Rebecca,
1) I was convinced to get a port because I had TONS of problems with PICCs. I had a PICC back in April that clotted and I had to be on blood thinners, right before my wedding. Then I needed another PICC in August and it stopped working. I was told that it had moved inside and possibly creased somehow. I kind of believe that it was never placed right to begin with...After spending the day/night in the ER because of the issue, I had a clinic visit and mentioned it to my doctor and he was all for it. I had mentioned it to him a while back and he wasn't all for it then...so the fact that he was happy with me mentioning made me feel better.
2) I got mine placed in the end of September. The first time they accessed it (home health care does it for me...don't know if I will EVER want to do it myself), in the end of October it hurt a teeny bit. But since then, I've had it done twice and it has not hurt AT ALL. I barely even know she is in. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> It's wonderful! I don't recommend Emla, probably takes too long and I haven't felt it necessary for me.
3) Recovery time was really fast for me. I took from Friday (the day the port was placed) until Wednesday off from work, but I probably could have gone back Monday, maybe Tuesday. I was not all that sore...motrin was fine for pain. I was just still very exhausted from the versed and fentanyl they gave to semi knock me out. And also since it was slightly still warm in September, I had a large dressing on my chest for about a week. And it kind of stuck out like a sore thumb...In January you can easily cover that up.
4) Like I said before, in the beginning it kind of affected what I wore, but now it doesn't matter. Granted I have not had the port in the summer months. I can't tell you what kind of bathing suit I will want to wear when that time comes. I still have a very pink scar, but the good part about the placement of mine...the small bump (the actual port) is practically under my bra strap, so I personally think it's less noticable.
5) I did not get a choice as to where. Unfortunately for me (I am a righty) the clot I had back in April was in my left shoulder/clavicle area, so they did not want to put the port on that side. So even if I wanted to access myself, my port is on my right side so I don't think I would be coordinated enough to do that. It is what it is! At least the nurses like me and don't mind seeing me once a month! hahaha. As far as brand, no I did not have a choice on that either. I have a power port. With that, there should be three prongs, so to speak that you feel under the skin and you access in the middle of those. With mine, I can only feel two...which may cause access issues but so far nothing.
Good luck! And btw, my doctor also mentioned to get mine when I am feeling good. So at the end of a cleanout is probably the best time for you. You won't have to worry too much about coughing and stuff. And unless you need it for IV's right away (which you don't since they were able to get a PICC), recovery will be easier.