PS my daughter was only about 2 years old at the time, so we just left! I thought there is no way we are staying. At the end of the day, you've just got to do what you feel is right and don't care about hurting anyone's feelings. At the end of the day, you're protecting your kids, who don't understand and can't speak for themselves. I felt better anyway.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif" border="0">
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Holidays and Dealing with Family Members
- Thread starter Ratatosk
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PS my daughter was only about 2 years old at the time, so we just left! I thought there is no way we are staying. At the end of the day, you've just got to do what you feel is right and don't care about hurting anyone's feelings. At the end of the day, you're protecting your kids, who don't understand and can't speak for themselves. I felt better anyway.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif" border="0">
For gatherings, if it's your problem, you have to leave. If the family gets together and you don't want to go because of sick people, I think it's arrogant to ask others to stay home. We left parties because someone had bronchitis, but I would never dream of asking them to leave because of our health issues. Unless of course, it's at your house, but even then, consider that might make your child a pariah.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
For gatherings, if it's your problem, you have to leave. If the family gets together and you don't want to go because of sick people, I think it's arrogant to ask others to stay home. We left parties because someone had bronchitis, but I would never dream of asking them to leave because of our health issues. Unless of course, it's at your house, but even then, consider that might make your child a pariah.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
For gatherings, if it's your problem, you have to leave. If the family gets together and you don't want to go because of sick people, I think it's arrogant to ask others to stay home. We left parties because someone had bronchitis, but I would never dream of asking them to leave because of our health issues. Unless of course, it's at your house, but even then, consider that might make your child a pariah.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
I understand the fear, but at some point, you have to remember that theya re still your family, and you don't want people to resent your child for causing strife and issues on holidays. I know my opinion is not popular, and I know it's easier just to blame the family for not caring at all, but at least briefly consider trying to let everyone have a normal holiday.
In our case we just would like to be made aware ahead of time if someone is ill so we can decide to go or not. 99% of the time, my MIL knows ahead of time that someone has pneumonia, etc., but doesn't want to tell us for fear we might back out and embarrass her.
In our case we just would like to be made aware ahead of time if someone is ill so we can decide to go or not. 99% of the time, my MIL knows ahead of time that someone has pneumonia, etc., but doesn't want to tell us for fear we might back out and embarrass her.
In our case we just would like to be made aware ahead of time if someone is ill so we can decide to go or not. 99% of the time, my MIL knows ahead of time that someone has pneumonia, etc., but doesn't want to tell us for fear we might back out and embarrass her.
After last week, I'm not so much worried about sick people as DH's cousin's kids age 6 & 3. They don't play well with others and we don't dare leave DS alone with them. They'll haul off and hit for no reason, last spring convinced DS to go into a closet to play hide & seek and then held the door closed. They're EVILLLLL! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
After last week, I'm not so much worried about sick people as DH's cousin's kids age 6 & 3. They don't play well with others and we don't dare leave DS alone with them. They'll haul off and hit for no reason, last spring convinced DS to go into a closet to play hide & seek and then held the door closed. They're EVILLLLL! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
After last week, I'm not so much worried about sick people as DH's cousin's kids age 6 & 3. They don't play well with others and we don't dare leave DS alone with them. They'll haul off and hit for no reason, last spring convinced DS to go into a closet to play hide & seek and then held the door closed. They're EVILLLLL! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">