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janddburke

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when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.
My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.
The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.
that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.
if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?
 
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janddburke

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when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.
My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.
The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.
that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.
if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?
 
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janddburke

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when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.
My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.
The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.
that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.
if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?
 
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janddburke

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when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.
My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.
The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.
that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.
if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?
 
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote></div>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote></div>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-frown.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote></div>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-frown.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote></div>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-frown.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-frown.gif" border="0">
 
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Scarlett81

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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>janddburke</b></i>

when my brother and SIL had their first baby his MIL INSISTED on being in the delivery room. Neither of them wanted her there, but she wouldn't leave.

My bother calmly took the Dr. aside and explained the situation.

The Dr. threw her out. I'm sure in the nicest possible way......natch.

that way neither my bro or SIL were the bad guys, and the Dr? she forgave him as soon as she saw her first grandchild.

if at all possible, how about making the Dr. the bad guy? or your doula?</end quote>

No, see thats really not the issue. I want my mil there-bc she is so calming to me. Its that I don't want my mom there-but if my mom knew the mil was there and she wasn't-that would be the war I'd have to deal with. And it would drag the whole family into it. So my dilemma is should I have my mil there and risk my mom finding out, or not have my mil there so that no one gets upset? (even though I'd love to have her there)
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-frown.gif" border="0">
 
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my65roses4me

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Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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my65roses4me

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Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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my65roses4me

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Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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my65roses4me

New member
Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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my65roses4me

New member
Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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my65roses4me

New member
Christian this might sound a little cold but here it goes:
Its time to put you and your family first and not worry about what others would think, not even your mom. If having your MIL in there is what you and your hubby wants, then that the way it should be. Your mom will eventualy get over it and if she doesn't then thats not your prob. Even though it may seem like its your prob at first, its not!

Do whats best for you and your family!!!!
Good luck in your decision!!!! <b>IMHO</b> LOL
 
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julie

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Mine was a C section so MUCH different, but I had my mom and mark in the room. His mom was not welcome because she's so uptight and bossy and such a martyr. We see her often, and it's manageable at "normal" times but that was not a time I needed or wanted her near me.

My mom is a L&D nurse (and use to work at this hospital) so that was actually a relief to me.

I would do what works for you. Have your Dh and your MIL.

I imagine your mom with be hurt, mad and maybe even give you the cold shoulder for a while. but you have to do what works for you so that you have NO regrets about what you should or shouldn't have done.

Good luck!
 
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julie

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Mine was a C section so MUCH different, but I had my mom and mark in the room. His mom was not welcome because she's so uptight and bossy and such a martyr. We see her often, and it's manageable at "normal" times but that was not a time I needed or wanted her near me.

My mom is a L&D nurse (and use to work at this hospital) so that was actually a relief to me.

I would do what works for you. Have your Dh and your MIL.

I imagine your mom with be hurt, mad and maybe even give you the cold shoulder for a while. but you have to do what works for you so that you have NO regrets about what you should or shouldn't have done.

Good luck!
 
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julie

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Mine was a C section so MUCH different, but I had my mom and mark in the room. His mom was not welcome because she's so uptight and bossy and such a martyr. We see her often, and it's manageable at "normal" times but that was not a time I needed or wanted her near me.

My mom is a L&D nurse (and use to work at this hospital) so that was actually a relief to me.

I would do what works for you. Have your Dh and your MIL.

I imagine your mom with be hurt, mad and maybe even give you the cold shoulder for a while. but you have to do what works for you so that you have NO regrets about what you should or shouldn't have done.

Good luck!
 
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julie

New member
Mine was a C section so MUCH different, but I had my mom and mark in the room. His mom was not welcome because she's so uptight and bossy and such a martyr. We see her often, and it's manageable at "normal" times but that was not a time I needed or wanted her near me.

My mom is a L&D nurse (and use to work at this hospital) so that was actually a relief to me.

I would do what works for you. Have your Dh and your MIL.

I imagine your mom with be hurt, mad and maybe even give you the cold shoulder for a while. but you have to do what works for you so that you have NO regrets about what you should or shouldn't have done.

Good luck!
 
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