Burial or Cremation?

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CowTown

New member
Hello,

JennifersHope's post on end of life stuff got me to finally figure out that I should ask this question here. I've never known how to decide on whether I want a burial or to be cremated, and I want to decide so it's clear in my own head. So I'd like to ask all of you your opinions on what you what for yourselves and WHY? Which one?

The closest I've gotten to making this decision was when my last dog (my best buddy for 11 years) passed away 3 years ago. I had to decide for her what would be best and damn that was tough!!! I decided to have her cremated and she's in a beautiful little wooden box here in my office where I spend most of time and will always take her with me when we continue to move different places. The thought of "burying" her in the ground just sent shivers down my spine...b/c where in the world would I "leave" her is how it seemed. She would be all alone and wonder where I was. Having her cremated was just as difficult to think about b/c you're burning their bodies, and I didn't like that thought much at all either! Very visual and terrible. So when I think of myself....what in the world would I want? I have no idea, but I want to decide on something and feel good about it. Any insight to the two options would be awesome. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">


I know....nice way to start the day. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
 
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CowTown

New member
Hello,

JennifersHope's post on end of life stuff got me to finally figure out that I should ask this question here. I've never known how to decide on whether I want a burial or to be cremated, and I want to decide so it's clear in my own head. So I'd like to ask all of you your opinions on what you what for yourselves and WHY? Which one?

The closest I've gotten to making this decision was when my last dog (my best buddy for 11 years) passed away 3 years ago. I had to decide for her what would be best and damn that was tough!!! I decided to have her cremated and she's in a beautiful little wooden box here in my office where I spend most of time and will always take her with me when we continue to move different places. The thought of "burying" her in the ground just sent shivers down my spine...b/c where in the world would I "leave" her is how it seemed. She would be all alone and wonder where I was. Having her cremated was just as difficult to think about b/c you're burning their bodies, and I didn't like that thought much at all either! Very visual and terrible. So when I think of myself....what in the world would I want? I have no idea, but I want to decide on something and feel good about it. Any insight to the two options would be awesome. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">


I know....nice way to start the day. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
 
C

CowTown

New member
Hello,

JennifersHope's post on end of life stuff got me to finally figure out that I should ask this question here. I've never known how to decide on whether I want a burial or to be cremated, and I want to decide so it's clear in my own head. So I'd like to ask all of you your opinions on what you what for yourselves and WHY? Which one?

The closest I've gotten to making this decision was when my last dog (my best buddy for 11 years) passed away 3 years ago. I had to decide for her what would be best and damn that was tough!!! I decided to have her cremated and she's in a beautiful little wooden box here in my office where I spend most of time and will always take her with me when we continue to move different places. The thought of "burying" her in the ground just sent shivers down my spine...b/c where in the world would I "leave" her is how it seemed. She would be all alone and wonder where I was. Having her cremated was just as difficult to think about b/c you're burning their bodies, and I didn't like that thought much at all either! Very visual and terrible. So when I think of myself....what in the world would I want? I have no idea, but I want to decide on something and feel good about it. Any insight to the two options would be awesome. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">


I know....nice way to start the day. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0">
 
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JennifersHope

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I want to be cremated for sure.. I don't want to be put in a box where ppl come and look at me (open casket) they stare at you .. It is not my thing.....I also don't want my body in a box under the ground.. I hate bugs.. I hate dirt.. I hate the fact that I know my body is going to slowly disinergrate into nothing anyway.

Cremation is over in a few hours....then I want a huge party.. Celebration of my life that I lived and thanking God it is over and that I am not having to deal with any crap any more....I am sure ppl could tell really funny stories etc.... and I then want my ashes to be put by a bench or in the woods by my chuch... I don't want a grave mark or anything... Who cares who I was as long as God knows.. I am good with that...

I chose my church because that is where my life got totally changed and though we don't really have dead ppl's ashes hanging around there.. I would like to be there somehow.. maybe they could put my ashes in a brick or something...

Jennifer
 
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JennifersHope

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I want to be cremated for sure.. I don't want to be put in a box where ppl come and look at me (open casket) they stare at you .. It is not my thing.....I also don't want my body in a box under the ground.. I hate bugs.. I hate dirt.. I hate the fact that I know my body is going to slowly disinergrate into nothing anyway.

Cremation is over in a few hours....then I want a huge party.. Celebration of my life that I lived and thanking God it is over and that I am not having to deal with any crap any more....I am sure ppl could tell really funny stories etc.... and I then want my ashes to be put by a bench or in the woods by my chuch... I don't want a grave mark or anything... Who cares who I was as long as God knows.. I am good with that...

I chose my church because that is where my life got totally changed and though we don't really have dead ppl's ashes hanging around there.. I would like to be there somehow.. maybe they could put my ashes in a brick or something...

Jennifer
 
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JennifersHope

New member
I want to be cremated for sure.. I don't want to be put in a box where ppl come and look at me (open casket) they stare at you .. It is not my thing.....I also don't want my body in a box under the ground.. I hate bugs.. I hate dirt.. I hate the fact that I know my body is going to slowly disinergrate into nothing anyway.

Cremation is over in a few hours....then I want a huge party.. Celebration of my life that I lived and thanking God it is over and that I am not having to deal with any crap any more....I am sure ppl could tell really funny stories etc.... and I then want my ashes to be put by a bench or in the woods by my chuch... I don't want a grave mark or anything... Who cares who I was as long as God knows.. I am good with that...

I chose my church because that is where my life got totally changed and though we don't really have dead ppl's ashes hanging around there.. I would like to be there somehow.. maybe they could put my ashes in a brick or something...

Jennifer
 
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AmyO

New member
My Dad was all for cremation.  We had a wake and a closed
casket and they he was cremated.  His reasoning:  He
wanted to be free of his body.   "It worked like
crap, why do I want it around anymore"  He also stated
that he had a hard enough time breathing on earth.  Being in a
box seemed like more suffocation for him.<br>
<br>
Amy
 
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AmyO

New member
My Dad was all for cremation.  We had a wake and a closed
casket and they he was cremated.  His reasoning:  He
wanted to be free of his body.   "It worked like
crap, why do I want it around anymore"  He also stated
that he had a hard enough time breathing on earth.  Being in a
box seemed like more suffocation for him.<br>
<br>
Amy
 
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AmyO

New member
My Dad was all for cremation.  We had a wake and a closed
casket and they he was cremated.  His reasoning:  He
wanted to be free of his body.   "It worked like
crap, why do I want it around anymore"  He also stated
that he had a hard enough time breathing on earth.  Being in a
box seemed like more suffocation for him.<br>
<br>
Amy
 
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Diane

New member
I am going to be buried, because i just cant stand the thought of having my body burned, ( but then again, being under ground doesnt appeal to me either) My only problem with being cremated is.... if i am cremated and my ashes are on my family members shelf, what happens when all my family members are gone? will i wind up in the trash somewhere? At least buried i know where i will be. Unfortunately i already know where i will be buried. It is one stone over from my grandparents grave. My mother bought a plot there 2 years ago for both of us. I was very upset when she told me, because i never want to think of those things, and when i visit my grandparents grave it is hard to look over and imagine one day, someone will be visiting mine right there. My mother bought it because she is 69 years old and her own health isnt great and she wanted to be prepared. She also wanted to make sure i had somewhere to be and she wanted me to be with her so she bought a double plot. Yes its a beautiful spot by some trees and a small hill, but it just gives me the creeps to know someday i will be looking up from there.
 
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Diane

New member
I am going to be buried, because i just cant stand the thought of having my body burned, ( but then again, being under ground doesnt appeal to me either) My only problem with being cremated is.... if i am cremated and my ashes are on my family members shelf, what happens when all my family members are gone? will i wind up in the trash somewhere? At least buried i know where i will be. Unfortunately i already know where i will be buried. It is one stone over from my grandparents grave. My mother bought a plot there 2 years ago for both of us. I was very upset when she told me, because i never want to think of those things, and when i visit my grandparents grave it is hard to look over and imagine one day, someone will be visiting mine right there. My mother bought it because she is 69 years old and her own health isnt great and she wanted to be prepared. She also wanted to make sure i had somewhere to be and she wanted me to be with her so she bought a double plot. Yes its a beautiful spot by some trees and a small hill, but it just gives me the creeps to know someday i will be looking up from there.
 
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Diane

New member
I am going to be buried, because i just cant stand the thought of having my body burned, ( but then again, being under ground doesnt appeal to me either) My only problem with being cremated is.... if i am cremated and my ashes are on my family members shelf, what happens when all my family members are gone? will i wind up in the trash somewhere? At least buried i know where i will be. Unfortunately i already know where i will be buried. It is one stone over from my grandparents grave. My mother bought a plot there 2 years ago for both of us. I was very upset when she told me, because i never want to think of those things, and when i visit my grandparents grave it is hard to look over and imagine one day, someone will be visiting mine right there. My mother bought it because she is 69 years old and her own health isnt great and she wanted to be prepared. She also wanted to make sure i had somewhere to be and she wanted me to be with her so she bought a double plot. Yes its a beautiful spot by some trees and a small hill, but it just gives me the creeps to know someday i will be looking up from there.
 
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Jade

Guest
<i>Cremation is over in a few hours....then I want a huge party.. Celebration of my life that I lived and thanking God it is over and that I am not having to deal with any crap any more</i>

<b>We think alike MyNewfy<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></b>

I want cremation, I need to get used to the flames<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">LOL. Seriously though I don't want normal burial cause I hate tight spaces and a lack of breathing room. A vault or niche after being turned to dust.....maybe. I'd rather have my ashes spread somewhere of value to me.....don't wanna say where yet. Also no open casket, I'm to shy to even take off a shirt in front of someone so I don't want people staring at me when I'm gone.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-cool.gif" border="0">
 
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Jade

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<i>Cremation is over in a few hours....then I want a huge party.. Celebration of my life that I lived and thanking God it is over and that I am not having to deal with any crap any more</i>

<b>We think alike MyNewfy<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"></b>

I want cremation, I need to get used to the flames<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0">LOL. Seriously though I don't want normal burial cause I hate tight spaces and a lack of breathing room. A vault or niche after being turned to dust.....maybe. I'd rather have my ashes spread somewhere of value to me.....don't wanna say where yet. Also no open casket, I'm to shy to even take off a shirt in front of someone so I don't want people staring at me when I'm gone.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-cool.gif" border="0">
 
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