My Parents Smoke

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Audz

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I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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Audz

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I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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Audz

New member
I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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Audz

New member
I go to the hospital every 8 weeks for a check up, PFT's and everything. I take cf medicines, go to tune ups and all of that. When I go for a checkup My mum comes with me, and the doc always asks 'are you still smoking?' and she just makes a big joke out of it like its no big deal. No matter how I say to my parents that I don't like them smoking they always just take it as me trying to be a nasty adolescent girl. I think I'll try writing it in letter form, that was a good idea. Maybe they will take it more seriously.

It's not like they try and keep the smoke away from me either. They smoke in the car, which makes car trips very uncomfortable. I don't think reality has really hit them of what cf does because I was so healthy when I was younger (130% lung function) and now I feel sick nearly everyday and my lung function barley goes above 80%. They dont see any of it, just because I don't exactly look physically sick, they just think I'm being a sooky teenager.

Thanks for all your help.

edit: Just wanted to say 80% is not a BAD lung function, but it is a major drop from what it used to be.
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


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Tonya </end quote></div>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


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Tonya </end quote></div>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


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Tonya </end quote></div>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


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Tonya </end quote></div>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


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Tonya </end quote>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
I understand! My mom smoked in the house for the first 16 years of my life. It took me being put in the hospital with pneumonia for her to quit-smoking in the house, that is. She still smokes outside at her own house, because now she hates how a smokey house smells, and she doesn't want us to not come over because of the smoke. Of course, she still smells like it for a while when she comes in, but what can you do...? (I admit to thinking about acosting her with a bottle of Fabreeze when she walks in the door-lol
).


<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>First, let me say that I am very impressed that at age 15 you are so concerned about your health and taking care of your lungs. I hope that at age 15 my son will be the same way, knowing what is a healthy situation for him, and what is not.

To know how unhealthy it is for you to be around smoke and to not get anywhere with your parents must be very frustrating as well as hurtful. May I ask a question? Do you have a CF Doctor? Do you take CF meds? I am just wondering if your parents are failing to look at CF altogether, or if they are just so addicted that cigarettes are the only issue.

I think the letter is a good idea. I would take every opportunity to express my feelings to them. Then at least you know you have tried everything. If you do see a CF doctor, perhaps you could talk to the team social worker for help.

Please keep us posted, Audrey, and good luck!


-------------------------
Tonya </end quote>

I agree with everything Tonya said here! If you don't have a cf clinic, your school may be able to help you get the ball rolling to get one (teacher, social worker, etc.). If you have a relative who you are close to, that may be an option too- they may be able to help you find the resources you need.

Good luck and God bless and I know there are others here who can help you more than I can!


Edited to say, I just saw your reply
face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0
Maybe your clinic can get you some masks, or maybe you can convince your parents to order you a couple (I have a link here somewhere for a washable one that is much more comfortable than the paper ones) to er, get you to leave them alone, about the smoke in the house and the car rides
face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0
or at least the colds. Also ask them for the big bottle of Purell hand cleaner . And spend as much time as possible out on the porch/deck doing homework and such if the air is better out there .
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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AnD

New member
Here's the link for the masks. They are still masks <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> , but they are so much easier to breathe through and more comfortable to wear than the paper ones (lots of patterns, too):

<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.breathehealthy.net/">http://www.breathehealthy.net/</a>
 
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CFHockeyMom

New member
Audrey,

First, let me say how impressed I am with your mature tone and attitude with regard to your health.

Now for the smoking, this breaks my heart. It really does sound as if they are neglecting your health so maybe your social worker at clinic can help you? Is moving out with other family/friends an option? I just hate to see this. How awful.

I'm sorry, I wish I could be more help.
 
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CFHockeyMom

New member
Audrey,

First, let me say how impressed I am with your mature tone and attitude with regard to your health.

Now for the smoking, this breaks my heart. It really does sound as if they are neglecting your health so maybe your social worker at clinic can help you? Is moving out with other family/friends an option? I just hate to see this. How awful.

I'm sorry, I wish I could be more help.
 
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CFHockeyMom

New member
Audrey,

First, let me say how impressed I am with your mature tone and attitude with regard to your health.

Now for the smoking, this breaks my heart. It really does sound as if they are neglecting your health so maybe your social worker at clinic can help you? Is moving out with other family/friends an option? I just hate to see this. How awful.

I'm sorry, I wish I could be more help.
 
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CFHockeyMom

New member
Audrey,

First, let me say how impressed I am with your mature tone and attitude with regard to your health.

Now for the smoking, this breaks my heart. It really does sound as if they are neglecting your health so maybe your social worker at clinic can help you? Is moving out with other family/friends an option? I just hate to see this. How awful.

I'm sorry, I wish I could be more help.
 
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