This is my experience only and may not be of help at all however you never know so take it or leave it, however for those interested enough to reach deeper this my start some fun and laughs and be a bonding time!
Around ten years ago, s my lung functioned dropped so did my ability to be the energiser bunny with some hard frantic action tween the sheets. I noticed i would shallow breathe with the mounting excitement and once the fearful thought entered my head that i couldn't keep up the pace i wanted so as to enable my lover to orgasm (due to not enough breathe), it was all over red rover, marshmellowville. Anxiety both conscious and sunconscious kicked in and i kinda avoided sex although i truly longed for it and often. It honestly was an awful and tormenting period. Since then i have concentrated on breathing techniques during sex, techniques that i learned of while exercising or clearing my chest. It is very Tantric in essence and well worth the time and effort to learn for both man and woman, as it truly brings spiritual realms into the picture, and that type of sex for me is utopia. The thing is it takes time, trust, practise and the knowledge each other has placed their heart in the others care to really beging the process of learning to make love. Honest and gentle communication i feel is the key to a satisfying life with our lover, and this goes for all a relationship entails. Making love is an artform and is no less worthy or wonderful because it has to be worked at. Every great artist has worked passionately to reach the pinnacle of their field. Reward for effort.
Ps learing poetry or even better writing your own for that special girl wont do you any harm and to be a bit cultured up aint a bad thing anyway! Hope this benefits and PM if you want any more info. HAVE FUN--------- Blacky