How are you feeling?

[JenWren]

Great suggestion LisaV. I also think compassion for people is also a great idea. How are people going to learn how to be around people , to ask the right questions if we don't teach them. We teach people how to treat us. We need to set examples so next time faced with situation ask or tell someone who is asks Thanks for asking , oh my what a lovely pair of shoes you have on or hey that's a great color on you. It sort of changes the subject. Shift the focus back to them.

Hope these suggestions work. Compassion is the key word.I think JennifersHope speaks to that.

JenWren<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

 

[JenWren]

Great suggestion LisaV. I also think compassion for people is also a great idea. How are people going to learn how to be around people , to ask the right questions if we don't teach them. We teach people how to treat us. We need to set examples so next time faced with situation ask or tell someone who is asks Thanks for asking , oh my what a lovely pair of shoes you have on or hey that's a great color on you. It sort of changes the subject. Shift the focus back to them.

Hope these suggestions work. Compassion is the key word.I think JennifersHope speaks to that.

JenWren<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

 

[JenWren]

Great suggestion LisaV. I also think compassion for people is also a great idea. How are people going to learn how to be around people , to ask the right questions if we don't teach them. We teach people how to treat us. We need to set examples so next time faced with situation ask or tell someone who is asks Thanks for asking , oh my what a lovely pair of shoes you have on or hey that's a great color on you. It sort of changes the subject. Shift the focus back to them.

Hope these suggestions work. Compassion is the key word.I think JennifersHope speaks to that.

JenWren<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

 

[JenWren]

Great suggestion LisaV. I also think compassion for people is also a great idea. How are people going to learn how to be around people , to ask the right questions if we don't teach them. We teach people how to treat us. We need to set examples so next time faced with situation ask or tell someone who is asks Thanks for asking , oh my what a lovely pair of shoes you have on or hey that's a great color on you. It sort of changes the subject. Shift the focus back to them.

Hope these suggestions work. Compassion is the key word.I think JennifersHope speaks to that.

JenWren<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

 

[JenWren]

Great suggestion LisaV. I also think compassion for people is also a great idea. How are people going to learn how to be around people , to ask the right questions if we don't teach them. We teach people how to treat us. We need to set examples so next time faced with situation ask or tell someone who is asks Thanks for asking , oh my what a lovely pair of shoes you have on or hey that's a great color on you. It sort of changes the subject. Shift the focus back to them.

Hope these suggestions work. Compassion is the key word.I think JennifersHope speaks to that.

JenWren<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.

Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.

I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.

Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.

I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.

Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.

I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.

Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.

I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.

Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.

I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[jfarel]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.



Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.



I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src=""></end quote></div>

Yeah I agree with you. Generally people don't tell me I look good if I'm not feeling well. When I'm feeling better, and they say it, it actually really helps me. So i guess I don't feel like most of you. Today, I felt like crap, but some people told me i looked good. To me, if I look good I must be doing better than I was before. <img src="">

 

[jfarel]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.



Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.



I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src=""></end quote></div>

Yeah I agree with you. Generally people don't tell me I look good if I'm not feeling well. When I'm feeling better, and they say it, it actually really helps me. So i guess I don't feel like most of you. Today, I felt like crap, but some people told me i looked good. To me, if I look good I must be doing better than I was before. <img src="">

 

[jfarel]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.



Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.



I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src=""></end quote></div>

Yeah I agree with you. Generally people don't tell me I look good if I'm not feeling well. When I'm feeling better, and they say it, it actually really helps me. So i guess I don't feel like most of you. Today, I felt like crap, but some people told me i looked good. To me, if I look good I must be doing better than I was before. <img src="">

 

[jfarel]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.



Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.



I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src=""></end quote>

Yeah I agree with you. Generally people don't tell me I look good if I'm not feeling well. When I'm feeling better, and they say it, it actually really helps me. So i guess I don't feel like most of you. Today, I felt like crap, but some people told me i looked good. To me, if I look good I must be doing better than I was before. <img src="">

 

[jfarel]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>lightNlife</b></i>

Actually, I take it as a compliment when people tell me I look good. I really pride myself on being able to "pull it together" even when I'm feeling like poop. I make it a priority to bring at least a little bit of makeup with me to the hospital, and when I go out, even when I'm not at my best, I try to dress well and look my best. I've found like people pity me less when I look good. People have told me they even admire my strength in my ability to not look sick, even when they know I'm struggling.



Of course, I feel differently when it's ignorant people who don't know me personally who comment on my"looking good." For example, I had a nurse in the hospital this last time who made the ever popular comment that I was "lucky" to be able to eat so much and stay so thin.



I can't change how people act or the dumb things they say, but I can make a conscious decision to not let it affect me. Getting upset about it is energy I'd simply rather spend doing something else...like putting on my favorite shade of lipstick <img src=""></end quote>

Yeah I agree with you. Generally people don't tell me I look good if I'm not feeling well. When I'm feeling better, and they say it, it actually really helps me. So i guess I don't feel like most of you. Today, I felt like crap, but some people told me i looked good. To me, if I look good I must be doing better than I was before. <img src="">

 

[Nervous1]

I can really relate to this question, because I know I drive my family and friends up a wall with my answers (or more accurately - non answers) about how I am feeling.

My husband and parents, especially when I'm feeling really bad, constantly ask me how I'm feeling. No matter how much I know they mean well, it drives me up a wall! It's obvious that I'm suffering and at the same time trying not to let anything slide (work, kids, etc), and the constant questions just make me feel more frustrated at the whole situation. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty good at hiding how awful I feel, so for some it's not as obvious as I think. For my husband, it's just his way of expressing his sympathy ... but for me a very frustrating way. So, we have more or less come to an agreement. I will tell him when I feel awful and when I am beginning to feel better. In between he should feel free to help out and insist I ease up a bit when I'm going overboard trying to be superwoman, but not pester me with "how do you feel".

On the other hand, my best friend who knows my situation very well, never ever asks how I'm feeling nor offers support when I'm feeling horrible and obviously short of breath or other such things. She pretends it doesn't exist, and if I'm incapacitated she doesn't call or visit. I know I'm very important to her and she is the type of person who will move worlds to help resolve a problem for someone she cares about, but she doesn't have a solution to offer so she doesn't know what to do with herself. It's frustrating for both of us.

In short, I know I send mixed signals to those who know about my situation. I don't want pity, but a shoulder to lean on and someone willing to just listen when I'm down are always appreciated. Unfortunately many people don't know how to offer these basic things.

That's where you guys come in!!!

------------------------------
40+, bronchiectasis + chronic sinusitis + asthma (no dx of CF)

 

[Nervous1]

I can really relate to this question, because I know I drive my family and friends up a wall with my answers (or more accurately - non answers) about how I am feeling.

My husband and parents, especially when I'm feeling really bad, constantly ask me how I'm feeling. No matter how much I know they mean well, it drives me up a wall! It's obvious that I'm suffering and at the same time trying not to let anything slide (work, kids, etc), and the constant questions just make me feel more frustrated at the whole situation. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty good at hiding how awful I feel, so for some it's not as obvious as I think. For my husband, it's just his way of expressing his sympathy ... but for me a very frustrating way. So, we have more or less come to an agreement. I will tell him when I feel awful and when I am beginning to feel better. In between he should feel free to help out and insist I ease up a bit when I'm going overboard trying to be superwoman, but not pester me with "how do you feel".

On the other hand, my best friend who knows my situation very well, never ever asks how I'm feeling nor offers support when I'm feeling horrible and obviously short of breath or other such things. She pretends it doesn't exist, and if I'm incapacitated she doesn't call or visit. I know I'm very important to her and she is the type of person who will move worlds to help resolve a problem for someone she cares about, but she doesn't have a solution to offer so she doesn't know what to do with herself. It's frustrating for both of us.

In short, I know I send mixed signals to those who know about my situation. I don't want pity, but a shoulder to lean on and someone willing to just listen when I'm down are always appreciated. Unfortunately many people don't know how to offer these basic things.

That's where you guys come in!!!

------------------------------
40+, bronchiectasis + chronic sinusitis + asthma (no dx of CF)

 

[Nervous1]

I can really relate to this question, because I know I drive my family and friends up a wall with my answers (or more accurately - non answers) about how I am feeling.

My husband and parents, especially when I'm feeling really bad, constantly ask me how I'm feeling. No matter how much I know they mean well, it drives me up a wall! It's obvious that I'm suffering and at the same time trying not to let anything slide (work, kids, etc), and the constant questions just make me feel more frustrated at the whole situation. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty good at hiding how awful I feel, so for some it's not as obvious as I think. For my husband, it's just his way of expressing his sympathy ... but for me a very frustrating way. So, we have more or less come to an agreement. I will tell him when I feel awful and when I am beginning to feel better. In between he should feel free to help out and insist I ease up a bit when I'm going overboard trying to be superwoman, but not pester me with "how do you feel".

On the other hand, my best friend who knows my situation very well, never ever asks how I'm feeling nor offers support when I'm feeling horrible and obviously short of breath or other such things. She pretends it doesn't exist, and if I'm incapacitated she doesn't call or visit. I know I'm very important to her and she is the type of person who will move worlds to help resolve a problem for someone she cares about, but she doesn't have a solution to offer so she doesn't know what to do with herself. It's frustrating for both of us.

In short, I know I send mixed signals to those who know about my situation. I don't want pity, but a shoulder to lean on and someone willing to just listen when I'm down are always appreciated. Unfortunately many people don't know how to offer these basic things.

That's where you guys come in!!!

------------------------------
40+, bronchiectasis + chronic sinusitis + asthma (no dx of CF)

 

[Nervous1]

I can really relate to this question, because I know I drive my family and friends up a wall with my answers (or more accurately - non answers) about how I am feeling.

My husband and parents, especially when I'm feeling really bad, constantly ask me how I'm feeling. No matter how much I know they mean well, it drives me up a wall! It's obvious that I'm suffering and at the same time trying not to let anything slide (work, kids, etc), and the constant questions just make me feel more frustrated at the whole situation. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty good at hiding how awful I feel, so for some it's not as obvious as I think. For my husband, it's just his way of expressing his sympathy ... but for me a very frustrating way. So, we have more or less come to an agreement. I will tell him when I feel awful and when I am beginning to feel better. In between he should feel free to help out and insist I ease up a bit when I'm going overboard trying to be superwoman, but not pester me with "how do you feel".

On the other hand, my best friend who knows my situation very well, never ever asks how I'm feeling nor offers support when I'm feeling horrible and obviously short of breath or other such things. She pretends it doesn't exist, and if I'm incapacitated she doesn't call or visit. I know I'm very important to her and she is the type of person who will move worlds to help resolve a problem for someone she cares about, but she doesn't have a solution to offer so she doesn't know what to do with herself. It's frustrating for both of us.

In short, I know I send mixed signals to those who know about my situation. I don't want pity, but a shoulder to lean on and someone willing to just listen when I'm down are always appreciated. Unfortunately many people don't know how to offer these basic things.

That's where you guys come in!!!

------------------------------
40+, bronchiectasis + chronic sinusitis + asthma (no dx of CF)

 

[Nervous1]

I can really relate to this question, because I know I drive my family and friends up a wall with my answers (or more accurately - non answers) about how I am feeling.

My husband and parents, especially when I'm feeling really bad, constantly ask me how I'm feeling. No matter how much I know they mean well, it drives me up a wall! It's obvious that I'm suffering and at the same time trying not to let anything slide (work, kids, etc), and the constant questions just make me feel more frustrated at the whole situation. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty good at hiding how awful I feel, so for some it's not as obvious as I think. For my husband, it's just his way of expressing his sympathy ... but for me a very frustrating way. So, we have more or less come to an agreement. I will tell him when I feel awful and when I am beginning to feel better. In between he should feel free to help out and insist I ease up a bit when I'm going overboard trying to be superwoman, but not pester me with "how do you feel".

On the other hand, my best friend who knows my situation very well, never ever asks how I'm feeling nor offers support when I'm feeling horrible and obviously short of breath or other such things. She pretends it doesn't exist, and if I'm incapacitated she doesn't call or visit. I know I'm very important to her and she is the type of person who will move worlds to help resolve a problem for someone she cares about, but she doesn't have a solution to offer so she doesn't know what to do with herself. It's frustrating for both of us.

In short, I know I send mixed signals to those who know about my situation. I don't want pity, but a shoulder to lean on and someone willing to just listen when I'm down are always appreciated. Unfortunately many people don't know how to offer these basic things.

That's where you guys come in!!!

------------------------------
40+, bronchiectasis + chronic sinusitis + asthma (no dx of CF)