Crib - to keep or not, want opinions

[Melissa75]

I wanted to add something funny: My daughter, the best independent sleeper, would actually only nurse in bed She refused to eat unless lying next to me for her first four months! This position was not easy with my barely B-cup boobs either! I think that early on she realized that being held during nursing was too wobbly as I was always trying to multitask, so she boycotted that kind of nursing until she was older. I always put her back in her crib when she was done.
Oh, and the irony of it all, the first son (who admittedly might have slept better if I had the confidence I had with #3 to try strange things to help the tummy issues--but whatever 1.5 consecutive hrs of sleep for ten months builds character <img src=""> became SUCH A DEEP SLEEPER once boobie was not a nighttime option. Even though he potty trained at 2, I/DH had to carry him to the bathroom to pee at 10pm until he was 5 1/2 or he'd sleep in his pee the whole night. Meanwhile, my daughter, Ms. Five-Hour-Stretch-From-Birth stopped napping at 18 months--completely--and stays up, playing by herself, much later than her brothers.

Kids are weird.

Whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing things one way with one kid and another way with another kid. The baby only knows what it experiences--not what you did with the other one. And the baby does not place value judgments on how it sleeps or eats--only parents do that. Some kids need food at night longer than others, some are accidentally trained to eat at night. If a way of being starts to torment you, calm, assertive, loving CHANGE is in order (I am writing to myself now about other issues :-0) Time to sign off...lol.
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Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis (no CF)

 

[Melissa75]

I wanted to add something funny: My daughter, the best independent sleeper, would actually only nurse in bed She refused to eat unless lying next to me for her first four months! This position was not easy with my barely B-cup boobs either! I think that early on she realized that being held during nursing was too wobbly as I was always trying to multitask, so she boycotted that kind of nursing until she was older. I always put her back in her crib when she was done.
Oh, and the irony of it all, the first son (who admittedly might have slept better if I had the confidence I had with #3 to try strange things to help the tummy issues--but whatever 1.5 consecutive hrs of sleep for ten months builds character <img src=""> became SUCH A DEEP SLEEPER once boobie was not a nighttime option. Even though he potty trained at 2, I/DH had to carry him to the bathroom to pee at 10pm until he was 5 1/2 or he'd sleep in his pee the whole night. Meanwhile, my daughter, Ms. Five-Hour-Stretch-From-Birth stopped napping at 18 months--completely--and stays up, playing by herself, much later than her brothers.

Kids are weird.

Whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing things one way with one kid and another way with another kid. The baby only knows what it experiences--not what you did with the other one. And the baby does not place value judgments on how it sleeps or eats--only parents do that. Some kids need food at night longer than others, some are accidentally trained to eat at night. If a way of being starts to torment you, calm, assertive, loving CHANGE is in order (I am writing to myself now about other issues :-0) Time to sign off...lol.
________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis (no CF)

 

[Melissa75]

I wanted to add something funny: My daughter, the best independent sleeper, would actually only nurse in bed She refused to eat unless lying next to me for her first four months! This position was not easy with my barely B-cup boobs either! I think that early on she realized that being held during nursing was too wobbly as I was always trying to multitask, so she boycotted that kind of nursing until she was older. I always put her back in her crib when she was done.
Oh, and the irony of it all, the first son (who admittedly might have slept better if I had the confidence I had with #3 to try strange things to help the tummy issues--but whatever 1.5 consecutive hrs of sleep for ten months builds character <img src=""> became SUCH A DEEP SLEEPER once boobie was not a nighttime option. Even though he potty trained at 2, I/DH had to carry him to the bathroom to pee at 10pm until he was 5 1/2 or he'd sleep in his pee the whole night. Meanwhile, my daughter, Ms. Five-Hour-Stretch-From-Birth stopped napping at 18 months--completely--and stays up, playing by herself, much later than her brothers.

Kids are weird.

Whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing things one way with one kid and another way with another kid. The baby only knows what it experiences--not what you did with the other one. And the baby does not place value judgments on how it sleeps or eats--only parents do that. Some kids need food at night longer than others, some are accidentally trained to eat at night. If a way of being starts to torment you, calm, assertive, loving CHANGE is in order (I am writing to myself now about other issues :-0) Time to sign off...lol.
________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis (no CF)

 

[Melissa75]

I wanted to add something funny: My daughter, the best independent sleeper, would actually only nurse in bed She refused to eat unless lying next to me for her first four months! This position was not easy with my barely B-cup boobs either! I think that early on she realized that being held during nursing was too wobbly as I was always trying to multitask, so she boycotted that kind of nursing until she was older. I always put her back in her crib when she was done.
Oh, and the irony of it all, the first son (who admittedly might have slept better if I had the confidence I had with #3 to try strange things to help the tummy issues--but whatever 1.5 consecutive hrs of sleep for ten months builds character <img src=""> became SUCH A DEEP SLEEPER once boobie was not a nighttime option. Even though he potty trained at 2, I/DH had to carry him to the bathroom to pee at 10pm until he was 5 1/2 or he'd sleep in his pee the whole night. Meanwhile, my daughter, Ms. Five-Hour-Stretch-From-Birth stopped napping at 18 months--completely--and stays up, playing by herself, much later than her brothers.

Kids are weird.

Whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing things one way with one kid and another way with another kid. The baby only knows what it experiences--not what you did with the other one. And the baby does not place value judgments on how it sleeps or eats--only parents do that. Some kids need food at night longer than others, some are accidentally trained to eat at night. If a way of being starts to torment you, calm, assertive, loving CHANGE is in order (I am writing to myself now about other issues :-0) Time to sign off...lol.
________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis (no CF)

 

[Melissa75]

I wanted to add something funny: My daughter, the best independent sleeper, would actually only nurse in bed She refused to eat unless lying next to me for her first four months! This position was not easy with my barely B-cup boobs either! I think that early on she realized that being held during nursing was too wobbly as I was always trying to multitask, so she boycotted that kind of nursing until she was older. I always put her back in her crib when she was done.
<br />Oh, and the irony of it all, the first son (who admittedly might have slept better if I had the confidence I had with #3 to try strange things to help the tummy issues--but whatever 1.5 consecutive hrs of sleep for ten months builds character <img src=""> became SUCH A DEEP SLEEPER once boobie was not a nighttime option. Even though he potty trained at 2, I/DH had to carry him to the bathroom to pee at 10pm until he was 5 1/2 or he'd sleep in his pee the whole night. Meanwhile, my daughter, Ms. Five-Hour-Stretch-From-Birth stopped napping at 18 months--completely--and stays up, playing by herself, much later than her brothers.
<br />
<br />Kids are weird.
<br />
<br />Whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing things one way with one kid and another way with another kid. The baby only knows what it experiences--not what you did with the other one. And the baby does not place value judgments on how it sleeps or eats--only parents do that. Some kids need food at night longer than others, some are accidentally trained to eat at night. If a way of being starts to torment you, calm, assertive, loving CHANGE is in order (I am writing to myself now about other issues :-0) Time to sign off...lol.
<br />________
<br />Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis (no CF)

 

[JohnnaMarie]

The second safe crib that is still in the box you may want to keep.
I agree with your view on the cosleeping...I would be terrified to cosleep.that is with the baby directly in the bed with me and my husband..i would be so scared of sleeping on him or something happening....With Matthew he slept in a basinett until he was too big to sleep in it..then he slept in his crib, he had a bought of acid at about 4 months that lasted until about 6 months..then he slept in his carseat in his crib..sounds odd?? but it worked... then he slept in his crib until he got too wiggley and would get his legs in the bar spaces and yell , so we bought a pack and play for him and he slept in that all the time until he was too heavy for it. Now, he sleeps in his toddler bed and has been there since he was about 18 months.
I think if you can, put a basinet in your room right next to your bed. That way the baby would have its own safe space and you would not have to worry or travel to another room to care for the baby at night...
Much Love and All the Best
Johnna

 

[JohnnaMarie]

The second safe crib that is still in the box you may want to keep.
I agree with your view on the cosleeping...I would be terrified to cosleep.that is with the baby directly in the bed with me and my husband..i would be so scared of sleeping on him or something happening....With Matthew he slept in a basinett until he was too big to sleep in it..then he slept in his crib, he had a bought of acid at about 4 months that lasted until about 6 months..then he slept in his carseat in his crib..sounds odd?? but it worked... then he slept in his crib until he got too wiggley and would get his legs in the bar spaces and yell , so we bought a pack and play for him and he slept in that all the time until he was too heavy for it. Now, he sleeps in his toddler bed and has been there since he was about 18 months.
I think if you can, put a basinet in your room right next to your bed. That way the baby would have its own safe space and you would not have to worry or travel to another room to care for the baby at night...
Much Love and All the Best
Johnna

 

[JohnnaMarie]

The second safe crib that is still in the box you may want to keep.
I agree with your view on the cosleeping...I would be terrified to cosleep.that is with the baby directly in the bed with me and my husband..i would be so scared of sleeping on him or something happening....With Matthew he slept in a basinett until he was too big to sleep in it..then he slept in his crib, he had a bought of acid at about 4 months that lasted until about 6 months..then he slept in his carseat in his crib..sounds odd?? but it worked... then he slept in his crib until he got too wiggley and would get his legs in the bar spaces and yell , so we bought a pack and play for him and he slept in that all the time until he was too heavy for it. Now, he sleeps in his toddler bed and has been there since he was about 18 months.
I think if you can, put a basinet in your room right next to your bed. That way the baby would have its own safe space and you would not have to worry or travel to another room to care for the baby at night...
Much Love and All the Best
Johnna

 

[JohnnaMarie]

The second safe crib that is still in the box you may want to keep.
I agree with your view on the cosleeping...I would be terrified to cosleep.that is with the baby directly in the bed with me and my husband..i would be so scared of sleeping on him or something happening....With Matthew he slept in a basinett until he was too big to sleep in it..then he slept in his crib, he had a bought of acid at about 4 months that lasted until about 6 months..then he slept in his carseat in his crib..sounds odd?? but it worked... then he slept in his crib until he got too wiggley and would get his legs in the bar spaces and yell , so we bought a pack and play for him and he slept in that all the time until he was too heavy for it. Now, he sleeps in his toddler bed and has been there since he was about 18 months.
I think if you can, put a basinet in your room right next to your bed. That way the baby would have its own safe space and you would not have to worry or travel to another room to care for the baby at night...
Much Love and All the Best
Johnna

 

[JohnnaMarie]

The second safe crib that is still in the box you may want to keep.
<br />I agree with your view on the cosleeping...I would be terrified to cosleep.that is with the baby directly in the bed with me and my husband..i would be so scared of sleeping on him or something happening....With Matthew he slept in a basinett until he was too big to sleep in it..then he slept in his crib, he had a bought of acid at about 4 months that lasted until about 6 months..then he slept in his carseat in his crib..sounds odd?? but it worked... then he slept in his crib until he got too wiggley and would get his legs in the bar spaces and yell , so we bought a pack and play for him and he slept in that all the time until he was too heavy for it. Now, he sleeps in his toddler bed and has been there since he was about 18 months.
<br />I think if you can, put a basinet in your room right next to your bed. That way the baby would have its own safe space and you would not have to worry or travel to another room to care for the baby at night...
<br />Much Love and All the Best
<br />Johnna

 

[hopesiris]

Melissa,
You are right that every child is different and they go through stages too. Amelia sleeps on a futon mattress on the floor in our bedroom and refuses to sleep in the adorable Dora toddler bed we bought her. Go figure. I hear what you are saying about calm, loving change- we are at that point with diapers. It's getting very frustrating and I'm so over the struggle. It's time to potty train.

Johnna,
LOL you made a lot of sleep arrangement changes! Whatever works, right? Sounds like what we did with carseats, 3rd one was the charm. I agree that keeping the baby in the same room is easier.

 

[hopesiris]

Melissa,
You are right that every child is different and they go through stages too. Amelia sleeps on a futon mattress on the floor in our bedroom and refuses to sleep in the adorable Dora toddler bed we bought her. Go figure. I hear what you are saying about calm, loving change- we are at that point with diapers. It's getting very frustrating and I'm so over the struggle. It's time to potty train.

Johnna,
LOL you made a lot of sleep arrangement changes! Whatever works, right? Sounds like what we did with carseats, 3rd one was the charm. I agree that keeping the baby in the same room is easier.

 

[hopesiris]

Melissa,
You are right that every child is different and they go through stages too. Amelia sleeps on a futon mattress on the floor in our bedroom and refuses to sleep in the adorable Dora toddler bed we bought her. Go figure. I hear what you are saying about calm, loving change- we are at that point with diapers. It's getting very frustrating and I'm so over the struggle. It's time to potty train.

Johnna,
LOL you made a lot of sleep arrangement changes! Whatever works, right? Sounds like what we did with carseats, 3rd one was the charm. I agree that keeping the baby in the same room is easier.

 

[hopesiris]

Melissa,
You are right that every child is different and they go through stages too. Amelia sleeps on a futon mattress on the floor in our bedroom and refuses to sleep in the adorable Dora toddler bed we bought her. Go figure. I hear what you are saying about calm, loving change- we are at that point with diapers. It's getting very frustrating and I'm so over the struggle. It's time to potty train.

Johnna,
LOL you made a lot of sleep arrangement changes! Whatever works, right? Sounds like what we did with carseats, 3rd one was the charm. I agree that keeping the baby in the same room is easier.

 

[hopesiris]

Melissa,
<br />You are right that every child is different and they go through stages too. Amelia sleeps on a futon mattress on the floor in our bedroom and refuses to sleep in the adorable Dora toddler bed we bought her. Go figure. I hear what you are saying about calm, loving change- we are at that point with diapers. It's getting very frustrating and I'm so over the struggle. It's time to potty train.
<br />
<br />Johnna,
<br />LOL you made a lot of sleep arrangement changes! Whatever works, right? Sounds like what we did with carseats, 3rd one was the charm. I agree that keeping the baby in the same room is easier.

 

[Melissa75]

Is the Dora Bed in your room? I wonder if she would sleep in it if it were there?

Anyhoo, like you kinda said, you have to pick your battles. My three-year-old is still drinking a couple bottles a day and I could not care less

However, the fact that my kids have one zillion toys and think they need more drives me CRAZY. My son turned seven at the end of December and I matter-of-factly explained to him that he and his sibs would not be having friend-birthday parties this year. He could pick a family activity (movie, dim sum in Chinatown, museum...whatever) but I am not paying $300+ for he and his buds to go to some arcade/gym and then have to contend with twenty presents to find a place for in my house. Maybe we'll do parties every other year, but 20 presents times three kids = too much. I give stuff away to charity but honestly, I don't have the money to keep this up and it makes me sick to see how much my kids have. Whew! Anyway, the change worked fine. Nobody freaked out--not that I would have given in if they had, but I was pleasantly surprised.

My take on potty training is once again that each kids is different, BUT pull-ups are a scam that hinder potty training...kinda like diet soda can actually make people gain weight. They cost twice as much per diaper and absorb less and confuse the kid. Wearing one at night for a kid who has an occasional accident...may be okay. That never even worked for my kids though. The boys' accidents were far to large for a pull-up to hold and my daughter was an all-or-nothing kinda gal.

With my kids, I had them wear no diaper and no underwear for a couple days until they got the hang of things. If they didn't, we put the diapers back on full-time for a couple months until we tried again. One kid had pee pee accidents a lot and it took three tries. Another figured out pee pee immediately, but took two weeks to figure out when she was going to poop (read turds dropping as she ran to the bathroom). I was convinced at the time that she would never figure it out. The last, Oh God was he a problem, trained for pee pee really easily like the second kid, but he went from pooping daily to holding it in for 3+ days and THEN crapping in his underwear. After a month, I started begging him to wear a diaper around the third day of no poop--and we did that for a while. Finally, after three months it clicked and the anal retention ended. The pediatrician wanted me to give him miralax on a weekend and keep him in the bathroom all day, but I was not sure I wanted to take away his precious control ;-)

I've read lots of parenting books, but I have to say, I am learning so much these days from the show, "The Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel. Mostly stuff about how my energy (+/-) effects the dog--I mean kids , and how anticipating or fearing a bad outcome and raising your level of tension, can make it much harder to have a good outcome...etc. Also, projecting your emotions about something onto the dog/child (pity, guilt, fear) is not fair to you or them. It is my favorite show right now!

_____________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis

 

[Melissa75]

Is the Dora Bed in your room? I wonder if she would sleep in it if it were there?

Anyhoo, like you kinda said, you have to pick your battles. My three-year-old is still drinking a couple bottles a day and I could not care less

However, the fact that my kids have one zillion toys and think they need more drives me CRAZY. My son turned seven at the end of December and I matter-of-factly explained to him that he and his sibs would not be having friend-birthday parties this year. He could pick a family activity (movie, dim sum in Chinatown, museum...whatever) but I am not paying $300+ for he and his buds to go to some arcade/gym and then have to contend with twenty presents to find a place for in my house. Maybe we'll do parties every other year, but 20 presents times three kids = too much. I give stuff away to charity but honestly, I don't have the money to keep this up and it makes me sick to see how much my kids have. Whew! Anyway, the change worked fine. Nobody freaked out--not that I would have given in if they had, but I was pleasantly surprised.

My take on potty training is once again that each kids is different, BUT pull-ups are a scam that hinder potty training...kinda like diet soda can actually make people gain weight. They cost twice as much per diaper and absorb less and confuse the kid. Wearing one at night for a kid who has an occasional accident...may be okay. That never even worked for my kids though. The boys' accidents were far to large for a pull-up to hold and my daughter was an all-or-nothing kinda gal.

With my kids, I had them wear no diaper and no underwear for a couple days until they got the hang of things. If they didn't, we put the diapers back on full-time for a couple months until we tried again. One kid had pee pee accidents a lot and it took three tries. Another figured out pee pee immediately, but took two weeks to figure out when she was going to poop (read turds dropping as she ran to the bathroom). I was convinced at the time that she would never figure it out. The last, Oh God was he a problem, trained for pee pee really easily like the second kid, but he went from pooping daily to holding it in for 3+ days and THEN crapping in his underwear. After a month, I started begging him to wear a diaper around the third day of no poop--and we did that for a while. Finally, after three months it clicked and the anal retention ended. The pediatrician wanted me to give him miralax on a weekend and keep him in the bathroom all day, but I was not sure I wanted to take away his precious control ;-)

I've read lots of parenting books, but I have to say, I am learning so much these days from the show, "The Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel. Mostly stuff about how my energy (+/-) effects the dog--I mean kids , and how anticipating or fearing a bad outcome and raising your level of tension, can make it much harder to have a good outcome...etc. Also, projecting your emotions about something onto the dog/child (pity, guilt, fear) is not fair to you or them. It is my favorite show right now!

_____________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis

 

[Melissa75]

Is the Dora Bed in your room? I wonder if she would sleep in it if it were there?

Anyhoo, like you kinda said, you have to pick your battles. My three-year-old is still drinking a couple bottles a day and I could not care less

However, the fact that my kids have one zillion toys and think they need more drives me CRAZY. My son turned seven at the end of December and I matter-of-factly explained to him that he and his sibs would not be having friend-birthday parties this year. He could pick a family activity (movie, dim sum in Chinatown, museum...whatever) but I am not paying $300+ for he and his buds to go to some arcade/gym and then have to contend with twenty presents to find a place for in my house. Maybe we'll do parties every other year, but 20 presents times three kids = too much. I give stuff away to charity but honestly, I don't have the money to keep this up and it makes me sick to see how much my kids have. Whew! Anyway, the change worked fine. Nobody freaked out--not that I would have given in if they had, but I was pleasantly surprised.

My take on potty training is once again that each kids is different, BUT pull-ups are a scam that hinder potty training...kinda like diet soda can actually make people gain weight. They cost twice as much per diaper and absorb less and confuse the kid. Wearing one at night for a kid who has an occasional accident...may be okay. That never even worked for my kids though. The boys' accidents were far to large for a pull-up to hold and my daughter was an all-or-nothing kinda gal.

With my kids, I had them wear no diaper and no underwear for a couple days until they got the hang of things. If they didn't, we put the diapers back on full-time for a couple months until we tried again. One kid had pee pee accidents a lot and it took three tries. Another figured out pee pee immediately, but took two weeks to figure out when she was going to poop (read turds dropping as she ran to the bathroom). I was convinced at the time that she would never figure it out. The last, Oh God was he a problem, trained for pee pee really easily like the second kid, but he went from pooping daily to holding it in for 3+ days and THEN crapping in his underwear. After a month, I started begging him to wear a diaper around the third day of no poop--and we did that for a while. Finally, after three months it clicked and the anal retention ended. The pediatrician wanted me to give him miralax on a weekend and keep him in the bathroom all day, but I was not sure I wanted to take away his precious control ;-)

I've read lots of parenting books, but I have to say, I am learning so much these days from the show, "The Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel. Mostly stuff about how my energy (+/-) effects the dog--I mean kids , and how anticipating or fearing a bad outcome and raising your level of tension, can make it much harder to have a good outcome...etc. Also, projecting your emotions about something onto the dog/child (pity, guilt, fear) is not fair to you or them. It is my favorite show right now!

_____________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis

 

[Melissa75]

Is the Dora Bed in your room? I wonder if she would sleep in it if it were there?

Anyhoo, like you kinda said, you have to pick your battles. My three-year-old is still drinking a couple bottles a day and I could not care less

However, the fact that my kids have one zillion toys and think they need more drives me CRAZY. My son turned seven at the end of December and I matter-of-factly explained to him that he and his sibs would not be having friend-birthday parties this year. He could pick a family activity (movie, dim sum in Chinatown, museum...whatever) but I am not paying $300+ for he and his buds to go to some arcade/gym and then have to contend with twenty presents to find a place for in my house. Maybe we'll do parties every other year, but 20 presents times three kids = too much. I give stuff away to charity but honestly, I don't have the money to keep this up and it makes me sick to see how much my kids have. Whew! Anyway, the change worked fine. Nobody freaked out--not that I would have given in if they had, but I was pleasantly surprised.

My take on potty training is once again that each kids is different, BUT pull-ups are a scam that hinder potty training...kinda like diet soda can actually make people gain weight. They cost twice as much per diaper and absorb less and confuse the kid. Wearing one at night for a kid who has an occasional accident...may be okay. That never even worked for my kids though. The boys' accidents were far to large for a pull-up to hold and my daughter was an all-or-nothing kinda gal.

With my kids, I had them wear no diaper and no underwear for a couple days until they got the hang of things. If they didn't, we put the diapers back on full-time for a couple months until we tried again. One kid had pee pee accidents a lot and it took three tries. Another figured out pee pee immediately, but took two weeks to figure out when she was going to poop (read turds dropping as she ran to the bathroom). I was convinced at the time that she would never figure it out. The last, Oh God was he a problem, trained for pee pee really easily like the second kid, but he went from pooping daily to holding it in for 3+ days and THEN crapping in his underwear. After a month, I started begging him to wear a diaper around the third day of no poop--and we did that for a while. Finally, after three months it clicked and the anal retention ended. The pediatrician wanted me to give him miralax on a weekend and keep him in the bathroom all day, but I was not sure I wanted to take away his precious control ;-)

I've read lots of parenting books, but I have to say, I am learning so much these days from the show, "The Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel. Mostly stuff about how my energy (+/-) effects the dog--I mean kids , and how anticipating or fearing a bad outcome and raising your level of tension, can make it much harder to have a good outcome...etc. Also, projecting your emotions about something onto the dog/child (pity, guilt, fear) is not fair to you or them. It is my favorite show right now!

_____________
Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis

 

[Melissa75]

Is the Dora Bed in your room? I wonder if she would sleep in it if it were there?
<br />
<br />Anyhoo, like you kinda said, you have to pick your battles. My three-year-old is still drinking a couple bottles a day and I could not care less
<br />
<br />However, the fact that my kids have one zillion toys and think they need more drives me CRAZY. My son turned seven at the end of December and I matter-of-factly explained to him that he and his sibs would not be having friend-birthday parties this year. He could pick a family activity (movie, dim sum in Chinatown, museum...whatever) but I am not paying $300+ for he and his buds to go to some arcade/gym and then have to contend with twenty presents to find a place for in my house. Maybe we'll do parties every other year, but 20 presents times three kids = too much. I give stuff away to charity but honestly, I don't have the money to keep this up and it makes me sick to see how much my kids have. Whew! Anyway, the change worked fine. Nobody freaked out--not that I would have given in if they had, but I was pleasantly surprised.
<br />
<br />My take on potty training is once again that each kids is different, BUT pull-ups are a scam that hinder potty training...kinda like diet soda can actually make people gain weight. They cost twice as much per diaper and absorb less and confuse the kid. Wearing one at night for a kid who has an occasional accident...may be okay. That never even worked for my kids though. The boys' accidents were far to large for a pull-up to hold and my daughter was an all-or-nothing kinda gal.
<br />
<br />With my kids, I had them wear no diaper and no underwear for a couple days until they got the hang of things. If they didn't, we put the diapers back on full-time for a couple months until we tried again. One kid had pee pee accidents a lot and it took three tries. Another figured out pee pee immediately, but took two weeks to figure out when she was going to poop (read turds dropping as she ran to the bathroom). I was convinced at the time that she would never figure it out. The last, Oh God was he a problem, trained for pee pee really easily like the second kid, but he went from pooping daily to holding it in for 3+ days and THEN crapping in his underwear. After a month, I started begging him to wear a diaper around the third day of no poop--and we did that for a while. Finally, after three months it clicked and the anal retention ended. The pediatrician wanted me to give him miralax on a weekend and keep him in the bathroom all day, but I was not sure I wanted to take away his precious control ;-)
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<br />I've read lots of parenting books, but I have to say, I am learning so much these days from the show, "The Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel. Mostly stuff about how my energy (+/-) effects the dog--I mean kids , and how anticipating or fearing a bad outcome and raising your level of tension, can make it much harder to have a good outcome...etc. Also, projecting your emotions about something onto the dog/child (pity, guilt, fear) is not fair to you or them. It is my favorite show right now!
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<br />Melissa, 33, bronchiectasis