Friendships & Smokers

[BethanyAnne]

So, I live in Nashville and the music scene (my boyfriend is a singer/songwriter) is filled with a lot of people who smoke believe it or not. I mean you would think they wouldn't smoke because of their voices, but let me tell ou it does not stop people. Anyways, new friends are sometimes hard to come by and keep because when they smoke you can't really keep them as friends...anyone else have feelings about this, experience, or just want to share...I'd sure like to hear what you have to say <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Bethany

 

[BethanyAnne]

So, I live in Nashville and the music scene (my boyfriend is a singer/songwriter) is filled with a lot of people who smoke believe it or not. I mean you would think they wouldn't smoke because of their voices, but let me tell ou it does not stop people. Anyways, new friends are sometimes hard to come by and keep because when they smoke you can't really keep them as friends...anyone else have feelings about this, experience, or just want to share...I'd sure like to hear what you have to say <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Bethany

 

[BethanyAnne]

So, I live in Nashville and the music scene (my boyfriend is a singer/songwriter) is filled with a lot of people who smoke believe it or not. I mean you would think they wouldn't smoke because of their voices, but let me tell ou it does not stop people. Anyways, new friends are sometimes hard to come by and keep because when they smoke you can't really keep them as friends...anyone else have feelings about this, experience, or just want to share...I'd sure like to hear what you have to say <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
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<br />Bethany

 

[threebabies]

I would like to hear about other people's experiences with smokers and how they handle it. My dad smokes my children don't know that he smokes he is not allow to smoke in front of me and especially the children. We stopped taking the children to their home because their tenant still smokes in the basement. The dr's say that third hand smoke can be harmful to cf'ers. We told my parent's if they want see the children they have come by us. As for friends that smoke. We have very few. If they are around the children they know smoking is a big no no.


Gina
Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 21 months all w/cf df508 & py849x

 

[threebabies]

I would like to hear about other people's experiences with smokers and how they handle it. My dad smokes my children don't know that he smokes he is not allow to smoke in front of me and especially the children. We stopped taking the children to their home because their tenant still smokes in the basement. The dr's say that third hand smoke can be harmful to cf'ers. We told my parent's if they want see the children they have come by us. As for friends that smoke. We have very few. If they are around the children they know smoking is a big no no.


Gina
Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 21 months all w/cf df508 & py849x

 

[threebabies]

I would like to hear about other people's experiences with smokers and how they handle it. My dad smokes my children don't know that he smokes he is not allow to smoke in front of me and especially the children. We stopped taking the children to their home because their tenant still smokes in the basement. The dr's say that third hand smoke can be harmful to cf'ers. We told my parent's if they want see the children they have come by us. As for friends that smoke. We have very few. If they are around the children they know smoking is a big no no.
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<br />Gina
<br />Mom to Sophia 3, Peter & Gavin 21 months all w/cf df508 & py849x

 

[BethanyAnne]

Yes, my dad actually recently quit. He used to smoke, only outside or away from us but still you could smell it when he came in and now he doesn't smoke!! Yay! So, that's a plus! But, my boyfriend (Steven and I) don't really have that amny close friends in Nashville. There is some people tat he likes and are really great people for him to be around because they are the big whigs in th industry, but they smoke. I mean it just stinks.

 

[BethanyAnne]

Yes, my dad actually recently quit. He used to smoke, only outside or away from us but still you could smell it when he came in and now he doesn't smoke!! Yay! So, that's a plus! But, my boyfriend (Steven and I) don't really have that amny close friends in Nashville. There is some people tat he likes and are really great people for him to be around because they are the big whigs in th industry, but they smoke. I mean it just stinks.

 

[BethanyAnne]

Yes, my dad actually recently quit. He used to smoke, only outside or away from us but still you could smell it when he came in and now he doesn't smoke!! Yay! So, that's a plus! But, my boyfriend (Steven and I) don't really have that amny close friends in Nashville. There is some people tat he likes and are really great people for him to be around because they are the big whigs in th industry, but they smoke. I mean it just stinks.

 

[RCWoody]

All my friends who smoke have always stepped out or far away when I'm around. Non-smoking in bars and restaurants here helps a lot. Good friends or new friends who like you will make the effort to keep it away from you. You just have to let them know it's bad for your CF.

 

[RCWoody]

All my friends who smoke have always stepped out or far away when I'm around. Non-smoking in bars and restaurants here helps a lot. Good friends or new friends who like you will make the effort to keep it away from you. You just have to let them know it's bad for your CF.

 

[RCWoody]

All my friends who smoke have always stepped out or far away when I'm around. Non-smoking in bars and restaurants here helps a lot. Good friends or new friends who like you will make the effort to keep it away from you. You just have to let them know it's bad for your CF.

 

[static]

Smoking is bad, yes we all know that.

<b>However</b>, this is real life people. Your children will grow up and be exposed to it in one situation or another. My mother was extremely caution of smokers when I was a child (she wouldn't let me sit at the smokey end of a fireplace during camping trips, left any restaurant that even smelled like a hint of smoke, and I can't remember her ever having a single smoking friend), however now that I have a job and 1/2 of my co-workers smoke (including my boss) it is not something I can discriminate against.

People can do what they want with their bodies, and I have to respect that. Thankfully I live in California where smoking isn't allowed within 30 feet of the building and all my friends know not to smoke around me, but at times I can still smell it. On my last clinic appointment I specifically asked MY doctor about "third-hand smoke", and he told me no specific harm can come from just smelling it on someones' breath/clothing.

As CF'ers it is easy to hate on people who abuse their lungs. I used to look at smokers and truely HATE them, but now I know what a tough habit it really is to kick. Regardless of whether they want to quit or not (and most do), we have to respect others' decisions.

 

[static]

Smoking is bad, yes we all know that.

<b>However</b>, this is real life people. Your children will grow up and be exposed to it in one situation or another. My mother was extremely caution of smokers when I was a child (she wouldn't let me sit at the smokey end of a fireplace during camping trips, left any restaurant that even smelled like a hint of smoke, and I can't remember her ever having a single smoking friend), however now that I have a job and 1/2 of my co-workers smoke (including my boss) it is not something I can discriminate against.

People can do what they want with their bodies, and I have to respect that. Thankfully I live in California where smoking isn't allowed within 30 feet of the building and all my friends know not to smoke around me, but at times I can still smell it. On my last clinic appointment I specifically asked MY doctor about "third-hand smoke", and he told me no specific harm can come from just smelling it on someones' breath/clothing.

As CF'ers it is easy to hate on people who abuse their lungs. I used to look at smokers and truely HATE them, but now I know what a tough habit it really is to kick. Regardless of whether they want to quit or not (and most do), we have to respect others' decisions.

 

[static]

Smoking is bad, yes we all know that.
<br />
<br /><b>However</b>, this is real life people. Your children will grow up and be exposed to it in one situation or another. My mother was extremely caution of smokers when I was a child (she wouldn't let me sit at the smokey end of a fireplace during camping trips, left any restaurant that even smelled like a hint of smoke, and I can't remember her ever having a single smoking friend), however now that I have a job and 1/2 of my co-workers smoke (including my boss) it is not something I can discriminate against.
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<br />People can do what they want with their bodies, and I have to respect that. Thankfully I live in California where smoking isn't allowed within 30 feet of the building and all my friends know not to smoke around me, but at times I can still smell it. On my last clinic appointment I specifically asked MY doctor about "third-hand smoke", and he told me no specific harm can come from just smelling it on someones' breath/clothing.
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<br />As CF'ers it is easy to hate on people who abuse their lungs. I used to look at smokers and truely HATE them, but now I know what a tough habit it really is to kick. Regardless of whether they want to quit or not (and most do), we have to respect others' decisions.

 

[static]

Anyways to answer your question I think it would be wise for you to stay away from smoke and let your friends know that it is not healthy for you to be around (you don't even have to say you have CF if you don't want to, it isn't healthy for anyone). I just wouldn't dump them because they smoke, but if they don't respect your wishes after you ask them then it might be time to move on.

Also, try hanging out with them at other places rather than bars. If your into music, get tickets for an outdoor concert.

 

[static]

Anyways to answer your question I think it would be wise for you to stay away from smoke and let your friends know that it is not healthy for you to be around (you don't even have to say you have CF if you don't want to, it isn't healthy for anyone). I just wouldn't dump them because they smoke, but if they don't respect your wishes after you ask them then it might be time to move on.

Also, try hanging out with them at other places rather than bars. If your into music, get tickets for an outdoor concert.

 

[static]

Anyways to answer your question I think it would be wise for you to stay away from smoke and let your friends know that it is not healthy for you to be around (you don't even have to say you have CF if you don't want to, it isn't healthy for anyone). I just wouldn't dump them because they smoke, but if they don't respect your wishes after you ask them then it might be time to move on.
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<br />Also, try hanging out with them at other places rather than bars. If your into music, get tickets for an outdoor concert.

 

[BethanyAnne]

I appreciate all of your comments!! thank you!

static - it's not that I just appreciate music. It is what my boyfriend and I do and now he does by himself, but it is still a very big part of my life. It just stinks at times when I have to leave the scene and can't be apart of whatever it is going on. I'm sure you get that. My doctor told me that it does harm you when it is on someone's clothing and so forth. My dad used to smoke outside and then come back in and he would smell of it. My youngest sister has CF as well and her's is a lot worse than mine and my doctor would try to tell and stress to my dad how important it is that he he quits for Kenzie and my sake. Hmm?

 

[BethanyAnne]

I appreciate all of your comments!! thank you!

static - it's not that I just appreciate music. It is what my boyfriend and I do and now he does by himself, but it is still a very big part of my life. It just stinks at times when I have to leave the scene and can't be apart of whatever it is going on. I'm sure you get that. My doctor told me that it does harm you when it is on someone's clothing and so forth. My dad used to smoke outside and then come back in and he would smell of it. My youngest sister has CF as well and her's is a lot worse than mine and my doctor would try to tell and stress to my dad how important it is that he he quits for Kenzie and my sake. Hmm?