Do you feel like you neglect your other children?

[pnhuffman]

Just curious as to how many parents or caregivers of children with cf or any other medical issues feel like they neglect the other children. I really don't know if the right word to use is neglect.

For example today at my younger sons asthma check up the simple questions they ask I had a hard time answering. Part of that is good because that means he hasn't had an episode for a very long time.
But like when was his last bowel movement? Ummm I don't remember but now Austin I could tell you when, how big, color, greasy, boats or submarines and anything else you may want to know. LOL!

So how do we get over some of the guilt that comes with putting most of our daily care around one child?

 

[pnhuffman]

Just curious as to how many parents or caregivers of children with cf or any other medical issues feel like they neglect the other children. I really don't know if the right word to use is neglect.

For example today at my younger sons asthma check up the simple questions they ask I had a hard time answering. Part of that is good because that means he hasn't had an episode for a very long time.
But like when was his last bowel movement? Ummm I don't remember but now Austin I could tell you when, how big, color, greasy, boats or submarines and anything else you may want to know. LOL!

So how do we get over some of the guilt that comes with putting most of our daily care around one child?

 

[pnhuffman]

Just curious as to how many parents or caregivers of children with cf or any other medical issues feel like they neglect the other children. I really don't know if the right word to use is neglect.

For example today at my younger sons asthma check up the simple questions they ask I had a hard time answering. Part of that is good because that means he hasn't had an episode for a very long time.
But like when was his last bowel movement? Ummm I don't remember but now Austin I could tell you when, how big, color, greasy, boats or submarines and anything else you may want to know. LOL!

So how do we get over some of the guilt that comes with putting most of our daily care around one child?

 

[pnhuffman]

Just curious as to how many parents or caregivers of children with cf or any other medical issues feel like they neglect the other children. I really don't know if the right word to use is neglect.

For example today at my younger sons asthma check up the simple questions they ask I had a hard time answering. Part of that is good because that means he hasn't had an episode for a very long time.
But like when was his last bowel movement? Ummm I don't remember but now Austin I could tell you when, how big, color, greasy, boats or submarines and anything else you may want to know. LOL!

So how do we get over some of the guilt that comes with putting most of our daily care around one child?

 

[pnhuffman]

Just curious as to how many parents or caregivers of children with cf or any other medical issues feel like they neglect the other children. I really don't know if the right word to use is neglect.
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<br />For example today at my younger sons asthma check up the simple questions they ask I had a hard time answering. Part of that is good because that means he hasn't had an episode for a very long time.
<br />But like when was his last bowel movement? Ummm I don't remember but now Austin I could tell you when, how big, color, greasy, boats or submarines and anything else you may want to know. LOL!
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<br />So how do we get over some of the guilt that comes with putting most of our daily care around one child?

 

[Jeana]

Neither of my boys has CF and I can't tell you my older son's last bowel movement description. But Alex's (the baby) looked like the carrots he ate, but I only knew this because I changed his diaper. Don't beat yourself up. I've been a little worried about spending so much time with Alex because he's the baby, but kids adjust. I'm sure just the fact that you're worried about it means that you care and are doing your best! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Jeana]

Neither of my boys has CF and I can't tell you my older son's last bowel movement description. But Alex's (the baby) looked like the carrots he ate, but I only knew this because I changed his diaper. Don't beat yourself up. I've been a little worried about spending so much time with Alex because he's the baby, but kids adjust. I'm sure just the fact that you're worried about it means that you care and are doing your best! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Jeana]

Neither of my boys has CF and I can't tell you my older son's last bowel movement description. But Alex's (the baby) looked like the carrots he ate, but I only knew this because I changed his diaper. Don't beat yourself up. I've been a little worried about spending so much time with Alex because he's the baby, but kids adjust. I'm sure just the fact that you're worried about it means that you care and are doing your best! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Jeana]

Neither of my boys has CF and I can't tell you my older son's last bowel movement description. But Alex's (the baby) looked like the carrots he ate, but I only knew this because I changed his diaper. Don't beat yourself up. I've been a little worried about spending so much time with Alex because he's the baby, but kids adjust. I'm sure just the fact that you're worried about it means that you care and are doing your best! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[Jeana]

Neither of my boys has CF and I can't tell you my older son's last bowel movement description. But Alex's (the baby) looked like the carrots he ate, but I only knew this because I changed his diaper. Don't beat yourself up. I've been a little worried about spending so much time with Alex because he's the baby, but kids adjust. I'm sure just the fact that you're worried about it means that you care and are doing your best! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[DannysMom]

I feel guilty that I am not giving enough attention to my younger son who doesn't have the CF.. Just recently, Danny was admitted for 2 weeks and the first week we were shuttling Matt from one grandparent to the other.. Then I noticed how clingy and emotional he was when I was home with him.. Now, My husband and I trying to either be with one or the other, so they each get one of us alone..It seems to be working much better and the best thing is that Matt can sleep in his own bed.

 

[DannysMom]

I feel guilty that I am not giving enough attention to my younger son who doesn't have the CF.. Just recently, Danny was admitted for 2 weeks and the first week we were shuttling Matt from one grandparent to the other.. Then I noticed how clingy and emotional he was when I was home with him.. Now, My husband and I trying to either be with one or the other, so they each get one of us alone..It seems to be working much better and the best thing is that Matt can sleep in his own bed.

 

[DannysMom]

I feel guilty that I am not giving enough attention to my younger son who doesn't have the CF.. Just recently, Danny was admitted for 2 weeks and the first week we were shuttling Matt from one grandparent to the other.. Then I noticed how clingy and emotional he was when I was home with him.. Now, My husband and I trying to either be with one or the other, so they each get one of us alone..It seems to be working much better and the best thing is that Matt can sleep in his own bed.

 

[DannysMom]

I feel guilty that I am not giving enough attention to my younger son who doesn't have the CF.. Just recently, Danny was admitted for 2 weeks and the first week we were shuttling Matt from one grandparent to the other.. Then I noticed how clingy and emotional he was when I was home with him.. Now, My husband and I trying to either be with one or the other, so they each get one of us alone..It seems to be working much better and the best thing is that Matt can sleep in his own bed.

 

[DannysMom]

I feel guilty that I am not giving enough attention to my younger son who doesn't have the CF.. Just recently, Danny was admitted for 2 weeks and the first week we were shuttling Matt from one grandparent to the other.. Then I noticed how clingy and emotional he was when I was home with him.. Now, My husband and I trying to either be with one or the other, so they each get one of us alone..It seems to be working much better and the best thing is that Matt can sleep in his own bed.

 

[momtoCory]

Paula-
A very normal and natural feeling. I have beat myself up with that thought and feeling for many years. Often I still do. I always tried to be available for all of them but I know that physically that wasn't possible and someone was left out. CF is time consuming and takes a great deal of physical and emotional energy. We do the best that we can do and hope it is enough.

 

[momtoCory]

Paula-
A very normal and natural feeling. I have beat myself up with that thought and feeling for many years. Often I still do. I always tried to be available for all of them but I know that physically that wasn't possible and someone was left out. CF is time consuming and takes a great deal of physical and emotional energy. We do the best that we can do and hope it is enough.

 

[momtoCory]

Paula-
A very normal and natural feeling. I have beat myself up with that thought and feeling for many years. Often I still do. I always tried to be available for all of them but I know that physically that wasn't possible and someone was left out. CF is time consuming and takes a great deal of physical and emotional energy. We do the best that we can do and hope it is enough.

 

[momtoCory]

Paula-
A very normal and natural feeling. I have beat myself up with that thought and feeling for many years. Often I still do. I always tried to be available for all of them but I know that physically that wasn't possible and someone was left out. CF is time consuming and takes a great deal of physical and emotional energy. We do the best that we can do and hope it is enough.

 

[momtoCory]

Paula-
<br />A very normal and natural feeling. I have beat myself up with that thought and feeling for many years. Often I still do. I always tried to be available for all of them but I know that physically that wasn't possible and someone was left out. CF is time consuming and takes a great deal of physical and emotional energy. We do the best that we can do and hope it is enough.