Relationships - How to deal with CF in a new relationship

[Grendel]

Jeanie,

I've had my insides ripped out several times and have heard in some way that CF was somehow a part of a reason to lie, break-up, get un-engaged, and get divorced. I am sure that CF was difficult on each of these women. I don't fault one of them for voicing their grievances regarding CF. We all need to vent about the things that are most challenging in our lives. But, at the end of the day they did not leave because of CF, they left because they didn't love enough, and or they did not have enough faith that one way or another things will be fine. In either case, for any relationship to workout love and faith are critical components, with or without CF.

Myself I did not mention CF until the second or third date when I knew there was chemistry. When I did inform my date, it was casual. I didn't mention it as though it were this thunderous cloud of rain that follows me everywhere ~ cause it is not.

It is important for you to be confident enough in yourself to cut bait the moment you sense a distinct negative hesitation in your suitor.

And I agree after several months (of making sure he is into you) take him to a clinic visit.

CF is your priority. All else will fall into place.

Good luck.
Gremdel

 

[Grendel]

Jeanie,

I've had my insides ripped out several times and have heard in some way that CF was somehow a part of a reason to lie, break-up, get un-engaged, and get divorced. I am sure that CF was difficult on each of these women. I don't fault one of them for voicing their grievances regarding CF. We all need to vent about the things that are most challenging in our lives. But, at the end of the day they did not leave because of CF, they left because they didn't love enough, and or they did not have enough faith that one way or another things will be fine. In either case, for any relationship to workout love and faith are critical components, with or without CF.

Myself I did not mention CF until the second or third date when I knew there was chemistry. When I did inform my date, it was casual. I didn't mention it as though it were this thunderous cloud of rain that follows me everywhere ~ cause it is not.

It is important for you to be confident enough in yourself to cut bait the moment you sense a distinct negative hesitation in your suitor.

And I agree after several months (of making sure he is into you) take him to a clinic visit.

CF is your priority. All else will fall into place.

Good luck.
Gremdel

 

[Grendel]

Jeanie,

I've had my insides ripped out several times and have heard in some way that CF was somehow a part of a reason to lie, break-up, get un-engaged, and get divorced. I am sure that CF was difficult on each of these women. I don't fault one of them for voicing their grievances regarding CF. We all need to vent about the things that are most challenging in our lives. But, at the end of the day they did not leave because of CF, they left because they didn't love enough, and or they did not have enough faith that one way or another things will be fine. In either case, for any relationship to workout love and faith are critical components, with or without CF.

Myself I did not mention CF until the second or third date when I knew there was chemistry. When I did inform my date, it was casual. I didn't mention it as though it were this thunderous cloud of rain that follows me everywhere ~ cause it is not.

It is important for you to be confident enough in yourself to cut bait the moment you sense a distinct negative hesitation in your suitor.

And I agree after several months (of making sure he is into you) take him to a clinic visit.

CF is your priority. All else will fall into place.

Good luck.
Gremdel

 

[Grendel]

Jeanie,

I've had my insides ripped out several times and have heard in some way that CF was somehow a part of a reason to lie, break-up, get un-engaged, and get divorced. I am sure that CF was difficult on each of these women. I don't fault one of them for voicing their grievances regarding CF. We all need to vent about the things that are most challenging in our lives. But, at the end of the day they did not leave because of CF, they left because they didn't love enough, and or they did not have enough faith that one way or another things will be fine. In either case, for any relationship to workout love and faith are critical components, with or without CF.

Myself I did not mention CF until the second or third date when I knew there was chemistry. When I did inform my date, it was casual. I didn't mention it as though it were this thunderous cloud of rain that follows me everywhere ~ cause it is not.

It is important for you to be confident enough in yourself to cut bait the moment you sense a distinct negative hesitation in your suitor.

And I agree after several months (of making sure he is into you) take him to a clinic visit.

CF is your priority. All else will fall into place.

Good luck.
Gremdel

 

[Grendel]

Jeanie,
<br />
<br />I've had my insides ripped out several times and have heard in some way that CF was somehow a part of a reason to lie, break-up, get un-engaged, and get divorced. I am sure that CF was difficult on each of these women. I don't fault one of them for voicing their grievances regarding CF. We all need to vent about the things that are most challenging in our lives. But, at the end of the day they did not leave because of CF, they left because they didn't love enough, and or they did not have enough faith that one way or another things will be fine. In either case, for any relationship to workout love and faith are critical components, with or without CF.
<br />
<br />Myself I did not mention CF until the second or third date when I knew there was chemistry. When I did inform my date, it was casual. I didn't mention it as though it were this thunderous cloud of rain that follows me everywhere ~ cause it is not.
<br />
<br />It is important for you to be confident enough in yourself to cut bait the moment you sense a distinct negative hesitation in your suitor.
<br />
<br />And I agree after several months (of making sure he is into you) take him to a clinic visit.
<br />
<br />CF is your priority. All else will fall into place.
<br />
<br />Good luck.
<br />Gremdel

 

[julie]

Being a partner to someone with CF isn't for everyone. Some can handle it, many more can't. It sounds to me from your explanation of things, that he's trying to let you know he "took the chance" and it's just not working for him.

If I were you, I wouldn't force it or push it or try so hard to make it work simply because you are ready to settle down. That is NEVER a good reason to "settle" for something, which is what you would be doing. You are likely going to be "settling" for someone who is not going to be able to handle it and be there for you when the tough times come. Down the road him walking away is going to be SO much harder than letting him go now.

I know this is not what you want to hear, but imagine if your bestfriend was telling this story. What advice would you have for her?

 

[julie]

Being a partner to someone with CF isn't for everyone. Some can handle it, many more can't. It sounds to me from your explanation of things, that he's trying to let you know he "took the chance" and it's just not working for him.

If I were you, I wouldn't force it or push it or try so hard to make it work simply because you are ready to settle down. That is NEVER a good reason to "settle" for something, which is what you would be doing. You are likely going to be "settling" for someone who is not going to be able to handle it and be there for you when the tough times come. Down the road him walking away is going to be SO much harder than letting him go now.

I know this is not what you want to hear, but imagine if your bestfriend was telling this story. What advice would you have for her?

 

[julie]

Being a partner to someone with CF isn't for everyone. Some can handle it, many more can't. It sounds to me from your explanation of things, that he's trying to let you know he "took the chance" and it's just not working for him.

If I were you, I wouldn't force it or push it or try so hard to make it work simply because you are ready to settle down. That is NEVER a good reason to "settle" for something, which is what you would be doing. You are likely going to be "settling" for someone who is not going to be able to handle it and be there for you when the tough times come. Down the road him walking away is going to be SO much harder than letting him go now.

I know this is not what you want to hear, but imagine if your bestfriend was telling this story. What advice would you have for her?

 

[julie]

Being a partner to someone with CF isn't for everyone. Some can handle it, many more can't. It sounds to me from your explanation of things, that he's trying to let you know he "took the chance" and it's just not working for him.

If I were you, I wouldn't force it or push it or try so hard to make it work simply because you are ready to settle down. That is NEVER a good reason to "settle" for something, which is what you would be doing. You are likely going to be "settling" for someone who is not going to be able to handle it and be there for you when the tough times come. Down the road him walking away is going to be SO much harder than letting him go now.

I know this is not what you want to hear, but imagine if your bestfriend was telling this story. What advice would you have for her?

 

[julie]

Being a partner to someone with CF isn't for everyone. Some can handle it, many more can't. It sounds to me from your explanation of things, that he's trying to let you know he "took the chance" and it's just not working for him.
<br />
<br />If I were you, I wouldn't force it or push it or try so hard to make it work simply because you are ready to settle down. That is NEVER a good reason to "settle" for something, which is what you would be doing. You are likely going to be "settling" for someone who is not going to be able to handle it and be there for you when the tough times come. Down the road him walking away is going to be SO much harder than letting him go now.
<br />
<br />I know this is not what you want to hear, but imagine if your bestfriend was telling this story. What advice would you have for her?

 

[Jennie]

Thank you everyone!
I did go ahead and break it off last night... it was mutual of course but I took the first step. More or less so he wouldn't have to feel like the bad guy. And I feel SO much better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">)
You were right - I would have been settling. And I promised myself I'd never do that again.
Thanks again!

 

[Jennie]

Thank you everyone!
I did go ahead and break it off last night... it was mutual of course but I took the first step. More or less so he wouldn't have to feel like the bad guy. And I feel SO much better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">)
You were right - I would have been settling. And I promised myself I'd never do that again.
Thanks again!

 

[Jennie]

Thank you everyone!
I did go ahead and break it off last night... it was mutual of course but I took the first step. More or less so he wouldn't have to feel like the bad guy. And I feel SO much better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">)
You were right - I would have been settling. And I promised myself I'd never do that again.
Thanks again!

 

[Jennie]

Thank you everyone!
I did go ahead and break it off last night... it was mutual of course but I took the first step. More or less so he wouldn't have to feel like the bad guy. And I feel SO much better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">)
You were right - I would have been settling. And I promised myself I'd never do that again.
Thanks again!

 

[Jennie]

Thank you everyone!
<br />I did go ahead and break it off last night... it was mutual of course but I took the first step. More or less so he wouldn't have to feel like the bad guy. And I feel SO much better <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-blush.gif" border="0">)
<br />You were right - I would have been settling. And I promised myself I'd never do that again.
<br />Thanks again!