spoke with some of Kay's family and closer friends (non-CF) and we just held each other and they told me how much it would have meant to Kay that I was there. It made me feel so much better to know that they appreciated my being there.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
I also think it really helped the deceased's families to see me there. After the mass I spoke with some of Kay's family and closer friends (non-CF) and we just held each other and they told me how much it would have meant to Kay that I was there. It made me feel so much better to know that they appreciated my being there.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
I also think it really helped the deceased's families to see me there. After the mass I spoke with some of Kay's family and closer friends (non-CF) and we just held each other and they told me how much it would have meant to Kay that I was there. It made me feel so much better to know that they appreciated my being there.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
I also think it really helped the deceased's families to see me there. After the mass I spoke with some of Kay's family and closer friends (non-CF) and we just held each other and they told me how much it would have meant to Kay that I was there. It made me feel so much better to know that they appreciated my being there.
 
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MCGrad2006

Guest
I also think it really helped the deceased's families to see me there. After the mass I spoke with some of Kay's family and closer friends (non-CF) and we just held each other and they told me how much it would have meant to Kay that I was there. It made me feel so much better to know that they appreciated my being there.
 
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