My spouse and I have been in a similar situation from time to time, though I would not describe it as the Dr/Nutritionist thinking we're in denial; more like they thought we were making irrelevant arguments. I think sometimes medical staff forget that you don't have to be a medical professional to have valid and wise thoughts to contribute to the discussion about your child's health.
My son w/CF is almost 4 and is around the 25-50% mark now but hung around the bottom of the chart quite awhile at your child's age. I was always the smallest person in my class as a child and at almost 50, my BMI is at the bottom of the normal range - so I've made the complaint that maybe hitting 50% or more just is not in the genes. The Dr. response was that they set 50%+ as a goal because bigger is better with CF, but that they really do understand that not everyone can get there for whatever reasons.
At one clinic visit, the nutritionist almost made my wife cry and feel like she was a failure because our boy had lost a tiny bit of weight (which I still think was due to an inaccurate weight the time before). Anyway, I called the nutritionist the next day and let her know that she needed to improve her bedside manner or she'll find us requesting that she not be present. She was a bit defensive at first, but after chatting for awhile I think she came to understand that we are doing our best and not slacking off.
You're not out of line for being annoyed with the situation and not alone. I guess the point of my story is that sometimes our kid's CF teams need a kick in the pants to remind them that WE are thinking about our kids best interests every single day and our opinions need to be respected.
My son w/CF is almost 4 and is around the 25-50% mark now but hung around the bottom of the chart quite awhile at your child's age. I was always the smallest person in my class as a child and at almost 50, my BMI is at the bottom of the normal range - so I've made the complaint that maybe hitting 50% or more just is not in the genes. The Dr. response was that they set 50%+ as a goal because bigger is better with CF, but that they really do understand that not everyone can get there for whatever reasons.
At one clinic visit, the nutritionist almost made my wife cry and feel like she was a failure because our boy had lost a tiny bit of weight (which I still think was due to an inaccurate weight the time before). Anyway, I called the nutritionist the next day and let her know that she needed to improve her bedside manner or she'll find us requesting that she not be present. She was a bit defensive at first, but after chatting for awhile I think she came to understand that we are doing our best and not slacking off.
You're not out of line for being annoyed with the situation and not alone. I guess the point of my story is that sometimes our kid's CF teams need a kick in the pants to remind them that WE are thinking about our kids best interests every single day and our opinions need to be respected.