does anyone had any cf friends die and are afraid to have more

blondi4cf37 · Apr 5, 2007

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">hi
i have had a friend that i got close to and then she died now i had another friend died it was so hard to get over but i did!<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> Now i am trying to make new friends but i dont want to get close and then they die(not saying that you guys are gonna die or anything), i just need some one to talk to.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
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im 12 and i have cf but i deal with it!

blondi4cf37 · Apr 5, 2007

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">hi
i have had a friend that i got close to and then she died now i had another friend died it was so hard to get over but i did!<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> Now i am trying to make new friends but i dont want to get close and then they die(not saying that you guys are gonna die or anything), i just need some one to talk to.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
<hr><hr>
im 12 and i have cf but i deal with it!

blondi4cf37 · Apr 5, 2007

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-confused.gif" border="0">hi
i have had a friend that i got close to and then she died now i had another friend died it was so hard to get over but i did!<img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> Now i am trying to make new friends but i dont want to get close and then they die(not saying that you guys are gonna die or anything), i just need some one to talk to.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
<hr><hr>
im 12 and i have cf but i deal with it!

MCGrad2006 · Apr 6, 2007

Hey...I kow what your talking about. I had two friends die of CF in the past three years and its sooooo hard. In one part, you wanna take thier pain away, and help them cope, but you cant be near them. When my first friend died she was like 39 and didnt really take care of herself. I admire her so much and miss her dearly. I regret not keeping in touch with her and I felt so guilty when she died, b/c I had lost contact with her. I keep her in my prayers and I still talk to her and say goodnight to her every night. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

When my second friend died, she was the same age as me, 22. I felt so guilty and wondered so much, why did she have to go. She kept telling me, I will be there for you whenever you need me and when/if you reach the point in your life when you need a trasnplany (b/c she was getting one). I told her i may not know what you are going through at this very moment, but I am here for you and I will always be praying for you. And she came back and though of me. She died in December, just about 8 weeks after receiving new lungs. Why didnt she get a chance? She was supposed to be ok, her new lungs were the start of a new life. As with my first friend, I still talk to Kay ALLLL the time, prob more so than the other friend, b/c I was closer to Kay and closer in age. <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

We, as the survivors, need to be strong and live our lives to the fullest. We need to prove to our friends that we can do it and beat the odds. Not to sound morbid, but yea we will all die, but we need to make the best of what we have. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that we all go through tough times. We are here for you and feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

MCGrad2006 · Apr 6, 2007

Hey...I kow what your talking about. I had two friends die of CF in the past three years and its sooooo hard. In one part, you wanna take thier pain away, and help them cope, but you cant be near them. When my first friend died she was like 39 and didnt really take care of herself. I admire her so much and miss her dearly. I regret not keeping in touch with her and I felt so guilty when she died, b/c I had lost contact with her. I keep her in my prayers and I still talk to her and say goodnight to her every night. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

When my second friend died, she was the same age as me, 22. I felt so guilty and wondered so much, why did she have to go. She kept telling me, I will be there for you whenever you need me and when/if you reach the point in your life when you need a trasnplany (b/c she was getting one). I told her i may not know what you are going through at this very moment, but I am here for you and I will always be praying for you. And she came back and though of me. She died in December, just about 8 weeks after receiving new lungs. Why didnt she get a chance? She was supposed to be ok, her new lungs were the start of a new life. As with my first friend, I still talk to Kay ALLLL the time, prob more so than the other friend, b/c I was closer to Kay and closer in age. <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

We, as the survivors, need to be strong and live our lives to the fullest. We need to prove to our friends that we can do it and beat the odds. Not to sound morbid, but yea we will all die, but we need to make the best of what we have. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that we all go through tough times. We are here for you and feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

MCGrad2006 · Apr 6, 2007

Hey...I kow what your talking about. I had two friends die of CF in the past three years and its sooooo hard. In one part, you wanna take thier pain away, and help them cope, but you cant be near them. When my first friend died she was like 39 and didnt really take care of herself. I admire her so much and miss her dearly. I regret not keeping in touch with her and I felt so guilty when she died, b/c I had lost contact with her. I keep her in my prayers and I still talk to her and say goodnight to her every night. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

When my second friend died, she was the same age as me, 22. I felt so guilty and wondered so much, why did she have to go. She kept telling me, I will be there for you whenever you need me and when/if you reach the point in your life when you need a trasnplany (b/c she was getting one). I told her i may not know what you are going through at this very moment, but I am here for you and I will always be praying for you. And she came back and though of me. She died in December, just about 8 weeks after receiving new lungs. Why didnt she get a chance? She was supposed to be ok, her new lungs were the start of a new life. As with my first friend, I still talk to Kay ALLLL the time, prob more so than the other friend, b/c I was closer to Kay and closer in age. <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">

We, as the survivors, need to be strong and live our lives to the fullest. We need to prove to our friends that we can do it and beat the odds. Not to sound morbid, but yea we will all die, but we need to make the best of what we have. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that we all go through tough times. We are here for you and feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

coltsfan715 · Apr 6, 2007

This is a very hard thing for anyone. I will say I had a very long reply written then I looked at your age and my heart sank - I decided to just rewrite what I was wanting to say.

I was 7 and 8 when my first friends with CF died. It was VERY hard. I didn't understand what was going on or why they had to die. I knew I had the same problem as them and I wondered what was going to happen to me. It is very scary thing to handle at any age let alone so young. I decided that I did NOT want to make any more CF friends at that age. I would stay friends with the friends that I had, but wouldn't get to know anyone new with CF. I did that until I turned 23 and then I started searching for new CF friends.

I have lost several friends with CF over the years and it is upsetting and scary and can make you feel guilty and question alot of things. THAT is normal. You are not wrong for being upset or for not wanting to make friends with more CF people that you think may just end up dying - (not trying to sound morbid) - I was the same way at your age. I wanted to keep from getting hurt again and that was the only way I knew how - by NOT making anymore CF friends.

I will say now - I wish I had not done that for so long. We need to have people that can relate to us that know what you are going through --- really know. I hope you are able to make some friends and I hope that you are able to enjoy years of friendship with them and that you don't get hurt again - especially anytime soon.

Please Take Care and know that many of us have had the same feelings and been hurt in the same way. It is VERY hard but the hurt will start to pass over time.

Thinking of you,
Lindsey

coltsfan715 · Apr 6, 2007

This is a very hard thing for anyone. I will say I had a very long reply written then I looked at your age and my heart sank - I decided to just rewrite what I was wanting to say.

I was 7 and 8 when my first friends with CF died. It was VERY hard. I didn't understand what was going on or why they had to die. I knew I had the same problem as them and I wondered what was going to happen to me. It is very scary thing to handle at any age let alone so young. I decided that I did NOT want to make any more CF friends at that age. I would stay friends with the friends that I had, but wouldn't get to know anyone new with CF. I did that until I turned 23 and then I started searching for new CF friends.

I have lost several friends with CF over the years and it is upsetting and scary and can make you feel guilty and question alot of things. THAT is normal. You are not wrong for being upset or for not wanting to make friends with more CF people that you think may just end up dying - (not trying to sound morbid) - I was the same way at your age. I wanted to keep from getting hurt again and that was the only way I knew how - by NOT making anymore CF friends.

I will say now - I wish I had not done that for so long. We need to have people that can relate to us that know what you are going through --- really know. I hope you are able to make some friends and I hope that you are able to enjoy years of friendship with them and that you don't get hurt again - especially anytime soon.

Please Take Care and know that many of us have had the same feelings and been hurt in the same way. It is VERY hard but the hurt will start to pass over time.

Thinking of you,
Lindsey

coltsfan715 · Apr 6, 2007

This is a very hard thing for anyone. I will say I had a very long reply written then I looked at your age and my heart sank - I decided to just rewrite what I was wanting to say.

I was 7 and 8 when my first friends with CF died. It was VERY hard. I didn't understand what was going on or why they had to die. I knew I had the same problem as them and I wondered what was going to happen to me. It is very scary thing to handle at any age let alone so young. I decided that I did NOT want to make any more CF friends at that age. I would stay friends with the friends that I had, but wouldn't get to know anyone new with CF. I did that until I turned 23 and then I started searching for new CF friends.

I have lost several friends with CF over the years and it is upsetting and scary and can make you feel guilty and question alot of things. THAT is normal. You are not wrong for being upset or for not wanting to make friends with more CF people that you think may just end up dying - (not trying to sound morbid) - I was the same way at your age. I wanted to keep from getting hurt again and that was the only way I knew how - by NOT making anymore CF friends.

I will say now - I wish I had not done that for so long. We need to have people that can relate to us that know what you are going through --- really know. I hope you are able to make some friends and I hope that you are able to enjoy years of friendship with them and that you don't get hurt again - especially anytime soon.

Please Take Care and know that many of us have had the same feelings and been hurt in the same way. It is VERY hard but the hurt will start to pass over time.

Thinking of you,
Lindsey

blondi4cf37 · Apr 7, 2007