Do you think Dr's should be at their patients funerals?

[Sevenstars]

When I attended a close friend's funeral, there were many, many of our caregivers there. I was not suprised in the least - he was an amazing person and touched a lot of people's lives. It was nice to see my own doctor there, giving him his final gesture of care, however, had he not been there, I would have understood too. It's not something that should be expected, but rather welcomed if the doctor/caregivers are that close to the patient.

 

[Sevenstars]

When I attended a close friend's funeral, there were many, many of our caregivers there. I was not suprised in the least - he was an amazing person and touched a lot of people's lives. It was nice to see my own doctor there, giving him his final gesture of care, however, had he not been there, I would have understood too. It's not something that should be expected, but rather welcomed if the doctor/caregivers are that close to the patient.

 

[Sevenstars]

When I attended a close friend's funeral, there were many, many of our caregivers there. I was not suprised in the least - he was an amazing person and touched a lot of people's lives. It was nice to see my own doctor there, giving him his final gesture of care, however, had he not been there, I would have understood too. It's not something that should be expected, but rather welcomed if the doctor/caregivers are that close to the patient.

 

[Sevenstars]

When I attended a close friend's funeral, there were many, many of our caregivers there. I was not suprised in the least - he was an amazing person and touched a lot of people's lives. It was nice to see my own doctor there, giving him his final gesture of care, however, had he not been there, I would have understood too. It's not something that should be expected, but rather welcomed if the doctor/caregivers are that close to the patient.

 

[Sevenstars]

When I attended a close friend's funeral, there were many, many of our caregivers there. I was not suprised in the least - he was an amazing person and touched a lot of people's lives. It was nice to see my own doctor there, giving him his final gesture of care, however, had he not been there, I would have understood too. It's not something that should be expected, but rather welcomed if the doctor/caregivers are that close to the patient.

 

[lightNlife]

I think that crosses a line. Unless the doctor happens to be personally connected to the family ASIDE from CF, I don't think it's appropriate for the doctor to be there.

Besides, I'd be upset if I had to get in touch with my doctor for something and he was at a funeral for someone else. A doctor's responsibility is to the living, not to the deceased.

That being said, I was particularly close with my pediatric CF staff. They were at my wedding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I don't expect them to be at my memorial service.

 

[lightNlife]

I think that crosses a line. Unless the doctor happens to be personally connected to the family ASIDE from CF, I don't think it's appropriate for the doctor to be there.

Besides, I'd be upset if I had to get in touch with my doctor for something and he was at a funeral for someone else. A doctor's responsibility is to the living, not to the deceased.

That being said, I was particularly close with my pediatric CF staff. They were at my wedding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I don't expect them to be at my memorial service.

 

[lightNlife]

I think that crosses a line. Unless the doctor happens to be personally connected to the family ASIDE from CF, I don't think it's appropriate for the doctor to be there.

Besides, I'd be upset if I had to get in touch with my doctor for something and he was at a funeral for someone else. A doctor's responsibility is to the living, not to the deceased.

That being said, I was particularly close with my pediatric CF staff. They were at my wedding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I don't expect them to be at my memorial service.

 

[lightNlife]

I think that crosses a line. Unless the doctor happens to be personally connected to the family ASIDE from CF, I don't think it's appropriate for the doctor to be there.

Besides, I'd be upset if I had to get in touch with my doctor for something and he was at a funeral for someone else. A doctor's responsibility is to the living, not to the deceased.

That being said, I was particularly close with my pediatric CF staff. They were at my wedding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I don't expect them to be at my memorial service.

 

[lightNlife]

I think that crosses a line. Unless the doctor happens to be personally connected to the family ASIDE from CF, I don't think it's appropriate for the doctor to be there.
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<br />Besides, I'd be upset if I had to get in touch with my doctor for something and he was at a funeral for someone else. A doctor's responsibility is to the living, not to the deceased.
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<br />That being said, I was particularly close with my pediatric CF staff. They were at my wedding <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> I don't expect them to be at my memorial service.

 

[LisaV]

I think there's a difference between the docs and the inhome caregivers. My husband's PCA came to his funeral even though she hadn't been taking care of him the weeks before his death (he had been in a specialty hospital during that time). I made a point of calling the agency to let them know that he had died and to ask that she be told and that she was invited to the funeral. Said that I thought maybe she would need/want the closure. I guess they agreed because they gave her the time (paid by them, never saw the bill) and she came.

I thought of it because my parents' caregivers didn't have that opportunity (Yankees that my parents were they had ordered no services). Later, they shared with me that that had been difficult for them: one minute 100% caregiving; next minute nothing.

My thoughts are based on the idea that services (wakes and funerals) are for the living - not for the dead. The dead are dead-they don't need comfort any more. If as a surviver you are a believer then you have the comfort of knowing they are with their god. If you are not, well at least their suffering is over and they have become one with the earth again. Some survivors really need to attend services to function well in their lives - some do not. I'd invite everyone (including the doctors if you want to) and then let folks make their own choices and then you accept those choices without judgement.

 

[LisaV]

I think there's a difference between the docs and the inhome caregivers. My husband's PCA came to his funeral even though she hadn't been taking care of him the weeks before his death (he had been in a specialty hospital during that time). I made a point of calling the agency to let them know that he had died and to ask that she be told and that she was invited to the funeral. Said that I thought maybe she would need/want the closure. I guess they agreed because they gave her the time (paid by them, never saw the bill) and she came.

I thought of it because my parents' caregivers didn't have that opportunity (Yankees that my parents were they had ordered no services). Later, they shared with me that that had been difficult for them: one minute 100% caregiving; next minute nothing.

My thoughts are based on the idea that services (wakes and funerals) are for the living - not for the dead. The dead are dead-they don't need comfort any more. If as a surviver you are a believer then you have the comfort of knowing they are with their god. If you are not, well at least their suffering is over and they have become one with the earth again. Some survivors really need to attend services to function well in their lives - some do not. I'd invite everyone (including the doctors if you want to) and then let folks make their own choices and then you accept those choices without judgement.

 

[LisaV]

I think there's a difference between the docs and the inhome caregivers. My husband's PCA came to his funeral even though she hadn't been taking care of him the weeks before his death (he had been in a specialty hospital during that time). I made a point of calling the agency to let them know that he had died and to ask that she be told and that she was invited to the funeral. Said that I thought maybe she would need/want the closure. I guess they agreed because they gave her the time (paid by them, never saw the bill) and she came.

I thought of it because my parents' caregivers didn't have that opportunity (Yankees that my parents were they had ordered no services). Later, they shared with me that that had been difficult for them: one minute 100% caregiving; next minute nothing.

My thoughts are based on the idea that services (wakes and funerals) are for the living - not for the dead. The dead are dead-they don't need comfort any more. If as a surviver you are a believer then you have the comfort of knowing they are with their god. If you are not, well at least their suffering is over and they have become one with the earth again. Some survivors really need to attend services to function well in their lives - some do not. I'd invite everyone (including the doctors if you want to) and then let folks make their own choices and then you accept those choices without judgement.

 

[LisaV]

I think there's a difference between the docs and the inhome caregivers. My husband's PCA came to his funeral even though she hadn't been taking care of him the weeks before his death (he had been in a specialty hospital during that time). I made a point of calling the agency to let them know that he had died and to ask that she be told and that she was invited to the funeral. Said that I thought maybe she would need/want the closure. I guess they agreed because they gave her the time (paid by them, never saw the bill) and she came.

I thought of it because my parents' caregivers didn't have that opportunity (Yankees that my parents were they had ordered no services). Later, they shared with me that that had been difficult for them: one minute 100% caregiving; next minute nothing.

My thoughts are based on the idea that services (wakes and funerals) are for the living - not for the dead. The dead are dead-they don't need comfort any more. If as a surviver you are a believer then you have the comfort of knowing they are with their god. If you are not, well at least their suffering is over and they have become one with the earth again. Some survivors really need to attend services to function well in their lives - some do not. I'd invite everyone (including the doctors if you want to) and then let folks make their own choices and then you accept those choices without judgement.

 

[LisaV]

I think there's a difference between the docs and the inhome caregivers. My husband's PCA came to his funeral even though she hadn't been taking care of him the weeks before his death (he had been in a specialty hospital during that time). I made a point of calling the agency to let them know that he had died and to ask that she be told and that she was invited to the funeral. Said that I thought maybe she would need/want the closure. I guess they agreed because they gave her the time (paid by them, never saw the bill) and she came.
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<br />I thought of it because my parents' caregivers didn't have that opportunity (Yankees that my parents were they had ordered no services). Later, they shared with me that that had been difficult for them: one minute 100% caregiving; next minute nothing.
<br />
<br />My thoughts are based on the idea that services (wakes and funerals) are for the living - not for the dead. The dead are dead-they don't need comfort any more. If as a surviver you are a believer then you have the comfort of knowing they are with their god. If you are not, well at least their suffering is over and they have become one with the earth again. Some survivors really need to attend services to function well in their lives - some do not. I'd invite everyone (including the doctors if you want to) and then let folks make their own choices and then you accept those choices without judgement.