Escape from "Care Bear Land
For all of you who understood the message, thank you for your time to read through it (and even post). It was pleasant to know my message got through to most of you.
Risa, thank you for the suggestion for a Blog, but I personally don't have interest in doing something like that.
As for those of you who had an 800 lb. gorilla in their way, I suggest you move it out of the way to re-read what my message was to answer your question, because what I wrote was clear to a large number of those who had posted.
Amy, I wasn't born yesterday, and i didn't CHOOSE to live in this country...though I question WHY you included that in the sentence for the statement you were trying to make.
I know that nothing is 100% flawless. And, sometimes the bad outweighs the good. I won't go too in detail with my marriage/divorce, but that experience, and the work experience I had here had taught me the lesson on how to balance good (pros) and bad (cons) to decide whether something is worth continuing with or not. When I came to Japan (Yes, I'm mentioning Japan, again) and was already in a company after three years, I had a lot of trouble and wanted to leave to find another job, but that was when I realized that every company has their good and bad points, and some of the bad points have to be accepted, or to move on. In the past, I was easily discouraged by work-related problems and wanted to quit, but never had any "roots" in a company.
My marriage was off on the wrong foot from the start...coming to this country was part of the package, and I was decieved into believing there was proper treatment here, along with other marital problems...after ten years of marriage, I had to balance the good (very little "good" in my marriage, perhaps the word is "balance the sacrifices") with the bad in the marriage and I ended up having to choose making a request for divorce. Well, my health was going downhill primarily due to the ex-wife, and I had to decide which was more to my benefit, and I chose to take the path of divorce, because of so many factors involved.
I had then learned the next lesson in my life...do what I can to change the things I can for the better of myself, and let go of what I cannot change. "Letting go" may include not being involved anymore, but that is my choice.
I didn't post to be felt sorry for, I posted because I was fed up with the lack of proper protocol, and mutual respect that had been increasing on this forum. I felt is was something to point out, because some others couldn't seem to find the words to say the same. I also hoped with by taking a break, maybe enough realization to those reading my post would have a little influence on how the posts may change in the future.
I, like you, have also learned a lot, yet I feel I have (perhaps you have, too) been able to contribute to teaching (or helping) as well.
As for the handling of conflict, human nature is also 'those who get too much conflict eventually cannot handle it'.
And, human nature is separate from human relation. Human relation is the ability to relate to others in a polite (or inpolite) manner, and with that, being able to have a large surrounding of friends (or be alone). Human nature would just be how someone would "habitually" react to someone elses human behavior.
For this forum to show a little more "family" or "Friendliness", less human nature, and more human relation would be apropriate.
If this is unclear, I can explain it in a different language.