Depressed...

fondreflections

New member
I probably wouldn't have started a thread today, but I noticed that my other thread resurfaced so I thought maybe I should.

I actually spent about 1 hour on the phone with my Mom this morning because I'm just so upset about different things on so many different levels...

Firstly, I don't think the IVs are working...I have been on Cefepine twice a day and Tobra once a day for 1 week, and I'm STILL running fevers of 100F daily. I take 2 Advil right before bed and wake up at about 3:00-4:00 with a fever and chills. I'll be halfway through next week, and I really don't think that they are working. I'm also STILL short of breath. I'm better while I have Advil in me, but about 5 hours later (when the Advil starts to wear off), I feel like crap...

Second, I really can't rest...at all...The caseworker is here every week for 1 hour. The boys also have TWO therapists here 2 times a week for about 8 hours total. My whole routine is ALWAYS turned upside down, mostly because of therapists. Even naptime is affected which ultimately hurts me...

Third, the boys STILL aren't in school, although, they are suppose to start December 9th. That ONLY took 2 months to get going...They are better than they were first coming to our home, but I must admit that the past week hasn't been fun...

D is constantly running around until someone gets hurt. He listens and can be redirected but goes right back to the same behavior only moments later. He was seen by TWO different pysch. doctors and IS suppose to start some kind of medication for the ADHD, but that may never happen. Nothing really surprises me anymore. I get so tired of constantly saying, 'no', 'don't', and 'stop', that my voice is constantly hoarse. Heck, my Mom was here for 1 hour, and her voice was a mess. She was so thankful to see me coming in the door because neither kid would listen to her for crap.

N is really the child that is pushing my buttons...I know it sounds bad, but he is literally breaking things around the house. For example, yesterday I had to use the bathroom (gotta love IVs). Anyway, from inside the bathroom I heard this smashing noise. N managed to send my beautiful shelf to the floor which broke into about 4 pieces. It had like columns which popped out so I have to glue it tomorrow. Today, we were out 'playing' in the yard, I went in the house again to use the bathroom, and both boys managed to push over my ceramic, expensive birdbath. Thankfully, it didn't break. I decided to keep them outside, despite the mishap, thinking that I would let them run more of the energy out BEFORE coming back into the house. Well, N managed to catch his Big Wheel under a house tile and ripped it right off the house. I ran over the moment he was stuck and begged him to wait...About 5 minutes later, D decided to start wrestling our 1-year-old Boxer. She started playing. I kept telling him to please use the dog toy, but he didn't listen. The $15.00 winter coat is ruined...

Even with toys, there are ruined within 1 day!!! I kid you not. D's birthday is next Tuesday, and I really don't know what to get him...

I don't know...Maybe I'm venting, but I really need to. My birthday was just another day too. Thanksgiving was ify.

I know some of you have asked if I have help. Yes, I do. My Mom is coming over twice a week for about 1-2 hours to help because I can't get anything done. We can't even put the kids to bed before 10:00 pm because D is up by 6:00 am. Then, he manages to wake up N. It's nearly impossible to get anything done, ever. Plus, D decided to 'act out' sexually again which I had to report to the agency.

Many times, I feel like I'm smacking my head against a wall. I'm trying to make it through this placement. Trust me, if not, I would have given up long ago.

Heck even the therapist that came last week said that she would work with each boy seperatly because THEY ARE TOO MUCH TOGETHER!!!

Please continue to pray of me. Thank you.
 

fondreflections

New member
I probably wouldn't have started a thread today, but I noticed that my other thread resurfaced so I thought maybe I should.

I actually spent about 1 hour on the phone with my Mom this morning because I'm just so upset about different things on so many different levels...

Firstly, I don't think the IVs are working...I have been on Cefepine twice a day and Tobra once a day for 1 week, and I'm STILL running fevers of 100F daily. I take 2 Advil right before bed and wake up at about 3:00-4:00 with a fever and chills. I'll be halfway through next week, and I really don't think that they are working. I'm also STILL short of breath. I'm better while I have Advil in me, but about 5 hours later (when the Advil starts to wear off), I feel like crap...

Second, I really can't rest...at all...The caseworker is here every week for 1 hour. The boys also have TWO therapists here 2 times a week for about 8 hours total. My whole routine is ALWAYS turned upside down, mostly because of therapists. Even naptime is affected which ultimately hurts me...

Third, the boys STILL aren't in school, although, they are suppose to start December 9th. That ONLY took 2 months to get going...They are better than they were first coming to our home, but I must admit that the past week hasn't been fun...

D is constantly running around until someone gets hurt. He listens and can be redirected but goes right back to the same behavior only moments later. He was seen by TWO different pysch. doctors and IS suppose to start some kind of medication for the ADHD, but that may never happen. Nothing really surprises me anymore. I get so tired of constantly saying, 'no', 'don't', and 'stop', that my voice is constantly hoarse. Heck, my Mom was here for 1 hour, and her voice was a mess. She was so thankful to see me coming in the door because neither kid would listen to her for crap.

N is really the child that is pushing my buttons...I know it sounds bad, but he is literally breaking things around the house. For example, yesterday I had to use the bathroom (gotta love IVs). Anyway, from inside the bathroom I heard this smashing noise. N managed to send my beautiful shelf to the floor which broke into about 4 pieces. It had like columns which popped out so I have to glue it tomorrow. Today, we were out 'playing' in the yard, I went in the house again to use the bathroom, and both boys managed to push over my ceramic, expensive birdbath. Thankfully, it didn't break. I decided to keep them outside, despite the mishap, thinking that I would let them run more of the energy out BEFORE coming back into the house. Well, N managed to catch his Big Wheel under a house tile and ripped it right off the house. I ran over the moment he was stuck and begged him to wait...About 5 minutes later, D decided to start wrestling our 1-year-old Boxer. She started playing. I kept telling him to please use the dog toy, but he didn't listen. The $15.00 winter coat is ruined...

Even with toys, there are ruined within 1 day!!! I kid you not. D's birthday is next Tuesday, and I really don't know what to get him...

I don't know...Maybe I'm venting, but I really need to. My birthday was just another day too. Thanksgiving was ify.

I know some of you have asked if I have help. Yes, I do. My Mom is coming over twice a week for about 1-2 hours to help because I can't get anything done. We can't even put the kids to bed before 10:00 pm because D is up by 6:00 am. Then, he manages to wake up N. It's nearly impossible to get anything done, ever. Plus, D decided to 'act out' sexually again which I had to report to the agency.

Many times, I feel like I'm smacking my head against a wall. I'm trying to make it through this placement. Trust me, if not, I would have given up long ago.

Heck even the therapist that came last week said that she would work with each boy seperatly because THEY ARE TOO MUCH TOGETHER!!!

Please continue to pray of me. Thank you.
 

fondreflections

New member
I probably wouldn't have started a thread today, but I noticed that my other thread resurfaced so I thought maybe I should.

I actually spent about 1 hour on the phone with my Mom this morning because I'm just so upset about different things on so many different levels...

Firstly, I don't think the IVs are working...I have been on Cefepine twice a day and Tobra once a day for 1 week, and I'm STILL running fevers of 100F daily. I take 2 Advil right before bed and wake up at about 3:00-4:00 with a fever and chills. I'll be halfway through next week, and I really don't think that they are working. I'm also STILL short of breath. I'm better while I have Advil in me, but about 5 hours later (when the Advil starts to wear off), I feel like crap...

Second, I really can't rest...at all...The caseworker is here every week for 1 hour. The boys also have TWO therapists here 2 times a week for about 8 hours total. My whole routine is ALWAYS turned upside down, mostly because of therapists. Even naptime is affected which ultimately hurts me...

Third, the boys STILL aren't in school, although, they are suppose to start December 9th. That ONLY took 2 months to get going...They are better than they were first coming to our home, but I must admit that the past week hasn't been fun...

D is constantly running around until someone gets hurt. He listens and can be redirected but goes right back to the same behavior only moments later. He was seen by TWO different pysch. doctors and IS suppose to start some kind of medication for the ADHD, but that may never happen. Nothing really surprises me anymore. I get so tired of constantly saying, 'no', 'don't', and 'stop', that my voice is constantly hoarse. Heck, my Mom was here for 1 hour, and her voice was a mess. She was so thankful to see me coming in the door because neither kid would listen to her for crap.

N is really the child that is pushing my buttons...I know it sounds bad, but he is literally breaking things around the house. For example, yesterday I had to use the bathroom (gotta love IVs). Anyway, from inside the bathroom I heard this smashing noise. N managed to send my beautiful shelf to the floor which broke into about 4 pieces. It had like columns which popped out so I have to glue it tomorrow. Today, we were out 'playing' in the yard, I went in the house again to use the bathroom, and both boys managed to push over my ceramic, expensive birdbath. Thankfully, it didn't break. I decided to keep them outside, despite the mishap, thinking that I would let them run more of the energy out BEFORE coming back into the house. Well, N managed to catch his Big Wheel under a house tile and ripped it right off the house. I ran over the moment he was stuck and begged him to wait...About 5 minutes later, D decided to start wrestling our 1-year-old Boxer. She started playing. I kept telling him to please use the dog toy, but he didn't listen. The $15.00 winter coat is ruined...

Even with toys, there are ruined within 1 day!!! I kid you not. D's birthday is next Tuesday, and I really don't know what to get him...

I don't know...Maybe I'm venting, but I really need to. My birthday was just another day too. Thanksgiving was ify.

I know some of you have asked if I have help. Yes, I do. My Mom is coming over twice a week for about 1-2 hours to help because I can't get anything done. We can't even put the kids to bed before 10:00 pm because D is up by 6:00 am. Then, he manages to wake up N. It's nearly impossible to get anything done, ever. Plus, D decided to 'act out' sexually again which I had to report to the agency.

Many times, I feel like I'm smacking my head against a wall. I'm trying to make it through this placement. Trust me, if not, I would have given up long ago.

Heck even the therapist that came last week said that she would work with each boy seperatly because THEY ARE TOO MUCH TOGETHER!!!

Please continue to pray of me. Thank you.
 

fondreflections

New member
I probably wouldn't have started a thread today, but I noticed that my other thread resurfaced so I thought maybe I should.

I actually spent about 1 hour on the phone with my Mom this morning because I'm just so upset about different things on so many different levels...

Firstly, I don't think the IVs are working...I have been on Cefepine twice a day and Tobra once a day for 1 week, and I'm STILL running fevers of 100F daily. I take 2 Advil right before bed and wake up at about 3:00-4:00 with a fever and chills. I'll be halfway through next week, and I really don't think that they are working. I'm also STILL short of breath. I'm better while I have Advil in me, but about 5 hours later (when the Advil starts to wear off), I feel like crap...

Second, I really can't rest...at all...The caseworker is here every week for 1 hour. The boys also have TWO therapists here 2 times a week for about 8 hours total. My whole routine is ALWAYS turned upside down, mostly because of therapists. Even naptime is affected which ultimately hurts me...

Third, the boys STILL aren't in school, although, they are suppose to start December 9th. That ONLY took 2 months to get going...They are better than they were first coming to our home, but I must admit that the past week hasn't been fun...

D is constantly running around until someone gets hurt. He listens and can be redirected but goes right back to the same behavior only moments later. He was seen by TWO different pysch. doctors and IS suppose to start some kind of medication for the ADHD, but that may never happen. Nothing really surprises me anymore. I get so tired of constantly saying, 'no', 'don't', and 'stop', that my voice is constantly hoarse. Heck, my Mom was here for 1 hour, and her voice was a mess. She was so thankful to see me coming in the door because neither kid would listen to her for crap.

N is really the child that is pushing my buttons...I know it sounds bad, but he is literally breaking things around the house. For example, yesterday I had to use the bathroom (gotta love IVs). Anyway, from inside the bathroom I heard this smashing noise. N managed to send my beautiful shelf to the floor which broke into about 4 pieces. It had like columns which popped out so I have to glue it tomorrow. Today, we were out 'playing' in the yard, I went in the house again to use the bathroom, and both boys managed to push over my ceramic, expensive birdbath. Thankfully, it didn't break. I decided to keep them outside, despite the mishap, thinking that I would let them run more of the energy out BEFORE coming back into the house. Well, N managed to catch his Big Wheel under a house tile and ripped it right off the house. I ran over the moment he was stuck and begged him to wait...About 5 minutes later, D decided to start wrestling our 1-year-old Boxer. She started playing. I kept telling him to please use the dog toy, but he didn't listen. The $15.00 winter coat is ruined...

Even with toys, there are ruined within 1 day!!! I kid you not. D's birthday is next Tuesday, and I really don't know what to get him...

I don't know...Maybe I'm venting, but I really need to. My birthday was just another day too. Thanksgiving was ify.

I know some of you have asked if I have help. Yes, I do. My Mom is coming over twice a week for about 1-2 hours to help because I can't get anything done. We can't even put the kids to bed before 10:00 pm because D is up by 6:00 am. Then, he manages to wake up N. It's nearly impossible to get anything done, ever. Plus, D decided to 'act out' sexually again which I had to report to the agency.

Many times, I feel like I'm smacking my head against a wall. I'm trying to make it through this placement. Trust me, if not, I would have given up long ago.

Heck even the therapist that came last week said that she would work with each boy seperatly because THEY ARE TOO MUCH TOGETHER!!!

Please continue to pray of me. Thank you.
 

fondreflections

New member
I probably wouldn't have started a thread today, but I noticed that my other thread resurfaced so I thought maybe I should.
<br />
<br />I actually spent about 1 hour on the phone with my Mom this morning because I'm just so upset about different things on so many different levels...
<br />
<br />Firstly, I don't think the IVs are working...I have been on Cefepine twice a day and Tobra once a day for 1 week, and I'm STILL running fevers of 100F daily. I take 2 Advil right before bed and wake up at about 3:00-4:00 with a fever and chills. I'll be halfway through next week, and I really don't think that they are working. I'm also STILL short of breath. I'm better while I have Advil in me, but about 5 hours later (when the Advil starts to wear off), I feel like crap...
<br />
<br />Second, I really can't rest...at all...The caseworker is here every week for 1 hour. The boys also have TWO therapists here 2 times a week for about 8 hours total. My whole routine is ALWAYS turned upside down, mostly because of therapists. Even naptime is affected which ultimately hurts me...
<br />
<br />Third, the boys STILL aren't in school, although, they are suppose to start December 9th. That ONLY took 2 months to get going...They are better than they were first coming to our home, but I must admit that the past week hasn't been fun...
<br />
<br />D is constantly running around until someone gets hurt. He listens and can be redirected but goes right back to the same behavior only moments later. He was seen by TWO different pysch. doctors and IS suppose to start some kind of medication for the ADHD, but that may never happen. Nothing really surprises me anymore. I get so tired of constantly saying, 'no', 'don't', and 'stop', that my voice is constantly hoarse. Heck, my Mom was here for 1 hour, and her voice was a mess. She was so thankful to see me coming in the door because neither kid would listen to her for crap.
<br />
<br />N is really the child that is pushing my buttons...I know it sounds bad, but he is literally breaking things around the house. For example, yesterday I had to use the bathroom (gotta love IVs). Anyway, from inside the bathroom I heard this smashing noise. N managed to send my beautiful shelf to the floor which broke into about 4 pieces. It had like columns which popped out so I have to glue it tomorrow. Today, we were out 'playing' in the yard, I went in the house again to use the bathroom, and both boys managed to push over my ceramic, expensive birdbath. Thankfully, it didn't break. I decided to keep them outside, despite the mishap, thinking that I would let them run more of the energy out BEFORE coming back into the house. Well, N managed to catch his Big Wheel under a house tile and ripped it right off the house. I ran over the moment he was stuck and begged him to wait...About 5 minutes later, D decided to start wrestling our 1-year-old Boxer. She started playing. I kept telling him to please use the dog toy, but he didn't listen. The $15.00 winter coat is ruined...
<br />
<br />Even with toys, there are ruined within 1 day!!! I kid you not. D's birthday is next Tuesday, and I really don't know what to get him...
<br />
<br />I don't know...Maybe I'm venting, but I really need to. My birthday was just another day too. Thanksgiving was ify.
<br />
<br />I know some of you have asked if I have help. Yes, I do. My Mom is coming over twice a week for about 1-2 hours to help because I can't get anything done. We can't even put the kids to bed before 10:00 pm because D is up by 6:00 am. Then, he manages to wake up N. It's nearly impossible to get anything done, ever. Plus, D decided to 'act out' sexually again which I had to report to the agency.
<br />
<br />Many times, I feel like I'm smacking my head against a wall. I'm trying to make it through this placement. Trust me, if not, I would have given up long ago.
<br />
<br />Heck even the therapist that came last week said that she would work with each boy seperatly because THEY ARE TOO MUCH TOGETHER!!!
<br />
<br />Please continue to pray of me. Thank you.
 

lightNlife

New member
What a lot of stuff on your plate at once! It's certainly understandable that you'd be at your wit's end, exhausted, frustrated and depressed. I'm glad you have your mom to talk to, even if just for a little while at a time. Feel free to vent, we're here for you.

You are certainly being prayed for. Although I can't relate to what you're going through as a parent, I can relate to the IVs and the rest of the junk that goes along with CF.

I will be praying that calmer, more peaceful days are in store for you soon. Is it possible that they winter blues have gotten hold of you? (Not making light of your situation, just wondering...I get bluesy this time of year myself.)

{hugs} I wish I could say the magic words and change everything for the better.
 

lightNlife

New member
What a lot of stuff on your plate at once! It's certainly understandable that you'd be at your wit's end, exhausted, frustrated and depressed. I'm glad you have your mom to talk to, even if just for a little while at a time. Feel free to vent, we're here for you.

You are certainly being prayed for. Although I can't relate to what you're going through as a parent, I can relate to the IVs and the rest of the junk that goes along with CF.

I will be praying that calmer, more peaceful days are in store for you soon. Is it possible that they winter blues have gotten hold of you? (Not making light of your situation, just wondering...I get bluesy this time of year myself.)

{hugs} I wish I could say the magic words and change everything for the better.
 

lightNlife

New member
What a lot of stuff on your plate at once! It's certainly understandable that you'd be at your wit's end, exhausted, frustrated and depressed. I'm glad you have your mom to talk to, even if just for a little while at a time. Feel free to vent, we're here for you.

You are certainly being prayed for. Although I can't relate to what you're going through as a parent, I can relate to the IVs and the rest of the junk that goes along with CF.

I will be praying that calmer, more peaceful days are in store for you soon. Is it possible that they winter blues have gotten hold of you? (Not making light of your situation, just wondering...I get bluesy this time of year myself.)

{hugs} I wish I could say the magic words and change everything for the better.
 

lightNlife

New member
What a lot of stuff on your plate at once! It's certainly understandable that you'd be at your wit's end, exhausted, frustrated and depressed. I'm glad you have your mom to talk to, even if just for a little while at a time. Feel free to vent, we're here for you.

You are certainly being prayed for. Although I can't relate to what you're going through as a parent, I can relate to the IVs and the rest of the junk that goes along with CF.

I will be praying that calmer, more peaceful days are in store for you soon. Is it possible that they winter blues have gotten hold of you? (Not making light of your situation, just wondering...I get bluesy this time of year myself.)

{hugs} I wish I could say the magic words and change everything for the better.
 

lightNlife

New member
What a lot of stuff on your plate at once! It's certainly understandable that you'd be at your wit's end, exhausted, frustrated and depressed. I'm glad you have your mom to talk to, even if just for a little while at a time. Feel free to vent, we're here for you.
<br />
<br />You are certainly being prayed for. Although I can't relate to what you're going through as a parent, I can relate to the IVs and the rest of the junk that goes along with CF.
<br />
<br />I will be praying that calmer, more peaceful days are in store for you soon. Is it possible that they winter blues have gotten hold of you? (Not making light of your situation, just wondering...I get bluesy this time of year myself.)
<br />
<br />{hugs} I wish I could say the magic words and change everything for the better.
 

KayCee1234

New member
Hi Jenny,
I am wondering if your husband helps out with these two boys. I feel bad for you. I will have you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kathy
 

KayCee1234

New member
Hi Jenny,
I am wondering if your husband helps out with these two boys. I feel bad for you. I will have you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kathy
 

KayCee1234

New member
Hi Jenny,
I am wondering if your husband helps out with these two boys. I feel bad for you. I will have you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kathy
 

KayCee1234

New member
Hi Jenny,
I am wondering if your husband helps out with these two boys. I feel bad for you. I will have you in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kathy
 

KayCee1234

New member
Hi Jenny,
<br />I am wondering if your husband helps out with these two boys. I feel bad for you. I will have you in my prayers.
<br />
<br />Hugs,
<br />Kathy
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Jenny,

You are such a big hearted person. But you are putting your life at risk trying to raise TWO extremely troubled kids for which you have absolutely no training. Complicated by having a life threatening illness. I can tell that you are the kind of person that made a commitment and want to want to follow through. You can't "fix" these kids. And to put your life in jeopardy?

There was a show on 20 20 last night about people who adopt children from Russia. In 10 -25% of these children raised in orphanages, they are seriously damaged. Some with permanent brain damage who even try to kill their parents and siblings...even at AGE 4! When they adopt them, the children are adorable and smiling. But when they take them home, a different picture emerges.

The story was about people turning the children over, because after exhausting their lives and finances, they came to the conclusion they couldn't raise these kids, no matter how hard they tried. They felt like failures. And they were healthy people, not trying to battle Cystic Fibrosis.

There was a woman who ran a ranch for these Russian children that were turned over. This expert said that these parents were wonderful people (like you) but there was no way they could handle them. Some children were born to alcholic mothers and so abused by them and in the ophanage, they have attachment issues that untrained people can't handle, no matter how willing.

You should get a copy of this show.

The woman was also telling about how she handles these kids using firmness, and consistancy among other things, in addition to psychological help. I notice that you say you "begged" one kid or you told the other over and over to do do something. They are in charge. Not you.
As ridiculous as it sounds this is what "Supernanny" is about every single week. And these are normal kids.

A word about your illness. Most people have an asthma component to Cystic Fibrosis. That's why we take asthma medicines. Asthma responds to emotions. If you are emotionally spent, the level of inflammation will increase, your airways will swell and constrict, and it will be very hard for you to recover. The immune sytem will be overrun with hormones that will affect your ability to fight illness.

Please reconsider trying to raise these kids. It sounds like they have serious, serious problems. And besides, if you are sick, you won't be able to care for them, hard as you may try.

You and your husband sound like extrordinary people. Kind, loving, and committed. But this is just not a good match.

I hope that I am not being not being too intrusive. I have not said anything until now, but after seeing 20 20, it all seems pretty clear.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Jenny,

You are such a big hearted person. But you are putting your life at risk trying to raise TWO extremely troubled kids for which you have absolutely no training. Complicated by having a life threatening illness. I can tell that you are the kind of person that made a commitment and want to want to follow through. You can't "fix" these kids. And to put your life in jeopardy?

There was a show on 20 20 last night about people who adopt children from Russia. In 10 -25% of these children raised in orphanages, they are seriously damaged. Some with permanent brain damage who even try to kill their parents and siblings...even at AGE 4! When they adopt them, the children are adorable and smiling. But when they take them home, a different picture emerges.

The story was about people turning the children over, because after exhausting their lives and finances, they came to the conclusion they couldn't raise these kids, no matter how hard they tried. They felt like failures. And they were healthy people, not trying to battle Cystic Fibrosis.

There was a woman who ran a ranch for these Russian children that were turned over. This expert said that these parents were wonderful people (like you) but there was no way they could handle them. Some children were born to alcholic mothers and so abused by them and in the ophanage, they have attachment issues that untrained people can't handle, no matter how willing.

You should get a copy of this show.

The woman was also telling about how she handles these kids using firmness, and consistancy among other things, in addition to psychological help. I notice that you say you "begged" one kid or you told the other over and over to do do something. They are in charge. Not you.
As ridiculous as it sounds this is what "Supernanny" is about every single week. And these are normal kids.

A word about your illness. Most people have an asthma component to Cystic Fibrosis. That's why we take asthma medicines. Asthma responds to emotions. If you are emotionally spent, the level of inflammation will increase, your airways will swell and constrict, and it will be very hard for you to recover. The immune sytem will be overrun with hormones that will affect your ability to fight illness.

Please reconsider trying to raise these kids. It sounds like they have serious, serious problems. And besides, if you are sick, you won't be able to care for them, hard as you may try.

You and your husband sound like extrordinary people. Kind, loving, and committed. But this is just not a good match.

I hope that I am not being not being too intrusive. I have not said anything until now, but after seeing 20 20, it all seems pretty clear.
 

Nightwriter

New member
Hi Jenny,

You are such a big hearted person. But you are putting your life at risk trying to raise TWO extremely troubled kids for which you have absolutely no training. Complicated by having a life threatening illness. I can tell that you are the kind of person that made a commitment and want to want to follow through. You can't "fix" these kids. And to put your life in jeopardy?

There was a show on 20 20 last night about people who adopt children from Russia. In 10 -25% of these children raised in orphanages, they are seriously damaged. Some with permanent brain damage who even try to kill their parents and siblings...even at AGE 4! When they adopt them, the children are adorable and smiling. But when they take them home, a different picture emerges.

The story was about people turning the children over, because after exhausting their lives and finances, they came to the conclusion they couldn't raise these kids, no matter how hard they tried. They felt like failures. And they were healthy people, not trying to battle Cystic Fibrosis.

There was a woman who ran a ranch for these Russian children that were turned over. This expert said that these parents were wonderful people (like you) but there was no way they could handle them. Some children were born to alcholic mothers and so abused by them and in the ophanage, they have attachment issues that untrained people can't handle, no matter how willing.

You should get a copy of this show.

The woman was also telling about how she handles these kids using firmness, and consistancy among other things, in addition to psychological help. I notice that you say you "begged" one kid or you told the other over and over to do do something. They are in charge. Not you.
As ridiculous as it sounds this is what "Supernanny" is about every single week. And these are normal kids.

A word about your illness. Most people have an asthma component to Cystic Fibrosis. That's why we take asthma medicines. Asthma responds to emotions. If you are emotionally spent, the level of inflammation will increase, your airways will swell and constrict, and it will be very hard for you to recover. The immune sytem will be overrun with hormones that will affect your ability to fight illness.

Please reconsider trying to raise these kids. It sounds like they have serious, serious problems. And besides, if you are sick, you won't be able to care for them, hard as you may try.

You and your husband sound like extrordinary people. Kind, loving, and committed. But this is just not a good match.

I hope that I am not being not being too intrusive. I have not said anything until now, but after seeing 20 20, it all seems pretty clear.
 

Nightwriter

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Hi Jenny,

You are such a big hearted person. But you are putting your life at risk trying to raise TWO extremely troubled kids for which you have absolutely no training. Complicated by having a life threatening illness. I can tell that you are the kind of person that made a commitment and want to want to follow through. You can't "fix" these kids. And to put your life in jeopardy?

There was a show on 20 20 last night about people who adopt children from Russia. In 10 -25% of these children raised in orphanages, they are seriously damaged. Some with permanent brain damage who even try to kill their parents and siblings...even at AGE 4! When they adopt them, the children are adorable and smiling. But when they take them home, a different picture emerges.

The story was about people turning the children over, because after exhausting their lives and finances, they came to the conclusion they couldn't raise these kids, no matter how hard they tried. They felt like failures. And they were healthy people, not trying to battle Cystic Fibrosis.

There was a woman who ran a ranch for these Russian children that were turned over. This expert said that these parents were wonderful people (like you) but there was no way they could handle them. Some children were born to alcholic mothers and so abused by them and in the ophanage, they have attachment issues that untrained people can't handle, no matter how willing.

You should get a copy of this show.

The woman was also telling about how she handles these kids using firmness, and consistancy among other things, in addition to psychological help. I notice that you say you "begged" one kid or you told the other over and over to do do something. They are in charge. Not you.
As ridiculous as it sounds this is what "Supernanny" is about every single week. And these are normal kids.

A word about your illness. Most people have an asthma component to Cystic Fibrosis. That's why we take asthma medicines. Asthma responds to emotions. If you are emotionally spent, the level of inflammation will increase, your airways will swell and constrict, and it will be very hard for you to recover. The immune sytem will be overrun with hormones that will affect your ability to fight illness.

Please reconsider trying to raise these kids. It sounds like they have serious, serious problems. And besides, if you are sick, you won't be able to care for them, hard as you may try.

You and your husband sound like extrordinary people. Kind, loving, and committed. But this is just not a good match.

I hope that I am not being not being too intrusive. I have not said anything until now, but after seeing 20 20, it all seems pretty clear.
 

Nightwriter

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Hi Jenny,
<br />
<br />You are such a big hearted person. But you are putting your life at risk trying to raise TWO extremely troubled kids for which you have absolutely no training. Complicated by having a life threatening illness. I can tell that you are the kind of person that made a commitment and want to want to follow through. You can't "fix" these kids. And to put your life in jeopardy?
<br />
<br />There was a show on 20 20 last night about people who adopt children from Russia. In 10 -25% of these children raised in orphanages, they are seriously damaged. Some with permanent brain damage who even try to kill their parents and siblings...even at AGE 4! When they adopt them, the children are adorable and smiling. But when they take them home, a different picture emerges.
<br />
<br />The story was about people turning the children over, because after exhausting their lives and finances, they came to the conclusion they couldn't raise these kids, no matter how hard they tried. They felt like failures. And they were healthy people, not trying to battle Cystic Fibrosis.
<br />
<br />There was a woman who ran a ranch for these Russian children that were turned over. This expert said that these parents were wonderful people (like you) but there was no way they could handle them. Some children were born to alcholic mothers and so abused by them and in the ophanage, they have attachment issues that untrained people can't handle, no matter how willing.
<br />
<br />You should get a copy of this show.
<br />
<br />The woman was also telling about how she handles these kids using firmness, and consistancy among other things, in addition to psychological help. I notice that you say you "begged" one kid or you told the other over and over to do do something. They are in charge. Not you.
<br />As ridiculous as it sounds this is what "Supernanny" is about every single week. And these are normal kids.
<br />
<br />A word about your illness. Most people have an asthma component to Cystic Fibrosis. That's why we take asthma medicines. Asthma responds to emotions. If you are emotionally spent, the level of inflammation will increase, your airways will swell and constrict, and it will be very hard for you to recover. The immune sytem will be overrun with hormones that will affect your ability to fight illness.
<br />
<br />Please reconsider trying to raise these kids. It sounds like they have serious, serious problems. And besides, if you are sick, you won't be able to care for them, hard as you may try.
<br />
<br />You and your husband sound like extrordinary people. Kind, loving, and committed. But this is just not a good match.
<br />
<br />I hope that I am not being not being too intrusive. I have not said anything until now, but after seeing 20 20, it all seems pretty clear.
 
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