Help me decide... Am I overreacting or is my

ReneeP

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Yesterday a coworker of mine got a call from her daughter's preschool that her daughter was running a 103 degree temp and needed to be picked up from school. This coworker had taken off 3 days of work last week to run around so she decided she couldn't afford another day off so she picked up her daughter and brought her to work with her. (and yes, our boss allowed her to do it).

I spoke to the boss and expressed my concerns, not only about her passing around her illness and the risk to my children, but also that I think it's just wrong for her to have a child who is that sick at work with her. The child needed to be at the dr, not sitting in a bank all day.

The boss ended up telling the coworker that I was upset so she needed to move into a private office for the day (she usually works right beside me). So, the coworker looked at me all snotty and said "we're just going in there so we don't give you our germs". And she hasn't spoken to me since. It has been so tense and ugly at work. I hate it.

My daughter has had the hardest year of her life this year. She has been sick so much and has lost a huge amount of lung function. I go out of my way to try to avoid her getting sick again...and then for someone to so carelessly spread illness... it just urks me. And for her to disregard everyone else's health so she doesn't have to take a day off is ubsurd. Keep in mind, this girl hasn't worked a full week in a year... she misses all the time for no reason at all. She must just be having financial issues right now and can't afford this one day...

My issue right now isn't so much that this girl is mad at me. But I think everyone else at work is too. I work in a large bank but we are a small group in the bank that is pretty much isolated off by ourselves. There are only 5 of us in our group. All 4 of the others (including the boss) have been acting like they are irritated with me. Like I caused needless trouble. I'm not sure how I should handle it. I really haven't said anything. I just told the boss that I didn't think she should bring her sick child to work... Isn't that just plain common sense???? Or am I overreacting?
 

ReneeP

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Yesterday a coworker of mine got a call from her daughter's preschool that her daughter was running a 103 degree temp and needed to be picked up from school. This coworker had taken off 3 days of work last week to run around so she decided she couldn't afford another day off so she picked up her daughter and brought her to work with her. (and yes, our boss allowed her to do it).

I spoke to the boss and expressed my concerns, not only about her passing around her illness and the risk to my children, but also that I think it's just wrong for her to have a child who is that sick at work with her. The child needed to be at the dr, not sitting in a bank all day.

The boss ended up telling the coworker that I was upset so she needed to move into a private office for the day (she usually works right beside me). So, the coworker looked at me all snotty and said "we're just going in there so we don't give you our germs". And she hasn't spoken to me since. It has been so tense and ugly at work. I hate it.

My daughter has had the hardest year of her life this year. She has been sick so much and has lost a huge amount of lung function. I go out of my way to try to avoid her getting sick again...and then for someone to so carelessly spread illness... it just urks me. And for her to disregard everyone else's health so she doesn't have to take a day off is ubsurd. Keep in mind, this girl hasn't worked a full week in a year... she misses all the time for no reason at all. She must just be having financial issues right now and can't afford this one day...

My issue right now isn't so much that this girl is mad at me. But I think everyone else at work is too. I work in a large bank but we are a small group in the bank that is pretty much isolated off by ourselves. There are only 5 of us in our group. All 4 of the others (including the boss) have been acting like they are irritated with me. Like I caused needless trouble. I'm not sure how I should handle it. I really haven't said anything. I just told the boss that I didn't think she should bring her sick child to work... Isn't that just plain common sense???? Or am I overreacting?
 

ReneeP

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Yesterday a coworker of mine got a call from her daughter's preschool that her daughter was running a 103 degree temp and needed to be picked up from school. This coworker had taken off 3 days of work last week to run around so she decided she couldn't afford another day off so she picked up her daughter and brought her to work with her. (and yes, our boss allowed her to do it).

I spoke to the boss and expressed my concerns, not only about her passing around her illness and the risk to my children, but also that I think it's just wrong for her to have a child who is that sick at work with her. The child needed to be at the dr, not sitting in a bank all day.

The boss ended up telling the coworker that I was upset so she needed to move into a private office for the day (she usually works right beside me). So, the coworker looked at me all snotty and said "we're just going in there so we don't give you our germs". And she hasn't spoken to me since. It has been so tense and ugly at work. I hate it.

My daughter has had the hardest year of her life this year. She has been sick so much and has lost a huge amount of lung function. I go out of my way to try to avoid her getting sick again...and then for someone to so carelessly spread illness... it just urks me. And for her to disregard everyone else's health so she doesn't have to take a day off is ubsurd. Keep in mind, this girl hasn't worked a full week in a year... she misses all the time for no reason at all. She must just be having financial issues right now and can't afford this one day...

My issue right now isn't so much that this girl is mad at me. But I think everyone else at work is too. I work in a large bank but we are a small group in the bank that is pretty much isolated off by ourselves. There are only 5 of us in our group. All 4 of the others (including the boss) have been acting like they are irritated with me. Like I caused needless trouble. I'm not sure how I should handle it. I really haven't said anything. I just told the boss that I didn't think she should bring her sick child to work... Isn't that just plain common sense???? Or am I overreacting?
 

ReneeP

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Yesterday a coworker of mine got a call from her daughter's preschool that her daughter was running a 103 degree temp and needed to be picked up from school. This coworker had taken off 3 days of work last week to run around so she decided she couldn't afford another day off so she picked up her daughter and brought her to work with her. (and yes, our boss allowed her to do it).

I spoke to the boss and expressed my concerns, not only about her passing around her illness and the risk to my children, but also that I think it's just wrong for her to have a child who is that sick at work with her. The child needed to be at the dr, not sitting in a bank all day.

The boss ended up telling the coworker that I was upset so she needed to move into a private office for the day (she usually works right beside me). So, the coworker looked at me all snotty and said "we're just going in there so we don't give you our germs". And she hasn't spoken to me since. It has been so tense and ugly at work. I hate it.

My daughter has had the hardest year of her life this year. She has been sick so much and has lost a huge amount of lung function. I go out of my way to try to avoid her getting sick again...and then for someone to so carelessly spread illness... it just urks me. And for her to disregard everyone else's health so she doesn't have to take a day off is ubsurd. Keep in mind, this girl hasn't worked a full week in a year... she misses all the time for no reason at all. She must just be having financial issues right now and can't afford this one day...

My issue right now isn't so much that this girl is mad at me. But I think everyone else at work is too. I work in a large bank but we are a small group in the bank that is pretty much isolated off by ourselves. There are only 5 of us in our group. All 4 of the others (including the boss) have been acting like they are irritated with me. Like I caused needless trouble. I'm not sure how I should handle it. I really haven't said anything. I just told the boss that I didn't think she should bring her sick child to work... Isn't that just plain common sense???? Or am I overreacting?
 

ReneeP

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Yesterday a coworker of mine got a call from her daughter's preschool that her daughter was running a 103 degree temp and needed to be picked up from school. This coworker had taken off 3 days of work last week to run around so she decided she couldn't afford another day off so she picked up her daughter and brought her to work with her. (and yes, our boss allowed her to do it).

I spoke to the boss and expressed my concerns, not only about her passing around her illness and the risk to my children, but also that I think it's just wrong for her to have a child who is that sick at work with her. The child needed to be at the dr, not sitting in a bank all day.

The boss ended up telling the coworker that I was upset so she needed to move into a private office for the day (she usually works right beside me). So, the coworker looked at me all snotty and said "we're just going in there so we don't give you our germs". And she hasn't spoken to me since. It has been so tense and ugly at work. I hate it.

My daughter has had the hardest year of her life this year. She has been sick so much and has lost a huge amount of lung function. I go out of my way to try to avoid her getting sick again...and then for someone to so carelessly spread illness... it just urks me. And for her to disregard everyone else's health so she doesn't have to take a day off is ubsurd. Keep in mind, this girl hasn't worked a full week in a year... she misses all the time for no reason at all. She must just be having financial issues right now and can't afford this one day...

My issue right now isn't so much that this girl is mad at me. But I think everyone else at work is too. I work in a large bank but we are a small group in the bank that is pretty much isolated off by ourselves. There are only 5 of us in our group. All 4 of the others (including the boss) have been acting like they are irritated with me. Like I caused needless trouble. I'm not sure how I should handle it. I really haven't said anything. I just told the boss that I didn't think she should bring her sick child to work... Isn't that just plain common sense???? Or am I overreacting?
 

pnhuffman

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No you are not overreacting. I think it is wrong to bring a sick child with you to work. It is very inconsiderate to do that. I really can't believe the boss would allow her to do that. For safety reasons and other reasons.

I hope they grow up soon and realize what they did was not the right thing to do.
 

pnhuffman

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No you are not overreacting. I think it is wrong to bring a sick child with you to work. It is very inconsiderate to do that. I really can't believe the boss would allow her to do that. For safety reasons and other reasons.

I hope they grow up soon and realize what they did was not the right thing to do.
 

pnhuffman

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No you are not overreacting. I think it is wrong to bring a sick child with you to work. It is very inconsiderate to do that. I really can't believe the boss would allow her to do that. For safety reasons and other reasons.

I hope they grow up soon and realize what they did was not the right thing to do.
 

pnhuffman

New member
No you are not overreacting. I think it is wrong to bring a sick child with you to work. It is very inconsiderate to do that. I really can't believe the boss would allow her to do that. For safety reasons and other reasons.

I hope they grow up soon and realize what they did was not the right thing to do.
 

pnhuffman

New member
No you are not overreacting. I think it is wrong to bring a sick child with you to work. It is very inconsiderate to do that. I really can't believe the boss would allow her to do that. For safety reasons and other reasons.

I hope they grow up soon and realize what they did was not the right thing to do.
 

Sevenstars

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It's stupid on two levels. First, why would you have a child (a preschool age child too) at work with you? I'd hope it'd be a good reason like... babysitter cancelled, school cancelled and can't leave her home, some other catastrophe etc... but no. It's the worst reason ever, she is SICK so what better place to take her than WORK. How stupid - both for the poor kid that's sick and stuck at a bank all day, and for you, the other workers, your own kids, and the 283490238 customers the kid exposed. too.

Early candidate for mom of the year for sure.

No clue on how to handle it though, sorry. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't smart enough to see they're wrong, they just aren't going to get it at all no matter what you say/do.
 

Sevenstars

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It's stupid on two levels. First, why would you have a child (a preschool age child too) at work with you? I'd hope it'd be a good reason like... babysitter cancelled, school cancelled and can't leave her home, some other catastrophe etc... but no. It's the worst reason ever, she is SICK so what better place to take her than WORK. How stupid - both for the poor kid that's sick and stuck at a bank all day, and for you, the other workers, your own kids, and the 283490238 customers the kid exposed. too.

Early candidate for mom of the year for sure.

No clue on how to handle it though, sorry. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't smart enough to see they're wrong, they just aren't going to get it at all no matter what you say/do.
 

Sevenstars

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It's stupid on two levels. First, why would you have a child (a preschool age child too) at work with you? I'd hope it'd be a good reason like... babysitter cancelled, school cancelled and can't leave her home, some other catastrophe etc... but no. It's the worst reason ever, she is SICK so what better place to take her than WORK. How stupid - both for the poor kid that's sick and stuck at a bank all day, and for you, the other workers, your own kids, and the 283490238 customers the kid exposed. too.

Early candidate for mom of the year for sure.

No clue on how to handle it though, sorry. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't smart enough to see they're wrong, they just aren't going to get it at all no matter what you say/do.
 

Sevenstars

New member
It's stupid on two levels. First, why would you have a child (a preschool age child too) at work with you? I'd hope it'd be a good reason like... babysitter cancelled, school cancelled and can't leave her home, some other catastrophe etc... but no. It's the worst reason ever, she is SICK so what better place to take her than WORK. How stupid - both for the poor kid that's sick and stuck at a bank all day, and for you, the other workers, your own kids, and the 283490238 customers the kid exposed. too.

Early candidate for mom of the year for sure.

No clue on how to handle it though, sorry. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't smart enough to see they're wrong, they just aren't going to get it at all no matter what you say/do.
 

Sevenstars

New member
It's stupid on two levels. First, why would you have a child (a preschool age child too) at work with you? I'd hope it'd be a good reason like... babysitter cancelled, school cancelled and can't leave her home, some other catastrophe etc... but no. It's the worst reason ever, she is SICK so what better place to take her than WORK. How stupid - both for the poor kid that's sick and stuck at a bank all day, and for you, the other workers, your own kids, and the 283490238 customers the kid exposed. too.

Early candidate for mom of the year for sure.

No clue on how to handle it though, sorry. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> If they aren't smart enough to see they're wrong, they just aren't going to get it at all no matter what you say/do.
 

pjspiegle

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Ditto with the others, You are not over-reacting! What is wrong with people?

If it makes you feel better, I have had similiar situations, at church though, and have even lost a couple of what I thought were friends over things like this.

I think that all you can do is stand your ground. I might also review the employee manual and see if there is anything in there about bringing children to work or not. Personally, if I were a customer at a bank and employee had brought their sick child to work with them, I would be upset. How unprofessional is that! It was not fair to the poor child, the other employees, or the customers. I am surprised your boss allowed it as well because of the fact that she must have been distracted by it and how could she possible get any work done anyways, not to mention the high risk of errors being made, which I would think would be an issue given it is a bank.

Do you have direct contact with customers? If so, I might mention that a customer had issues with the sick child being there.

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I was just thinking about how many times I wanted to tell some parent off at the grocery store or mall for having an obviously sick child with them and didn't they know better than to bring them out when they were sick.

I was just trying to think of what I could offer as some advice as to what to do but since I was the boss, part owner with my parents, I am not sure. I know that I would have not allowed that too happen and would have had a talk with the surpervisor first for allowing it and then with both the supervisor and employee giving written warnings to both of them. I keep thinking how unprofessional this was, especially for a bank.

This is just another example of how the person clearly in the right is made to feel like they did something wrong.

Hang in there, maybe it will blow over soon and they will all get over it, or something else will happen to make them forget about it and move on.

I understand the frustration you must be feeling!
 

pjspiegle

New member
Ditto with the others, You are not over-reacting! What is wrong with people?

If it makes you feel better, I have had similiar situations, at church though, and have even lost a couple of what I thought were friends over things like this.

I think that all you can do is stand your ground. I might also review the employee manual and see if there is anything in there about bringing children to work or not. Personally, if I were a customer at a bank and employee had brought their sick child to work with them, I would be upset. How unprofessional is that! It was not fair to the poor child, the other employees, or the customers. I am surprised your boss allowed it as well because of the fact that she must have been distracted by it and how could she possible get any work done anyways, not to mention the high risk of errors being made, which I would think would be an issue given it is a bank.

Do you have direct contact with customers? If so, I might mention that a customer had issues with the sick child being there.

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I was just thinking about how many times I wanted to tell some parent off at the grocery store or mall for having an obviously sick child with them and didn't they know better than to bring them out when they were sick.

I was just trying to think of what I could offer as some advice as to what to do but since I was the boss, part owner with my parents, I am not sure. I know that I would have not allowed that too happen and would have had a talk with the surpervisor first for allowing it and then with both the supervisor and employee giving written warnings to both of them. I keep thinking how unprofessional this was, especially for a bank.

This is just another example of how the person clearly in the right is made to feel like they did something wrong.

Hang in there, maybe it will blow over soon and they will all get over it, or something else will happen to make them forget about it and move on.

I understand the frustration you must be feeling!
 

pjspiegle

New member
Ditto with the others, You are not over-reacting! What is wrong with people?

If it makes you feel better, I have had similiar situations, at church though, and have even lost a couple of what I thought were friends over things like this.

I think that all you can do is stand your ground. I might also review the employee manual and see if there is anything in there about bringing children to work or not. Personally, if I were a customer at a bank and employee had brought their sick child to work with them, I would be upset. How unprofessional is that! It was not fair to the poor child, the other employees, or the customers. I am surprised your boss allowed it as well because of the fact that she must have been distracted by it and how could she possible get any work done anyways, not to mention the high risk of errors being made, which I would think would be an issue given it is a bank.

Do you have direct contact with customers? If so, I might mention that a customer had issues with the sick child being there.

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I was just thinking about how many times I wanted to tell some parent off at the grocery store or mall for having an obviously sick child with them and didn't they know better than to bring them out when they were sick.

I was just trying to think of what I could offer as some advice as to what to do but since I was the boss, part owner with my parents, I am not sure. I know that I would have not allowed that too happen and would have had a talk with the surpervisor first for allowing it and then with both the supervisor and employee giving written warnings to both of them. I keep thinking how unprofessional this was, especially for a bank.

This is just another example of how the person clearly in the right is made to feel like they did something wrong.

Hang in there, maybe it will blow over soon and they will all get over it, or something else will happen to make them forget about it and move on.

I understand the frustration you must be feeling!
 

pjspiegle

New member
Ditto with the others, You are not over-reacting! What is wrong with people?

If it makes you feel better, I have had similiar situations, at church though, and have even lost a couple of what I thought were friends over things like this.

I think that all you can do is stand your ground. I might also review the employee manual and see if there is anything in there about bringing children to work or not. Personally, if I were a customer at a bank and employee had brought their sick child to work with them, I would be upset. How unprofessional is that! It was not fair to the poor child, the other employees, or the customers. I am surprised your boss allowed it as well because of the fact that she must have been distracted by it and how could she possible get any work done anyways, not to mention the high risk of errors being made, which I would think would be an issue given it is a bank.

Do you have direct contact with customers? If so, I might mention that a customer had issues with the sick child being there.

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I was just thinking about how many times I wanted to tell some parent off at the grocery store or mall for having an obviously sick child with them and didn't they know better than to bring them out when they were sick.

I was just trying to think of what I could offer as some advice as to what to do but since I was the boss, part owner with my parents, I am not sure. I know that I would have not allowed that too happen and would have had a talk with the surpervisor first for allowing it and then with both the supervisor and employee giving written warnings to both of them. I keep thinking how unprofessional this was, especially for a bank.

This is just another example of how the person clearly in the right is made to feel like they did something wrong.

Hang in there, maybe it will blow over soon and they will all get over it, or something else will happen to make them forget about it and move on.

I understand the frustration you must be feeling!
 

pjspiegle

New member
Ditto with the others, You are not over-reacting! What is wrong with people?

If it makes you feel better, I have had similiar situations, at church though, and have even lost a couple of what I thought were friends over things like this.

I think that all you can do is stand your ground. I might also review the employee manual and see if there is anything in there about bringing children to work or not. Personally, if I were a customer at a bank and employee had brought their sick child to work with them, I would be upset. How unprofessional is that! It was not fair to the poor child, the other employees, or the customers. I am surprised your boss allowed it as well because of the fact that she must have been distracted by it and how could she possible get any work done anyways, not to mention the high risk of errors being made, which I would think would be an issue given it is a bank.

Do you have direct contact with customers? If so, I might mention that a customer had issues with the sick child being there.

<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> I was just thinking about how many times I wanted to tell some parent off at the grocery store or mall for having an obviously sick child with them and didn't they know better than to bring them out when they were sick.

I was just trying to think of what I could offer as some advice as to what to do but since I was the boss, part owner with my parents, I am not sure. I know that I would have not allowed that too happen and would have had a talk with the surpervisor first for allowing it and then with both the supervisor and employee giving written warnings to both of them. I keep thinking how unprofessional this was, especially for a bank.

This is just another example of how the person clearly in the right is made to feel like they did something wrong.

Hang in there, maybe it will blow over soon and they will all get over it, or something else will happen to make them forget about it and move on.

I understand the frustration you must be feeling!
 
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