Help me decide... Am I overreacting or is my

ReneeP

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Thanks to all of you for taking the time to express your thoughts. It makes me feel a little better to know that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been a rough week but today was a little better. She ignored me for most of the day but later on in the afternoon she started talking a little. I am just acting normal...trying not to stir up any more trouble.

Oh, and Stacey, it's funny that you mention the idea of the bank getting robbed and the risk of having the child there...One of our banks was actually just robbed last week. I work in our downtown branch and the branch that got robbed is about a mile away... so as far fetched as it sounds, it's a possibilty and always a risk.

Just to respond to a couple of Sakum's questions, I wanted to mention that I do know this girl rather well. We are, well, let's say acquaintences. I avoid going out much with her outside of work because our lifestyles are considerably different...but we do things together from time to time. We borrow each others clothes when we are going on vacation and stuff... things like that. I just want to clarify that she is not just some girl at work that I hardly know and am judging. We work right beside each other all day every day... we know a lot about each other and she knows all about my kids and how much time I have been off work with Kaitlyn in the hospital this year. And I do know why she was out last week, though her boss does not.

I completely understand what you are saying...and considering the amount of info I gave you, I may have reached the same conclusion. I was trying to keep my original post as short as possible. So, I apologize if it sounded like I was jumping in to judge some poor mother who was in a bad situation. That is not the case. And I totally believe the boss in this case is just as much at fault as the girl herself. She should not have allowed the situation to take place. But I am also irritated that the coworker would get so snotty with me because I was concerned about not only my kids, but hers as well.

Thanks again everyone... I'm sure it will blow over in time... at least I hope :)
 

ReneeP

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Thanks to all of you for taking the time to express your thoughts. It makes me feel a little better to know that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been a rough week but today was a little better. She ignored me for most of the day but later on in the afternoon she started talking a little. I am just acting normal...trying not to stir up any more trouble.

Oh, and Stacey, it's funny that you mention the idea of the bank getting robbed and the risk of having the child there...One of our banks was actually just robbed last week. I work in our downtown branch and the branch that got robbed is about a mile away... so as far fetched as it sounds, it's a possibilty and always a risk.

Just to respond to a couple of Sakum's questions, I wanted to mention that I do know this girl rather well. We are, well, let's say acquaintences. I avoid going out much with her outside of work because our lifestyles are considerably different...but we do things together from time to time. We borrow each others clothes when we are going on vacation and stuff... things like that. I just want to clarify that she is not just some girl at work that I hardly know and am judging. We work right beside each other all day every day... we know a lot about each other and she knows all about my kids and how much time I have been off work with Kaitlyn in the hospital this year. And I do know why she was out last week, though her boss does not.

I completely understand what you are saying...and considering the amount of info I gave you, I may have reached the same conclusion. I was trying to keep my original post as short as possible. So, I apologize if it sounded like I was jumping in to judge some poor mother who was in a bad situation. That is not the case. And I totally believe the boss in this case is just as much at fault as the girl herself. She should not have allowed the situation to take place. But I am also irritated that the coworker would get so snotty with me because I was concerned about not only my kids, but hers as well.

Thanks again everyone... I'm sure it will blow over in time... at least I hope :)
 

ReneeP

New member
Thanks to all of you for taking the time to express your thoughts. It makes me feel a little better to know that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been a rough week but today was a little better. She ignored me for most of the day but later on in the afternoon she started talking a little. I am just acting normal...trying not to stir up any more trouble.

Oh, and Stacey, it's funny that you mention the idea of the bank getting robbed and the risk of having the child there...One of our banks was actually just robbed last week. I work in our downtown branch and the branch that got robbed is about a mile away... so as far fetched as it sounds, it's a possibilty and always a risk.

Just to respond to a couple of Sakum's questions, I wanted to mention that I do know this girl rather well. We are, well, let's say acquaintences. I avoid going out much with her outside of work because our lifestyles are considerably different...but we do things together from time to time. We borrow each others clothes when we are going on vacation and stuff... things like that. I just want to clarify that she is not just some girl at work that I hardly know and am judging. We work right beside each other all day every day... we know a lot about each other and she knows all about my kids and how much time I have been off work with Kaitlyn in the hospital this year. And I do know why she was out last week, though her boss does not.

I completely understand what you are saying...and considering the amount of info I gave you, I may have reached the same conclusion. I was trying to keep my original post as short as possible. So, I apologize if it sounded like I was jumping in to judge some poor mother who was in a bad situation. That is not the case. And I totally believe the boss in this case is just as much at fault as the girl herself. She should not have allowed the situation to take place. But I am also irritated that the coworker would get so snotty with me because I was concerned about not only my kids, but hers as well.

Thanks again everyone... I'm sure it will blow over in time... at least I hope :)
 

ReneeP

New member
Thanks to all of you for taking the time to express your thoughts. It makes me feel a little better to know that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been a rough week but today was a little better. She ignored me for most of the day but later on in the afternoon she started talking a little. I am just acting normal...trying not to stir up any more trouble.

Oh, and Stacey, it's funny that you mention the idea of the bank getting robbed and the risk of having the child there...One of our banks was actually just robbed last week. I work in our downtown branch and the branch that got robbed is about a mile away... so as far fetched as it sounds, it's a possibilty and always a risk.

Just to respond to a couple of Sakum's questions, I wanted to mention that I do know this girl rather well. We are, well, let's say acquaintences. I avoid going out much with her outside of work because our lifestyles are considerably different...but we do things together from time to time. We borrow each others clothes when we are going on vacation and stuff... things like that. I just want to clarify that she is not just some girl at work that I hardly know and am judging. We work right beside each other all day every day... we know a lot about each other and she knows all about my kids and how much time I have been off work with Kaitlyn in the hospital this year. And I do know why she was out last week, though her boss does not.

I completely understand what you are saying...and considering the amount of info I gave you, I may have reached the same conclusion. I was trying to keep my original post as short as possible. So, I apologize if it sounded like I was jumping in to judge some poor mother who was in a bad situation. That is not the case. And I totally believe the boss in this case is just as much at fault as the girl herself. She should not have allowed the situation to take place. But I am also irritated that the coworker would get so snotty with me because I was concerned about not only my kids, but hers as well.

Thanks again everyone... I'm sure it will blow over in time... at least I hope :)
 

ReneeP

New member
Thanks to all of you for taking the time to express your thoughts. It makes me feel a little better to know that I am not alone in how I feel. It has been a rough week but today was a little better. She ignored me for most of the day but later on in the afternoon she started talking a little. I am just acting normal...trying not to stir up any more trouble.

Oh, and Stacey, it's funny that you mention the idea of the bank getting robbed and the risk of having the child there...One of our banks was actually just robbed last week. I work in our downtown branch and the branch that got robbed is about a mile away... so as far fetched as it sounds, it's a possibilty and always a risk.

Just to respond to a couple of Sakum's questions, I wanted to mention that I do know this girl rather well. We are, well, let's say acquaintences. I avoid going out much with her outside of work because our lifestyles are considerably different...but we do things together from time to time. We borrow each others clothes when we are going on vacation and stuff... things like that. I just want to clarify that she is not just some girl at work that I hardly know and am judging. We work right beside each other all day every day... we know a lot about each other and she knows all about my kids and how much time I have been off work with Kaitlyn in the hospital this year. And I do know why she was out last week, though her boss does not.

I completely understand what you are saying...and considering the amount of info I gave you, I may have reached the same conclusion. I was trying to keep my original post as short as possible. So, I apologize if it sounded like I was jumping in to judge some poor mother who was in a bad situation. That is not the case. And I totally believe the boss in this case is just as much at fault as the girl herself. She should not have allowed the situation to take place. But I am also irritated that the coworker would get so snotty with me because I was concerned about not only my kids, but hers as well.

Thanks again everyone... I'm sure it will blow over in time... at least I hope :)
 

Sakem

New member
Hey Renee,
Thanks for the that info. U would know best, we are only reading from the outside.
Like I said I don't think u were wrong for thinking it was inapproriate, I just thought it was if it was based on emotions, because I know I have been guilty of it, and I am sure others have judged me wrong in the past.

Hope things continue to get better for u, that is the best, act like nothing wrong, and as she probably can't even believe your guys boss allowed her to bring her child back to work.
 

Sakem

New member
Hey Renee,
Thanks for the that info. U would know best, we are only reading from the outside.
Like I said I don't think u were wrong for thinking it was inapproriate, I just thought it was if it was based on emotions, because I know I have been guilty of it, and I am sure others have judged me wrong in the past.

Hope things continue to get better for u, that is the best, act like nothing wrong, and as she probably can't even believe your guys boss allowed her to bring her child back to work.
 

Sakem

New member
Hey Renee,
Thanks for the that info. U would know best, we are only reading from the outside.
Like I said I don't think u were wrong for thinking it was inapproriate, I just thought it was if it was based on emotions, because I know I have been guilty of it, and I am sure others have judged me wrong in the past.

Hope things continue to get better for u, that is the best, act like nothing wrong, and as she probably can't even believe your guys boss allowed her to bring her child back to work.
 

Sakem

New member
Hey Renee,
Thanks for the that info. U would know best, we are only reading from the outside.
Like I said I don't think u were wrong for thinking it was inapproriate, I just thought it was if it was based on emotions, because I know I have been guilty of it, and I am sure others have judged me wrong in the past.

Hope things continue to get better for u, that is the best, act like nothing wrong, and as she probably can't even believe your guys boss allowed her to bring her child back to work.
 

Sakem

New member
Hey Renee,
Thanks for the that info. U would know best, we are only reading from the outside.
Like I said I don't think u were wrong for thinking it was inapproriate, I just thought it was if it was based on emotions, because I know I have been guilty of it, and I am sure others have judged me wrong in the past.

Hope things continue to get better for u, that is the best, act like nothing wrong, and as she probably can't even believe your guys boss allowed her to bring her child back to work.
 

jimiv

New member
I agree with the others that you are not overreacting. I am frequently challenged with child care issues after school and there are occasions where my son has to come to work with me. When these occasions occur, I will put him in my office and I will work in the next one which is empty or I will find someone who can help me in a crisis. If he was sick, I would be at home with him or a sitter or family member would. The boss had no business voicing your concerns to others. That might be an issue that you should address with your boss at a later date. As far as your co-worker, have you tried to talk to her about what your concerns were now? If you did it when she was worried about her kid, I would bet she didn't hear it. This might be something you may want to do to clear the air. If your co-workers see that you two have burried the hatchet then maybe they will relax too...
 

jimiv

New member
I agree with the others that you are not overreacting. I am frequently challenged with child care issues after school and there are occasions where my son has to come to work with me. When these occasions occur, I will put him in my office and I will work in the next one which is empty or I will find someone who can help me in a crisis. If he was sick, I would be at home with him or a sitter or family member would. The boss had no business voicing your concerns to others. That might be an issue that you should address with your boss at a later date. As far as your co-worker, have you tried to talk to her about what your concerns were now? If you did it when she was worried about her kid, I would bet she didn't hear it. This might be something you may want to do to clear the air. If your co-workers see that you two have burried the hatchet then maybe they will relax too...
 

jimiv

New member
I agree with the others that you are not overreacting. I am frequently challenged with child care issues after school and there are occasions where my son has to come to work with me. When these occasions occur, I will put him in my office and I will work in the next one which is empty or I will find someone who can help me in a crisis. If he was sick, I would be at home with him or a sitter or family member would. The boss had no business voicing your concerns to others. That might be an issue that you should address with your boss at a later date. As far as your co-worker, have you tried to talk to her about what your concerns were now? If you did it when she was worried about her kid, I would bet she didn't hear it. This might be something you may want to do to clear the air. If your co-workers see that you two have burried the hatchet then maybe they will relax too...
 

jimiv

New member
I agree with the others that you are not overreacting. I am frequently challenged with child care issues after school and there are occasions where my son has to come to work with me. When these occasions occur, I will put him in my office and I will work in the next one which is empty or I will find someone who can help me in a crisis. If he was sick, I would be at home with him or a sitter or family member would. The boss had no business voicing your concerns to others. That might be an issue that you should address with your boss at a later date. As far as your co-worker, have you tried to talk to her about what your concerns were now? If you did it when she was worried about her kid, I would bet she didn't hear it. This might be something you may want to do to clear the air. If your co-workers see that you two have burried the hatchet then maybe they will relax too...
 

jimiv

New member
I agree with the others that you are not overreacting. I am frequently challenged with child care issues after school and there are occasions where my son has to come to work with me. When these occasions occur, I will put him in my office and I will work in the next one which is empty or I will find someone who can help me in a crisis. If he was sick, I would be at home with him or a sitter or family member would. The boss had no business voicing your concerns to others. That might be an issue that you should address with your boss at a later date. As far as your co-worker, have you tried to talk to her about what your concerns were now? If you did it when she was worried about her kid, I would bet she didn't hear it. This might be something you may want to do to clear the air. If your co-workers see that you two have burried the hatchet then maybe they will relax too...
 
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