On Motherhood and Decisions

hopesiris · Sep 18, 2009

You are not alone. The uncertainty is unnerving at times. It's hard to make decisions when you don't know how long you will be around and what condition you will be in. All we can do is take our best educated guess on best and worst case scenarios.

hopesiris · Sep 18, 2009

You are not alone. The uncertainty is unnerving at times. It's hard to make decisions when you don't know how long you will be around and what condition you will be in. All we can do is take our best educated guess on best and worst case scenarios.

hopesiris · Sep 18, 2009

You are not alone. The uncertainty is unnerving at times. It's hard to make decisions when you don't know how long you will be around and what condition you will be in. All we can do is take our best educated guess on best and worst case scenarios.

hopesiris · Sep 18, 2009

You are not alone. The uncertainty is unnerving at times. It's hard to make decisions when you don't know how long you will be around and what condition you will be in. All we can do is take our best educated guess on best and worst case scenarios.

hopesiris · Sep 18, 2009

You are not alone. The uncertainty is unnerving at times. It's hard to make decisions when you don't know how long you will be around and what condition you will be in. All we can do is take our best educated guess on best and worst case scenarios.

Jeana · Sep 19, 2009

I don't feel that I want to advise you in either direction. Instead, I will share about my experience.

I never thought I'd get pregnant. After trying for about 10 years, we decided to adopt. We received Chris when he was two days old and he was our gift from God.

Approximately three years later, with the best FEV1/weight I'd had in about 8 years, we decided that we wanted to try IVF. To make a long story short, when we went in, we found out I was already pregnant with Alex.

He is my miracle baby. I was hospitalized three times for lung issues with him. I took drugs (prescribed, of course) that were category C and D. But God held Alex in his hands and kept him safe.

I have a beautiful family and I am so blessed. Chris is my little helper and does so much for me that I know he makes it easier than if I didn't have him to help with Alex. Alex is my sunshine, always smiling and giggling.

Would I get pregnant again? Never. Pregnancy made me feel like I was dying, especially with my FEV1 dropping 36%. Did my FEV1 go back up? Yes, but even though I feel much better, I still feel like I lost some ground. (Especially when I can't qualify for a study that I could've before I got preggo.) Am I glad I had Alex? Absolutely!

I think we just try and make the best decisions that we can for our families, just like anybody else. And pray. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Jeana · Sep 19, 2009

I don't feel that I want to advise you in either direction. Instead, I will share about my experience.

I never thought I'd get pregnant. After trying for about 10 years, we decided to adopt. We received Chris when he was two days old and he was our gift from God.

Approximately three years later, with the best FEV1/weight I'd had in about 8 years, we decided that we wanted to try IVF. To make a long story short, when we went in, we found out I was already pregnant with Alex.

He is my miracle baby. I was hospitalized three times for lung issues with him. I took drugs (prescribed, of course) that were category C and D. But God held Alex in his hands and kept him safe.

I have a beautiful family and I am so blessed. Chris is my little helper and does so much for me that I know he makes it easier than if I didn't have him to help with Alex. Alex is my sunshine, always smiling and giggling.

Would I get pregnant again? Never. Pregnancy made me feel like I was dying, especially with my FEV1 dropping 36%. Did my FEV1 go back up? Yes, but even though I feel much better, I still feel like I lost some ground. (Especially when I can't qualify for a study that I could've before I got preggo.) Am I glad I had Alex? Absolutely!

I think we just try and make the best decisions that we can for our families, just like anybody else. And pray. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Jeana · Sep 19, 2009

I don't feel that I want to advise you in either direction. Instead, I will share about my experience.

I never thought I'd get pregnant. After trying for about 10 years, we decided to adopt. We received Chris when he was two days old and he was our gift from God.

Approximately three years later, with the best FEV1/weight I'd had in about 8 years, we decided that we wanted to try IVF. To make a long story short, when we went in, we found out I was already pregnant with Alex.

He is my miracle baby. I was hospitalized three times for lung issues with him. I took drugs (prescribed, of course) that were category C and D. But God held Alex in his hands and kept him safe.

I have a beautiful family and I am so blessed. Chris is my little helper and does so much for me that I know he makes it easier than if I didn't have him to help with Alex. Alex is my sunshine, always smiling and giggling.

Would I get pregnant again? Never. Pregnancy made me feel like I was dying, especially with my FEV1 dropping 36%. Did my FEV1 go back up? Yes, but even though I feel much better, I still feel like I lost some ground. (Especially when I can't qualify for a study that I could've before I got preggo.) Am I glad I had Alex? Absolutely!

I think we just try and make the best decisions that we can for our families, just like anybody else. And pray. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Jeana · Sep 19, 2009

I don't feel that I want to advise you in either direction. Instead, I will share about my experience.

I never thought I'd get pregnant. After trying for about 10 years, we decided to adopt. We received Chris when he was two days old and he was our gift from God.

Approximately three years later, with the best FEV1/weight I'd had in about 8 years, we decided that we wanted to try IVF. To make a long story short, when we went in, we found out I was already pregnant with Alex.

He is my miracle baby. I was hospitalized three times for lung issues with him. I took drugs (prescribed, of course) that were category C and D. But God held Alex in his hands and kept him safe.

I have a beautiful family and I am so blessed. Chris is my little helper and does so much for me that I know he makes it easier than if I didn't have him to help with Alex. Alex is my sunshine, always smiling and giggling.

Would I get pregnant again? Never. Pregnancy made me feel like I was dying, especially with my FEV1 dropping 36%. Did my FEV1 go back up? Yes, but even though I feel much better, I still feel like I lost some ground. (Especially when I can't qualify for a study that I could've before I got preggo.) Am I glad I had Alex? Absolutely!

I think we just try and make the best decisions that we can for our families, just like anybody else. And pray. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Jeana · Sep 19, 2009

I don't feel that I want to advise you in either direction. Instead, I will share about my experience.
 
 I never thought I'd get pregnant. After trying for about 10 years, we decided to adopt. We received Chris when he was two days old and he was our gift from God.
 
 Approximately three years later, with the best FEV1/weight I'd had in about 8 years, we decided that we wanted to try IVF. To make a long story short, when we went in, we found out I was already pregnant with Alex.
 
 He is my miracle baby. I was hospitalized three times for lung issues with him. I took drugs (prescribed, of course) that were category C and D. But God held Alex in his hands and kept him safe.
 
 I have a beautiful family and I am so blessed. Chris is my little helper and does so much for me that I know he makes it easier than if I didn't have him to help with Alex. Alex is my sunshine, always smiling and giggling.
 
 Would I get pregnant again? Never. Pregnancy made me feel like I was dying, especially with my FEV1 dropping 36%. Did my FEV1 go back up? Yes, but even though I feel much better, I still feel like I lost some ground. (Especially when I can't qualify for a study that I could've before I got preggo.) Am I glad I had Alex? Absolutely!
 
 I think we just try and make the best decisions that we can for our families, just like anybody else. And pray. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

mamaScarlett · Sep 19, 2009

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: JazzysMom

It is started out as a tough decision until that one night laying down with Jazz coughing my head off while trying to comfort her.
</end quote></div>

I hear you. When my daughter was born it wasn't a question of if I'd get pregnant again, it was when. Then last year, when lo was 1 yr old, I got extremely sick. I was on ivs for 8 weeks and in the hosp alot. (remember, mel, we were neighbors!!)

I was admitted into the hosp the day after she started walking. We were apart for 4 weeks total. It was horrible, and scarring to me. Thats what totally changed my attitude.
If the pain of being away from one child was that bad, how bad would it be with 2?!
Fortunately I live next door to my inlaws (lo's grandparents, plus all her little cousins) and that is a huge blessing. As far as her being cared for when I need tuneups ect, there is never a problem. If I have a cold, she goes next door for a couple days till I'm better.
So our situation makes it 10 times easier on that end.
But yes, when I got sick for the first time as a mommy-boy that was a HUGE eye opener.

mamaScarlett · Sep 19, 2009

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: JazzysMom

It is started out as a tough decision until that one night laying down with Jazz coughing my head off while trying to comfort her.
</end quote></div>

I hear you. When my daughter was born it wasn't a question of if I'd get pregnant again, it was when. Then last year, when lo was 1 yr old, I got extremely sick. I was on ivs for 8 weeks and in the hosp alot. (remember, mel, we were neighbors!!)

I was admitted into the hosp the day after she started walking. We were apart for 4 weeks total. It was horrible, and scarring to me. Thats what totally changed my attitude.
If the pain of being away from one child was that bad, how bad would it be with 2?!
Fortunately I live next door to my inlaws (lo's grandparents, plus all her little cousins) and that is a huge blessing. As far as her being cared for when I need tuneups ect, there is never a problem. If I have a cold, she goes next door for a couple days till I'm better.
So our situation makes it 10 times easier on that end.
But yes, when I got sick for the first time as a mommy-boy that was a HUGE eye opener.

mamaScarlett · Sep 19, 2009

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: JazzysMom

It is started out as a tough decision until that one night laying down with Jazz coughing my head off while trying to comfort her.
</end quote></div>

I hear you. When my daughter was born it wasn't a question of if I'd get pregnant again, it was when. Then last year, when lo was 1 yr old, I got extremely sick. I was on ivs for 8 weeks and in the hosp alot. (remember, mel, we were neighbors!!)

I was admitted into the hosp the day after she started walking. We were apart for 4 weeks total. It was horrible, and scarring to me. Thats what totally changed my attitude.
If the pain of being away from one child was that bad, how bad would it be with 2?!
Fortunately I live next door to my inlaws (lo's grandparents, plus all her little cousins) and that is a huge blessing. As far as her being cared for when I need tuneups ect, there is never a problem. If I have a cold, she goes next door for a couple days till I'm better.
So our situation makes it 10 times easier on that end.
But yes, when I got sick for the first time as a mommy-boy that was a HUGE eye opener.

mamaScarlett · Sep 19, 2009

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: JazzysMom

It is started out as a tough decision until that one night laying down with Jazz coughing my head off while trying to comfort her.
</end quote>

I hear you. When my daughter was born it wasn't a question of if I'd get pregnant again, it was when. Then last year, when lo was 1 yr old, I got extremely sick. I was on ivs for 8 weeks and in the hosp alot. (remember, mel, we were neighbors!!)

I was admitted into the hosp the day after she started walking. We were apart for 4 weeks total. It was horrible, and scarring to me. Thats what totally changed my attitude.
If the pain of being away from one child was that bad, how bad would it be with 2?!
Fortunately I live next door to my inlaws (lo's grandparents, plus all her little cousins) and that is a huge blessing. As far as her being cared for when I need tuneups ect, there is never a problem. If I have a cold, she goes next door for a couple days till I'm better.
So our situation makes it 10 times easier on that end.
But yes, when I got sick for the first time as a mommy-boy that was a HUGE eye opener.

mamaScarlett · Sep 19, 2009

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>Originally posted by: JazzysMom
 
 It is started out as a tough decision until that one night laying down with Jazz coughing my head off while trying to comfort her.
 </end quote>
 
 I hear you. When my daughter was born it wasn't a question of if I'd get pregnant again, it was when. Then last year, when lo was 1 yr old, I got extremely sick. I was on ivs for 8 weeks and in the hosp alot. (remember, mel, we were neighbors!!)
 
 I was admitted into the hosp the day after she started walking. We were apart for 4 weeks total. It was horrible, and scarring to me. Thats what totally changed my attitude.
 If the pain of being away from one child was that bad, how bad would it be with 2?!
 Fortunately I live next door to my inlaws (lo's grandparents, plus all her little cousins) and that is a huge blessing. As far as her being cared for when I need tuneups ect, there is never a problem. If I have a cold, she goes next door for a couple days till I'm better.
 So our situation makes it 10 times easier on that end.
 But yes, when I got sick for the first time as a mommy-boy that was a HUGE eye opener.

hbollotte · Sep 21, 2009

I hear you on this one. I do want another child, but my daughter is the busiest little girl ever. There is no way I would be able to function if I had another one as active as her. As much as I want another child, I don't think it will happen. The only way would maybe be when she is around four or five and could help out. That is if my health is doing great.

Family and friends ask everyday, so when are you having another one. If they only knew what we go through everyday just to raise one child. The other day my husband was saying how it would be nice to have another child, but then I was saying how I would rather just have Morgan and be here for as long as possible, than have another child and risk getting sick and not being around as long just so we can have two.

Good luck with your choice. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

hbollotte · Sep 21, 2009

I hear you on this one. I do want another child, but my daughter is the busiest little girl ever. There is no way I would be able to function if I had another one as active as her. As much as I want another child, I don't think it will happen. The only way would maybe be when she is around four or five and could help out. That is if my health is doing great.

Family and friends ask everyday, so when are you having another one. If they only knew what we go through everyday just to raise one child. The other day my husband was saying how it would be nice to have another child, but then I was saying how I would rather just have Morgan and be here for as long as possible, than have another child and risk getting sick and not being around as long just so we can have two.

Good luck with your choice. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

hbollotte · Sep 21, 2009

I hear you on this one. I do want another child, but my daughter is the busiest little girl ever. There is no way I would be able to function if I had another one as active as her. As much as I want another child, I don't think it will happen. The only way would maybe be when she is around four or five and could help out. That is if my health is doing great.

Family and friends ask everyday, so when are you having another one. If they only knew what we go through everyday just to raise one child. The other day my husband was saying how it would be nice to have another child, but then I was saying how I would rather just have Morgan and be here for as long as possible, than have another child and risk getting sick and not being around as long just so we can have two.

Good luck with your choice. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

hbollotte · Sep 21, 2009

I hear you on this one. I do want another child, but my daughter is the busiest little girl ever. There is no way I would be able to function if I had another one as active as her. As much as I want another child, I don't think it will happen. The only way would maybe be when she is around four or five and could help out. That is if my health is doing great.

Family and friends ask everyday, so when are you having another one. If they only knew what we go through everyday just to raise one child. The other day my husband was saying how it would be nice to have another child, but then I was saying how I would rather just have Morgan and be here for as long as possible, than have another child and risk getting sick and not being around as long just so we can have two.

Good luck with your choice. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

hbollotte · Sep 21, 2009

I hear you on this one. I do want another child, but my daughter is the busiest little girl ever. There is no way I would be able to function if I had another one as active as her. As much as I want another child, I don't think it will happen. The only way would maybe be when she is around four or five and could help out. That is if my health is doing great.
 
 Family and friends ask everyday, so when are you having another one. If they only knew what we go through everyday just to raise one child. The other day my husband was saying how it would be nice to have another child, but then I was saying how I would rather just have Morgan and be here for as long as possible, than have another child and risk getting sick and not being around as long just so we can have two.
 
 Good luck with your choice. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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