Emily65Roses
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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>deeznuts</b></i>
yup, terri, you nailed it. i can't speak for all, but i can certainly speak for some - not being able to have kids is actually quite painful to some people (myself included). i don't talk about it much because it's something i dealt with long ago, but it creeps up on me at times. i am NOT suggesting that people avoid the subject altogether, even at all, but when i read some of the comments on tara's blog about how people without kids just don't know, i was, to say the least, perturbed because people that DO have kids just don't f*cking know either, and it seems as if there is little to no compassion on that front. further, when people constantly speak of the elation of being a parent, of how that's their reason for living, it's like a kick in the proverbial nuts. what's our reason for living then???
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I do agree with this. However, I still don't want to segregate chat. I like the people involved, Tara included, no matter how much she talks about her kids. I actually hadn't even noticed... I think because when kids come up in chat, I stop paying attention. Then I check back in from time to time to see if it's moved on. And I pay attention and start talking again when it's moved on. *shrug*
But he's right... we don't know what it's like to have kids, but you guys also don't know what it's like to not have that choice. Or to have the choice and have to choose (for the betterment of yourself and the proposed children) against what you may want. That's a very selfless and incredible decision to have to make. And it sucks. I realize having kids is also a huge job and I wouldn't say otherwise. But those who have them seem to forget the sacrifices those of us who don't are making.
I wanted to say that nonsense because it has been brought up. Sometimes kids is a sore subject for me, but as a whole, I just float away and read my book or something until kid chat goes away. I've never had a problem doing that. I like books. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0"> And I like the parents, kid chat or not.
I think I'm babbling. I'm done now.
yup, terri, you nailed it. i can't speak for all, but i can certainly speak for some - not being able to have kids is actually quite painful to some people (myself included). i don't talk about it much because it's something i dealt with long ago, but it creeps up on me at times. i am NOT suggesting that people avoid the subject altogether, even at all, but when i read some of the comments on tara's blog about how people without kids just don't know, i was, to say the least, perturbed because people that DO have kids just don't f*cking know either, and it seems as if there is little to no compassion on that front. further, when people constantly speak of the elation of being a parent, of how that's their reason for living, it's like a kick in the proverbial nuts. what's our reason for living then???
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I do agree with this. However, I still don't want to segregate chat. I like the people involved, Tara included, no matter how much she talks about her kids. I actually hadn't even noticed... I think because when kids come up in chat, I stop paying attention. Then I check back in from time to time to see if it's moved on. And I pay attention and start talking again when it's moved on. *shrug*
But he's right... we don't know what it's like to have kids, but you guys also don't know what it's like to not have that choice. Or to have the choice and have to choose (for the betterment of yourself and the proposed children) against what you may want. That's a very selfless and incredible decision to have to make. And it sucks. I realize having kids is also a huge job and I wouldn't say otherwise. But those who have them seem to forget the sacrifices those of us who don't are making.
I wanted to say that nonsense because it has been brought up. Sometimes kids is a sore subject for me, but as a whole, I just float away and read my book or something until kid chat goes away. I've never had a problem doing that. I like books. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0"> And I like the parents, kid chat or not.
I think I'm babbling. I'm done now.