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moving out
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Emily65Roses
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I just posted this on Families.... but:
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
Emily65Roses
New member
I just posted this on Families.... but:
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
Emily65Roses
New member
I just posted this on Families.... but:
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
I plan to move out after I finish college. Roughly 2-3 years (course this does mean I'll be living at home until I'm 25). Part of the reason I'm going to be able to do this is because I will not be moving out alone. I'm going to be moving in with my fiance. He knows he's going to be carrying my @ss a bit (or a lot, when the time comes). *shrug*
JennifersHope
New member
I lived on my own from the time I was 16 years old till the time I was 29. Of course some of the time I was living with my boyfriend, (but I supported him) sometimes I didn't have my own apartment but I rented a room from people from my church.
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
JennifersHope
New member
I lived on my own from the time I was 16 years old till the time I was 29. Of course some of the time I was living with my boyfriend, (but I supported him) sometimes I didn't have my own apartment but I rented a room from people from my church.
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
JennifersHope
New member
I lived on my own from the time I was 16 years old till the time I was 29. Of course some of the time I was living with my boyfriend, (but I supported him) sometimes I didn't have my own apartment but I rented a room from people from my church.
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
I now live back at home with my father and his wife, I think it is hard on him for me to be there, and I know they are awaiting my moving out now that I have the means to.
I am thinking of moving to South Carolina, the cost of living there is so much less then it is here, and the employment oppurtunities are amazing there as well, a little less pay but considering you can buy a decent home for 150,000 not a bad tradeoff.
There are a lot of things that the CF has to consider when moving out, like a back up plan for when they are to sick to take care of themsleves, who is going to help them get food, pick up presciptions etc.
THose are some of the things that concern me, also, when I am sick, my independence is thrown right out the window, I become high maintaince and I need a lot of emotional support.
All these things scare me about moving out, though I know I have to, as well as want to do it... Seems like I was less chicken when I was 16 then I am now..
Jennifer
I'll let my mom post on this. But i'll put my two cents in as well:
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I'll let my mom post on this. But i'll put my two cents in as well:
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I'll let my mom post on this. But i'll put my two cents in as well:
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I was allowed to live at home (or at college) after age 18 as long as I was in school. My parents paid for me to live on campus in college.
The day after I received my bachelors degree, however, I was on my own. I was to have a job (even if it was at McDonald's) and support myself. I could live at home, but I would be paying rent.
Since January 1, 2004, at age 22, I was living on my own. Paying 100% of my own bills, including medical expenses, rent, food, etc.
I'm sure if I were to become ill and unable to work, my parents would make an exception.
At first I thought my parents were being harsh - forcing me to have a job right out of school and making me have a huge sense of urgency to support myself. Now that I'm older, I look back and I see others whose parents didn't put that pressure on them. Guess what - they're still living at home, they don't have very good jobs (even though they have the potential), etc.
And it hasn't been without health problems - i was in the hospital for IV antibiotics twice in 2005 and I had gallbladder surgery that same year.
So I am grateful for my parents pushing me. I know many CF parents baby their children and I'm grateful that my parents decided to raise me just like any other child.
I think that it's crucial that every child, when they become an adult, has limitations enforced from the parents about where they live and what they'll be doing. The fact that our daughter, Amy (age 25), has CF made it even more important that she become independent of us. Ultimately, she has to be able to take care of herself and live on her own. As hard as it was to force her to go out on her own, it would have set up a nightmare scenario of her moving in and out whenever she had challenges if we didn't set guidelines. (This was after we put her through college and she graduated with a marketable degree!) I've seen this happen with friends of ours and their adult children. When the rules are set clearly, it's amazing how capable they are of rising to the 'ocassion'. CF only factors in for us if, at some point, Amy cannot work to support herself. Other than that, because people with CF are so dependent on doctors, medications and physical therapy routines, I think it's the best possible thing they can do to build their self-esteem and have an amazing life.
I think that it's crucial that every child, when they become an adult, has limitations enforced from the parents about where they live and what they'll be doing. The fact that our daughter, Amy (age 25), has CF made it even more important that she become independent of us. Ultimately, she has to be able to take care of herself and live on her own. As hard as it was to force her to go out on her own, it would have set up a nightmare scenario of her moving in and out whenever she had challenges if we didn't set guidelines. (This was after we put her through college and she graduated with a marketable degree!) I've seen this happen with friends of ours and their adult children. When the rules are set clearly, it's amazing how capable they are of rising to the 'ocassion'. CF only factors in for us if, at some point, Amy cannot work to support herself. Other than that, because people with CF are so dependent on doctors, medications and physical therapy routines, I think it's the best possible thing they can do to build their self-esteem and have an amazing life.
I think that it's crucial that every child, when they become an adult, has limitations enforced from the parents about where they live and what they'll be doing. The fact that our daughter, Amy (age 25), has CF made it even more important that she become independent of us. Ultimately, she has to be able to take care of herself and live on her own. As hard as it was to force her to go out on her own, it would have set up a nightmare scenario of her moving in and out whenever she had challenges if we didn't set guidelines. (This was after we put her through college and she graduated with a marketable degree!) I've seen this happen with friends of ours and their adult children. When the rules are set clearly, it's amazing how capable they are of rising to the 'ocassion'. CF only factors in for us if, at some point, Amy cannot work to support herself. Other than that, because people with CF are so dependent on doctors, medications and physical therapy routines, I think it's the best possible thing they can do to build their self-esteem and have an amazing life.
Ry's family had the same expectation of him as Amy's-that he join the workforce and get his own place like a normal, contributing adult. He lived on campus during college, even thought he went to college in the same town his parents lived in, they thought it was an important part of the college experience, as even Darius lives on campus, same college.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
Ry's family had the same expectation of him as Amy's-that he join the workforce and get his own place like a normal, contributing adult. He lived on campus during college, even thought he went to college in the same town his parents lived in, they thought it was an important part of the college experience, as even Darius lives on campus, same college.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
Ry's family had the same expectation of him as Amy's-that he join the workforce and get his own place like a normal, contributing adult. He lived on campus during college, even thought he went to college in the same town his parents lived in, they thought it was an important part of the college experience, as even Darius lives on campus, same college.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
After he graduated, he went and got a job, and lived on his own while we dated, and then we lived to gether during our engagement and bought a house after our marriage. I think self sufficiency is incredibly important for self esteem and for, honestly, finding someone to spend your life with - less people want to marry someone who lives at home without a job.
That's my 2 cents, feel free to brush it off, but I agree with the fact that too many Cfers are babied.
littledebbie
New member
I was paying some part of the rent by the time I was 19 and I lived completely on my own by the time I was 21. My health is not so great compared to some of the other adults on here. When I moved out my PFT's were well under 30% and now they have been 17-21% for about 5 years. However, I worked full time up until last July and am very independant. I have practical support from my parents in that my Mom goes with me to do my major grocery shopping about once a month so she can help me carry all my junk up to my apt.(and other things like that) and I do laundry at my Dad's house <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
For me as a teenager when I was thinking in terms of long term goals..college did not make sense for me personally. For one thing, I didn't like school. I was a good student but I hated it and didn't want to spend more years of my life in school than absolutely necessary. I needed a job that offered good benefits and was large enough to be accountable to all the disability laws regarding accomodation. I needed to get enough years of work and contributing to the SSI system to be able to draw a decent disability retirement later on. In looking at these realities for myself I realised that for me achieving my independance was the most important thing for me personally. I don't think I would have ever felt like I had qualified for "adult" status had i not gone out on my own and supported myself; been a functioning contribuitng member of society. I may not marry and I won't have kids, but I grew up, spread my wings and carved out a little space of my own.
I get a lot of "feedback" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> on my decision regarding college from other Adult CFers and I respect their perspective. However, these are personal decisions for everyone and I would like to add deciding some of these things I would assume is very different when you have hmmmm I would say 35% FEV1 or above. Things look rather different when your 17yrs old and already looking down the barrel.
And to cast a vote I too thing too many CFers are babied.
For me as a teenager when I was thinking in terms of long term goals..college did not make sense for me personally. For one thing, I didn't like school. I was a good student but I hated it and didn't want to spend more years of my life in school than absolutely necessary. I needed a job that offered good benefits and was large enough to be accountable to all the disability laws regarding accomodation. I needed to get enough years of work and contributing to the SSI system to be able to draw a decent disability retirement later on. In looking at these realities for myself I realised that for me achieving my independance was the most important thing for me personally. I don't think I would have ever felt like I had qualified for "adult" status had i not gone out on my own and supported myself; been a functioning contribuitng member of society. I may not marry and I won't have kids, but I grew up, spread my wings and carved out a little space of my own.
I get a lot of "feedback" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> on my decision regarding college from other Adult CFers and I respect their perspective. However, these are personal decisions for everyone and I would like to add deciding some of these things I would assume is very different when you have hmmmm I would say 35% FEV1 or above. Things look rather different when your 17yrs old and already looking down the barrel.
And to cast a vote I too thing too many CFers are babied.
littledebbie
New member
I was paying some part of the rent by the time I was 19 and I lived completely on my own by the time I was 21. My health is not so great compared to some of the other adults on here. When I moved out my PFT's were well under 30% and now they have been 17-21% for about 5 years. However, I worked full time up until last July and am very independant. I have practical support from my parents in that my Mom goes with me to do my major grocery shopping about once a month so she can help me carry all my junk up to my apt.(and other things like that) and I do laundry at my Dad's house <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
For me as a teenager when I was thinking in terms of long term goals..college did not make sense for me personally. For one thing, I didn't like school. I was a good student but I hated it and didn't want to spend more years of my life in school than absolutely necessary. I needed a job that offered good benefits and was large enough to be accountable to all the disability laws regarding accomodation. I needed to get enough years of work and contributing to the SSI system to be able to draw a decent disability retirement later on. In looking at these realities for myself I realised that for me achieving my independance was the most important thing for me personally. I don't think I would have ever felt like I had qualified for "adult" status had i not gone out on my own and supported myself; been a functioning contribuitng member of society. I may not marry and I won't have kids, but I grew up, spread my wings and carved out a little space of my own.
I get a lot of "feedback" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> on my decision regarding college from other Adult CFers and I respect their perspective. However, these are personal decisions for everyone and I would like to add deciding some of these things I would assume is very different when you have hmmmm I would say 35% FEV1 or above. Things look rather different when your 17yrs old and already looking down the barrel.
And to cast a vote I too thing too many CFers are babied.
For me as a teenager when I was thinking in terms of long term goals..college did not make sense for me personally. For one thing, I didn't like school. I was a good student but I hated it and didn't want to spend more years of my life in school than absolutely necessary. I needed a job that offered good benefits and was large enough to be accountable to all the disability laws regarding accomodation. I needed to get enough years of work and contributing to the SSI system to be able to draw a decent disability retirement later on. In looking at these realities for myself I realised that for me achieving my independance was the most important thing for me personally. I don't think I would have ever felt like I had qualified for "adult" status had i not gone out on my own and supported myself; been a functioning contribuitng member of society. I may not marry and I won't have kids, but I grew up, spread my wings and carved out a little space of my own.
I get a lot of "feedback" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> on my decision regarding college from other Adult CFers and I respect their perspective. However, these are personal decisions for everyone and I would like to add deciding some of these things I would assume is very different when you have hmmmm I would say 35% FEV1 or above. Things look rather different when your 17yrs old and already looking down the barrel.
And to cast a vote I too thing too many CFers are babied.