from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
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from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote></div>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>kswitch</b></i>
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
from a functional standpoint, funerals aren't really for the dead anyways. they're more to help people close to the deceased cope with the loss. you can show your support by contacting family members who might look forward to your shoulder to cry on and talk with them over the phone. i know it's not the same as a big, warm squeeze, but it's often enough to talk in times of crisis. i'm sure most of you're family will understand. after, all they wouldn't want to be attending your funeral just yet.</end quote>
Very good point. Also the fact that much of the pain comes long after the chaos of the funeral etc is over. When everyone has moved on with their lives and there is nothing to keep those left behind busy. THAT is when the phone calls, cards etc are most needed IMHO!
Thank you all for your words of support. I really appreciate the condolences.
Well, I've made a decision and I think it will make all involved happy. I agree that I had pretty much decided the 7 am flight would NOT be doing myself any favors, and I truly appreciate all the support I've gotten regarding my dilemma.
What I did was went ahead and booked a flight that leaves here tomorrow (Wed.) at 2:30 pm... It is soooooo much better in terms of getting a little extra rest, taking my time at the airport, etc. I didn't know this was an option until last night at midnight when I started calling around asking about bereavement fares (did you know they also apply to going to see someone who is ill in the hospital???) Anyway, I found a flight that for about $100 more I could leave tomorrow and come back at 1:00 pm on SUNDAY. So, I'd get back home by 3:30 pm. This would give me 5 full days to recoup (emotionally and/or physcially) at home before heading on our vacation. I think the decision to take the later flight and come home a bit early have already put my mind at ease about this, which is usually the issue with me (I work myself up so much that I get myself rundown).
I keep telling myself that although it will be chaotic with all the family, etc., I will feel better that I am there for my family (I agree, it really IS about the family, isn't it?)... I think I would not have been able to truly enjoy by D.C. vacation knowing I had not gone to the funeral. So, this puts my mind at ease a bit just knwoing that. I also find comfort knowing that I WILL put my health first when I'm there. I already decided I will take an extra vest/albuterol treatment every day (even though I have to leave the family for an hour or so for my alone time). I will also try to get out and do some walking in the FRESH air (its a small country town). So, I will take time for ME as well as being there for my family. Plus, I will be staying with a relative that is from the other side (mom's side), so I will always have that "oasis" if I need to lie down for awhile or just rest away from people.
I think taking this different flight and non anxsting about it for the next 2 days will also help.
Thanks again for your thoughts. You did help me put into perspective that I shouldn't take a 7 am flight and be up straight for almost 24 hours and then get home 4 days before hopping on another flight. You guys are such amazing support. I know family says they "understand" when I bring up health concerns such as this, but no one really truly gets it like the friends and "family" I have on this forum.
Thanks,
Well, I've made a decision and I think it will make all involved happy. I agree that I had pretty much decided the 7 am flight would NOT be doing myself any favors, and I truly appreciate all the support I've gotten regarding my dilemma.
What I did was went ahead and booked a flight that leaves here tomorrow (Wed.) at 2:30 pm... It is soooooo much better in terms of getting a little extra rest, taking my time at the airport, etc. I didn't know this was an option until last night at midnight when I started calling around asking about bereavement fares (did you know they also apply to going to see someone who is ill in the hospital???) Anyway, I found a flight that for about $100 more I could leave tomorrow and come back at 1:00 pm on SUNDAY. So, I'd get back home by 3:30 pm. This would give me 5 full days to recoup (emotionally and/or physcially) at home before heading on our vacation. I think the decision to take the later flight and come home a bit early have already put my mind at ease about this, which is usually the issue with me (I work myself up so much that I get myself rundown).
I keep telling myself that although it will be chaotic with all the family, etc., I will feel better that I am there for my family (I agree, it really IS about the family, isn't it?)... I think I would not have been able to truly enjoy by D.C. vacation knowing I had not gone to the funeral. So, this puts my mind at ease a bit just knwoing that. I also find comfort knowing that I WILL put my health first when I'm there. I already decided I will take an extra vest/albuterol treatment every day (even though I have to leave the family for an hour or so for my alone time). I will also try to get out and do some walking in the FRESH air (its a small country town). So, I will take time for ME as well as being there for my family. Plus, I will be staying with a relative that is from the other side (mom's side), so I will always have that "oasis" if I need to lie down for awhile or just rest away from people.
I think taking this different flight and non anxsting about it for the next 2 days will also help.
Thanks again for your thoughts. You did help me put into perspective that I shouldn't take a 7 am flight and be up straight for almost 24 hours and then get home 4 days before hopping on another flight. You guys are such amazing support. I know family says they "understand" when I bring up health concerns such as this, but no one really truly gets it like the friends and "family" I have on this forum.
Thanks,
Thank you all for your words of support. I really appreciate the condolences.
Well, I've made a decision and I think it will make all involved happy. I agree that I had pretty much decided the 7 am flight would NOT be doing myself any favors, and I truly appreciate all the support I've gotten regarding my dilemma.
What I did was went ahead and booked a flight that leaves here tomorrow (Wed.) at 2:30 pm... It is soooooo much better in terms of getting a little extra rest, taking my time at the airport, etc. I didn't know this was an option until last night at midnight when I started calling around asking about bereavement fares (did you know they also apply to going to see someone who is ill in the hospital???) Anyway, I found a flight that for about $100 more I could leave tomorrow and come back at 1:00 pm on SUNDAY. So, I'd get back home by 3:30 pm. This would give me 5 full days to recoup (emotionally and/or physcially) at home before heading on our vacation. I think the decision to take the later flight and come home a bit early have already put my mind at ease about this, which is usually the issue with me (I work myself up so much that I get myself rundown).
I keep telling myself that although it will be chaotic with all the family, etc., I will feel better that I am there for my family (I agree, it really IS about the family, isn't it?)... I think I would not have been able to truly enjoy by D.C. vacation knowing I had not gone to the funeral. So, this puts my mind at ease a bit just knwoing that. I also find comfort knowing that I WILL put my health first when I'm there. I already decided I will take an extra vest/albuterol treatment every day (even though I have to leave the family for an hour or so for my alone time). I will also try to get out and do some walking in the FRESH air (its a small country town). So, I will take time for ME as well as being there for my family. Plus, I will be staying with a relative that is from the other side (mom's side), so I will always have that "oasis" if I need to lie down for awhile or just rest away from people.
I think taking this different flight and non anxsting about it for the next 2 days will also help.
Thanks again for your thoughts. You did help me put into perspective that I shouldn't take a 7 am flight and be up straight for almost 24 hours and then get home 4 days before hopping on another flight. You guys are such amazing support. I know family says they "understand" when I bring up health concerns such as this, but no one really truly gets it like the friends and "family" I have on this forum.
Thanks,
Well, I've made a decision and I think it will make all involved happy. I agree that I had pretty much decided the 7 am flight would NOT be doing myself any favors, and I truly appreciate all the support I've gotten regarding my dilemma.
What I did was went ahead and booked a flight that leaves here tomorrow (Wed.) at 2:30 pm... It is soooooo much better in terms of getting a little extra rest, taking my time at the airport, etc. I didn't know this was an option until last night at midnight when I started calling around asking about bereavement fares (did you know they also apply to going to see someone who is ill in the hospital???) Anyway, I found a flight that for about $100 more I could leave tomorrow and come back at 1:00 pm on SUNDAY. So, I'd get back home by 3:30 pm. This would give me 5 full days to recoup (emotionally and/or physcially) at home before heading on our vacation. I think the decision to take the later flight and come home a bit early have already put my mind at ease about this, which is usually the issue with me (I work myself up so much that I get myself rundown).
I keep telling myself that although it will be chaotic with all the family, etc., I will feel better that I am there for my family (I agree, it really IS about the family, isn't it?)... I think I would not have been able to truly enjoy by D.C. vacation knowing I had not gone to the funeral. So, this puts my mind at ease a bit just knwoing that. I also find comfort knowing that I WILL put my health first when I'm there. I already decided I will take an extra vest/albuterol treatment every day (even though I have to leave the family for an hour or so for my alone time). I will also try to get out and do some walking in the FRESH air (its a small country town). So, I will take time for ME as well as being there for my family. Plus, I will be staying with a relative that is from the other side (mom's side), so I will always have that "oasis" if I need to lie down for awhile or just rest away from people.
I think taking this different flight and non anxsting about it for the next 2 days will also help.
Thanks again for your thoughts. You did help me put into perspective that I shouldn't take a 7 am flight and be up straight for almost 24 hours and then get home 4 days before hopping on another flight. You guys are such amazing support. I know family says they "understand" when I bring up health concerns such as this, but no one really truly gets it like the friends and "family" I have on this forum.
Thanks,