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Having another child wcf
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You may not get too many responses simply because this question always seems to turn into a heated debate-unfortunately. You have every right to ask the question and ponder your options. But in the meantime, if you utilize the search feature at the top of this page on the Right, you can type in some keywords like, another child or anything else that you can think of related to your question. also type in PGD as that has been discussed on a number of occasions. You should get a number of other threads where this same question has been asked and discussed.
hi, i'm a mom w/ 3 girls the youngest has CF. it took us a year to decide whether or not to have anymore children. at that time we were overwhelmed with this disease, so i had my tubes tied. 6 years later i probably would take that chance and have another baby. you'll never meet the most amazing children/adults in the world!!!!!
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My parents were trying to decide if they wanted to have another kid after me.... when they found out they were pregnant. So they had my sister, and she's healthy. In fact, she doesn't even carry the gene. We got either extreme. But anyway... my parents did, though it hadn't really been *decided* when it happened.
Some people "play the odds". Some dont want to risk another CF child & some wont have kids even with them just being a potential carrier of the gene & not the illness. This is a very "hot" topic at times. Its such an individual choice......What I will say is whoever has decided to try & did have another child with CF has to be ready to expect it since that is a possibility. In all ways...financially, physically, mentally & emotionally. I laugh at people that dont have CF in their life yet cant "manage" life with more than 1 or 2 healthy kids & health parents......Give them a real challenge is what I always think!
I went ahead and played the odds although my second pregnancy wasn't exactly a choice.....both of my children were wonderful suprises actually. Bottom line is that after experiencing CF with my first child and seeing how close to a normal life she has, there is absolutely no way I would terminate for this reason. Mind you I am not sure I could terminate a pregnancy for any reason (completely my feelings for me and nothing against those who have had to be in that position). I didn't have any testing done during the pregnancy to find out if our child would have CF as my attitude was what will be will be (fingers crossed for a healthy child of course). We welcomed our new baby, Elisha, into the world 12 weeks ago and sadly she too has CF. Doesn't change the fact that she is absolutely gorgeous!!
I am coping so far with the added CF routine so life seems rather normal for now. My next dilemma will be deciding on wether or not to have a third child. Playing the odds is ok for a while but then you have to be fully prepared for all possible outcomes. How much can someone cope with? Going through IVF (I am guessing this is equivilent to PGD?) is an option but I don't know enough about the procedure.
I am coping so far with the added CF routine so life seems rather normal for now. My next dilemma will be deciding on wether or not to have a third child. Playing the odds is ok for a while but then you have to be fully prepared for all possible outcomes. How much can someone cope with? Going through IVF (I am guessing this is equivilent to PGD?) is an option but I don't know enough about the procedure.
I have a daughter 2.5 wcf and I am currently pregnant with #2. We pretty much decided right after our daughter was diagnosed (at 12 months) that we were not going to have anymore biological children - it took a while for us to get used to that idea and accept it but after much prayer we were finally comfortable with the idea and then BAM! I found out I was pregnant. I was scared big time (but also excited at the same time). We did find out that our baby due in May does not have CF, which was a tremendous relief. We will absolutely NOT be having anymore bio. children after this one, it just isn't something we want to do.
Some of the options that had crossed our minds in the past for having more children were:
-adoption
-embryo adoption
-IVF with PGD
-sperm donor
I do know of one woman who did PGD more than once and was unsuccessful with it. You can read more about her experience on the journal on her children's website: www.babyfergie.com
HTH,
Kelli - mom of Sydney 2.5 wcf and baby boy due 5/6/06
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Some of the options that had crossed our minds in the past for having more children were:
-adoption
-embryo adoption
-IVF with PGD
-sperm donor
I do know of one woman who did PGD more than once and was unsuccessful with it. You can read more about her experience on the journal on her children's website: www.babyfergie.com
HTH,
Kelli - mom of Sydney 2.5 wcf and baby boy due 5/6/06
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While I'd love to have another baby, I just don't think at this point I/we could handle two children wcf. I don't ever want ds to find out that his disease was the reason behind not having anymore children. I guess if it just happened, we'd deal with it and welcome the new child into our family; however the chances of it "just happening" would be a miracle because we waited 12 years to have a child and once we tried, it took two years for me to conceive.
We are ttc! Of course we pray that we are blessed w/ a healthy baby but if God wants us to have another CFer then thats what we get. We will think that is a blessing also though. Reece is our DREAM COME TRUE after years & years of trying. My husband & I have talked about ALL the pros & cons of bringing another CFer into the world. I have prayed about it also. My take on it is YES we can prevent another child from having CF ( by just not bringing it into the world ) BUT we want another biological child & if God is gonna bless us with a child then we will take it CF or NO CF. That may sound selfish but it is our opinion and we have EVERY right to it. Yes this is a touchy subject but Im not scared to stand up for what I believe.
Leah mommy to Reece 3Yr old W/CF<img src="i/expressions/angel_ani.gif" border="0">
Leah mommy to Reece 3Yr old W/CF<img src="i/expressions/angel_ani.gif" border="0">
We are ttc! Of course we pray that we are blessed w/ a healthy baby but if God wants us to have another CFer then thats what we get. We will think that is a blessing also though. Reece is our DREAM COME TRUE after years & years of trying. My husband & I have talked about ALL the pros & cons of bringing another CFer into the world. I have prayed about it also. My take on it is YES we can prevent another child from having CF ( by just not bringing it into the world ) BUT we want another biological child & if God is gonna bless us with a child then we will take it CF or NO CF. That may sound selfish but it is our opinion and we have EVERY right to it. Yes this is a touchy subject but Im not scared to stand up for what I believe.
Leah mommy to Reece 3Yr old W/CF<img src="i/expressions/angel_ani.gif" border="0">
Leah mommy to Reece 3Yr old W/CF<img src="i/expressions/angel_ani.gif" border="0">
Hi, I'm Jenn... mom to Kimmie (3yrs old w/ CF). We are pregnant again and very excited. We considered PGD and did much research and even found a dr., but in the end, I didn't want to feel like I was choosing which child to have. Kim has been healthier than most non CF kids so it was hard for us not to accept another if that's what we are meant to have. I'm only 6 weeks so it's too early to say if everything is ok, but I'm thrilled!
Jennifer (mom to Kimmie w/CF & pregnant)
Jennifer (mom to Kimmie w/CF & pregnant)
Hi, I'm Jenn... mom to Kimmie (3yrs old w/ CF). We are pregnant again and very excited. We considered PGD and did much research and even found a dr., but in the end, I didn't want to feel like I was choosing which child to have. Kim has been healthier than most non CF kids so it was hard for us not to accept another if that's what we are meant to have. I'm only 6 weeks so it's too early to say if everything is ok, but I'm thrilled!
Jennifer (mom to Kimmie w/CF & pregnant)
Jennifer (mom to Kimmie w/CF & pregnant)
I personally cant imagine facing the challenges of having to care for more than 1 CF child. My hubby & I choice not to push our luck with my health & our blessings by having another baby. Sometimes I regret it & then some days (like today when I am not feeling my best & my daughter is home sick) that I am grateful not having to push myself. It is indeed a personal choice. It was a bit different for us since I am the one with CF. We know our daughter is a carrier. That is more than what my parents had when I was conceived! What she chooses to do with that knowledge is completely up to her! I just hope she chooses a educated & correct option that is best for her & her mate not based on pressures or opinions of others!
I personally cant imagine facing the challenges of having to care for more than 1 CF child. My hubby & I choice not to push our luck with my health & our blessings by having another baby. Sometimes I regret it & then some days (like today when I am not feeling my best & my daughter is home sick) that I am grateful not having to push myself. It is indeed a personal choice. It was a bit different for us since I am the one with CF. We know our daughter is a carrier. That is more than what my parents had when I was conceived! What she chooses to do with that knowledge is completely up to her! I just hope she chooses a educated & correct option that is best for her & her mate not based on pressures or opinions of others!