HELP...I don't know what else to do...

suziecoffeebean

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Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
Hello all:

I am new to this board. I have a younger brother and sister who both have CF. 14 and 16. I cannot remember the last time my mother took them to see a CF specialist. We had a pretty hard life. I don't know anywhere else to turn for information or help. My brother and sister were diagnosed as infants and they received all the care they needed up until about 8 years ago. My mother was trafficking crack cocaine out of our home and she went to jail. My younger brother and sister had a different dad than me so when she went to jail they went into foster care. When my mom got out of jail she was able to get them back pretty quickly by being in AA and other drug treatment programs. When she got them back they were involved pretty heavily in govt help. They made sure my brother and sister got what they needed. My mom became homeless about 8 years ago and moved from cincinnati to frankfort to stay with family because she didn't have anywhere else to go. Took my brother and sister with her there. Since they have lived here they haven't seen a doctor for it haven't had any breathing treatments. Enzymes...anything I remember them having to have before she moved. She chain smokes right in their faces on a day to day basis and I am not even sure they understand the severity of the disease they have. I asked my sister about a year ago if she knew she had it and she said yes and didn't really know anything about it at all. This really, really freaks me out. Since my mom has moved she has had a hard time with everything she doesn't have a car or anything and barely affords the food she has in the house. So I found out through social workers in cincy what she could do to get help in kentcuky and when I called her and told her she went off on me and told me that I must think she is a bad mother and she did not speak to me for 3 months because of it. I have tried every method I can think of to talk to her about it but she won't. My brother asked me in front of her a couple weeks ago what does it mean for him to have this and she changed the subject and never answered him. I tried to and she told me to stop. I don't have control because they are not my children but I don't think what she is doing is right and I don't know what else to do or try. I feel totally lost and helpless. I don't want to see my siblings life to be shortened in some way because of her denial or whatever it is. But I don't know what to do....HELP!
 

JORDYSMOM

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That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
That is just a heartbreaking story! Are you old enough to try to get custody of them? They are certainly of an age that most courts will listen to them regarding where they might want to live and with whom. What about other family members? I would get anyone and everyone involved in getting them the medical treatment they need.

I wish you and your family well and I will pray for you.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

suziecoffeebean

New member
I am 24. I appreciate the prayers. The problem is we don't have a very big family at all. The only people who live in that city with them is my mom's sister and her husband. They never even met their father. Her sister is a nurse and her husband is a doctor I have talked with my aunt about this and no one says anything to my mom but me. She just freaks out and goes off on anyone who tries to get involved. I live in cincy still. I recently moved in with my grandma and her husband IF, I still had my own place I would be fighting to get them to come live with me. I asked my mom this past year if they could come live with me for the school year and she gave me every excuse she could to keep them from coming here. I just can't let this go on anymore and they are old enough to know and have the right to know whats going on. My heart breaks a little everyday, it is a huge stressor in my life. I am thinking the only way to get some resolution is to call children services but the last thing I want to do is get them taken from her again.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
You certainly have a lot on your plate!! I understand how you feel about children's services and trying to keep your family together, but it's obvious that something has to be done. It sounds like you already know what you must do. Hang in there.
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
You certainly have a lot on your plate!! I understand how you feel about children's services and trying to keep your family together, but it's obvious that something has to be done. It sounds like you already know what you must do. Hang in there.
 
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