I was married at 18 and my husband (now ex) was in college. I was receiving SSI and the amount I received was determined by how much he brought in each month. I had it figured out down to a the dollar how much he could make in order for me to still receive my SSI. The reason I was able to be on state medicaid was because of the SSI I was receiving. So I had it figured out how much he could make that would still allow me to still get at least a $1 of SSI which in turn means i would still get my medicaid. We made it work but then he quit school and started working more. I then started working in order to get medical insurance for myself to elminate the financial limitations we had. I worked for abotu 5 years and then quit. During this time my ex was self employed. We were NOT able to get insurance because of my pre-exisiting condition of CF. I then applied for disabilty and got denied and then filed an appeal with a lawyers aide and was awarded disability. That meant I got state medicaid once again. After a certain time (can't remember how long it is) medicare kicked in. I forgot to mention I got divorced after I quit working and was finally approved for diabilty. Fast forward 5 years, I married my sweetheart husband last year, whom I have known for 15+ years mind you, our paths met back up in life. He is in the Air Force. I now have yet another government insurance...haha. When we got married we I lost my medicaid but gained the Tricare. I have Medicare as primary and Tricare as secondary now. It has been a headache with the changes with billing issues. We had to try a few different things to try and cut our out of pocket costs. Yes I have "good" insurance but I still have out of pocket cost expecially since I have a lot of doc appts, am in the hospital and on home IV's often along with blood work, port flushes, etc.
With all that said I think you need to look at EVERY outcome possible to see if it is a good decision to get married, financially. Me myself I could care less what people say if they think I am living in sin because I "cant'" get married due to financial/healthcare reasons. I had enough people asking when we were getting married and I would say maybe never, who cares! Love is love wheather you are married or not, commited relationships are where it is. I know from experience that a marriage cert does not make your marriage/relationship fool proof, hence getting divorced at age 25 because of my ex cheating multiple times. So nothing is a guarentee.
Wow I think I went off on a tangent, sorry about that.
